Would you date a trans girl?

[Kymber]

So you meet a girl. You like her, get her number, start texting a bit, ask her out to lunch and make plans for a week from then, texting the whole time day in and day out, date comes and goes well, the next day you make plans to see each other again and text for another week hard-core, then the day before your second date she texts you to tell you that she's trans.
Would you still go on that date with her, would you date her long term? Assuming she is post-op (has a neo vagina) and your genital preference is for vagina.
What if she's pre-op but getting it soon? What if she chooses to keep her penis? (extra scenarios I'm curious of)

So assuming you like this girl as a person, and she does have your genital preference, would you date her?

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+1 y

wow some of these comments are so disappointing :( the point of this question was if you were attracted to a transwoman physically and emotionally would her trans status be a deal breaker.
Lots of transphobic people who wouldn't, some people who just straight up hate trans people.
Some decent people who could love a trans girl.
and oh so many people who completely misunderstand what being trans is like. Trans women are women, trans men are men. Finally loving a trans woman doesn't make you gay.

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+1 y

Liking and being attracted to a woman and then deciding to not date her, assuming you otherwise would have, because of her trans status is transphobic. Really don't see how that hard to understand. Also denying a person validity in their gender identity is also kinda transphobic sorry if there was any confusion before

[reno117]

I would because I don't have a problem with dicks, what I don't like is seeing a manly face and body in a romantic way, but a cute girly looking trans with boobs and all is just fine with me, actually today I want a tranny to br my next girlfriend to mix thingd up and see what it is like. A transexual friend has a crush on me but she already has a boyfriend so nothing is gonna happen there. And, if I met a girl, I like her and turns out she is transgender even without the operation I would still date her because I fell in love with her not the idea of her having a vagina, I fell in love with her feelings, her mind, her soul, her personality, not her body.

[Anonymous]

Pre op, definitely no.

Post op, I've never been close enough to know. If I felt like 'its a man!' when I was with her, well it just isn't going to work. If I didn't feel that way at all then maybe. I imagine the situation, but in theory is very different from in practice.

[Kymber]

Neo vaginas are nearly indistinguishable from cis vaginas. There might be some light scars and some neovaginas have trouble getting very wet (thank God for lube) but estrogen causes a female sexual response so you probably wouldn't have to worry about feeling like your fucking a guy

[RJGraveyTrain]

Listen, I have nothing but love for my trans friends but I will be 100% candid: I want to date a man. One of my best friends is a trans female to male who chose not to get the operation. He even says himself he understands that some people don't prefer to date people like that. I don't believe that's transphobia.

Now I don't think loving a trans person makes you anything other than another human being loving another human being. To me having dating preferences is not transphobia; treating trans people with hatred and fear does. Just date people who wanna date you girl.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Also by "I want to date a man" I am not saying those who transition to males are not males. I'm saying I prefer to date someone who just happened to be biologically born male, due to my understanding of the female to male procedure.

[NatalieOnLive]

Oh baby, being a trans woman does not make you a woman vise versa with men. The person may enjoy themselves and choose to do that to their body (however they are perfect the way they are). That being said, you can't force others to believe the way you do. The person should do what they feel is right but that doesn't mean people have to agree with their choice.

[HalfricanBeaute]

I have nothing but support for trans people. I support the LGBT community altogether, but women should stop shaming men because they have a preference for something. If he doesn't want to date a trans woman so what? It's their lives, find someone who does.

[shettyboyyy]

Yes why not. People may think that inside he's still a man? Really? A man would do that? isn't it the opposite.
Trans people are humans too. Like the others , they too yearn for love. If we treat them like shit... Whose ever going to love them?
If I get the opportunity to date a trans id prefer her to have a neo vagina or at least getting it soon.
With all due respect , a guy would want to have sex with someone with a vagina and not a penis unless and untill he's not straight.
But i dont see myself saying no to a trans. Id love her with all my heart for who she is and would treat her just like i would treat other girls.
After all everyones a human , male female or trans

[Kymber]

I have slept with straight men before, also my penis makes me really dysphoric when I'm with a man so it's kinda something that's there but I definitely try to ignore and I think the guy probably does too

[Kymber]

Also haha have you heard of chasers? They're straight men with a penis fetish, who fetishize trans women and treat us like sex objects but never like people!

[shettyboyyy]

Yes I've heard of chasers. Maybe feeling dysphoric is because you're feeling a binding.. you want to be free but you can't. The feeling of being a woman isn't complete? Probably?
You tell me that. We can always talk.

