Why do guys HATE commitment? (Page 3)

Question

I'm not intending to generalize, but why do most guys take pride in cheating and having many girls? Most of them love to play the role of " The Player " instead of  the boyfriend . why is commitment such an awful thing to them?

kittu3216 · Answer

It not the case as boys hate commitment
Depending on the behaviour and the actual behaviour of the girl boys tend to move on to another in search of what they want
But girls don't understand
It's not about every girl
But it targets to one who does as such and have fun with the taughts of a men

J4Zzi3 · Answer

Well in guys feeling change from time to time. Even if you love somone so much. In time the feeling in most cases will change depend on what the woman do. Actually guys are simple if a woman is clever enough to make a guys interested in her all the time. I'm sure guys will be easy to commit.

the_lee1982 · Answer

Maybe because your 19 and people's thinking younger tends to be more about trying to make them selves out to be that way. Funny thing is, I know many guys who made similar bullsh*t claims about being players and getting all these girls, guess what happens, many of them get pussy whipped by the first girl they date. Most guys that make those claims are full of it.

Longshanks68 · Answer

Many men , like myself , are not afraid of commitment, we are afraid of commitment to someone we hardly know and from built up trust issues from women violating our trust by cheating on us or for breaking up with us because you decided you interested in someone else or have already lost interest in us. A lot of us want to commit but we want to ensure you are worthy first.

didigo182 · Answer

The right queston sould be "Why players that I chase HATE commitment?"

The fact is women have a 'cinderella syndrome' they only want 5% of man and prefer ignore 95%. This way be difficut they be happy or be or be satisfied.

I think majority of man are fine with comitment. Women don't.

mohit2597 · Answer

There is many situations depend on the man such as
1. men cheat when he has just bet from someone.
2. Some men cheat when just they make girlfriend to show in front of other that I have girlfriend too
3. Some men make girlfriend to take revenge from her or any relationship belonging with her

So, these can be some of the reason
And one of the genuine reason can be they hate commitment as they are not assure or afraid of spending time with one girl only

McKellar · Answer

In my own opinion ( especially my own experiences ) that question does go both ways for both guys & girls. I was committed to one girl one time, & she cheated on me. Guess what happened? She dumped me & went with this new guy. About 1 year later,.. they got married. ... story of my life.

oppswasthatme · Answer

It a stage guys go through. But mostly guys are still figuring it out, most guys don't even know what they want. When I guy knows what he wants he's the guy you want to keep around. But mostly girls try to marry the first boyfriends and guys don't want this. It's the oldest story girl want to settle down with a guy that doesn't want to.

jaafar76 · Answer

Okay. Just to answer the girls saying guys do it for attention. First look at your behavior towards the guy because you drive him away or trap him deeper. You can't act like a child and expect him to handle you. Second look at the guy, if all he wants is sex you'll know from the start, and the best part is you would accept him taking you for pleasure in return being with you. Am i wrong ladies?

Becalo · Answer

I've seen its "cool" among guys to be the player, like some form of higher ascended being. However many guys including me want to commit. However it's important to choose who you commit to carefully. If you don't quite fit each other then you shouldn't expect him to commit.

Hotterpop · Answer

You may not be intending to but you are. The majority of successful men are committed. It isn't awful to us. The only reason it appears this way is because #1 Hollywood cooks it up and #2 they are just a loud mouth minority so it makes them look like the majority.

umeandme · Answer

I never played the player because I didn't want to ruin myself. It's conducive to getting laid in the current culture, though, so tempting. I'd be the boyfriend if the girlfriend is reciprocate, but a lot of girls are selfish these days and expect the guy do everything, including make them happy, all the while they contribute minimally.

AynonOMouse · Answer

It is mostly the guys of your age group that do that.

And the more women that want men to provide for them and use men as an ATM, the more men see/think of them as just prostitutes with no real value. Of course, that is much more of a problem with women from my generation. More of the ones from your generation are fair and better.

grumps0 · Answer

Because being an asshole helps feed their male egos

helterskeltermac · Answer

A lot of women I know are afraid of commitment, not just guys.

knight_55 · Answer

Because those guys don't know what is true love. They know that even if they dump one girl they would get many others. Just like what @lord_chilled said.

faithh92 · Answer

I dont think its right for this to be expressed to men only. Females fear commitment too. Not speaking for myself. I would love to settle down and have children. It just takes timing

Chaz269 · Answer

You don't intend to generalize, followed by gross generalization? Grow up.

Not all or even most guys cheat. There are some guys who "play the field" because that's the game, everyone plays that game to some extent. Guys who continue to play do so because it works. The reverse is also true. When everyone, men & women, boys & girls, stop responding favorably to players, the game will end. That's a fact.

starlord41 · Answer

To be honest with you I think the "players" are afraid of making a commitment because it's one of three things. 1) It's not what they expected it to be 2) they're afraid they'll mess it up and then they'll start thinking that they will never be able to have a happy love life and 3) they're afraid of being hurt or they've been hurt and they don't want to experience that again.

