Have you ever left your partner for someone else? How did it turn out?

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ever left your long term/short term relationships? for someone hotter?

sjoes006 · Accepted Answer

Gosh I had to think about it as I'm not 20 anymore but I can honestly say NO.

I can admit to one friend turned flirtation in high school when I was in a serious relationship. But nothing ever happened or was even thought aboutnon my part until I was looong out of the relationship.

I'm loyal to a fault and even the sign of flirtation usually indicates something is wrong in the relationship I'm in.

I did eventually date the guy but only months after my final breakup with my boyfriend and continuous bad behavior on his party.

I know a relationships is over in most cases if I even consider another guy as attractive. The thrill is gone, the horses have left the carriage.

There's a difference between getting. A boost from a guy idle flirting with you at an airport bar waiting for a plane and flirting with someone you know.

The latter only happens when the relationship is basically over emotionally.

But to a good and bad thing I guess. When I'm in love I have tunnel vision and if I do realize a guy is hitting on me I get out of that situation immediately.

Comawhite666 · Accepted Answer

I have~ I now regret it a lot. In my case though, it wasn't anything to do with appearance~ more I thought another guy had more in common with me...

I was with "A" for 3ish years and mostly happy, but something changed. I then met "M" and we instantly clicked and I started getting feeling for him, though I tried to suppress them. I ended up breaking up with '"A" as it wasn't fair for him and I couldn't have truly loved him if I was feeling this way towards someone else. After I was very very happy (despite the immense amount of guilt I kept hidden) but after about half a year with "M" I realised what he was like. I would've been better off trying to work things out with "A". my mental state deteriorated and I was deeply unhappy in that relationship and we argued a lot. With "A" we never argued.

I've learnt my lesson now though and I think I've found 'The One' and I am determined to make things work with him if I ever doubt him as I honestly don't think I can ever find someone who would come even close to him

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Haven't. I will only leave my man if he is abusing me or I cannot take the hurt anymore. But not for someone else hotter. The grass ain't greener all the time on the other side. It could be just fake grass. But if he leaves me for someone else, there is no one for him to go back to.

Apope16 · Accepted Answer

I think its classy to do this thsn cheat behind someones back. Its painful and a bit stupid tho. Highly risky with someone you haven't known for years. Its only advised if you left a boyfriend for like your best friend and after 10 years you realized you were in denial and loved him. But for some random stud you just met? Dumb.

I've never done it. Im loyal. But when a girlfriend dumps me and makes me a free man, I am fine sleeping with chics the night after the breakup. Too many chics take nice loyal guys for granted. They can dump dorky and come back whenever thinking they are a dating couch. Uhm no. Reclaim your manhood guys. Let these ladies know there are consequences to letting guys loose. It takes a long time to heal emotionally. Being celibate doesn't speed up that process. Trust me, i know. So while you heal, find a friend with benefits. Dont be the weak lapdog these chics take for granted. Be a wanted possession!

I see too many chics taking the loyalty of Mr. Nice guys for granted! Can I get a witness?

JamesJD · Accepted Answer

For someone hotter? No! there's really no point dating someone or anyone hotter if they don't have the brains for it. I'd want to able to communicate with my partner not through sex but through communication. What people seek in a relationship is chemistry and that special connection they have with each other (long term) or just plain sex (short term).

