Have you ever left your partner for someone else? How did it turn out?

ever left your long term/short term relationships? for someone hotter?


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  • For someone hotter? No! there's really no point dating someone or anyone hotter if they don't have the brains for it. I'd want to able to communicate with my partner not through sex but through communication. What people seek in a relationship is chemistry and that special connection they have with each other (long term) or just plain sex (short term).

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  • Gosh I had to think about it as I'm not 20 anymore but I can honestly say NO.

    I can admit to one friend turned flirtation in high school when I was in a serious relationship. But nothing ever happened or was even thought aboutnon my part until I was looong out of the relationship.

    I'm loyal to a fault and even the sign of flirtation usually indicates something is wrong in the relationship I'm in.

    I did eventually date the guy but only months after my final breakup with my boyfriend and continuous bad behavior on his party.

    I know a relationships is over in most cases if I even consider another guy as attractive. The thrill is gone, the horses have left the carriage.

    There's a difference between getting. A boost from a guy idle flirting with you at an airport bar waiting for a plane and flirting with someone you know.

    The latter only happens when the relationship is basically over emotionally.

    But to a good and bad thing I guess. When I'm in love I have tunnel vision and if I do realize a guy is hitting on me I get out of that situation immediately.

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    • Gosh I didn't even see the hotter part. That's a double fuck no.

      If someone leaves a LTR for someone 'hotter' I honestly believe that can't be the only attraction or problem.

      That said guys are space holders. They'll date a girl for nine months with no real interest in her because she is the best possible option atm. Once something more along their lines of interest comes into play they steal it.

      It's the job to gel out the relationship and determine if you are indeed that filling of time placeholder. It's difficult because it involves being honest with yourself.

      Don't give time and trust to someone who hasn't proven to be worthy of it.

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  • you don't "change partner" its no a car, a house or some pair of pants.
    if you're thinking about "going for someone hotter" then just break up with him already, you'll be doing him a favor on the long run, because now? well, now you're just wasting his time.

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  • I think its classy to do this thsn cheat behind someones back. Its painful and a bit stupid tho. Highly risky with someone you haven't known for years. Its only advised if you left a boyfriend for like your best friend and after 10 years you realized you were in denial and loved him. But for some random stud you just met? Dumb.

    I've never done it. Im loyal. But when a girlfriend dumps me and makes me a free man, I am fine sleeping with chics the night after the breakup. Too many chics take nice loyal guys for granted. They can dump dorky and come back whenever thinking they are a dating couch. Uhm no. Reclaim your manhood guys. Let these ladies know there are consequences to letting guys loose. It takes a long time to heal emotionally. Being celibate doesn't speed up that process. Trust me, i know. So while you heal, find a friend with benefits. Dont be the weak lapdog these chics take for granted. Be a wanted possession!

    I see too many chics taking the loyalty of Mr. Nice guys for granted! Can I get a witness?

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    • Very well said! I in fact had been a back plan actually... the girl dumped me and one day she wanted one guy to kiss her (they got together later in life, but they're in different countries now) so I knew it was over for me, she made her choice. But she thought I was stupid and kept telling me that she MIGHT (she even said she just might! And when I once asked for a chance, she said around 15%!) choose me. Luckily I made myself let go. I was attached as hell to her, but after that, I never forgave her and never let her choose me again (I'm glad I got my balls together to do that) and now she's acting like a bitch towards me.

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    • Ah, well I guess I see where she's coming from.

    • good lol good ttyl

  • ... I have. It wasn't for someone hotter though. I felt and still feel very connected to her, moreso than my ex.

    I think it's wrong to actively looking for someone else in a committed relationship, but we were on a break when it happened, pending reevaluation.

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  • Way back in the 80s, my first girlfriend dumped me for another guy after dating over a year. I remember how much it hurt me, so if I am with someone, I do not go shopping around for another, its just not right.

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  • Nope and I would never do this. I will not even date multiple women when not in a relationship. By date three if a girl can't pull it together and cut off the peripheral dating, her ass is sitting on the curb. Take dating seriously or don't say that you are looking for a relationship. Then we will never have to waste each other's time. Off topic but it is the same value system that causes a person to leave a relationship for an equal or worse relationship.

