If you took a short break from your relationship would you be okay with the other person sleeping with someone else? Would you sleep with someone else?
Does a break mean you can sleep with someone else?
This all comes down to communicate. You both need to talk this through. One person may want a break because they feel like they need to explore their sexuality more. That being said someone else may have a completely different thought in their mind. You both need to be very clear about your intentions and talk about what you want to do or how you feel and figure out what's ok with your partner. If you are planning are getting back together at the end of this break than you really need to be transparent with your intentions. If it was spoken about and we both agreed it was ok to see other people and have sex than that's what was agreed upon. However if you don't talk about this and then come back and your partner finds out you slept with other people and you didn't discuss it previously than that could cause a lot of issues. It could cause trust issues leaving them feeling betrayed and could ultimately turn your break into a break-up. It's all about communication. I do think that I could be jealous if my partner slept with someone else even if we talked about it, the difference is if it wasn't talked about I wouldn't just be a little jealous, I'd be down right furious and really heartbroken. It all depends were I feel like I'm at in a relationship. I think if it were agreed that we could sexually experiment with other people that I may try it myself. Again it's all about communication, it will make or break your relationship in the end. Even if your having a break, if you have any intention of getting back with this person in the end, you need to be open and clear with them from the start if you want it to end well for you both.
This should be discussed when it happens. I don’t believe in “breaks” from a relationship - if someone needs a break then we’re over and I’m done. I’m not going back so that is made extremely clear when a break is initiated. So in that situation of course it’s fine to sleep with someone else. But if you’re in a couple that is on and off, and the expectation is to definitely get back together then it should be discussed on whether or not sleeping with someone else is going to be taken as being unfaithful. It doesn’t really matter if you think it’s fine if your partner doesn’t, because in their eyes it’s broken and they’re entitled to that
A break can be whatever you want it to be. A crucial mistake Ross and Rachel made was that they didn’t discuss their expectations. Rachel expected that they would just take some time off to think about things. Ross thought they were *broken up* which is why he thought it was ok to sleep with someone else. Sleep or don’t sleep, that’s up to you. But you should definitely discuss it with your partner. Personally I’m more like Rachel, I wouldn’t want to sleep with someone else and I wouldn’t want my partner to do so either. We would take the time off to think about what we want and what we can do, and to later talk things through.
No. This of course depends on if you agree to sleep with other people.
But a break is usually 'We need a pauze from each other present so we can figure on our own where this is going and if we are ok with that'
It is a crucial situational point of a relationship, after a break you either end up breaking up or you move the relationship onto the next level.
If the guy sleep with someone else then for me that 'break' turns into a 'break up'. Its not like a break is going to last months, it is usually a matter of weeks
When someone wants to take a break, it usually means they want to try out things with someone else. I don't play the we should take a break thing, if my partner were to tell me they wanted to take a break.
I would interpret that as we are ending our relationship, so I am single again and free to date and have sex with whoever I chose.
From what I have seen of couples that take a break, they usually do not get back together. If they do, it is usually because the one that asked for the break. Things did not work out with the one they wanted to break to play with, and they are now trying to run back to the comfort zone security of their last relationship.
I have not seen one couple that know took a break from each other, stay together long after they got back together after a break. When someone asks for a break, they are not happy about something in that relationship. You do not fix a problem by running away from it, you stay and work to fix that problem.
By the way, what is a short break in you mind? 2 weeks, 4 weeks or longer. Because in a relationship, 4 weeks is a long time not be in contact with someone and to expect to take thing up from where you left them is not being realistic.
Did you make a promise to be monogamous to the other? Did you then break up and say "It's over!" or did you both release the other from your pledge of fidelity? What is the purpose of the "break?"
They could do that if they wanted but most people won't take them back after this happens and if they do take them back - they probably won't respect them anymore.