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, I have done it before and I realized it was selfish of me to do to a certain extent , I only did it because my partner at the time started being a bitch towards me and treated me like shit most the time , but for whatever reason I still cared about her and loved her , because I knew her past wasn’t t the greatest , but i realized it still wasn’t an excuse for how she was treating me either , so I ended up meeting another girl that treated me like Gold , that was coming on to me , that made me feel happy and appreciated and respected , but I didn’t immediately jump into a relationship with the other girl , I was kind of stuck in the middle of what I should do , So I told my partner I wanted a separation and think it’s best for us to take a break because we are butting heads like crazy and arguing like crazy. So once her and Ai separated , I started to see the other girl more and told her that I wasn’t looking to rush into a relationship but I don’t mind spending time with you. She understood but that didn’t last long , we ended up in bed and the sex was amazing , she made me feel alive again compared to my ex. She knew how to make me smile and she had a beautiful heart that I was drawn to , so once I felt her and I were a great match , I told
My ex that it’s over and that I met someone that treats me like Gold , I told her To go find her happiness because it’s clearly not me.
My ex cried but she understood and she admitted she was a bitch to me and mean. So after that conversation I started getting serious with this other girl and her and I were amazing together for a good 6 months , until her husband knocked on my door , I didn’t know she was married and that was the end of that relationship. My ex and I eventually got back together because she was begging for me back , which was the dumbest mistake I ever made in my life. The only reason I took her back was because shortly after I broke up with that married woman , my older brother passed away and then my Mom passed away shortly after , my ex was by my side the whole time and I wasn’t in the right state of mind. Things were great with my ex and I again for a little while until it turned to shit again. So I am now single looking for a girl that wants true love that isn’t selfish that wants a one on one relationship that is loyal , faithful and honest and has a big heart and single lol

think_logic85 · Answer

No, I have never cheated in a relationship.

My Ex-Girlfriend did, after 2 years she abruptly broke up with me and was with someone new within a week and when asked, her answer was 'he was not the reason, I felt bad for what I did, (by breaking up with me) but that's life'.

Guess who came back to 'catch up' a year later? Yup she did, her relationship with the other dude did not work out, I wasn't receptive, so within a week (again) she got herself a new boyfriend.

She's on her 3rd boyfriend after me, will she contact me again? Who knows, but one thing is for sure, I wouldn't care less. 😃

ImHere4You · Answer

I didn't really leave my ex for this girl but about 7 years ago when my marriage was coming to an end I met a girl on pogo. We talked every day and sometimes romantically. My ex wife and I never talked and never had romance. Talking to this girl reminded me what being with a girl was like even though it was just friendship.

If it hadn't been for her I'd probably still be in a loveless marriage. After the divorce her and I struck up a relationship. Eventually on been verified and other places I found out that she lied about who she was. About 2 years later she ended our relationship. But in the end together or not she saved me.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

It wasn't pre-planned or anything like that but, thats how it worked out. I came home from work about 10 years ago and my (live in) lady friend is watching TV and she has every color imaginable in her hair. She dyed her hair with 13 different colors and my company Christmas party was two days away. She "TOLD" me that she was going like that and I trid to explain to her about my job title and such and I don't know what got into her this day but, it wasn't working. I asked her to get her stuff and go. She said fuck you, and then it was like "get your fuckin" shit & get out!" I ended up with another woman but, she was a tree short of a hammock also.

InlicitusDio · Answer

you don't "change partner" its no a car, a house or some pair of pants.
if you're thinking about "going for someone hotter" then just break up with him already, you'll be doing him a favor on the long run, because now? well, now you're just wasting his time.

UltraGamer · Answer

Yeah I left a long distance relationship for a girl that was a friend for the past few months, but it was well worth it, the LDR girl was cheating a bit and was using me to make herself feel better and plus the girl I left her for is still my girlfriend now almost 2 years strong c=

Oh and the LDR was a little be over a year long but I hardly visit her state anyways, she was in Florida and I'm in Tennessee. Last time I ever date a stalker! She was the type to threaten her life if I ever left and yet she still lives. But whatever I'm happy with my girlfriend now 11-26-15

CatInLove · Answer

Yes. I fell in love with a friend when I was in a long term relationship. Of course my relationship was full of problems. Anyway, I broke up even not knowing if my friend liked me back. Just because if I was having this feelings that meant I shouldn't be with my boyfriend. Later on my friend and I got into a relationship. He was the love of my life. However, it ended. We moved on, but we still love each other. We were just not compatible.

Anonymous · Answer

those relationships almost always fail so no. the closest I've done to that was begin dating the second guy for a year while still being with the first, to make sure it will work out before ending it with which ever guy. i wouldn't recommend that for most bc it is very difficult. but anyone who just leaves one for another will end up alone at the end. it will also crush your man's heart to know the truth. it's best to tell them you are leaving them for a different reason than to crush their feelings that way.

