To be honest, I think you would be crazy to date a player. Just cause you have feelings for him, doesn't you mean you should date him.
Since I like to be logical about dating, let’s think about a player in terms of risk/reward.
What do you gain from dating the player? Well, think about it: you gain a rush of pleasure – serotonin, dopamine, endorphins. Aaaaand, come to think of it, that’s about it.
Because if you look at your history with players, you never get anything else out of them.
Consistency? No.
Security? No.
Kindness? No.
Unconditional love? No.
Future? No.
Here’s the deal: it’s fine for you to give this guy a chance, but (and this is a big but), tread carefully. If you know for sure that this guy is a player who has, as you say, “girl toys,” then you need to watch out for yourself because it’s very possible that he might do the same thing to you. At the same time, it’s also possible that he’ll treat you differently. You never know what will happen – that’s why you need to decide for yourself and not let your friends make this decision for you.
Ask yourself, what makes you different from all those other women who fancy him? If you know what you're going into and you're just wanting to get laid sure go ahead. But if you're expecting a relationship ship out of this than I'd err on the side of caution. I've always lived by one main rule when it come so to dating. Never get your honey where you get your money. If things go south w a relationship in the work place, then things could turn out to be bad. You'd have to see that asshole everyday, work w him or quit or maybe he'll quit.
If he's a known player why would you want to date him? Why would you even find him attractive? If you feel it's worth the risk then do as you please, but understand no woman is special enough to make a man change his desires. A man who changes does so from his own will, it's by his own doing. A woman might spark something in him that encourages him to do better, but please don't go into the situation thinking you're that different from other girls. If he has a player mindset before you and likes it, chances are he's going to have that same mindset while he is with you and after you. HE has to be the one that wants to change. If HE doesn't want that and if HE doesn't respect you, then prepare for heartache.
If you want give it a chance. But I would say definitely don't expect to "change him" or expect that his player tendencies will end. Most girls going for players hope that will happen and expect it to, but they are called players for a reason. Do if you want go for it and if it goes really well and he doesn't play you that's awesome, but just be wary about it and just realize that in the end he may just play you like other girls.
If your needs align go for it. But if your looking for a relationship, his the wrong guy
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Just go into it with the expectation that it won't last, but it will be fun. Think of it as a roller coster, you going to get on, take the ride and at some point you know it will end but your not sure where.
Hook up, have fun, pick his brains, study him and his nature, and if possible you choose when to end the relationship.
and you may get surpised, you could end up being the girl he falls for permentently, its happend before to many players.
"... yet he smiles at me" ... as if smiling at you means he loves you sweetly above all other girls... and doesn't mean "he knows you like him, like all other girls do... and he'll seduce u sweetly and make u cum our little legs off, if u let him like her knives u secretly want it."
Give him a chance, but be aware that he may be a player. They could be rumors, but they also could not be. Just go in cautious. Where do you work if you don't mind me asking?
No, he won't magically change for you if that's what you're expecting (yes that sounds harsh), a player will always be a player.
Absolutely not! You work with him AND you know he's a player!
Be smart and don't get involved with him at all.
Well you can, but expect the worst... expect him to probably talk to another girl... expect yourself to be his side chick if he's a player... expect the worst but hope for the best...
You already know the right answer, and you'll probably ignore it anyway...
Gonna get hurt because he is interested in short term and you seem long term.
Since you work together it's probably best to find someone else. That can get really uncomfortable
Pro tip... the vast majority of women on this site, and everywhere else, ask questions they already know the answer too... But they want others to validate their bad decisions...
Avoid him. He's a player. You can't change him like in the movies
No I wouldn't date anyone at work cause if something went wrong or cheated on you they could start opening a can of worms and get you terminated/dismissed/involuntarily terminated
try it if you want to be played! You said it yourself! Do you think you'll change him? YOU WONT!
Depends on what you're looking for, if its just for something casual and fun go ahead but if you're looking for something serious and long term. It probably wouldn't be the best idea, I mean he is a player.
Not if you just want to be another number of conquests to him. He just want to say yeah i had her. he will not care
He's probably interested for one thing only. You gotta decide if you want that or not.
don't shit in your own back yard. don't piss in your own pool. don't let him dip his pen in the company inkwell. don't do it.
watch his behavior before making a move. does he flirt with all the girls at work? is he cocky? those behavior scream player
Most businesses don't allow interoffice relationships. It's bad image for the company.. and he's likely "just being nice" because you're a coworker. Don't confuse it
Why would you want to even give him a chance? You know he's a player AND you work eith him.
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