Please explain to me what a break consists of? Of course it's going to vary for people but I'd genuinely like to know what is the purpose of a break. I feel as though a break serves no real purpose as it is just an excuse of being tied to each other with out being with each other. You either work things out or you don't. If something is leading to a break is it not right to then just break up? And if you're on a "break" then I'd just like to believe you're still together just perhaps upset and not talking to each other or in a complication preventing you from being together happily. Which then just means break up anyways. Don't get me wrong, in no way am I saying it's easy and to end things rapidly. I just feel as though the two of you are not truly in love if something were to lead to a "break" because if you were then there would be no concept of a break and instead you'd be together whatever the situation at hand is, solving it together. Don't get me wrong, I don't know shit about what being in love is about but I would like to sincerely believe that being in love means that's your actual soulmate (I don't mean to be cliche but I'm dead serious) and that feeling you feel is probably undescribable but only understood by one another. Went off on a bit of a tangent there but point is I just don't understand the concept of a break. This isn't an attacking post but one of genuine confusion. Maybe you won't entirely get my point but it's only because I'd rather not write in full detail on a phone you know.
A break is a conpletely healthy, mature and considerate way to deal with a relationship that's on the cliff, it gives a chance to both people to figure out themselves, see what went wrong and better the situation, and it shows the strong will to do so, since the people didn't simply break up. Sometimes couples need time alone seperatety for the relationship to work out. For that is true love, when you refuse to give up on each other but fight for it.
If someone needs a "break", the relationship is over. Sorry, but anyone that can't stay and work through issues is not someone you want to ever be with since they cannot be trusted to stick by you. Yes, it also means they are single since your not a couple so they could sleep with anyone. But even if I agreed to a "break", which I would not, if they slept with anyone then that means they had no desire to stay with me and it is the same as cheating. Just like these people in the absurd "open" relationships. Open just means single.
i'm currently taking a break with my partner, normally I am one to not believe in them however I do believe this is necessary and I will make exceptions this one time because we both need it individually to work and improve ourselves. Anywho NO i would not as this isn't the reason why we are taking a break, if you want to sleep with other people its best to have a clean break UP and if you wish to get back together in the future then yes however I do not classify these things such as sleeping with someone else or finding other people to be apart of a break, Sounds silly.
There is no such thing as a break in any way other than in name. You are either dating or not dating, and neither person should hold expectations when a relationship is "put on hold" If you just need some time apart, discuss what that means. Otherwise you are simply leaving a relationship but finding yourself unable to cope with what that means. If you are "on break" then you are not dating, and if you are not dating you are not beholden to each other. If you still want the other person to be beholden to you, or vice versa, then it doesn't really constitute a break.
The thing with "breaks" is that they're unfair to the part that didn't request it. Why? Because a "break" is a way of manipulating the other person into a weird contradicting state of being and not being in a relationship while YOU sort your feelings.
So: does a break mean you can sleep woth someone else? Yes, a break from the relationship is a break from the relationship in every aspect not only the ones you want. Don't like it? Don't ask for a break or suck it up xD.
Would I be ok? Probably not, anf that's why I wouldn't ask for a break. Would I sleep with someone else? Probably not
The problem with things like this is that is it varies from person to person. If your partner thinks it's still cheating, it's still cheating. It won't matter how you see it. Some people get upset when their ex sleeps with someone new, even if they truly broke up. The worst part is, even if they tell you when you go on this break that it's ok to have some fun, they may not still feel that way if you actually do. Even if they don't say anything. And worst yet, sometimes it's just a test to see if you'll take any opportunity to sleep with someone else. It's like the "Hall Pass", where in theory, she's condoning it. But if you actually do it, she'll be mad at you.
Yes you can. The point of a break is to break up, but not be fully committed to the move. So you can test the waters and put off making a firm decision. It's stupid and kind of cowardly lol, but that's what it is in reality.
I wouldn't sleep with someone, when on a break because I'd just breakup. That's how I am about it. I remember an old ex of mine said we should go on a break. I just said, "yea, let's just skip that part and just break up. Because "breaks" are bullshit". She didn't like that answer, because I took the control from her in a way. She even messaged me a day or so later saying she doesn't think we should get back together, when I outright said, "let's break up" and left lol.