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  • Yeah. when I was in my early 20s I left a girlfriend for what would become my future psychopath of an ex wife.

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  • No, but I have been on the other end of it. At 19 my ex-GF went back to the UK (where she lived until she was 10) for a holiday - she'd been at Heathrow for less than an hour after she arrived when she ran into one of her old friends from her childhood (definitely better looking than me, I saw pictures later on)... They married 6 months later, first kid a year after that, then 2 more over the next 3 years.

    And to think that she never OFFICIALLY broke up with me!

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    • That's rough I feel bad for you

    • These --- ain't loyal.
      That song should be your anthem, my friend.

  • Yes I have. a few times.
    The only time I can really remember is when I was with this guy (we werent offical but we were talking and wanted to get serious with each other) but he didn't know I was kinda fucking and talking to this other guy at the same time. which I know was an asshole thing to do
    But I was falling for the other guy so I told him and broke his heart.
    buuuut the other guy didn't even want me and he just wanted to fuck me sooo I didn't end up with either of them.

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  • I've done this many times lol but I'm also still young and none of those girls were my Mrs right I don't even think I knew what I wanted in a relationship except for a hot chick back then but recently I've had a few soul searching moments and realized that she has to have a job too lmao it's 2017 ladies ur taking me out to dinner I like steak lmao

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  • No I'm a genuine honest person. I would never be with a woman who do that or had done so in the past. It's a shameful thing and makes her disloyal, untrustworthy and a bad bet to invest in a future with.

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  • Never... I don't believe in doing so. I like to devote to one person and try to build something with them. I'm just not interested in smaller short term projects. I guess that deep down inside I really am kinda type of guy.

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  • yaa I have left my short term relationship for someone

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    • how did that work out?

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    • I told her its not happening, its over we should breakup

    • well I don't care much about the fake relationships

  • Yes but I did it because I simply wasn't happy anymore, the relationship was too stressful and I was trying to get out of it before I even met my new girlfriend. It turned out great so far, we're still together and are so in love and I see myself spending the rest of my life with her.

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  • i was having issues in my last relationship. and off and on a few times with her. i had enough broke up with her and a week later was with my current girlfriend and now have been with her for over 2 years and currently happy talking about having a baby. so id say it worked out for me. but there are relationships that i wonder what itd be if i was still with them but thats in the past and i have to continue walking forward.

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    • a week later? why did you move on that fast?

    • i had already talked with my current girlfriend in the past and known her for over a year. was not nessarily planned but it worked out.

  • was in a relationship with someone who was selfish and I felt they were cheating on my but had no proof. I can continue to list the reasons she wasn't a good girlfriend then I told her I wanted out and she begged me to stay but I was over it. met someone a good while after and moved on for sure then just 2 bad I didn't make the breakup official before getting close to the other girl.

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  • I did once long back when, when I was in my early twenties. everyone does it without realising it. it's our sub conscious which is attracted to the unknkwn which we might think as " hotter ". relationship based on your partners hottness only cannot survive for too long, so make the host of it if you have scored a hot one and take it from there. Stop thinking about the ex.

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  • No, I have never cheated in a relationship.

    My Ex-Girlfriend did, after 2 years she abruptly broke up with me and was with someone new within a week and when asked, her answer was 'he was not the reason, I felt bad for what I did, (by breaking up with me) but that's life'.

    Guess who came back to 'catch up' a year later? Yup she did, her relationship with the other dude did not work out, I wasn't receptive, so within a week (again) she got herself a new boyfriend.

    She's on her 3rd boyfriend after me, will she contact me again? Who knows, but one thing is for sure, I wouldn't care less. 😃

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  • Not for looks. But mostly from feeling overwhelmed. The second party gave me comfort and they made me feel like I could relax instead of jumping through hoops, which led me to leaving my prior partner in favour of them.

    Always been personality. Looks are a bonus, but not always necessary.

