We're both in our late twenties and we've been together 6 months (and going strong). He's a brilliant guy and we love each other loads. I'm currently living with parents due to personal circumstances, but spend a lot of time at his house during the week as my job is closer to where he lives. I contribute on expenses and pay a little of bit of rent... however, I have one problem: his personal hygiene and housekeeping skills are awful.
He doesn't shower daily and only brushes his teeth every other day in the week. He also wears the same clothes for days on end. His apartment is gross; the toilet bowl is brown, there's grime on the surfaces in the kitchen and bathroom. Dishes are left to fester in the sink. He rarely changes his bedding and it's starting to smell like vinegar.
The only reason his kitchen is clean is because I sometimes work from home, and I believe its acceptable for me to wash the dishes and clean up the kitchen whilst he's out at work. I relish this task. I've cleaned his toilet once - when we first started going out - because it was blocked (I unblocked it with the toilet brush) and just proceeded to cleaning it all.
He thought it was weird that I'd cleaned it, but I thought "dude, how can you let it get so bad?" I don't know how to broach the subject with him, but because I spend half my week there, I feel like I need to say something. And what if we live together? This will inevitably happen.
So yeah... how can I discuss this with him in a way that won't make him feel attacked? I'm not breaking up with him AT ALL.
He doesn't shower daily and only brushes his teeth every other day in the week. He also wears the same clothes for days on end. His apartment is gross; the toilet bowl is brown, there's grime on the surfaces in the kitchen and bathroom. Dishes are left to fester in the sink. He rarely changes his bedding and it's starting to smell like vinegar.
The only reason his kitchen is clean is because I sometimes work from home, and I believe its acceptable for me to wash the dishes and clean up the kitchen whilst he's out at work. I relish this task. I've cleaned his toilet once - when we first started going out - because it was blocked (I unblocked it with the toilet brush) and just proceeded to cleaning it all.
He thought it was weird that I'd cleaned it, but I thought "dude, how can you let it get so bad?" I don't know how to broach the subject with him, but because I spend half my week there, I feel like I need to say something. And what if we live together? This will inevitably happen.
So yeah... how can I discuss this with him in a way that won't make him feel attacked? I'm not breaking up with him AT ALL.
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