I don't get scared of feeling love. But I do fear betrayal of my trust. I do fear getting used and manipulated. Or worse -framed for something. I don't so much fear rejection, as I fear she will take it too far. I fear her convincing others to conspire against me, and then setting an ambush. Because it's already happened, and could happen again.
I fear the wasting of my time. The having to fight a war in my own defense. The "was it all for nothing?" question looming over me. And while I long for companionship, I go slow to avoid stepping on a landmine.
Though sometimes, when I intentionally avoid landmines, girls throw sticky grenades and render my careful strategy in the minefield useless.
That's what companionship and love are - a golden ticket to a meaningful existence, that I have to cross a minefield to get to. With hundreds of other booby traps also in there. And the chance that I may get to the center, only for someone to swoop in as if from a helicopter and nab the prize, making my efforts for naught.
That feeling you get when you finish a stage in a Mario game, only to hear: "Your princess is in another castle." Now magnify your frustration by 1 million, and that's me.
"Overwhelming" is a bad term to use for something like this. It's basically like saying "How much of a pussy are you, men?" "Scared" isn't the best word, either.
As for me, if I start catching feelings for some chick, I go out of my way to avoid her; but this isn't because I'm "scared" or "overwhelmed", it's because I made a conscious choice not to get involved with anyone.
Normally, if she shows any interest, I think most guys will at least talk to her. It really depends on how close the two are, as well, I think. If they talk on a consistent basis--or must, in school or work or something--*then* he starts avoiding her, I think it's quite rare that that avoidance would be due to him catching feelings for her. Rather, it's probably because he has no interest or doesn't want anything.
Only reason I think a guy would "run away" or avoid a girl that he likes is because he does not want to be involved with anyone.
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Depending on the situation if your not really expecting to feel that way or at least feel that way at that point it can be a tad overwhelming. I mean nothing changes for me in the way I act overall I mean I might become a tad more reclusive so that I can think but other then that.
A guy can't really avoid a girl, he can't help but to be drawn to her. The worst I think is trying to talk to a girl but words don't come out or they are gibberish. It really depends on the guys confidence in himself if you boil it down.
love is an abberation. I am a man, I want your body. You are a girl. You want my stiffness inside of you. Where is love? It is there as I need to love you with my stiffness, it is gone once I have made a man mess inside of you. Tomorrow you are loving the memory of how good I was BUT, maybe, you are thinking of how good your next shag will be, so what is this LOVE thing? Love is if you are the best thing I ever knew AND I am the best you ever had, we stay together, THAT is love.
Yes, it can be overwhelming, and it usually is. Avoid a girl completely? Perhaps. However, it can happen where the guy will eventually come back to the girl.
i wasn't like this before some years ago but now when i feel attached to anyone i get scared too much.
Most will sack-up and just in the deep end of the pool, if only to see if they can swim or if the water's too cold.
well personally for me I start talking to her more and I complement her a lot but I just can't bring myself to tell her that I want to be with her
I don't think most men get "scared" when they like a girl. I never have anyway. That's a female reaction and I've never understood it.
I will make sure if she loves me too , i don't want to make an awkward moment
I'd say that they do a bit of both.
when I'm feeling something, I know I must run
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