What should I know about dating a Muslim guy (as a western non-practicing Christian)?

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I met this guy and he's heads over heels for me. We're moving a bit too fast for my liking when it comes to this whole feelings thing, but I'm giving it a try. He's Muslim but he drinks/isn't a virgin, though he seems very serious about everything else. I wish to know what you (even better if you are a Muslim or has dated one) thinks I should know now, before I get in a relationship with him and get shocked/surprised or end up disrespecting him for some reason.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well it all depends on how open minded he is. Some easy ways to tell if he is open minded is asking your self, "Is her serious most of the time or does he joke around a lot?" If he's serious most of the time that often he takes life in general pretty seriously but that's a simple question you can ask yourself and it usually is in the ball park. They are also very, VERY controlling culture when it comes to their wives and by the sounds of it, sounds like you're living with him already I assume? Probably relatively quickly after beginning the relationship. Chances are within five to six months will be the earliest, he'll propose a year at the latest, they don't normally date for fun they date because they can see themselves being married to them. Depending on if he is a dominant guy and how dominant he is will also depend on if he "allows" you to leave and go do things when he's not home/working etc. But that's normal to their culture he more than likely allow it but the manners and politeness to them is often shown by asking permission since women don't have a whole lot of rights because keep in mind Muslim wives whether you convert to it before or after you get married is something you two will need to talk about together and if he's leaning more towards close minded he will definitely have you convert. He was more than likely raised in Lebanon and not here in America so Muslim wives typically need to ask for permission to leave the house out of respect here in America but out of law back in their homeland. Also if he chose to come to a specific state other than because of family could also help determine how open minded he is if he's into politics. More conservative voting states will incline him to act more conservative because like all humans we adapt to our environment within reason to our own beliefs and morals. I know here in America it's normally ok to court with more than one person at a time if you take it at a normal pace but they all typically move very fast over there, same as here though I suppose. The guys who end up saying I love you very quickly can see themselves marrying you and for someone like myself, only the right girl got me to do get my shit in order. Soul mate's encourage and motivate each other to do what is in their best interest even if it means parting ways with them forever. But Muslims are a lot like Catholics, there are always exceptions and some do get divorced but if he's already saying I love you and you do get married

Ephemera1 · Accepted Answer

First of all you need to be open minded and understand that there will be a huge cultural difference whether he's more westernized or not. Also typically Muslim people are recommended to marry other Muslims so if you're serious then talk to him about your future and how your religious differences will play out. If it's not serious relationship which it doesn't sound like it is then it's not a big deal just be chill. I'm a Muslim man myself and my woman is Muslim because it's important to me and we both have the same values and are compatible in every sense. At the end of the day you need to make sure this is really what you want as it won't be easy for either of you to adjust especially when it comes to meeting the family (this goes both ways - I doubt your family would be excited to meet your Muslim man because let's face it western society believes in the stereotypes that we are bad and just look at the responses to this question to prove my point further) anyways just have a talk with him and establish your boundaries early on and what you both want from this relationship.

goddess87 · Accepted Answer

Just because he is drinking or having sex now, does not mean that he will put you or anything else before his religion and family. I've dated even lived with a muslim.

I also have muslim friends and have heard the things they do and say about the non muslim girl they are "dating." To him you are just a sex object to keep him company. Nothing more nothing less. They will refer to you as "the slut" or "the whore" to their friends.

As soon as he is ready to get married and be serious you will be thrown away as if nothing ever happened. Doesn't matter if you were with him 1 year or 10. Doesn't matter if you lived together, what he said to you that you wanted to hear, etc. No matter what you do, you will never be a woman of his heritage and he would never actually marry you bc his family will never accept you.

He will act "head over heels," so in love," and tell you everything you would want a man to say, but it means nothing. They are taught that women are different and they learn what to say to make women feel good. That makes it that much worse the day he throws you away to marry another muslim when you thought "he loved you so much."

No amount of love will get him to marry and introduce you to his family. No amount of love will ever come before his religion. The lies will sound so true and sweet, but they are simply lies.