Maybe having a neo vag is my preference but i put it in a way that generalised it?
I had no intention to offend you.

[Eyes_On_Me]

I know you're going to assume I'm transphobic, but hear me out when I say I won't date a trans girl. As a guy, I'm not only attracted to the physical attributes of a girl but her mind as well. Girls and guys have different brains, and we act differently. Even if a boy had an operation and feels like a girl inside, I doubt she will ever be a real girl in her mind. She wasn't born a girl and in this world, lots of people won't treat transgender women the same as people born female. Therefore, her mind is not fully female and I wouldn't date her.

[Kymber]

Trans girls brains are wired in the same way as cis womens. It's part of the leading theory as to why people experience gender dysphoria in the first place

[Eyes_On_Me]

Well, in that case... Still no? Why? I dunno, I think it's instinctual for me. As soon as I hear that she's not naturally female, I just get an aversion to the whole dating thing... It doesn't mean I'm transphobic, because I'd treat her the same. I just wouldn't date her.

[Kymber]

*Sigh* that impulse is a transphobic one, it's not necessarily your fault that you feel that way but the way society looks at transwomen in general (less good than a cis woman)

[Eyes_On_Me]

Oh well, I guess I'm transphobic then. I'm not really ashamed of it because it's purely instinctual on my part.

[Kymber]

Oh :(

[Anonymous]

I would date her but I would be up front with her in that I don't seeing it lasting long term. I mean it would be new for me so a lot of learning. I think I would even be ok with her genitals either way if I liked her enough.

The two big factors for me would be what does others think of this relationship. Do people look at me as gay for dating a trans woman? Am I seen as less? I know it probably isn't right but I would think it regardless. The other being how there probably isn't a future there. I would want to have kids and get married. I wouldn't be able to do all that with her. So in the end we would want different things out of life.

[Anonymous]

Let a trans dude fool me and it won't go well. I would put him on blast so he couldn't fool anyone else. If you want someone to love you just as you are, then be honest about what you are. I wouldn't date a woman who had been a prostitute, gangbang slut, or a man. I don't date obese women or slobs, either. Its called having standards.

Bullying men into dating you as a trans is no different than 300lb women trying to shame men into dating them, or guys getting pissed off and calling women dirty names for not wanting to date them. You're all full of yourselves and using narcissistic tactics to punish people for not buying into your bullshit.

[Opinion Owner]

Liking and being attracted to a man posing as a woman isn't the same as being attracted to a woman. I'm sure your mind doesn't recognize the difference, but that's reality. If you hook yup with the wrong guy and pull this shit, I'll have no sympathy when you're in the hospital, same as if a woman fell for a trans guy and beat his ass.

You can call it transphobic if it makes you feel better, but you need to understand that nobody gives a shit about your feelings. Fuck with other people's feelings if you want, but consider and accept the risks for it.

[Ranude2011]

Why be trans anyways? Its an honest question. Why be trans if u wanna produce kids or if u wanna enjoy sexual intercourse with your partner.

[Kymber]

Haha we don't choose to be trans, if you are then you are. I am (verb of being) trans, I was born trans and that's just the hand of cards I was dealt

[Ranude2011]

can't u change?

[Kymber]

nope, its like how you can't change your sexuality. some trans people try to repress their identity but that usually results in transitioning later or suicide

[Ranude2011]

Whatevs. I dont get what tge downvotes where for, i was just asking

[RachelleDraws]

No, but that's only because I already have a girlfriend. I would still be with my girlfriend if she was trans. (Assuming that she had surgery to make her look female.)

[RachelleDraws]

I do have a trans friend though. He's really nice.

[Brutal_Honesty]

if we click and she's hot, i really dont care if she has a vagina or not

but she has to look feminine. i dont want to be seen with a lady boy..

[Kymber]

Ugh lady boy is such an ugly term 😝

[metalsucks2]

Nope.

And if that makes me "transphobic" then so be it. You can't force people to date you

Stop being such a cry baby snowflake.

[BoredKid]

Yeah I would post or pre op, I would like them for being themselves not for their characteristics/physical appearance soo much. Some guys who say no I respect them but others dont have to be cruel.

[Slothium]

Will someone please explain to me whether a "neo-vagina" operates like a real vagina? I'm talking about sensations for me and for her here.. or is it just a flesh pocket? Sounds kind of strange, no offense. I'd probably just ram her up the butthole. and yes, I'd hit it probably, especially if her facial and bodily features had been super feminized to where it's completely indistinguishable.

