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Firstly, guys are a lot more straight talking than women and easier to understand as a whole. I had never been afraid of things going fast until I had two relationships which took off really quickly and like a candle burned brightly and burned out quickly, almost as quick as it started. It made me feel like utter shite. So now I make sure we're talking for 3-4 weeks before making any kind of move
In any kind of moves, do you include kissing?
@Melina1982 I'll say no, unless you have some kind of casual meet up (Not proper date) and it feels natural in the moment or if she instigates it and I can't resist.
How can I instigate for a kiss, is that good or bad?
@Melina1982 If you wanna start a kiss stand infront of him/her look them in the eyes, (give signals a while before by looking at their lips occasionally), if you're shorter than them, soft grip on the hips/lower back, if taller then shoulder blades. Go in slowly so they aren't taken by surprise. If it is your first kiss don't linger too long because it can become awkward quick. Also if you're both sexually charged/drunk grab them by the shirt and just yank them in
Oh my! Thanks for the advice.
Human nature : People want what they can't have or obtain too easily.. regardless of age etc..
If you put your heart on a plate.. give him everything then what is there for him to earn.. nothing.
Men, especially want to chase women naturally and want to feel like they've earnt the woman.. hold back a bit until he's yours completely x
Players aside, men don't handle rapidly changing and increasing expectations and requirements well. Especially if it involves other people. Especially if there's a risk of getting their hearts ripped out (again). They just don't trust their partners enough (yet).
My, my, boys can pussy's😂😂😂, but it's probably because their not ready to take things that forward, for example, you're in love with your best friend, and decide he best friend boy dude guy I really like you, he's gonna have 101 doubts and I'd not gonna wanna loose you as a friend, so probably thinking of not taking risks. If it's a guy you just met, there's gonna be trust issues and if it's sexual reasons, then there's another 707 doubts exploding in his head. So in conclusion their just doubtful 😐
some guys especially teens care about not relationships n maybe if the guy is older than that n he cares about relationships they freak out wen they feel like the girl wants to get married tomorrow but if u don't say anything about marriage n future u might actually have a future with them
How fast are we talking? We all have our own pace, maybe sit down and ask or restraint yourself from moving so fast.
It things move fast in life you dont notice the little things when you slow down.
I personally wouldn't want it to go fast; wouldn't say it scares me but i love to learn about people and how they tick before i push further into the relationship.
There is a difference between, im in love with you and i love you. Both bad if said to soon, maybe after 6 months. I best mate only told her boyfriend a month aho she loves him. They have been datting 1 year 4 months.
Guys dont liked to be pushed, have have alaph complex. Guide or share your opinion but let him at least think he's in power.
The best thing in a relationships is to talk! All depends on the person really, dont allow yourself to get attached so easy and sorry if you basically knew all this but if it doesn't work then he's not the one. Love is about compromise, respect and trust.
If you proceed to fast guys will tend to run away... in fear of maybe no control in the situation... or past relationships that I've gone bad... I have a female friend she jumps right into the relationship moves the guy in the house two months later he's out the door she got a new boyfriend last year she went through six boyfriend's... what I'm trying to say is she wants to play house but she skips over the part of getting to know each other...
I never open myself to women because I was taught by the mgtow philosophy how toxic female nature can be and that it's not worth the emotional risk. Sex is only beneficial to me from women.
If it flies, floats and fucks; never buy/invest in it... always rent!
that's so true I was told the same thing by multiple successful middle aged men who get tons of ass
Women are no good long term due to the financial and emotional risks involved. If you want the full benefits of the female pleasurable experience then sluts and whores are the way to go. Where I'm from you can get whores that look like models.
one thing that's boy want is a friend a really a good friend. and if u hurry in a relationship that just make boys think that u will surely leave them. I am a social worker so i get the same questions all the time I am single but when I see couple making out I feel bad. so i recommend that taking things slow. and some guys are just looking to hit a girl just have sex and they leave so. that's the way I think.
