Why do guys HATE commitment? (Page 4)

Question

I'm not intending to generalize, but why do most guys take pride in cheating and having many girls? Most of them love to play the role of " The Player " instead of  the boyfriend . why is commitment such an awful thing to them?

jacksims · Answer

I think its only a small group of guys that take pride in being a player and usually it has something to do with their mental capacity to care and focus on something other than themselves. I would say that 99% of men have no issue with commitment at all

Anonymous · Answer

They don't, they really don't.

I think you're picking players and asking why you only meet players.

"take pride in cheating and having many girls"
Guys don't take pride in cheating and -- while it's not a goal in itself unless you're a full-on player -- why shouldn't they feel good about lots of girls being into them?

Anonymous · Answer

Because their heart was broken by another women because of that they kept trying regardless how many times the women gave up on him. Reality wise a guy will just see a girl as an object to just mess around with for time being because he knows they don't have what he has. That's how shit happens in relationships.

DaCrownlessKing · Answer

Pressure is applied to a guy to provide/ be a leader and thats add more responsibility to your plate. A lot of guys like to be free of this burden for as long as they can.

liquorhole · Answer

Why are guys the only one getting heat for this. Women do it too they just mask it by "chain dating" js look at your girl friends that date different guys back to back. Is that not the same thing?

DabbingSquid · Answer

Most guys don't want to be "the player" just the guys you've been hanging around. Time to find some new guys! :^)

BlackieJ · Answer

Maybe they are scared and can't help the way they are or how they think they should be and don't want to settle down.

Abbie_da_loner · Answer

A guy is a guy. Being a player gets them attention and they seem cool when really they are a douche😊.

cth96190 · Answer

You should stop dating bad boys. Most young men want a girlfriend in a committed relationship that is going somewhere, but she has to be the right girl.

DYNigel · Answer

I think that this is a common generalization that is actually (now, at least) generally incorrect.
That is probably why people have been "attacking you," no excuse though.

I think many men may simply need to be shown how committed you (or someone) is willing to be to them.

Cinnabon57 · Answer

Commitment is bad for us because say a guy and girl start dating then they get married and decided to have, say, 3 kids. Well if they divorce then the guy will have to deal with it financially 90% of the time with child support being the main reason. Yes, I know women pay too but not as much as the guy. We don't want that. We would rather just stay single until we see the perfect person that will not put us in bad situations without being there.

adameian · Answer

Ill make it in point form as they're too much why man hates commitment.
>A lots of restrictions due to your insecurity
>always have to pay the bill, to prove that I'm a "gentlemen"
>don't like clingy relationship
>Alpha male, fuck who I want
>aren't a beta male that only exclusive to one particular individual

rboshk · Answer

Commitment ties a guy down. A guy likes his freedom and didn't want to be tied down. The only reason a guy gets married is because he is tired of running around with multiple girls and he wants a steady girl who is always there. Guys cheat because they always what to go back to having multiple girls

Thetrueaussie · Answer

Hahaha simple. A key that opens many locks is a Master key, a lock that opens to many keys is a shitty lock. Not all guys are like excited about it. Most do not hahaha

DollySummers · Answer

They don’t hate commitment. If I guy can’t handle commitment. Than he was hurt by a past lover.

BigPaw · Answer

I'm seeing commitment issues from women as well. As long as there's a certain amount of perceived freedom, people think they should fight before giving it up. And who doesn't like doing whatever makes them happy all day without sequences?

I think we (people in general) see responsabilities as boring and threatening to our identity, instead of an opportunity to grow as people.

I'm not saying ditch the weed to go to the church, but see fun in other activities too.

greyworm8 · Answer

The hard truth is that most men don't hate commitment, they hate commitment with women who aren't worth it. If a high quality woman who genuinely adds to the quality of his life comes along, he'll commit. Most women aren't high quality, they're someone to pass time with and have sex with.