Run away. Run far away. Just google what happened to other women if you don't believe me. I personally know two women who even made it as far as marriage thinking they were "so in love and happy," only for them to wake up with divorce papers and see their husband immediately with a new wife. One that their family and religion will accept. No one can crush your heart more bc they lie and tell you what you want to hear so well

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Listen if your not looking to follow God, then don't claim you're a Christian it gives the rest of us a bad name. He's going to want to have sex with you before marriage, and possibly might be forced to make you convert if marriage. That is what happened to a close friend of mine and she went through hell with him. You do NOT want to get involved with a non-practicing Muslim. Because intentions from what YOU are looking for is far more important than what he is looking for. Because that is how she ended up in that trap in the first place. You need to have a solid foundation in God. It's is imparitive. Know your Bible. Know what God commands for us to live in our lives. He should not be having sex before marriage. But many non-practicing Muslims sleeps around. But expects a virgin wife, or they are forced to an arranged marriage to a Muslim woman from the counrty their families come from. And yes, she is expected to be a virgin. Some of them have a twisted thinking that Western women are good for sex and are whores only, while Muslime women are expected to be pure. Don't know why you aren't focused on the Lord, but if you have no desire to be Christian, just be honest and don't pretend. But if your backsliding, you better get back to God. Or else you will face a lot of wishy-washy answers, and those sweet nothings being told in your ear, you know like a lot of men do today to get you open for sex and desire them. And that's what you will deal with. But somebody who is like him, non Practicing, not a virgin and drinks is extremely risky, just like those professing Christian and does every single secular things are risky. Because not only are they not focusing or showing care for their salvation, but their also putting your salvation at risk. It's not worth it.

ElissaDido · Accepted Answer

I can't simply answer this question like that. You have to tell me how he thinks, how his family is, how he acts etc.
There are many things that can come into play, and they all can lead to different things.
Islam allows men to marry Jewish and Christian women AND NO he isn't supposed to force you to convert to islam. BUT this is the islamic theory of course. I don't know how it will turn into practise, because many Muslims violate the principles of islam, including the ones who will force their wife to convert.

Personnally, I have a few family members married to non Muslims. My uncle has been married to a french woman for more than 15 years and she is not Muslim and he never forced her to convert.
My Dad's cousin has been married to a french woman for 40+ years and she isn't Muslim either (but her, who are now over 25 kids are).

I personnaly have never ever come across families that forced the non Muslim woman to convert. I come from a conservative Muslim family, but my family is educated and not poor. So I think those factors are very important to determine how your Muslim boyfriend will turn out.

Just one important notice: Don't give him sex easily, pleaaaase. Some Muslim men in the west sleep around with white women because they are easier to smash than Muslim women, but then they leave them for a Muslim woman when it comes to marriage. Of course, this is not systematic at all, but there are many fuckboys around so be careful.
I would even advice you to delay sex as much as possible to be sure. Don't be easy.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well. I am Muslim myself, I dated Arab Muslim guys and western guys I have a question, WHERE IS HE FROM? that makes a huge difference, because it is not only the religion that is restricted, it is their way of thinking and calculating things culturally depending on where do they come from? if he is an Arab that would make a big difference than maybe anything else.

My Muslim Arab brother is married to a Russian girl, and I can tell you, he was honest with her, loved her, and married her, BUT, he just changed her, she can't smoke on the street, talk to other men, go out alone, no more clubs, she really loves him, and he does her, but you will need to adapt to his cultural boundaries IN HIS HEAD not even only being at his home country..

In the Arab world, the man has the authority and the power, and he will make that clear just when things start to get serious, they dont like being yelled at, or even argued a lot, because THEIR women from their own cultural do not do that because they are used to the male dominated kind of culture (Even me) ,, so from my experience, many non Arab women can not translate or get that.

Take what I said in consideration, I know better, I am Arab Muslim, and I am more reliable on that!

Logorithim · Answer

I was the boyfriend of a non-practicing Muslim woman, so the situation is different (I also know several families where a Western non-Muslim married a Muslim), but I would say that you should expect that either he or his family may want you to convert to Islam. I've seen this even where the Muslim did not practice their religion, or ony superficially.

PrincessPie · Answer

Is he mostly non praticing? you said he drinks. Does he pray 3 times a day.. and does he eat pork?

Anonymous · Answer

I was in a relationship with a muslim. You need to know a few things.

Islam places a huge emphasis on getting married. Not marriage per se, but being married, as the goal of islam is growth and getting married is the only acceptable route for kids. So it's not uncommon that they would rush a relationship so they can get married and grow the umma.

Many muslim men will date a western woman for the sexual experience, only to ditch her and marry a virgin muslim girl from back home. That wasn't the case with my relationship, but it's not uncommon. So be aware.

There is a common pattern with most muslim man/western woman relationships and it is thus. In the beginning they are very charming and appear lenient. Then as a the relationship gets serious they'll become more conservative and they will gradually expect that she adhere to islamic customs, such as not eating pork or dressing more conservatively. My ex for instance, insisted after 3 years of being together, that I stop wearing short sleeve shirts!