It is just cheating cause eventually a break up means they will be over. And be careful of those break ups cause you may end up getting pregnant if you are a woman and you are nto planning to become a mother. That is what happened with a coworker with anotehr coworker. They were an on/off couple and last year they were ona break and they got upset so they broke up. The lady went on and cheated with a friend that she know for some time and she got knocked up, unprotected and they were not even planning to have a baby or expected either.
If we 100% broke up and didn't go out for 10 months and she had sex with someone after dating them for 6 months and the other person was her boyfriend than I'd be ok with it and would be open to getting back together.
If we just took some time off to evaluate our feelings and took a few weeks off or a month off and she has sex with someone else than she'd be dead to me and I'd move on and break off all contact and there would be no way we'd ever get back together, it would be like an affair regardless of what semantic excuses were made.
Not really. If that's what you do when you take a break to 'figure things out', to me its just an excuse to get a free pass for cheating. If I wanted to do that, I'd prefer to cut the drama and get a clean break so I'm single again and can go be with whoever I wanna be.
If I genuinely want to take a break for 'space' or 'to figure out what I want', then thats genuinely the reason and I'm not gonna be looking for other people. I'd find that to be dishonest. If I want to be with other people then I already have my answer and don't need to figure things out or take a break, a breakup is needed and that's that.
And I'd expect the same from my partner.
This is all assuming two things: 1 - Its a monogamous exclusive relationship. and 2 - We didn't specify that it was ok to sleep with other people on the break, or we didn't even touch the topic.
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No you shouldn't sleep with someone when you are on a break. You are on a break not broken up. A break is when you need time to be alone and reflect on the relationship. It means you are still in a relationship with your partner just not currently doing couple stuff. This does not give you the right to sleep with someone, that would be cheating. If you want to sleep with someone else then why not just end the relationship and move on so you can sleep with whoever you want?
If I was on a break in a relationship, I wouldn't sleep with someone else. If I found out my partner slept with someone else while we were on break I would consider it cheating and end the relationship right there.
A break does not give you the right to sleep with someone else, it is still cheating.
I think that’s something you have to agree on beforehand.
Like if flirting or dates are ok or if sex is off limits etc
I personally think if you go on a break and don’t specify ahead of time then you shouldn’t. That way if you get back together there’s no regret or fighting etc.
Depends entirely on what you agree upon... If you don't say anything but that you're taking a break - it's on you... for not making the other person understand what you mean by 'a break'...
A lot of people make this mistake by thinking the other partner knows exactly what they mean just because they know each other. No one is a mind-reader. Either say it (put down some ground rules) or you don't have the right to complain - is my motto.
I don't understand the concept of a "break." You are either with someone or you aren't. A "break" just seems like a way of keeping a back-up while you search for something better. It's a cop out. It's the exact same thing as a break-up it just keeps one side emotionally invested. Which isn't fair if you've broken-up you do not have rights to their fidelity.
No obviously nope! (imo) Though it depends on how you agree, ik of many friends taking a break and actually having a breakup, because either of them sleeps with someone else even if they talked and decided not to, so...
I’d skip the break and just go my separate way... breaks are pointless, it’s like being married and saying “look need time out for a few weeks I’ve seen a hottie I’ve my eye on down the pub and will it be ok if we split up for 2 weeks max so I can sleep with mr/miss hottie?”
See how ridiculous that is? either split up or stay together there is no in between
I'm on Ross's side on this. They were on a break. Yes, it would hurt me, but she did ask for the break. He was hurting for so long.
Honestly, he didn't do it to hurt her. He did it because he was hurting so much.
Like Rachel!! C'mon... you ask the one guy that Ross is threatened by to come over? If that guy was never there, Ross would have never slept with that girl. I feel bad for Ross because he is a good guy.
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