NyxPuller · Answer

I left my husband of 12yrs to be with my best friend and soulmate. my ex and I hadn't slept in the same bed for over 8yrs and he hadn't touched me in almost 3yrs. I felt completely unwanted and my self-esteem suffered horribly. My ex told me every day that our children and I were the biggest mistakes of his life for years. The man I'm with now treats my children and I amazingly, to the point he wants to adopt them after we get married next year. For me it wasn't about looks, it was about being treated right and truly cared for and loved.

maturedlibra · Answer

Yeah you touched my inner feelings really after a long time but I definitely want to answer you, I didn't left actually but I ignored my wife for someone else with whom I was in love for 2 years, we met at Dance Floor and fell in love immediately and since then new one insist me to marry her, I impressed with her physical and I m ignoring my wife very much, after 2 years when I flatly refused new Girl that I can't marry her, we eventually ended our relationship in break-up but this cost me more because my relationship with my wife becomes tense and it continues till 8 years and finally we seperated after 16 years so I lost 2 partners in 16 years but I still love my wife and really miss her

Your question really touched my past !!!

alwayswannadoit14 · Answer

I left a marriage of 23 years, miserable for over 10 years, but convenient. 5 kids 4 bedroom house, pool etc. should have left many years ago saving mental distress from my children, but never had the courage or means or reason. I slept on the couch for 3 years. I met a girl online we started having sex then dating lived together, now we have a 8 months old beautiful baby girl and a new apt and I enjoy life so much more and am tons happier promoted twice at work and things are wonderful for me. and my new family.

Gracefulhippo · Answer

... I have. It wasn't for someone hotter though. I felt and still feel very connected to her, moreso than my ex.

I think it's wrong to actively looking for someone else in a committed relationship, but we were on a break when it happened, pending reevaluation.

EmilyTolbert81 · Answer

My first boyfriend I have not nor have I ever wanted to be with another because if I'm going to be in a relationship, I want to share my life with them (marriage). I'm not in it just to be dating, life is too short for that. In my situation, my boyfriend left me for another girl.

RandomGuyAU · Answer

No, but I have been on the other end of it. At 19 my ex-GF went back to the UK (where she lived until she was 10) for a holiday - she'd been at Heathrow for less than an hour after she arrived when she ran into one of her old friends from her childhood (definitely better looking than me, I saw pictures later on)... They married 6 months later, first kid a year after that, then 2 more over the next 3 years.

And to think that she never OFFICIALLY broke up with me!

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

No, I haven't done that. I wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone new right after a breakup anyway. I need time to move on from that person and work on myself before trying to get into a relationship with someone new. Maybe some people can do it but I just can't go from one relationship straight into another.

Waterpop · Answer

Yes. After the night my old boyfriend ripped me apart and ripping apart I mean he yelled so much at me the whole neighborhood heard. So when 2 weeks went by His buddy asked me out and it's been going great so far since his buddy knows how great of a person I am.

PaulSidney · Answer

Nope and I would never do this. I will not even date multiple women when not in a relationship. By date three if a girl can't pull it together and cut off the peripheral dating, her ass is sitting on the curb. Take dating seriously or don't say that you are looking for a relationship. Then we will never have to waste each other's time. Off topic but it is the same value system that causes a person to leave a relationship for an equal or worse relationship.

ZeonWolf · Answer

i was having issues in my last relationship. and off and on a few times with her. i had enough broke up with her and a week later was with my current girlfriend and now have been with her for over 2 years and currently happy talking about having a baby. so id say it worked out for me. but there are relationships that i wonder what itd be if i was still with them but thats in the past and i have to continue walking forward.

MB311985 · Answer

was in a relationship with someone who was selfish and I felt they were cheating on my but had no proof. I can continue to list the reasons she wasn't a good girlfriend then I told her I wanted out and she begged me to stay but I was over it. met someone a good while after and moved on for sure then just 2 bad I didn't make the breakup official before getting close to the other girl.

Goodwifie · Answer

No but my husbands friend did.
He was having an affair and left his wife for the other woman. He found out that his new partner had slept with someone else right before she fell pregnant with his baby.
Oh the shit hit the fan and I have absolutely no sympathy for him, he had spent most of his marriage chasing other women.