Lucky for me, my ex showed his cards early, as a lot of these muslim guys don't show their islamic side until after you get married or even worse, after you have children. That isn't to say they can't be genuinely sweet. But when in a bind, they will always follow their religion first.

Due to the islamic views on women, there is no such thing as compromise. It's his way or the highway. I believe this is a big reason why a lot of times, these muslim guys won't show their islamic side until after marriage, when they hold all the power.

So if you ever find yourself losing your soul just so you won't disrespect him or his religion, just let go. The fact that you believe it's moving too fast is a sign. Always listen to your gut.

swtmelody · Answer

Okay listen to me love. What Im going to say could be important, or it could be very against your opinions and what you were looking for, so if thats the case, feel free to throw away what Im about to say. Its ultimately your life and as an adult, you hold the choices and decisions to make to shape up yourself.

I am an arab girl who lives in the US. I have both cultures embedded in me, and I have seen both cultures.

Muslim men - of all types (the ones who follow religion, the ones who dont, the ones who do sometimes and other times forgets it) are culturally bound. They were brought up with it (more likely than not) in their households, even in countries abroad. a lot of arab men are very good at romanticizing a woman and show her how much of a gentleman he can be. This can be very deceptive though.

They are allowed to marry 4 times, so the chances of being cheated on significantly increases, and you can't say anything about it. Arab men like to be dominant... and no this is not a generalization for a few... it is the stigma and culture we are brought up with. Men, are dominant in everything, and what they say goes. If you happen to have found one who lets you make decisions and lets you be free, then you may have found a good guy. But you need to be careful when it comes to arab men, love. Not all of them are honest. And this goes for any religion or race, but I just want to stress that you have to be a bit careful about what his true intentions are. Asking won't lead you anywhere. He can lie, and act, and be deceptive. So you have to pay attention to his actions.

As for how for how to not offend him... dont bring up religion... no matter what. It will make him go into defensive mode if you bring up christianity. Respect his views about his religion. Dont insult his views.

I am a christian arab by the way.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Well ask him, he is the one who is interested in you. According to islam a muslim can marry any one "of the book" i. e. Christian, jew, or mulsim without issue. However it depends on what kind of muslim he is and where he is from, if he is Turkish they tend to be more lax then in the middle east (I know a Turkish muslim and he was much the same way he drinks and he did not wait for marriage to have sex) so that will also determine what he is more likely to believe. But its best to ask him find out what he wants what he expects from the relationship etc. also let him know that you want to take things slow as their are cultural religious differences and you don't want to do something wrong and you don't want to feel pressured into things etc. (but let him know your interested and willing to try if he is willing to let you go at your own pace). The fact is him being muslim isn't really that big of a deal, its more culture, how long has he been here (the longer he has been in the west the more likely he will have taken on some of its culture and practices) and him personally (not all muslims are alike obviously) so its something you should sit down and discuss with him, communication is the foundation of a strong relationship after all so why not start with that.

Wytdrgn · Answer

Hi. I suggest you find out which branch of the Muslim religion he follows and then go online and do some research. I've learned that the Muslim religion is very male-centric. Is he Eastern or Western Muslim? That may impact how he treats women. I haven't heard many good things about that. Also you may want to do a Google search on him. I'm not saying that because he is Muslim, I Google every woman I get involved with, it will give you some idea of his past.
And buy yourself a copy of the Quran. If you decide that this is the person you want to be with your going to have to learn to read, write, and speak in the language of the Quran. As well as convert to his religion. If he is as committed to his beliefs as you say, your life is going to change. For now you probably should just be yourself. That seems to be the person he likes, so don't change it. That is my nice advise.
Deep in my heart my advice for what you should now about dating a Muslim guy is DON'T. Go online and see what other ladies experiences have been.

sirenax · Answer

Well, i used to have a boyfriend that muslim and i think its kinda hard for us to be together. His family didn't really like me because im christian and i didn't want to change my religion if i get married with him. And im kinda wear clothes that "short and open" for their taste. But i think its actually not really open when im just wearing a casual shorts. So I don't know, maybe he's different. But my ex boyfriend was nice but kinda strict. And his parents more strict and kinda pressure our relationship thats why we broke up

ImrankhanImmu · Answer

I am a Muslim, the comments and the question itself is disrespectful. Why do you even care about his religion when he is a non practising muslim? He drinks and isn't a virgin, his religion has nothing to do here any guy who drinks and sleeps around must be a heads up to you that's common sense. There's no real difference in him and any other guy out there, make your choice by judging his personality not his religion like you would do before getting into a relationship with any other guy from any race religion. Even if he shocks or surprises you it is a request not to blame his religion but him and his alcohol and your choice of getting in a relationship with someone who is a more non Muslim because muslims aren't into alcohol and would never disrepect a woman. Good luck:)

