Gosh I had to think about it as I'm not 20 anymore but I can honestly say NO.
I can admit to one friend turned flirtation in high school when I was in a serious relationship. But nothing ever happened or was even thought aboutnon my part until I was looong out of the relationship.
I'm loyal to a fault and even the sign of flirtation usually indicates something is wrong in the relationship I'm in.
I did eventually date the guy but only months after my final breakup with my boyfriend and continuous bad behavior on his party.
I know a relationships is over in most cases if I even consider another guy as attractive. The thrill is gone, the horses have left the carriage.
There's a difference between getting. A boost from a guy idle flirting with you at an airport bar waiting for a plane and flirting with someone you know.
The latter only happens when the relationship is basically over emotionally.
But to a good and bad thing I guess. When I'm in love I have tunnel vision and if I do realize a guy is hitting on me I get out of that situation immediately.
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I have~ I now regret it a lot. In my case though, it wasn't anything to do with appearance~ more I thought another guy had more in common with me...
I was with "A" for 3ish years and mostly happy, but something changed. I then met "M" and we instantly clicked and I started getting feeling for him, though I tried to suppress them. I ended up breaking up with '"A" as it wasn't fair for him and I couldn't have truly loved him if I was feeling this way towards someone else. After I was very very happy (despite the immense amount of guilt I kept hidden) but after about half a year with "M" I realised what he was like. I would've been better off trying to work things out with "A". my mental state deteriorated and I was deeply unhappy in that relationship and we argued a lot. With "A" we never argued.
I've learnt my lesson now though and I think I've found 'The One' and I am determined to make things work with him if I ever doubt him as I honestly don't think I can ever find someone who would come even close to him
Haven't. I will only leave my man if he is abusing me or I cannot take the hurt anymore. But not for someone else hotter. The grass ain't greener all the time on the other side. It could be just fake grass. But if he leaves me for someone else, there is no one for him to go back to.
I think its classy to do this thsn cheat behind someones back. Its painful and a bit stupid tho. Highly risky with someone you haven't known for years. Its only advised if you left a boyfriend for like your best friend and after 10 years you realized you were in denial and loved him. But for some random stud you just met? Dumb.
I've never done it. Im loyal. But when a girlfriend dumps me and makes me a free man, I am fine sleeping with chics the night after the breakup. Too many chics take nice loyal guys for granted. They can dump dorky and come back whenever thinking they are a dating couch. Uhm no. Reclaim your manhood guys. Let these ladies know there are consequences to letting guys loose. It takes a long time to heal emotionally. Being celibate doesn't speed up that process. Trust me, i know. So while you heal, find a friend with benefits. Dont be the weak lapdog these chics take for granted. Be a wanted possession!
I see too many chics taking the loyalty of Mr. Nice guys for granted! Can I get a witness?
For someone hotter? No! there's really no point dating someone or anyone hotter if they don't have the brains for it. I'd want to able to communicate with my partner not through sex but through communication. What people seek in a relationship is chemistry and that special connection they have with each other (long term) or just plain sex (short term).
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No, I have never cheated in a relationship.
My Ex-Girlfriend did, after 2 years she abruptly broke up with me and was with someone new within a week and when asked, her answer was 'he was not the reason, I felt bad for what I did, (by breaking up with me) but that's life'.
Guess who came back to 'catch up' a year later? Yup she did, her relationship with the other dude did not work out, I wasn't receptive, so within a week (again) she got herself a new boyfriend.
She's on her 3rd boyfriend after me, will she contact me again? Who knows, but one thing is for sure, I wouldn't care less. 😃I didn't really leave my ex for this girl but about 7 years ago when my marriage was coming to an end I met a girl on pogo. We talked every day and sometimes romantically. My ex wife and I never talked and never had romance. Talking to this girl reminded me what being with a girl was like even though it was just friendship.
If it hadn't been for her I'd probably still be in a loveless marriage. After the divorce her and I struck up a relationship. Eventually on been verified and other places I found out that she lied about who she was. About 2 years later she ended our relationship. But in the end together or not she saved me.It wasn't pre-planned or anything like that but, thats how it worked out. I came home from work about 10 years ago and my (live in) lady friend is watching TV and she has every color imaginable in her hair. She dyed her hair with 13 different colors and my company Christmas party was two days away. She "TOLD" me that she was going like that and I trid to explain to her about my job title and such and I don't know what got into her this day but, it wasn't working. I asked her to get her stuff and go. She said fuck you, and then it was like "get your fuckin" shit & get out!" I ended up with another woman but, she was a tree short of a hammock also.
you don't "change partner" its no a car, a house or some pair of pants.
