What should I know about dating a Muslim guy (as a western non-practicing Christian)? (Page 2)

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I met this guy and he's heads over heels for me. We're moving a bit too fast for my liking when it comes to this whole feelings thing, but I'm giving it a try. He's Muslim but he drinks/isn't a virgin, though he seems very serious about everything else. I wish to know what you (even better if you are a Muslim or has dated one) thinks I should know now, before I get in a relationship with him and get shocked/surprised or end up disrespecting him for some reason.

TallGuy96 · Answer

First of all i'm a muslim , He should not be drinking, and i really hope he's not a virgin because he was married before... Because the things you mentioned are a no-no in islam, and he's not taking his religion seriously. Other than that he's forced to treat you good if he marries you, he's not allowed to hit you, and i'm sorry for saying this but anal sex is forbidden too oh and he can't do anything to you unless you approve to it

loniya · Answer

Save yourself girl. Please. I have dated 2 Muslims. I am telling you horrible experience. They emphasise on marriage kids. They just wanna make you muslim. Save yourself save yourself. They are just so bad people & bad religion.

TuMeManques · Answer

That most likely he'll play with you for a while but he'll marry a Muslim woman to appease his family.

Anonymous · Answer

I dated a Muslim guy once. He was an arrogant asshole who acted like he was better than everyone else. Now he is in an arranged marriage, lol. FYI, his parents will probably disapprove of you if they are strict Muslims.

Bytemaster · Answer

One day he'll beat the crap out of you for talking back at him. They're EXTREMELY arrogant. He'll bury you in a hole and STONE you!! He'll rape you because he was horny and you only exist as a sexual object to him. You're only worth is that of a half of a man. They guys are SAVAGES!! They literally live in the 15th Century.

LucyArmstrong · Answer

Honesty. Muslims that respect their religion really are good future partners and maybe future husbands. They really do respect woman unlike that bias news that everyone hears. I think you should leave.

jaafar76 · Answer

Muslim here. Now i really want to joke about this one but I'll try to be mature. He is serious about you. As for what you should know. He will speak of islam to try and explain it and what things mean. And ofcourse he doesn't understand everything in islam so he does only what he understands. Give it a try.

Eternallylucky · Answer

Study their culture. They change 360 c once you marry them.

Jamie2017 · Answer

Oh honey this might be hard for you to hear... The Bible says not to get 'unevenly yoked'. Means essentially means you need to be in a relationship with someone with the same beliefs as you. A relationship is hard enough to navigate as it is without differing belief systems

AlexEfron · Answer

@cth96190 It's true. There are a lot of people who claim to be Muslim but in action do the exact opposite of the teachings of Islam. World is full of hypocrites.
I appreciate your views of life mate 👍

dandiecandie · Answer

Ask him if he is married. You never know. Muslims can marry up to 4 wives.

Robbey · Answer

Well, a good place to start is where does he or his family come from. Islam varies considerably depending on culture. Muslim from Albania, Russia, Saudi Arabia, Palestine, Iran, India, Indonesia etc. are quite different.

SongBird3 · Answer

Well there's no shame in giving it a try. Just ask him what he does and doesn’t do. Does he eat meat? Or only halal meat? Does he pray 5 times a day?
Only thing i worry about for you is his family not liking you and wanting you to convert.

Anonymous · Answer

That it's all fun and romance until your married. Once married you do as your told.

Anonymous · Answer

oh dear , just don't , he will lie to you to think that the sharia law is the right way to live and i know you will believe him i know islam, after that you will regret and realise it was the mistake of your fucking life , you dont know how split islam and sharia law is, look at muslims how they kill ech other do you think they do it for sport?
if you dont belive me go ahead and marrie him.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think he knows himself. He doesn't seem emotionally stable since he's contradicting his so called beliefs.

I knew a Muslim guy in my apt building who was rebellious. He drank and even ate pork. He sure was attractive but I remember him and his girlfriend would always argue. But she was more religious than him, she was Muslim.

Anonymous · Answer

He's probably a hypocrite. He would try to put his beliefs on you and try to convert you to Islam. He would do many things that are prohibited in Islam but if you do them he will stop you and beat you up. Don't go too fast. Stay your ground on being an atheist or whatever you are.

SuperMan89s · Answer

As an Ex- muslim !!! I dont think its a good idea on the long run.
muslim men tend to have double standards regarding cultural differences.
Even if he drink or have sex... I know a lot of muslims when they try to settle down they will dictate their women as form of repenting !!!
Thats why I left islam for me cause you can't have it both... there will be a double standards there.
Anyway Do what you want... Thats just my opinion.

guydudemanmale · Answer

They are typically very traditional to be honest Islam is one of the few places women are still expected to basically do as their told if you expect him or his parents or friends to treat you as an equal I would say that is unlikely

brat786 · Answer

I would just say that Kindly look closely in him and judge that He ain't a Hypocrite & after long term or like marriage he won't force or implement things on you and Yes the Foremost thing that he ain't an extremist or else you'll be ruined.
Best of Luck For Your Future!

ASEXY · Answer

It would help if you are familiar with the religious holidays, dietary restrictions, traditions, and customs. You can keep your religion if you end up marrying him, but the children should be raised up Muslim.

Anonymous · Answer

Do not date him. I am from a muslim family. Our families are very conservative. They won't agree to this type of relationship. So in the end he would possibly dump you and marry someone their family choose.