Paris13 · Answer

Be wary of this Fast Acting, Fast Talker, He probably Wants... Marriage. They will also tell you their own
Kind of girl" is Not for them.
A Muslim Man had Once Found me on Facebook and the Next thing you know, This "Practicing Christian" was Off and Running to Cairo, Where on my next Trip, We tied the Knot at the Ministry of Justice. I resided there for Awhile, but I seldom did Smile. A lot to Endure for Sure in their own Family Here, dear.
Think Twice about being so Nice, Eventually Controlling.
PS: When any problems, That is when they throw it up to You "You American girls are not Like the ones here."
Arse backwards.
Good Luck. xx

thatguyfromtoronto · Answer

A lot of idiots on here giving their little racist Fox News agenda on Muslims and these posters/commentators portray themselves as God's gift... Oh wait, I forgot, those posters/commentators bashing Muslims don't even believe in God, they assume they have this infinite will to live like some sort of Marvel Avenger lmao.

Listen take it from me, a guy who is Muslim. If he loves you and cares about you he will make things work. This is 2017, not 1977, old traditions don't always work. I told my parents openly that while I follow Islam, I don't mind marrying a Christian or Catholic girl and raising my kids properly. I have dated Muslim girls who were bitches (I know there are great Muslim girls out there), maybe I've had bad luck but I'm giving you my input. But you guys have to talk about your religious views and see if that will clash or not.

AlphaGhost · Answer

I will vote against it cuz
1) First your parents are not going to allow it
2) You clearly not respect his religion or believes in him
3) You may marry him but someday, something is going to pop up and you are going to fight over it like the "Kids religion".
4) You don't believe in him or his religion, so dump him and let him find a good girl.
5) If he can't have problem with your religion then you should return the favour but I know, what you are doing here so byeee.
6) If you are thinking about anything serious then, He will judge you and will try to make you stay cuz He will be family oriented.
7) That being said, I am personally asked out may times but local girls but I always say "NO" cuz I don't want my life to be chaos, but She won't waste any sec calling me racist... not pure enough like stuff you read here and it shows her mentality before asking me out. I thank GoD it saved me from her.

NineBreaker · Answer

There really isn't enough information to tell you about what to expect. I'm Muslim, and I know a lot of western non-practicing Muslims. Based on what you're saying, that guy is not an observant Muslim, and may identify as one because his parents are. My question is, does he pray at least 5 times a day? What about fasting during Ramadan, or in Mondays and Thursdays?

What's more important is not just religious compatibility, but cultural compatibility. Even among Muslims, people of varying levels of adherence would never date/marry each other.

yohyok · Answer

Okay well first of all am a Muslim and Arabian , in my opinion dating a Muslim, Christian, atheist whatever his respective belief is the same dear if you feel uncomfortable about the pace things are going between you then say so!!! I admire that you are considerate of your partner feeling and his faith and religion but don't forget yourself and how you feel so be a bit selfish would yea dear tell him what you want how you feel. after all, every good relationship "in my opinion " is always based on good communication and understanding , I for myself wouldn't like my girl to always perform things she ain't comfortable with for my sake.

dizmuhjam · Answer

Muslim here that is exactly like your guy. I also drink and have sex. Lets call this kind of muslims "Modern muslims".

The only thing you should pay attention to is food then: Simply dont go to a restaurant with him where ONLY pork or bacon is served (if that even exists). Also dont serve him food at home that has pork or bacon in it. And never lie about not bacon being in there. IF it happened that he ate pork, he will feel bad or annoyed. You can calm him down by saying "but isn't it fine for god if you didn't know? I heard he will count it as if didn't happen. Ask a chaich (muslim priest) if you dont believe me."

Other than that, if he IS a modern muslim, there is nothing else you should be paying attention to.

i-like-twister-fries · Answer

im friends with a girls whos dad is muslim and mother is christian. from what i see of the relationship, even if the dad married a christian, he still in a way against it, forcing islam on his daughter, to the point of cutting of people who might teach her christianity and even forcibly taking any gift/object that's related to it. (bibles, purity rings, etc) For all i know, he doesn't beat up his wife or kid, though he is very controlling. And he also plans to get his daughter into an arranged marriage, even if his wife says no. everyones different, just be weary of this guy

potatoisme · Answer

If he doesn't practice his religion then he's pretty much like any other guy, but keep in mind that his parents may be more strict depending on how religious they are themselves.