if you're thinking about "going for someone hotter" then just break up with him already, you'll be doing him a favor on the long run, because now? well, now you're just wasting his time.Yeah I left a long distance relationship for a girl that was a friend for the past few months, but it was well worth it, the LDR girl was cheating a bit and was using me to make herself feel better and plus the girl I left her for is still my girlfriend now almost 2 years strong c=
Oh and the LDR was a little be over a year long but I hardly visit her state anyways, she was in Florida and I'm in Tennessee. Last time I ever date a stalker! She was the type to threaten her life if I ever left and yet she still lives. But whatever I'm happy with my girlfriend now 11-26-15Yes. I fell in love with a friend when I was in a long term relationship. Of course my relationship was full of problems. Anyway, I broke up even not knowing if my friend liked me back. Just because if I was having this feelings that meant I shouldn't be with my boyfriend. Later on my friend and I got into a relationship. He was the love of my life. However, it ended. We moved on, but we still love each other. We were just not compatible.
those relationships almost always fail so no. the closest I've done to that was begin dating the second guy for a year while still being with the first, to make sure it will work out before ending it with which ever guy. i wouldn't recommend that for most bc it is very difficult. but anyone who just leaves one for another will end up alone at the end. it will also crush your man's heart to know the truth. it's best to tell them you are leaving them for a different reason than to crush their feelings that way.
I left my husband of 12yrs to be with my best friend and soulmate. my ex and I hadn't slept in the same bed for over 8yrs and he hadn't touched me in almost 3yrs. I felt completely unwanted and my self-esteem suffered horribly. My ex told me every day that our children and I were the biggest mistakes of his life for years. The man I'm with now treats my children and I amazingly, to the point he wants to adopt them after we get married next year. For me it wasn't about looks, it was about being treated right and truly cared for and loved.
Yeah you touched my inner feelings really after a long time but I definitely want to answer you, I didn't left actually but I ignored my wife for someone else with whom I was in love for 2 years, we met at Dance Floor and fell in love immediately and since then new one insist me to marry her, I impressed with her physical and I m ignoring my wife very much, after 2 years when I flatly refused new Girl that I can't marry her, we eventually ended our relationship in break-up but this cost me more because my relationship with my wife becomes tense and it continues till 8 years and finally we seperated after 16 years so I lost 2 partners in 16 years but I still love my wife and really miss her
Your question really touched my past !!!I left a marriage of 23 years, miserable for over 10 years, but convenient. 5 kids 4 bedroom house, pool etc. should have left many years ago saving mental distress from my children, but never had the courage or means or reason. I slept on the couch for 3 years. I met a girl online we started having sex then dating lived together, now we have a 8 months old beautiful baby girl and a new apt and I enjoy life so much more and am tons happier promoted twice at work and things are wonderful for me. and my new family.
... I have. It wasn't for someone hotter though. I felt and still feel very connected to her, moreso than my ex.
I think it's wrong to actively looking for someone else in a committed relationship, but we were on a break when it happened, pending reevaluation.My first boyfriend I have not nor have I ever wanted to be with another because if I'm going to be in a relationship, I want to share my life with them (marriage). I'm not in it just to be dating, life is too short for that. In my situation, my boyfriend left me for another girl.
No, but I have been on the other end of it. At 19 my ex-GF went back to the UK (where she lived until she was 10) for a holiday - she'd been at Heathrow for less than an hour after she arrived when she ran into one of her old friends from her childhood (definitely better looking than me, I saw pictures later on)... They married 6 months later, first kid a year after that, then 2 more over the next 3 years.
And to think that she never OFFICIALLY broke up with me!No, I haven't done that. I wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone new right after a breakup anyway. I need time to move on from that person and work on myself before trying to get into a relationship with someone new. Maybe some people can do it but I just can't go from one relationship straight into another.
Yes. After the night my old boyfriend ripped me apart and ripping apart I mean he yelled so much at me the whole neighborhood heard. So when 2 weeks went by His buddy asked me out and it's been going great so far since his buddy knows how great of a person I am.
Nope and I would never do this. I will not even date multiple women when not in a relationship. By date three if a girl can't pull it together and cut off the peripheral dating, her ass is sitting on the curb. Take dating seriously or don't say that you are looking for a relationship. Then we will never have to waste each other's time. Off topic but it is the same value system that causes a person to leave a relationship for an equal or worse relationship.
i was having issues in my last relationship. and off and on a few times with her. i had enough broke up with her and a week later was with my current girlfriend and now have been with her for over 2 years and currently happy talking about having a baby. so id say it worked out for me. but there are relationships that i wonder what itd be if i was still with them but thats in the past and i have to continue walking forward.
was in a relationship with someone who was selfish and I felt they were cheating on my but had no proof. I can continue to list the reasons she wasn't a good girlfriend then I told her I wanted out and she begged me to stay but I was over it. met someone a good while after and moved on for sure then just 2 bad I didn't make the breakup official before getting close to the other girl.
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No but my husbands friend did.
He was having an affair and left his wife for the other woman. He found out that his new partner had slept with someone else right before she fell pregnant with his baby.
Oh the shit hit the fan and I have absolutely no sympathy for him, he had spent most of his marriage chasing other women. I left a 4 year relationship. I cheated on him with my now husband, now I have a beautiful son, a loving husband, and a life I wouldn't trade.
My ex just wasn't there emotionally. He worked almost all the time, and when he wasn't, he was with his friends. Kinda pushed me into my husband's arms. He regrets it, and will randomly hit me up to try to get me to hook up with him or leave my husband for him.
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