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  • I have done this twice and both times I was instantly happier and more satisfied because the relationships I had left we're burning out and miserable both times. I don't regret the decision for my happiness, I only regret that I hurt people for it

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  • I had a chance but I didn't took it, cause if you think carefully.. You won't see true love in this world.. The thing is that you choose person and you keep falling in love with same person.. that's how long term relationship works.. unless you do this.. it's hard to stay with same person for long.. without being tired of that person.. So I believe.. if you wanna go for the new guy.. cause there's nothing Called true love in this world..

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  • Yes... I regret it but I've realized that if I leave my girlfriend for another girl then I probably didn't like my current girlfriend as much as I thought. This just happend to me recently and the girl I left her for said she liked me a lot and we hung out a lot but now she's giving me the cold shoulder. So the best thing you can do is just be honest with your partner and do what feels right to you

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  • Yeah I once left my cheeseburger for a pizza. It made me feel guilty but it was like meant to be

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  • what if you find someone hotter than your previous hotter (cuz of whom you broke up)?
    Will you just keep jumping from one person to another?
    Make some sense dude!

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  • No, I see no point in that for the simple fact that a relationship isn't solely built off appeal. A emotional, physical and mental bond is made why lose all that you built with someone because he or she might look better than what your already with.

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  • I wouldn't say people leave one another for looks but rather if that relationship isn't fulfilling to them in some way they might leave for this other person that in their mind appeals to be better.

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  • Happened to me but instead of wallowing I picked myself up hit the gym and got a haircut and now I feel great

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  • Nope. I don't commit unless I see her as an 8. Once I see long term potential, there are no other women in the world. Just her.

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  • I haven't but my ex-wife did. several times. it's the reason why her life is so messed up now. she's one of these women the things men only exist to entertain them and take care of them.

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  • I have and it has happened to me. Luckily now i am happily married. And my wife and i have an agreement. We can sleep with whoever as long as they r medically clean and as long is we come home to each other every night.

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    • Wow really? No jealousy there at all?

    • Sure. But we understand each other. We understand that we will be attracted to others but as long as we come home to each other every night, we r ok.
      Besides. Both of us are so picky, it rarely happens.

  • never have been in a relationship yet but I can say, just by hearing things in media and from friends as well as family temptation is real. you have to be the strongest man or woman you can be to avoid this situation

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  • No don't think I have

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  • Yes. I fell in love with a friend when I was in a long term relationship. Of course my relationship was full of problems. Anyway, I broke up even not knowing if my friend liked me back. Just because if I was having this feelings that meant I shouldn't be with my boyfriend. Later on my friend and I got into a relationship. He was the love of my life. However, it ended. We moved on, but we still love each other. We were just not compatible.

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  • No, I haven't done that. I wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone new right after a breakup anyway. I need time to move on from that person and work on myself before trying to get into a relationship with someone new. Maybe some people can do it but I just can't go from one relationship straight into another.

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  • I have~ I now regret it a lot. In my case though, it wasn't anything to do with appearance~ more I thought another guy had more in common with me...

    I was with "A" for 3ish years and mostly happy, but something changed. I then met "M" and we instantly clicked and I started getting feeling for him, though I tried to suppress them. I ended up breaking up with '"A" as it wasn't fair for him and I couldn't have truly loved him if I was feeling this way towards someone else. After I was very very happy (despite the immense amount of guilt I kept hidden) but after about half a year with "M" I realised what he was like. I would've been better off trying to work things out with "A". my mental state deteriorated and I was deeply unhappy in that relationship and we argued a lot. With "A" we never argued.

    I've learnt my lesson now though and I think I've found 'The One' and I am determined to make things work with him if I ever doubt him as I honestly don't think I can ever find someone who would come even close to him

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  • No. I believe in completely leaving one relationship before starting another so your judgement isn't clouded. I think a lot of people's relationship problems can usually be solved with effective communication and good listening skills.

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  • My first boyfriend I have not nor have I ever wanted to be with another because if I'm going to be in a relationship, I want to share my life with them (marriage). I'm not in it just to be dating, life is too short for that. In my situation, my boyfriend left me for another girl.

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  • Haven't. I will only leave my man if he is abusing me or I cannot take the hurt anymore. But not for someone else hotter. The grass ain't greener all the time on the other side. It could be just fake grass. But if he leaves me for someone else, there is no one for him to go back to.