Also make sure to respect his beliefs/religion and don't make fun of them/disrespect them. Which is what u should do with pretty much any person with different beliefs than yours.

A big factor can also be the place where he comes from and whether he's lived (or studied) in a western country and the amount of time he's spent there. Cuz Muslims that have been in a western country can be more open minded and have a different lifestyle and way of thinking than Muslims who have spent all their lives in an Arab country. *assuming he's from an Arab country*

Another thing is be prepared for a huge cultural difference
There are traditions and values that are to be met in the Arab and Muslim culture and those are not too strict on western women but if he's more of a traditional person then be prepared for it

N192K001 · Answer

Read the Qur'an in full and (if the guy is practicing), you'll know for sure.

Read 3 chapters/day and you'll finish the entire thing in 3 months, if I memory serves me correctly.

Otherwise, you'll rely on people who don't like Islam who dissuade with the best of their knowledge (plus things that may not be true, due to honest lack of knowledge, misunderstandings, or pure lies from Islamophobia). Or you'll be swayed by Muslims who understandably will want to put their faith in a good light (maybe even to the point of تقیة‎‎ '"taqiyyah", essentially lying to non-believers) or you may fall to one trying to convert you into their fold. Both sides will only tell you what is convenient to them, all under the constraint of what they know, what they think they know, and personal interpretation.

So, it's best to find out for yourself, get info from both sides to see a fuller picture, but still take both sides' words with a grain of salt.

Anonymous · Answer

As a muslim girl i will give you my take on it. A muslim dating probably won't make it public and keep it a secret for as long as they can. So there may not be couple pictures of you two posted online on like instagram or facebook. A muslim will also not introduce you to their family especially if you are not a muslim. Also might not introduce you to their friends, maybe only very close friends. If a muslim gets caught dating by their parents they will be forced to break up. Its not that he does not love you its just that there are certain religious reasons. This applies to both muslim guys and girls

Detemer · Answer

If u feel things are going too fast and not to your liking... and with him being Muslim there might come a day when u are totally emotionally involved but he "suddenly" realizes that u aren't a Muslim and he can only get serious about a Muslim woman... And he MAY dump you or worse, ask u to convert.
Cz it doesn't really depend on what sort of a person he is but what his family is like.
U may want to make sure of these things before u get too involved.
And make sure you respect his faith, irrespective of how "modern" he is Cz he might wanna be more disciplined in future and it might seem like a deal breaker for u.
So bottom line, if u do end up dating make sure the respect is mutual.
Good luck!

g_peresilva · Answer

Found myself in the same situation. I have a blood related aunt who married an Indonesian Muslim man and some of my cousins are also following the faith after my aunt willingly converted from being a Catholic whilst some converted to become a Catholic. I've come to understand that if no problems have arised, you shouldn't be worrying about them. When the time comes, I know that the guy I'm currently dating and I will deal with the issue. I've already made it known to him that I'm catholic thinking that he wouldn't want to continue the relationship but it hasn't changed anything between us. I get that I'm still young and he's two years older than me but I feel as if I'm ready to begin my first "nearly there relationship" with this guy who has a different faith from me.

AyeshaSiddika · Answer

Depends on "mislim from where" i guess, Bangladesh and Indian ones tend to be a bit more open aas opposed to Pakistani Muslims, If rased in any other more western country than its basically normal, They do tend to get more emotional though, i guess if you're serious, then only issue might be parents as most muslim parents prefer to not let their son marry out of their religion and might not accept you at first. other than that, you'd know him better. Being from a mostly muslim based country, I'm open to answer any other questions you may have.

Fuselesss · Answer

i wouldn't go through with it if i were u. there are a lot of good muslim people so thats not the issue, however there will be a big cultural gap especially since u dont practice religion. if u love him and want to take a chance u need yo pay attention to his behavior and look for signs u usually dont see when ur in a new love adventure, or u usually disregard until it is too late. whats his view on multiple wives, women having to wear a veil, pork, sexuality. will he always approve that u r christian or agnostic or so, is he open minded to these topics? will he respect ur privacy, thoughts and beleifs? if u see negative signs or simply signs that show u both are very different when it comes to sensitive topics, leave or ull be forced to live a life that is simply not for u.

Anonymous · Answer

He's not Muslim, God punished alcohol, In Islam alcohol is forbidden and sex before marriage is too! He might be a hypocrite as well. There are some people who call their self Muslims do things that would make people think bad of us. I hate that people would believe the news that we "blow up stuff" and I have a bomb in my hijab, no its not a bomb, its my hair. Yes, we have hair and in fact I see lots of my other muslim friends who wear Hijab and when they take it off our hair is so nice and long. Its not ugly thats not why we cover it...

