Staying friends with an ex is not "mature" or "immature," it's just a personal preference. If someone wants to remain friends with an ex, that's cool but it's also okay to not want them in your life at all. I haven't spoken to my ex since we broke up and that's been several years ago. It may sound mean but I have no desire to be friends with him. I wish him the best in his life and there are no hard feelings, I simply don't want to be friends. I feel like trying to be friends only complicates things and can cause issues in your future relationships. So I just prefer clean break-ups and going our separate ways.
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more mature than screaming matches/fighting/drama, yes. but that's about it.
the choice whether or not to remain friends is a personal one; like you, i'm not interested in keeping my exes as friends. but i made an exception for one: we'd been good friends for a few years before we dated, and we broke up because the shift from platonic to romantic didn't work, so we just shifted back. no hard feelings.
I picked no because it's neither mature or immature. If you don't want anything to do with that person, then it's within your right to cut them out of your life. Especially when they aren't good for you. Now if the break up was mutual and there were no hard feelings, then it's mature to be civil with each other. Not resentful and bitter.
Not necessarily. The mature thing is to do what is in your best interest. That might mean cutting off all ties, or maintaining a friendship.
I'm a friend with my exes, not a close one, but there's no hard feelings involved and if they need a hand I'd try to help (and I think they'd do likewise)
i've got a flat friendship with one of my exes, so.. nothing wrong with it as long as it doesn't get close again.
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It's mature if you end things in a polite manner but I don't think it's a good idea to remain friends. Basically you remain somehow tied to your past and you can't really move on with your ex being your friend. I personally wouldn't date someone that's still friends with his ex, it means there's some unfinished business there and I wouldn't want to get involved in this circumstances
Yes it's mature, but unnecessary and may even create problems with other/new relationships. I believe (whenever possible) in being friend-ly with exes and nothing more.
I don't think it's about maturity. I think it's like whether you think it's healthy or not. Some questions to ask yourself are is someone going to get hurt from this? Do I still have feelings? Do they still have feelings? Are we going to be seeing each other a lot? Am I going to have to explain to people all the time the situation?
It is mature to break up and remain on good terms without greed and drama but friendship is not necessarily included.
Not necessarily. Reason it's mature is because you were being civilized about it, with no hard feelings. You can still do that without being friends. Maturity comes from being honest with yourself and your ex about what's best.
I am still friends with my ex (es). I am just chill as a person, so I don't like bad vibes... but I do understand when some people don't want to continue there connection with their exes. So it depends on the situation.
Hell no , it's immature and stupid and not giving any of your future relationships an honest chance.
Yes it's your option to stay friends with your exes
and no one should bring you down cause of it
I think we are capable of making the decisions
we make but we also got know a ex is ex for a
reason.There is nothing there in being friends with your ex, as you said he/she is your ex that means you both have agreed to see other people, right? So there's no big deal in keeping your ex as a friend.
Unless kids are involved and then an amicable relationship is better, why on earth would you want to be friends with an EX?
Its mature to know what you want and why. If you want to be his friend then fine, but doing it because you feel it would be immature to cut off contact with him is more immature than just doing your own thing your own way
Keeping them as friends can't really be considered mature or immature
What I consider immature is constantly bashing them, like a lot of people tend to doI wouldn't say mature. but if you can still be friends with them then that's a good thing :) it means it didn't end horrible most the time
Being civil is ok, I don't think hanging out and stuff is, at least if you're in another relationship
being on good terms is maturity.
being friends is not.Being friends with an ex is a sure way to damage and ruin any future relationships.
I don't suggest being friends with your ex while you are in a relationship.
It's not suggested that you should be friends with your ex.
Depends on how it ended. If it was on good terms, why not. If it was disastrous, definitely not.
More mature to move on. And respectful to your new relationship.
Unless you share children.
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