GulfCstGurl · Answer

I left a 4 year relationship. I cheated on him with my now husband, now I have a beautiful son, a loving husband, and a life I wouldn't trade.

My ex just wasn't there emotionally. He worked almost all the time, and when he wasn't, he was with his friends. Kinda pushed me into my husband's arms. He regrets it, and will randomly hit me up to try to get me to hook up with him or leave my husband for him.

azzntittiz · Answer

Yes I did, but the other guy wasn't really my boyfriend. I did cut him off to have my first interracial relationship. I was happy for a long time and then I realized he was a controlling, selfish asshole. So I would say meh, kinda worth it, because he made me happier for a while.

MissingAries · Answer

yes I have. I was dating this guy, 7 years older than me. we were going to move in together but I broke up with him for a good lay.. one of the biggest mistakes of my life.. but now I have a man who loves me unconditionally and I won't make the same mistake twice..

mikys87 · Answer

I did once long back when, when I was in my early twenties. everyone does it without realising it. it's our sub conscious which is attracted to the unknkwn which we might think as " hotter ". relationship based on your partners hottness only cannot survive for too long, so make the host of it if you have scored a hot one and take it from there. Stop thinking about the ex.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Yes I have. a few times.
The only time I can really remember is when I was with this guy (we werent offical but we were talking and wanted to get serious with each other) but he didn't know I was kinda fucking and talking to this other guy at the same time. which I know was an asshole thing to do
But I was falling for the other guy so I told him and broke his heart.
buuuut the other guy didn't even want me and he just wanted to fuck me sooo I didn't end up with either of them.

DonkeyRick69 · Answer

No I'm a genuine honest person. I would never be with a woman who do that or had done so in the past. It's a shameful thing and makes her disloyal, untrustworthy and a bad bet to invest in a future with.

curiouswhitegrrrl · Answer

Yeah I left my old boyfriend because he had an average size penis. Alex was awful. I could hardly feel anything. I feel bad for women who settle for that.

xxrockmexx · Answer

No. I believe in completely leaving one relationship before starting another so your judgement isn't clouded. I think a lot of people's relationship problems can usually be solved with effective communication and good listening skills.

este1864 · Answer

Yeah i did. he was unwilling to stand up for me when I was being sexually harassed to I told him if he's not willing to stand up for me he doesn't deserve to have me

lucy_dangerous · Answer

I used to do this all the time but realized I'm just not made for a steady relationship and now I don't have to!

kittikat92 · Answer

Funny thing. I broke up with my previous boyfriend to be with my current boyfriend. He and I have been together for 2 and a half years now and going strong.

jtesla90 · Answer

I have and it has happened to me. Luckily now i am happily married. And my wife and i have an agreement. We can sleep with whoever as long as they r medically clean and as long is we come home to each other every night.

theoneandonlyred7125 · Answer

I've done this many times lol but I'm also still young and none of those girls were my Mrs right I don't even think I knew what I wanted in a relationship except for a hot chick back then but recently I've had a few soul searching moments and realized that she has to have a job too lmao it's 2017 ladies ur taking me out to dinner I like steak lmao

JokingWithYou · Answer

I guess I have. When I met my current boyfriend I was dating someone else, but we would've broken up whether we'd met or not. Things were heading south as it was

oneleggedwonder · Answer

Way back in the 80s, my first girlfriend dumped me for another guy after dating over a year. I remember how much it hurt me, so if I am with someone, I do not go shopping around for another, its just not right.

1234lulu · Answer

I would never do that. If I would leave him would be because he becomes any of the below.
1) rude - anger - irritation
2) self centric
3) careless dudism
4) flirts with other girl
5) avoids
6) not understanding
7) respect element

Anonymous · Answer

Once when i was younger i was in a relationship with someone for almost 5 years i truly loved him and we even got engaged for like 2 months when his parents insisted on ending it for an arranged marriage and he actually left me for them i got into depression after that and felt self insecure but then that experience made me much stronger he didn't deserve to be with me i deserved better than him and now i am happily married for 3 years

Babsie1984 · Answer

I haven't... but my best friend left her husband that she'd been married to for 3 years for someone else. They were together for 6 years and she was very very happy but sadly, he was killed in a car crash 2 years ago 😢

summer_rose · Answer

I've never cheated but I have left someone because I cared for someone else, we broke up after a few months but he's now one of my closest friends. It was a blessing that I left the first guy because he turned out to be a psychopath.

nameish · Answer

Yeah. when I was in my early 20s I left a girlfriend for what would become my future psychopath of an ex wife.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, I left an abusive girl for another girl I had a casual fling with. The girl I had the fling with was my best relationship to date. I was honest about what happened and faced the music with my ex. Obviously she was pissed, but hopefully me being honest as soon as it happened hopefully did something for her trust in relationships.