Charleslvajr · Answer

It's not necessary for many men. The ones you want are the most attractive guys available and they can get as much sex as they want without having to commit. Why commit to a responsibility when you get the benefit without it?

NatashaJ · Answer

The student debt crisis is becoming a problem... wonder why so many men are not getting married studies show massive student debt is making people put off having families.

actionhero972 · Answer

I'd honestly like to be with one girl worth being away from all the others but the question you ask about men I've seen done by women as well wether it's insecurity or emotional displacement people are people on many levels what you won't do some one else will just because it's in our ability probability demands it

guillaume123 · Answer

They are smart as they are not pushed so easily into serial monogamy. Because some believe that such behaviour is not suitable for girls and some follow those rules (double standard=acutally very bad), there is a discrepancy in the supply and demand of sex. As a result, the more "sluts" there are the less players there will be. In the end even players will mostly commit to one. Just not with everyone. There are just so many forms of realtionships. Life is not a Disneymovie but it can be fun!

WonderingGent · Answer

This is my first time on here and the first line was priceless lol. Sorry to take I've you're post Miss Logical. Keep fighting the good fight for woman and man alike with conscious thoughts. You are a good person thank you for restoring my faith in y'all generation.

evilrainbow · Answer

Well I had no dream of being a player. I just wanted a normal life and gv my loyalty to one person only. But seems like girls only like player. No girl likes guys who wants to be wid her for long or grow old with her.

Dragon6901 · Answer

I don't hate commitment at all. I hate commiting to the noncommittal. That said, if I address my issues in a forthright manner allowing for a new chapter I may find a way to recommit to what was stripped!

Kittylover94 · Answer

It depends on the person. Most guys I've known want commitment.

darkflame24901 · Answer

Well if you check women cheat as much as men. When it comes to cheating its a tricky subject. Mostly cheating happens out the fear of hurting the other person witch is dumb and really ironic. All i have to say is not every man is a cheater. If you are the one that gets cheated on then maybe you have a bad taste in man. But be careful and try to see which ones are cheater and witch aren't.

SebShaw82 · Answer

The same can be said and asked of many women. Plenty of women are happy to lead men on and waste their time like commitment is a bad thing too.
I can't speak for all men but I'm not committed because I haven't found anyone trustworthy enough.

chahn · Answer

I don't hate commitment. Honestly I find a lot of girls who just want guys to buy them stuff and take them out a lot within this past 3 months I have gone on a few dates where the girl said she was single before we dated and ended up revealing she just wanted to trick guys to get them to take then out and that they where in happy relationships. I believe they felt like maybe everyone dose this so it's completely okay for them to do so. I feel this is basicly two wrongs don't make it right.

ronaldo75 · Answer

Because when marriages, relationships and any commitment goes to hell, it's the man who loses everything. That's why. Men are starting to learn that and keeping a distance more than ever. Blame 3rd wave feminism.

dissolveme · Answer

I have been cheated on, I have never cheated on anyone though but that's why I'm scared of commitment. In fact I haven't been in a relationship in over a year because no-one could go at my pace, a lot of guys wouldn't admit this but this is my reasoning.

daffodile · Answer

For some men they like to play the field before settling down. It is a generalization I think a good majority want commitment at some point.

Anonymous · Answer

We don't "hate" commitment, we simply are not programmed like women are. Men aren't meant to be monogamous, yes there are some who do it but it goes against natural animal instinct for a male to be tied down. We often do it because society and women shame and attack us for not wanting to.

Anonymous · Answer

They do't hate it at all.

Women and men simply have different timelines on when they expect certain things to happen, and women tend to expect commitment earlier, and push for it.

Men prefer to take their time before coming emotionally invested.

TripleAce · Answer

Well for the most part men simply don't feel the need to commit... we have so much time to find a girl unlike women... women get panicky and paranoid by like 28  we can go well into our 40's even

Futron · Answer

I've met boys that are crazy about commitment- like, they're ready to settle down after meeting you hours ago.  Goes both ways.

beard3d4life · Answer

I love commitments! they take work but, I find them rewarding. A lot of people just want things easy with no strings. I tried this twice and it was a very empty to me.

daxuran · Answer

I don't think this is in any way accurate to even a relative majority of men. You probably just interact with a lot of shitty guys.