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  • I left a 4 year relationship. I cheated on him with my now husband, now I have a beautiful son, a loving husband, and a life I wouldn't trade.

    My ex just wasn't there emotionally. He worked almost all the time, and when he wasn't, he was with his friends. Kinda pushed me into my husband's arms. He regrets it, and will randomly hit me up to try to get me to hook up with him or leave my husband for him.

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  • Yes I did, but the other guy wasn't really my boyfriend. I did cut him off to have my first interracial relationship. I was happy for a long time and then I realized he was a controlling, selfish asshole. So I would say meh, kinda worth it, because he made me happier for a while.

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  • No but my husbands friend did.
    He was having an affair and left his wife for the other woman. He found out that his new partner had slept with someone else right before she fell pregnant with his baby.
    Oh the shit hit the fan and I have absolutely no sympathy for him, he had spent most of his marriage chasing other women.

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  • yes I have. I was dating this guy, 7 years older than me. we were going to move in together but I broke up with him for a good lay.. one of the biggest mistakes of my life.. but now I have a man who loves me unconditionally and I won't make the same mistake twice..

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  • Yeah i did. he was unwilling to stand up for me when I was being sexually harassed to I told him if he's not willing to stand up for me he doesn't deserve to have me

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    • why didn't you stand up for yourself before expecting him to stand up for you...

  • Yes. After the night my old boyfriend ripped me apart and ripping apart I mean he yelled so much at me the whole neighborhood heard. So when 2 weeks went by His buddy asked me out and it's been going great so far since his buddy knows how great of a person I am.

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  • I haven't... but my best friend left her husband that she'd been married to for 3 years for someone else. They were together for 6 years and she was very very happy but sadly, he was killed in a car crash 2 years ago 😢

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  • I've never cheated but I have left someone because I cared for someone else, we broke up after a few months but he's now one of my closest friends. It was a blessing that I left the first guy because he turned out to be a psychopath.

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  • I used to do this all the time but realized I'm just not made for a steady relationship and now I don't have to!

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  • I guess I have. When I met my current boyfriend I was dating someone else, but we would've broken up whether we'd met or not. Things were heading south as it was

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  • No , but my ex bff did. She said yes to another guy when he asked her out and then dumped the other guy

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    • Ok why the thumbs down? I didn't do it , my friend did. The haters are real in his forum

  • I have left someone in the past for someone new. And I will admit.. I broke his heart which I still feel bad for. But I was with the new person and 8 months later he left me to be with different girls.. So yeah what goes around comes around. I definitely felt the pain that i had caused to the previous person I left. Karma is a real thing guys

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  • I would never do that. If I would leave him would be because he becomes any of the below.
    1) rude - anger - irritation
    2) self centric
    3) careless dudism
    4) flirts with other girl
    5) avoids
    6) not understanding
    7) respect element

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  • No, I never start relationships with people I don't deeply care for. And I wouldn't do that for anyone I deeply care for.

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  • Funny thing. I broke up with my previous boyfriend to be with my current boyfriend. He and I have been together for 2 and a half years now and going strong.

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  • I've left a short-term partner for someone else. I've also almost left another partner for someone else. They weren't hotter. I was just more interested in them.

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  • Yeah I left my old boyfriend because he had an average size penis.

    Alex was awful. I could hardly feel anything.

    I feel bad for women who settle for that.

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    • Hey a lot of guys will hate this but thanks for telling the truth. All the guys who downvote you are 5in or less 😂

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    • Nah you attacked me first chick. Apparently your feelings have been hurt 😭

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      I never attacked you.

  • yes i left my husband because he was very abusive and controlling. my life was so much better and happier.

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  • I have left mine coz got someone better and hotter.

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  • yes i dont regret it the guy i left him for and i are still together almost 3 years later

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  • no. and I wouldn't. and hopefully NIW that I've replied this stops getting spammed in my inbox.

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  • no i wanted to a lot cause my partner was a cheater and i still stayed with him. but i either liked my partner more if i compared them or the other guy didn't like me enough to take the risk

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  • I left a long term relationship but not for anyone else tho. I just left cause I couldn't do it anymore with just being with someone who wasn't there. do I regret it? no but do I want him back? yes

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