NSDAP88 · Answer

That you totally shouldn't? They believe women are second class citizens, and can't say no to sex or be beaten

Cursewords · Answer

You should know that his beliefs are ridiculous and conflict entirely with yours.

BlackMoonYass · Answer

Well Muslims especially muslim guys from my country ( Tunisia) they drink and they sleep woth women , which is haram but people here do it anyway , just be yourself , don't think about it much. Dating a Muslim is like dating any other guy. I don't think he is too religious anyway

Gypsy_x · Answer

Everyone is different. You need to ask him if there is anything you need to know, or if he has any expectations of you that you may be unfamiliar with.

Anonymous · Answer

I have heard many many stories of western women getting into serous relationships with middle eastern men who were told much later year if they were to marry, she would have to be circumsized to appease the family and beliefs. Now obviously this isn't all of them, but voluntary female circumcision is still very much practiced in many of these cultures.

Anonymous · Answer

after a while they get controlling... and part of that is because of their culture.. it is very traditional, woman serves husband and takes care of kids kind of way

Nader95 · Answer

he won't demand u convert or anything dont worry he's just like a non practicing christian we r just human beings it should be fine

SarahsSummer · Answer

Take it slow and as with any new relationship, get to know him, all of him. His religion is only a part of him.

jtink · Answer

I saw this first hand with my 2nd cousin, it didn't go well and she almost didn't escape to get home. His family didn't like her and thought she'd be better off dead and made very serious threats.

Anonymous · Answer

You might be used as a sacrifice, get your head cut off, have bombs strapped to you, be one of many future wives, forced to cover your head or whole body when going out... Might just be easier for you to Google it

Ayer93 · Answer

My best friend is Muslim and I have a couple other Muslim friends. I will tell you honestly that they tend to be really dominant in the relationship. Also if you are not religious and they are very religious I suggest staying clear of a relationship.

BexJ123 · Answer

If you and him don't really care about religion. I think there is no problem. But if you guys like have a relationship religously you guys should discuss about it

Dragon6901 · Answer

When folks come from differing belief systems it's hard to find common meaning to even the simplest terms

Skadouchebag · Answer

You shouldn't have to worry about him getting in trouble at his mosque, but you should be aware that if you decide to start a family with this guy then they will be required to be raised Muslim.

AdamED · Answer

If he wants to live as a religious man in the future and how's that gonna affect your relationship with him in case of marriage. My aunt had been married to a Muslim man for 37 years and they are happy together. They have five sons.

GayHowellMeme · Answer

He’s okay. Just keep an eye so he doesn’t combine all his 4 wives and says ”Mission complete!”.

mysteriousmist · Answer

My advice is simple If his religion comes in between your relationship Then you can't be Happy

Regular1 · Answer

You should know that there's an increased risk of him killing you.

Anonymous · Answer

From what women have told me, due to the massive cultural differences. Middle Eastern men are extremely attracted to American women. Motly due to them being much more open about their sexuality. If his interest is based on this infatuation his feelings may fade over time. They also may lead him to infidelity. However I don't know this man and this may very well not describe him. Just keep this in mind just in case.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Nothing. Muslim guys aren't really usually religious as you would think lol

Anonymous · Answer

It's like being in a relationship with a bomb. Be ready that he may suddenly explode himself one day.

Anonymous · Answer

Where is he from and why  /how is he in your country?

Renae2lovely · Answer

Tell him that ur not Muslim and he should understand... and just learn more about the culture

DiscoBluffCloth · Answer

They tend to blow themselves up so be careful of that minor detail.

Anonymous · Answer

He may still be into his culture or religion where he wants a virgin wife. Like he may sleep with his girlfriend who wasn't a virgin before meeting him but that's it.

Anonymous · Answer

Your a traitor. You date the people that are bombing innocent people? You are dating the people that are invading our countries (mass immigration)? Your a disgrace.

gobsmacked3 · Answer

All humans are the same. Just show respect and be honest and it flies with all

Tanisha69 · Answer

I have a friend he is muslim and a great guy, but he is not practicing by which I mean he doest pray 5 times a day or anything.

Anonymous · Answer

If you had children how would they be raised? This is an issue in these types of relationships

JigSaw93 · Answer

If he isn't religious, it would be nearly the same with a Western guy. But I want a virgin girl who dresses modestly as a religious Muslim guy.

TheRish · Answer

Only one reason, will he be accept your religion, if not they all are same force his religion on you after sometime. Hijab and all crab.

RidingForever2 · Answer

You should read Quranic verses about drinking. the Quran says you can drink to appease the non-Muslims.

gh1988 · Answer

Mediterranean muslim family could be over powering sometimes and could middle in ur relationship but other than that depend on how much u know the guy a muslim guy is just a guy

OfDeath · Answer

Don't cook him bacon in the morning. Just eggs with toast or rice and tomato etc

mfrgsmph · Answer

baby i'm araby n i think you should ask him about the Planet he came from
عليك ان تستمعى الى لغته
فقط هو فقط رجل مختلف في القليل دوما فى البدايات
جميع الاسئله للرجال معروفه والهدف واحد
لكن اساليه عن حبيبته وتحدثى كصديق الطريق

victorgarcia2 · Answer

Just treat him like you would any other guy. With mutual respect. If you find things moving fast then tell him

john76 · Answer

Muslim practice female genital mutilation. FGM. They practice oppression from their teachings in the Koran.

AlphaStyles · Answer

Here we go with the islamophobia shit again  This isn't islamophobia its fact  You will need to become a Muslim

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