CptJacksRum · Answer

I have done this twice and both times I was instantly happier and more satisfied because the relationships I had left we're burning out and miserable both times. I don't regret the decision for my happiness, I only regret that I hurt people for it

EternalSilver · Answer

Never... I don't believe in doing so. I like to devote to one person and try to build something with them. I'm just not interested in smaller short term projects. I guess that deep down inside I really am kinda type of guy.

josiahking · Answer

Yes but I did it because I simply wasn't happy anymore, the relationship was too stressful and I was trying to get out of it before I even met my new girlfriend. It turned out great so far, we're still together and are so in love and I see myself spending the rest of my life with her.

gingemini · Answer

I have done it and because of that I have found my soulmate. I do not regret leaving that guy at all.

kimber1 · Answer

yes i left my husband because he was very abusive and controlling. my life was so much better and happier.

Ccmama · Answer

No , but my ex bff did. She said yes to another guy when he asked her out and then dumped the other guy

RyssaBear · Answer

I have left someone in the past for someone new. And I will admit.. I broke his heart which I still feel bad for. But I was with the new person and 8 months later he left me to be with different girls.. So yeah what goes around comes around. I definitely felt the pain that i had caused to the previous person I left. Karma is a real thing guys

Razabaza · Answer

Happened to me but instead of wallowing I picked myself up hit the gym and got a haircut and now I feel great

vc007 · Answer

Subjective Question. If the "NEW" person that you found is just not looking for a fling but instead a serious relationship, i guess it will turn out to be nice.

milettescheepers · Answer

no i wanted to a lot cause my partner was a cheater and i still stayed with him. but i either liked my partner more if i compared them or the other guy didn't like me enough to take the risk

L_Lied · Answer

Not for looks. But mostly from feeling overwhelmed. The second party gave me comfort and they made me feel like I could relax instead of jumping through hoops, which led me to leaving my prior partner in favour of them.

Always been personality. Looks are a bonus, but not always necessary.

ZaraMohammed · Answer

I left a long term relationship but not for anyone else tho. I just left cause I couldn't do it anymore with just being with someone who wasn't there. do I regret it? no but do I want him back? yes

LethalTactics · Answer

I wouldn't say people leave one another for looks but rather if that relationship isn't fulfilling to them in some way they might leave for this other person that in their mind appeals to be better.

existing_not_living · Answer

I've left a short-term partner for someone else. I've also almost left another partner for someone else. They weren't hotter. I was just more interested in them.

Yashiro · Answer

I had a chance but I didn't took it, cause if you think carefully.. You won't see true love in this world.. The thing is that you choose person and you keep falling in love with same person.. that's how long term relationship works.. unless you do this.. it's hard to stay with same person for long.. without being tired of that person.. So I believe.. if you wanna go for the new guy.. cause there's nothing Called true love in this world..

ajsmith · Answer

Yes... I regret it but I've realized that if I leave my girlfriend for another girl then I probably didn't like my current girlfriend as much as I thought. This just happend to me recently and the girl I left her for said she liked me a lot and we hung out a lot but now she's giving me the cold shoulder. So the best thing you can do is just be honest with your partner and do what feels right to you

dannymexico90 · Answer

Nope. I don't commit unless I see her as an 8. Once I see long term potential, there are no other women in the world. Just her.

jazzy34 · Answer

"For someone hotter." So THAT'S why relationship don't last these days... Hmm, interesting. What a stupid reason to end a relationship. Looks fade. -____-

Eswarby · Answer

One of my ex-girlfriend's started dating me shortly after breaking up with my best friend. My best friend and I aren't really friends anymore.

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