Gavyn · Answer

That’s a good question. Personally, I don’t understand it either. I like commitment. It’s a challenge, and it makes the relationship worth the time and effort put into it, and it’s, overall, just 1,000x more satisfying (at least to me).

zagor · Answer

"Most". You are over-generalizing. Maybe it is just the guys you find attractive. Very attractive men are able to easily get women so they may not feel the need to commit, as they can always find another girl.

Duke1985 · Answer

For me, because i feel like giving up some freedom. I must say though, i'm aware that i will change some time and happily go steady if i find the right one. But i'm honestly not even looking for that. At least not yet.
I've never cheated b. t. w.

YHL6965 · Answer

I like commitment, I just like it with the right person. I don't want to commit to the wrong person. With more and more crazy female psychos running around nowadays, no wonders guys are hesiting to commit. Thank the hysterical feminists for that.

rickbrown6032 · Answer

I used myself I don't care what other say but I never was offer that most I delt with alway said let just be friend but they wanted a little more.
So my answer would be I would have been glad to be more then a friend but that what I was offer

chicostickmaster · Answer

I learned that guys dont hate commitment. My ex told me he wasn't ready to have a serious relationship. Then two months later got engaged. Its not guys. Its just some relationships dont work and some do.

Chasesullivan · Answer

Honestly it's kinda hard to give just one reason for that question he could be scared or feel like he has something to prove he could also be doing it for stupid reasons such as a dare but there's a lot of answers to that question

neurolove · Answer

In my experience, guys like commitment as much as women.

mizorange09 · Answer

They can't stop being greedy... one girl just never seems like enough

mneofthestate · Answer

I love to be in a committed relationship. It has been 4.5 years, just me and my son and I miss having that stable partnership with another adult.

anmari2001 · Answer

Because fear gives power to hate *insert dart Vader * Not generalize, talking only about some guys

NathanStrat · Answer

I've always found the opposite, when i casually date girls it goes fine, but when i want to make it official “boyfriend/girlfriend” they run.

KRock323 · Answer

Lol it's not Just guys it's girls too. Although reasions are difference, the goal is the same. Guys are usually more open about it... Ok brag about.

MaxieS · Answer

I'm commitment shy because i'm scared the other party won't commit either. If somebody proves himself sincere, then i don't see why not.

Beast88 · Answer

They don't its mostly just commitment to the wrong girl. Which is another way of saying keeping your options open

Tushar09 · Answer

It's just about u. you know, feeling of one really loves you, if he finds a connection between them, then there are chances of commitment always

momo770 · Answer

I think the women involved have a role to play also. Going into every date or relationship with clear communication and if he's not wanting a relationship, Don't Force It.

Anonymous · Answer

For young guys, it's hormones. They want to fuck a lot of different girls.

For older guys, it's finances. Why go into an agreement with a 50% failure rate, where failure carries MASSIVE penalties?

Who would do that to themselves?

ImadEddineBEK · Answer

Because most girls r not looking for a boyfriend but for a player no girl wants to date the nice guy they all want a bad boy

Blackmoonsns · Answer

We have more to lose being in a relationship then we gain. Laws are in favor of women, so most men will settle for just having sex with as many women as he can.

dansgotswagg · Answer

Why do girls hate commitment? I've seen tons of times when a man will ask a girl out and she'll be like "Idk, I'm not so sure about a date/relationship."

Streamhopper · Answer

I don't hate commitment. I also don't play girls. I'm as real as can be. I want one guy, one girl. That's just me, tho.

adamjanovic · Answer

I have no idea, but my best guess is that it's an evolutionary trait because human males, like many other animal species' want to have as many mates as possible.

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