I kissed my best friends brother... help?

[Anonymous]

I was at a friends house for a sleepover and her brother and I have just now started to get really close and we’ll he sitting on the couch or something all together and he’ll reach over and hold my hand and she saw us a couple times and she says it makes her uncomfortable because if something happens to us then it’ll ruin our friendship and I’ve talked it over with the brother and we really want to make it work but I don’t want to lose my best friend. Today we were sitting on the couch and we both just leaned in and kissed while she was upstairs and I immediately went upstairs and told her and she knows how absolutely terrible I feel about it but I don’t know how I can make it work with her and her brother. Help?

[Anonymous]

Sorry that I’m gonna make it about me but Hi I’m a 15 year old girl and I’m kinda in a similar situation and I searched on google I kissed my friends brother and this is what came up. And it’s honestly a little relieving there’s someone else but not really cause I’m still in desperate help because I’m having a nervous break down. So the sitch is I have this friend and we’re not super close but we’re pretty good friends and she has a brother that’s really hot and he’s in the year below me and he’s still older then me and I’ve always kinda crushed on him but I never talked to him at all cause I didn’t want this situation to happen. So I went to this party the other night and we started talking and my friend was there and she realised we were kinda flirting and then she was like don’t flirt with my brother I’ll smash you and she was completely serious and I knew that because I know her quite well and then so I tried to stay away from him but I was kinda drunk and then later on he found me and kinda took me away and one thing led to another and he kissed me and I didn’t know what I was thinking but I kissed him back and it was like a good 20 seconds and then I managed to get away and then he kept following me and tried to kiss me again but I swerved on that bitch and I hope she saw that but yip I don't know how but she definitely knows we hooked up. But wait does hooking up mean sex cause I didn’t do that truhust me. And it probably didn’t help that I was like Im sorry I’m sorry I’m sorry I’m sorry to her before I left and I can’t temember if what she said after that cause I was pretty fucked up. So ah yeah and now I’m fucking shitting my undies cause I have to go to school tomorrow and she’s gonna know and she’s gonna kill me and everyone’s gonna know how much of a fucking slut I’ve been and that I’m not that innocent and so I’ve decided to never gonna go to a party again. So yeah can someone just reassure me and tell me that my friend is not gonna homocide me

[Memelissa18]

I don't think it's fair for her to try to control who you or her brother date, unfortunately you have to weigh the consequences on both ends. It will be awkward for her I understand that but if she's your best friend she should adjust in my opinion.

[dishsoapaquarium]

I think she may be jealous, not romantically but just because it may feel like you’ll only come over to see her brother if you two date. And, from someone who was in her place once, if things go south with you and him it will seem like you’d never come over because of a breakup. Just reassure her that her relationship with you is 100% separate from the one you have with her brother.

[Brewmaster531]

This will hang over your head if you don't do it, so just do it. Give it a shot. I know you don't want to lose your friend, but these feelings aren't going anywhere and it will always kill you.

[IsaiahRM]

Well now you really have no choice but to see where it goes

[SammyE]

She doesn't sound like that great of a friend if she's putting her happyness in front of both you and her brother, you should haveca serious conversation with her and just go for it!

[MartinGoulet]

Assure her of your feelings for won't change. Ask her how close sheis with her brother.

[eagle1951]

why not see how it goes with the brother, tell her your going to try it to see where it goes

[Anonymous]

If she truly is your best friend then you won't lose her.

[Anonymous]

I did that when I was 14 and he was 16. Best choice ever

[lovelyhoneybones]

Chances are you're not going to make it work.

[Kat_puppies]

and your under 18 talk to her

[Napoly_Lover]

Try it and if goes bad you can always be friends

[Anonymous]

Go for the guy high school friends don't last