I know the nonsense I just typed may not really be the answer you're looking for but it's the I can come up with.

JudoIppon · Answer

I can honestly say that I've never had a male friend or any male I know take pride in being what we call a 'fuckboy'. I can't speak for everywhere of course but where i'm from cheating and dating multiple women at the same time is seen as a bad thing, so if anyone is doing it they won't share it. I guess where i'm from there's just more of a commitment to staying faithful than other places.

asterking01 · Answer

I don't know if I am right that I may b wrong here.
Girls pretend hard to get and they are to approach many times. So, when they hook-up with a girl it's a big deal or milestone for them... then Think what hooking up with more than one will be for them. I believe I that's the reason.
But all guys are not like this only the players and I believe many girls are such players too.

P. s. don't judge me on my advice, I m a guy who has never kissed yet hookup is a way higher level for me.

xxWolf3698xx · Answer

Because they are still immature. They aren't ready to settle down. Guys like to impress people around then. Maybe it makes their confidence grow I don't know. But a lot of guys actually want to be committed to something. Girls just tend to go out with the fuckbois

Dee12 · Answer

It goes both ways but it's not necessarily that we hate it. Just not ready for it yet 🤷🏽‍♀️ we all have pasts of disappointment and you want to meet someone that makes you feel you can trust them

Blake0048 · Answer

No. Most men do not take pride in cheating. You are getting that from rap songs with the "side bitch" nonsense. Most men aren't like that at all. They do take pride in casual flinfa though and being promiscuous when they aren't in a relationship because women will only do that with men they are truly attracted to and respect as a man. But most guys dont hate commitment they just dont wajt to commit to a girl who is promiscous and will cheat

BlameHofmann · Answer

I would love to be in a commited relationship. Most guys aren't ready for it though. You have to look in different places if all you find are men who have commitment issues. For example: If a guy is going out and partying all the time, he probably isn't looking for a commited relationship.

aceman82 · Answer

I'm 35 and didn't lose my virginity until I was 31. To my wife of over 2 years!! She was my first girlfriend at the time and now my wife whom I will always love and spend my life with. Some guys are just like that either they grew up around that or they follow others. Don't give up there are good guys out there

Nathaniel2002 · Answer

We don't 😂 just your selection of guys aren't that good

Curmudgeon · Answer

Because the risks and downsides to commitment have risen, and the benefits of commitment have fallen. When something rewards less and pays off less, you get less of it.

Anonymous · Answer

Most guys are scared/not ready for commitment. Guys are ready for commitment long after girls are. Similarly to why guys mature after girls. Since guys mature later than girls by nature, they’ll likely ready for commitment later. I’m not speaking for all guys, but a good portion of guys can be like this

Bandit21 · Answer

You're absolutely generalizing. I'm 25, and married with a year and a half old son. Not all guys hate commitment, just the ones you're around. I think you had one bad experience, plus you don't have much experience with a serious relationship.

Fire_Fly · Answer

I honestly think it really depends on the guy and if he’s ready or not to make that commitment, just because we’re ready doesn’t mean he is

BlkGamer · Answer

Well I have found out that most of the cute girls start talking to a guy when their in a relationship. I start thinking would life be better with her or should I stay with my current girl or the other girl and I think that’s why... but it could just be me.

PrinceNeo · Answer

Eh some people like relationships some people don't everyone has their interest I think a lot of people like relationships but so much is scared to get involved cuz they don't want to risk being cheated on or getting their heart broken Etc I've been through so much pain that I don't care I'm willing to risk it no guts no glory if you want love you gotta take a chance

MrManga · Answer

Personally so do i kind of dream of a relationship but finding a decent woman makes "finding a needle in a haystack" look easy, a reason that there is a lot of players could be that girls/women seem to have a tendency to fall for players or "bad boys".

sidvt · Answer

All guys try to give commitment but after getting hurt by girls they are scared to give commitment and he advices other guys not to commit n get hurt untill she marries u so in tht chain n present girls too don't want commitment so they are not giving commitment

Dhurin · Answer

It's because of differences in physical strength. If most girls physical strength of girls were stronger than boys, then these girls having more boys and commitment would be difficult for these girls. In the present generation a physical strong girl will not get many boys but will get a right boy. If not, then it's better to stay single than getting suffered marrying a mistake.

CandacePerry · Answer

Depends on guys. Guys haute it when girls change. Some guys are dick and some guys are not. It finding the right person for you or me instead me going werid for my boyfriend.

tech7474 · Answer

It use to be a macho thing, like look at all these women I have slept with. For some guys it's a more women come on to you when your a relationship, so the temptation is greater. Personally it's a I only want to be married once and don't want to be stuck with wrong girl for the rest of my life.

crazy8000 · Answer

Why do girl's play games, why are girl's unwilling to seduce men or aprouch even give up to easy?