Fazziii · Answer

I am an ex muslim and dated a few muslim guys! All I can say is that take your time to get to know him and see if you both can connect over things on any level at all or not It may seem like he's head over hills in love with you but some of them actually have things hidden frm you so that's why they rush into things to lock you down! Just 3 weeks ago I had a guy clinging to me and he was a muslim he was just too nice to me, showering me with gifts and chocolate on first tome seeing me and later it turned out he had serious issues with his stay permit in the Uk, didn't have a proper job, was dealing drugs as a living and then to top it off he made up some bullshit story about not having a proper passport or any kind of legal paper work just to give him the basic rights in the UK as an individual, My trick was to question him about it in different ways and he used to get pissed off and finally he blurted everything out lol! BE CAREFULHe may as well be doing that cuz he wants to get laid!

Roxanne_RMBR · Answer

watch the movie not without my daughter. it's about a woman who is in very happy with a Muslim man in America but when they go back to the middle east to visit his family he falls into abusive and controlling behavior. I'm not saying don't be with him but be careful about which parts of his life you step into. You can get away from abuse here but you can't if you're over there. Definitely, try to check it out.

Caracolito · Answer

Avoid. He will be cute in the beginning but then he will try to control you and if you get baby's (sons in special) he will not accept other things that they go to Muslim school 🚸 they have to be religious etc. Dangerous world. Avoid. 😊

Many people would maybe say that I'm pregudist but I have talked to Muslims "off camera" (when nobody is listening) and they tell you the fanatic truth about things. Would be to long to explain in detail.

lennay · Answer

I've met two muslim guys while on vacation. They drank and smoked cigarettes. One of them showed me a picture of his mum in hijab. They are family oriented and in the end, marry their own kind. Also, they only marry virgins. At least 99 percent of them.

So if you're sleeping with them, forget it. They will be nice and romantic but they don't love women who don't wait until marriage. They emphasized that to me. One of them told me he was in relationship but broke up and lived with that girl. HE didn't take her seriously.

I told one of the guys that I was waiting for marriage and the whole time they were very respectful to me and kept their boundaries. So i can assure you, they hunt for easy prey but in the end they marry of their own race, the good girl from back home who's never known a man. I hope this helps

ThePerspective · Answer

According to the Muslim faith he's already disrespected himself by being with a white woman. Furthermore I hope you like having zero freedom and be prepared for abuse. Little spoken about it but its done often. Especially in Sharia households its even more prevalent. But hey I'm just a guy online who grew up around and witnessed the craziness that can happen in a Muslim home. Seen a woman get slapped for talking too long. So in summation, think very hard about your decision but ultimately do what makes you feel best.

thinkaloudtolive · Answer

Be prepared to slowly lose your personal rights as the relationship evolves:

•begin wearing a hijab and covering up
•not having contact with other men, including family and friends
•receiving permission from him before doing anything
•be prepared to convert to Islam if you want to end up with him (even though he may deny this)
•he's likely to engage in new relationships with women once yours has been cemented.
•if you've never been hit by a man before, that may change in the near future.

ahmed2000 · Answer

I'm a Muslim. If he is not a practicing muslim, his family might be and would want you to convert to Islam.
Look Muslims are not bad people. Like the lady said below that if some people of the religion do bad that doesn't mean that everyone of that religion is bad. It depends on the individual.
I know men who have married American women. Those women converted to Islam and the marriage is successful. They are more than happy. Some people said over here that the Muslims have multiple wives. In our religion we can at maximum keep 4 wives. But you know that nobody follows religion in a literal sense or in the exact way as Lao done. People who I told you about have only one wife. So depends individual.

TripleAce · Answer

1. Might just be in it do sex you up. Lots of muslim guys go for non muslim girls to bang but marry muslim girls at the end. And it shows since you're moving too fast lol
Ya right he's really in it. Don't buy it

2. His religion over you. Always
3. can't eat at normal places. Always muslim inspired places cause it has to be halal meat lol
4. He might as you to convert
5. If he follows it. Then he must feel he is worth more than you
6. His family might reject you

Good luck lol

este1864 · Answer

These men can be highly manipulative of western women. It's happened quite often where the woman ends up in quasi slavery under her man, not being allowed to leave the house without him and not being allowed to choose her own clothing. They can be heartless, emotionally manipulative bastards and it wouldn't be a seldom case of this happening. If I were you, the fact it's moving so fast should set off alarm bells for you.

