He updated his tinder profile after first date, red flag?

[Anonymous]

I had a great date with a guy from tinder. We kissed, held hands and went for a long walk in the city where I live. He had to travel 45 min by train to my neighborhood. He seemed genuinely interested and we had good conversations. After the date he texted saying he had a nice time. What I think is good is that we both initiated text conversations every 1 or 2 days. But because it was holiday and Christmas and all the festive days he couldn’t meet sooner and I also was on holiday. So the next date planned is the day after tomorrow, 2,5 weeks apart from the first date. What I noticed is that the initial chemistry gets a little bit less over time, because it’s a long time ago. About 2 weeks after the first date, he updated his tinder profile with new pictures and added his description. This was also after he asked me out on the second date via text. Does this mean he isn’t that into me? Or is it because we’re growing apart a little bit because of the long time between dates

[CheekyPaws]

The thing about dates on Tinder and I don't necessarily agree with what I'm going to say next but it's what I've read on many sites is that, because of how people operate, it is very likely that if you meet someone, they are also chatting and meeting other people at the same time.
Why? Because not every date is successful so ending communication with all your other matches just to go on a date that might fail means that you also loose your chances with the other people you've matched with.
So, the rule appears to be meet loads of people and when you find the one for you, you dump the rest... Horrible thought but that seems to be the norm these days... :(

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply! I completely agree. Sometimes I think it’s maybe better to not look for a boyfriend on Tinder. But just do your own thing and you’ll eventually meet the right person in real life.

[CheekyPaws]

I don't think there is a problem as such with looking on Tinder, however, if you're of a more sensitive type (like me) you need to make it very clear to yourself that you can only go into this with zero expectations, by this I mean, enjoy meeting people but don't expect to meet THE one... And hey, if you do then that is of course fantastic, but if not, then don't be disheartened about it, don't take it as failure and don't let it get you down.

[Asker]

That’s very good advice! Thanks so much! Having high expectations does make you disappointed really quickly. I’m quite sensitive myself as well, so I’ll just see how the date goes. :)

[CheekyPaws]

You're very welcome, wish you all the best :)

[CheekyPaws]

Thank you! 😊
Hope it's all going well for you by the way 😉

[ThePsycho]

Whatever the reason, i'm sorry but that doesn't look like a good sign. A guy who really expects a date to have a future doesn't update his profile. "Just in case" or "keeping my options open" is bullshit. If you can't wait with other options you don't expect to go anywhere with this. (That's my opinion anyway)

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion! Yeah I think so too. I’ll just see how the second date goes.

[jessture]

Until you and him have a conversation about being exclusive, you aren't, and he is as free to continue dating other people as you are.

[Asker]

That’s true👍 It just makes me a bit anxious that he’s active on tinder

[hoodwill]

He's still looking

[Anonymous]

Was it London?