Different guys have different tolerance levels for things. Some guys don't mind if you are clingy. Other guys it makes them feel like they are suffocating. Others simply haven't figured out what they want yet (that takes years and seldom happens before 25) and that just makes you a crash test dummy on that journey of discovery. I dunno, maybe if you think it's because you move too fast try slowing down?
were scared that we will get attached and that they will leave, or commitment issue's
Then I always finds the boys who have commitment issues...
hahaha boys.. exactly find yourself a man...
How do I see the difference? Haha
you find someone who connects with you as a friend first, avoid the horny "boys" as you put it :)
Yes, I'm trying really hard. But it's this one guy.. I'm trying really hard to not push him, and I think he is okay with me now. But because thins happened so fast, we both like each other and I did rush things a little more than him, he wanted to think a little.. And now he is on holiday
tbh hun sounds like you need to be shown what its like to be treated right xD
Haha thanks. Well, my last relationship was not healthy. The first one was a lot of jealousy, and the last one.. Well, thing got to fast and he is bi polar..
im also bpd... I understand but... not controlling it hurts innocent women like you...
I see.. Well, thing went too fast, he got scared and being down didn't do it any easier...
dont feel responsible for anyone but yourself, I just think if you aren't happy now, you won't be happier than you are at this point
Thanku :) I'm happy now, just finding it hard to find someone when I'm not over my ex yet. Or I'm trying, and that's probably the reason why I haven't find the one yet
well if you ever need a chat I got kik bazzz91 :)
I'd like to know that too. I think someone should tell the other if they want to commit because if they don't and end up going along then it's truly upsetting to be spending time with a person who has no interest
I'm fairly certain that if it happens to you more than once, it's something YOU'RE doing wrong. Perhaps you're dating the wrong type of guy, or insisting on having sex on the first date. I don't think most people run away immediately if things go too fast, they try and work it out unless it triggers other reg flags.
I think it has a lot to do with they feel they are going to lose their freedom/independence. Which is why men tend to fall harder for the women who have their own lives and those women who dont call/text/obsess over them.
Depends on the guy. Women tend to fall for the guy who doesn't really care.. The right guy won't be scared but some may act like they are because a lot of girls dont like it easy
Don't be so fast... Take your time. I am not a dude but my partner has said that his love for me grows with time. It helps them sort their feelings out better.
because serious to a guy is really forever and we need time to think. and prepare
Yes I understand that.. But maybe I just let him think a little and going easy on him, then I will get his heart?
give him time to adjust but keep him focused. as the woman you really are in charge of the relationship
I understand. Well I think I'm going to wait for him to talk to me 😊
You are describing my trait exactly the same way as those guys who ran away from you.
When a girl goes too fast, for me, I will feel anxious and that something is not right. I wouldn't want to feel so anxious all the time and I would want some time and space as well. This applies to guys who are more emotionally sensitive, though.
To me, rushing things is usually hectic and tiring. Because there are so many other things in life that already contributes to stress.
Because women want to get married before men do on average, want children before men do. Plus maybe most guys prefer freedom, also there is a a ton of divorce and a lot of stress with getting married young.
Man doesn't like to be tied up quickly after meeting a woman. Men would give up their "freedom" after they fall in love. Woman who rushes into a relationship freaks me out, makes me feel that she's desperate and needy and that explains why she's single (no necessarily right) but if she had options then she'll take slow and make me feel that a lot of guys want to date her which means she's not a crazy person.
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I didn't talked about relationships at all..
But if there is a little sign of something more than just friends, they just runs
If you're dating the right guy then they won't run away.
It's a scary world... maybe commitment is scary and that the reason you end up in tears is because you put all that emotion and trust in someone so fast they weren't ready for it even though they thought they were... Getting caught up in spider strings is a very bad way to live
Yes, that's true. I get feelings too fast, sadly.. I have to speed things down.