Anonymous · Answer

Muslims are very conservative, almost 95 percent. Maybe they would pretend to be not, but in the inside they are. I am a Muslim and I hate my religion. Nobody practises the original religion. Everything is so distorted. I rarely can get peace. They literally treat women as servant and slaves. I have seen my mom working like a pig and nobody gives a shit about that. Can't speak about her to dad many times cause he is hella conservative.

And if he asks you to convert to ISLAM, DONT DO IT. THEY WILL TRY TO MANIPULATE INTO BELIEVING SHIT. TRUST ME. IT HAPPENED TO MY MOM. MY MOM WAS A CHRISTIAN TOO.

Why should you convert if you had to, for someone and not practise your religion?

I hate religion to be honest, why should something divide people like that. We are born to live freely and peaceful. We are all the kids of the supreme. We are unique.

MaxFox210 · Answer

a lot of Muslims asnwers here hahaha. I'm one of them. For me see from what country he came from? We are Arab we can say and do a lot of flowery things if you like make fall inlove and things I've seen that a lot. You really need to know him so well before doing anything don't hurt youself if you are not sure but if you are sure about him go for it.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If you get in a serious relationship with him then you better hope he stays lukewarm about his religion because if he doesn't and becomes serious about his religion he might start to be controlling and demanding you to dress like a ninja in wheather of 90°

FakeName123 · Answer

Theoretically muslim men can marry non-muslims. Practically he will either see you as a good lay or want you to convert. Many muslim men in the west bump&dump white girls behind closed doors. And if they are really willing to be serious, they will demand converting.

Your guy might or might not be that way. So it is best to actually bring this topic up before you invest yourself too much. Ask him what he wants, what he is planning and what he expects.

Arabian911 · Answer

Well I’m an Atheist and used to be a muslim 12 years ago.. the problem is not with him being a muslim it’s about his culture I’m from Jordan and Arab guys there look for an easy sex.. the won’t even dare to have sex with an Arab christian girl because her father would mostly shoot his ass... so they look for western girls and women... too much movies and porn gave them a lot of ideas..

And believe me in the end he won’t marry you.. so dumb the guy and have an easier life

Anonymous · Answer

Expect his family to be rude with you, try to be respectful with them like don’t show too much skin or drink or smoke, expect him to ask you to convert someday because it has a huge impact on your future family, expect him to get jealous around your male friends, he might become moody during ramadan because he will be fasting the whole day so don’t go eating in frint of him

renewal · Answer

This sounds very idiotic and so immature! In the first place, I don't believe he's a Muslem for what has unbelief and someone who believes in something have in common? If he believes in what he professes, there is no reason why he'd be dating someone who doesn't believe like him. It's like saying me, who is a Christian would be dating someone who isn't a Christian. Who are we kidding? What happens when you have kids? Please, save yourself from headaches and get with someone who's on the same path as you are. I think some of these posts are simple "thought provokerswas and aren't real. This is beyond me! Can't believe that someone would even contemplate something like this. No wonder, we have so much divorce!

irrationally97 · Answer

Find out what his parents think of the relationship and what his views on your religion and what religion potential children will be before you become serious with him. That will help determine whether or not you should continue pursuing the relationship.

BronzedAdonis · Answer

he might cheat on you with a goat

Decentguy · Answer

Well he drinks, Not a virgin, so there's a high possibility that he's not much religious. Since im a muslim, im gonna say, it depends on the guy actually, not every muslim guy is the same. but i think you won't have any problems with him, regarding to Islam or any thing like that

SuperStar_LUK · Answer

Invite him to Christian faith politely, Refer to "Seeking Allah Finding Jesus". You are only saved by Christ (may be you might not practice but its truth). Friendships & going out with Muslim are fine. I have been in your shoes as well. What faith your next generation would have?
I have faced the same questions which you do. (If I get married to a Muslim woman). I'm an ex muslim.
Sometimes I think I might be able to change her towards Christianity. I am not sure, because some muslims can be westernized but strict towards faith in Allah and Muhammad. I would also like to hear your opinion.

Omar5881 · Answer

I'm a Muslim ok , but I really can't tell you about him , it's like asking Americans about your American boyfriend just because he's American
No one can really help you , you should see for yourself if he's a good person or not his religion means nothing tbh

Anonymous · Answer

like some of the suggestions don't go and ask him questions about way into the future. Tell him about Christianity and see how he reacts. learn something about his religion. yes he would want you to wear relogious clothes infront of his parents but not everyday like some comments.
watch "the big sick"-Kumail is a Pakistani comic who meets an American graduate student named Emily at one of his stand-up shows. As their relationship blossoms, he soon becomes worried about what his traditional Muslim parents will think of her. When Emily suddenly comes down with an illness that leaves her in a coma, Kumail finds himself developing a bond with her deeply concerned mother and father.(real life story) It will explain to you some of the issues you might face.

heimdallr · Answer

Your rights under Islam don't exist and you should also be aware that as a non Muslim you can be raped according to Islamic law. Your future kids will also likely be sold in a "marriage" to a much older man aka a paedophile.