[Emilykay54]

Yes, if your interested in one another and have things in common, falling in love takes time an can over come things, I personally haven't meet a trans woman, would like to , sometime as friends , talk about things my

[TadCurious]

No, I wouldn't date a guy who believed he was a girl. That's because I'm straight.

[Kymber]

Rude. 😒

[Rissyanne]

You are rude because you have a preference... lol

[DinaM]

@Rissyanne No, he's rude because he's rude. Having a preference is fine, but a simple "no, I wouldn't" would have sufficed without adding the insults.

[Rissyanne]

@DinaM so you think should go out with someone he doesn't want to just so he's not rude?

[DinaM]

@Rissyanne No, I think he should avoid saying things like "a guy who believed he was a girl, that'd because I'm straight" just so he's not rude.

[Rissyanne]

@DinaM So he can't have freedom of speech. He can say what he wants. This person asked a question. He responded. They should say they only want answers that agree with them.

[DinaM]

@Rissyanne Oh, PLEASE. It's very possible to disagree with someone and not be a jerk about it.

Besides.-- if you're such a staunch defender of freedom of speech, why are you trying to get me to stop speaking out? Don't I have the same rights to say what I want?

[Rissyanne]

@DinaM How am I trying to get you to not speak out? What is wrong with you? You and this tranny is just pissed because a lot of men dont want to date a tranny

[DinaM]

@Rissyanne Nope. I'm just calling him rude because he uses rude language. By your logic, this is the same as me trying to take away his freedom of speech -- hence, if we're going to be fair, by mocking and insulting me for calling him rude, you are trying to take away MY freedom of speech.

And I couldn't care less if he doesn't want to date a transwoman, I just pointed out that he said it in a rude and insultuing way. Is this REALLY so hard to understand?

[Rissyanne]

@DinaM how is insulting you taking away your freedom of speech? You're still talking aren't you? Is this REALLY hard for you to understand?

[DinaM]

@Rissyanne Oh, you insulting me isn't taking away my freedom of speech, but me calling him rude is taking away HIS freedom of speech. Yes, that makes PERFECT sense.

[Rissyanne]

@DinaM sis please get some help. I'm done with this. Muting

[DinaM]

Hey, if you didn't want to debate freedom of speech, you shouldn't have brought it up.

[DinaM]

I have dated a transwoman, and I would do so again.

[FakeName123]

Doesn't matter what stage he is. Wouldn't date a guy who believes he is a girl since I consider it a mental illness (=body integrity identity disorder)

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would. I don't care which genitals she has, as long as she's happy with herself.

[Opinion Owner]

There are so many ignorant, bigoted, hateful comments here, it's pathetic. Transphobia is pathetic, and I feel terrible for anyone who has to endure this on a daily basis. You don't deserve it.

[Kymber]

Thank you so much for saying this I'm literally in tears right now

[WeirdoWerdo]

BIG FAT NO. In every damn scenario. I will only date females...

[LeamingtonSpa]

I would and l have but when l first saw her, l thought she was one of a group of lesbians who had come into the bar. It soon became obvious that she was trans and it didn't deter me.

I don't expect people to agree and l respect their right to their opinions if they keep them to themselves.

[Don1892]

Id be fine with it but in truth my only concern is a) how much like a girl does she look and b) we can't have kids. Really its just the kids thing that bothers me

[Kymber]

Tbh lots of cis women are infertile too, and there are options like adoption but I understand wanting bio kids, it tears me up knowing that I can't 😢

[Don1892]

Sorry to hear that, maybe one day medicine will be able to make that happen.

[macix670]

There's no such thing as 'trans girl'. That's a male who thinks he is a woman.

[Kymber]

Rude. 😒

[macix670]

Truth hurts, I know.

[BoredKid]

TRUTH, well there is no real truth only opinions I can respect yours macix670 (even if It goes against mine)

[Kymber]

Also I am a trans girl lmao truth is we do exist

[BoredKid]

Lol that is really cool😊👍 I used to be friends with one, before she had surgery and moved away.😌

[macix670]

No. You're a male. You will never be a woman

[Kymber]

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[BoredKid]

´\_( ´-`)_/` oh well☺

[DesiBeautyLover]

There is no such thing as a trans GIRL, God fucking damnit! A girl is a girl. A boy is a boy. And a Trans is a Trans. You cannot be Trans AND a Girl.