Why do girl's ignore men that aren't interesting?

Think about those questions for a while.
When you have got them you have the answer on yours.

AuthenticZ · Answer

Well im a guy and right now im kinda in the same position. The girl I have been talking with isn't ready to commit and by all rights she probably isn't in the right state to. But with guys id say theyre either straight up fearful of you lying to them and not being honest throughout the relationship or they just fear commitment in general.

Johku · Answer

No hate for commitment quite the opposite. I think sometimes it is a person's way of dealing with his own feelings when he looks for another people's attention. Maybe he feels girl doesn't love him or appreciate etc but most of all he wants to be committed. Often can be due to own insecurities and immaturities

MisterSage · Answer

I wouldn’t mind commitment, but it seems that I’m going alone on that, if you catch my drift. Most girls my age are more into gothic stuff and punky stuff than romance and committed relationships.

iNsaneMilesy · Answer

They dont hate committment, they just hate you. When a man is read to settle down, he will settle down with the vest he can get. This is basic biology. If men dont want to commit to you, then clearly you aren't for them.

empressturd · Answer

Guy build their masculinity around it to show of their dominance to other men. So, they won't have a problem fucking a girl if it makes them look more macho in front of their bros. This is why i make my males wait 3 months 😕

ToddDiesel · Answer

Not trying to generalize here, but why do women feel the need to enhance their looks when going out to clubs? Men that "don't commit" are wanting the best for themselves. It's in the genes for evolutionary survival to find the "most suitable" mate.

idekwhatsgoingon · Answer

Peer pressure, sometimes they just don't find the girl they truly value and are just running through girls until they find one they truly like or they've been hurt by a bitch and don't look back on commitment

Anonymous · Answer

Because there's a lot of guys/people in the world that are uncivilized and stupid. They want to hump everything like a wild animal and can't stick to one person. Not everyone is like that but sadly a lot are. They're called cheaters and sluts. Applying to both male and female :)

Anonymous · Answer

Where are you looking? All I can find is guys who want commitment.

dragonfly6516 · Answer

That's a trait found in younger, immature, insecure men who aren't ready to settle, or whom have been hurt a lot and burned.

CanadianNinja · Answer

We don't, you just find yourself around a lot of bad guys, you should probably change who you hang around

Santharin · Answer

Not every boys are like that! Some are there.. Because of them every boys are seen in that way... They just think that having many girlfriend is cool like thing...

lunedeprince · Answer

You actually worded your question better than most girls out there. We're guys, we pride ourselves in being alphas and in the animal world alphas have the most mates. It's the same way why women are more attracted to males who play the player, them being a player is a good representation of their mating potential. Basically instinct.

dominusdominae · Answer

I personally am 26 and dying to commit to a nice woman. I want three kids and a wife but women rarely give me the time if day. I'm not terribly attractive and often come across strange. My answer is you are looking at the wrong type of guy

shadow_smirk1 · Answer

A guy gets intimidated by commitment due to various reasons.
Maybe he sees the uncertainty in the relationship.
Guys don't easily evaluate if they're gonna stay with that woman his whole life. This is because of the fights and his self analysis.

djmzes · Answer

Q: Why they do not commit? Ask yourself another questions: what kind of guys you want to commit and what are there views? It is simple as trying to buy eggs in a shop that sell only meat.

Axel80 · Answer

I would very much be committed. But everytime I did in the past the woman breaks up with me. So why should I bother anymore? Why go to all the trouble?

knc85 · Answer

Personally... I hated the entire idea of commitment until after i turned 25... now, at 32, I've been married once for 7 years.. and it failed... and I can't find a woman that wants commitment whatsoever... everyone wants a fling, but, seems nothing long-term. I thought it may have had something to do with me originally... thinking about specific things ya know... lol... but, apparently, I'm not the only person I know having this issue. Very interesting dilemma

jerrodMD98 · Answer

I do NOT hate commitment actually i want nothing more than to settle down but most girls are immature and you could probably say that about us it doesn't have to do with the people it has to do wth the day and age of relationships all a relationship is now is like openly pronounced fwb's thats not what its supposed to be but it is

fuqmean · Answer

So. I think men get a super bad wrap about this kinda stuff and not all men do it for the same reason. So I have been scared of commitment in the past but that was because it was with a girl I knew I wouldn't be with forever and there was another girl who I knew that I had better feelings for but you don't want to hurt the other person you're with it's a hard situation honestly and not a lot of guys know how to handle it very good

glasgow4chat · Answer

Most guys? That's you lumping most in the one category. .. there's as many women playing around as men.. neither want the commitment of a relationship and enjoy the freedom

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