Seriously how can you not know this?

weizli · Answer

it's not about Islam, remember muslims are an extremely diverse group of people. they might be black americans, they might be arab, they might be indonesians, they may be south Asian, or even perhaps Burmese (though not for long :'( )...

what's important is to know what kind of culture he comes from, and the relationship would be like in 5 years.

Anonymous · Answer

I had a friend who married a Muslim man. He convinced her to move to his home country. When she hated it there. He didn't care and started to treat her like shit. He divorced her and took the kids. She had to leave the country and has zero rights to see her kids.

So if you take your chances on this man, then make sure to never move to his country. You will have no rights.

RavenBaby · Answer

Leave! Run! BREAK. UP! NO DON'T DO THIS TO YOURSELF! I'm a half jamaican-half Caucasian Catholic. And I've dated a few Muslim guys before, and trust me, the. Experience. Was. Bad. I can't handle them, my views are taken by granted, I'm given no right to go out alone or have an alone time. Just- nope. Don't. For your sake, don't.

Anonymous · Answer

Im half middle eastern half white, I prefer white guys bc the middle eastern muslim guys are usually, controlling, wanna move too fast (typical) which is never good in my opinion, extra sweet (just at first) and cheat... of course, it can never be 100% and you could be getting to know an amazing guy, but I am just telling you watch out because I speak about majority here.

Pegases · Answer

That you're going to encounter a lot of jerks trying to push their simple minded perspectives onto you, many of which claim also to be religious. Know that their opinions are nothing more than their lack of humanity. I think caring looking past religion for love, is a great example of humanity at its best. Furthermore, id say just prepare yourself for a few disagreements regarding your different faiths. Communication is key. Best of luck.

ilyas001 · Answer

The first thing about a men is having values and stand to them. a men that recognise himself as a Muslim and who doesn't follow what he stands for isn't someone worth any trust. he is a Muslim. then no sex before marriage and no drinking. if he is it doesn't take him from being Muslim so at leat he should feel some shame. if he doesn't stay away from him

jake007 · Answer

He will have to drop his believe or drop you one of it. And that us because he was born in it (his family literally forced him to believe in what they were forced to believe). Facts have come up to prove that all they believe are bunch of lies and devilish believes based on the Quran or Hadith. So you better save yourself the trouble.

cth96190 · Answer

What you should know.
1. Mating with him will be the extinction of your genetic line.
2. He will require you to convert. If, later, you renounce Islam the penalty specified in the Quran is death. Sharia will require him and/or his male relatives to kill you.
3. The Quran states that you are only.25 of a person and instructs him how and when to beat you.
4. A decade from now you will consider your relationship with him to be the most catastrophic mistake of your life.

xZoeyx · Answer

This would not be the right place for advice with that. People know nothing about Muslims and act like they know everything. The media also acts like they know everything and try to make them look bad. Just be carful what you'e believing. Just wanted to warn you🙂 And if you want to know anything about them the best place to get info would be from a Muslim themselves

Bananaman177 · Answer

Just watch this movie:

red_knight · Answer

Hey it's the same thing as dating a Christian. The difference is he believes Jesus is the "mightiest messenger" not the son of God, but Christians are considered the older brother to Muslims.

Just don't eat pork, but if he's western cultured than you'll be fine... communication is key here... don't ask idiots they'll lie to look smart, ask him directly Coz you'll be dating him right?

Manuel2 · Answer

Are you prepared to be bossed about and share him with other women. Plus having to give birth to his SON after a year of Marriege.
My friend had to give up her religion and dress how he wanted. Muslim mens have a saying. You beat a dog, a donkey and a woman. Say no more.

Nobodycares · Answer

If he's drinking and has screwed other women outside of marriage, then you just have to hope he doesn't decide to PURGE HIS SINS one day by commiting a suicidal jihad.

That's apparently a thing among extremists. No joke.

If he's a moderate? Fine, but you never know. Taqqiyah is a thing where they lie to unbelievers, to pretend that they're moderate.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

As a Christian, you should be dating the someone the same faith as you. God says not to yolk with people who do not follow Him, you have two different views that will clash eventually. Then again he doesn't seem very serious about the his faith if he's not virgin, drinks, and just seems like an everyday western type of person.

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