Serial rebounders?

[Anonymous]

Have you guys seen this before?

The way I interpret it is when someone gets out of a long term relationship that hurt them deeply and quickly gets into another relationship. In this new relationship they move things along at a fast pace like they are filling a void. Then as some time goes by and the intensity/newness of the relationship starts to wear off and things begin to become more real they end that relationship. Then they get into another relationship quickly after that. It seems like they are just going from relationship to relationship trying to fill the void of their ex perhaps?

Why do you think that is? Is this insecurity and need for validation? It doesn’t seem healthy or sustainable and seems very dishonest with the person they are dating because it’s going to hurt them.

Does one rebound heal a person? Do they sometimes keep rebounding? How do they fix this? Do they need time to heal from that initial relationship?

[mornelinde]

Unfortunately i think that a rebound actually does help with "filling the void" as you said. Dulls the pain and loneliness.

[Asker]

Sadly I can see that but doesn’t the person have to deal with that initial hurt at some point? Especially if they were cheated on. Hopping into relationships doesn’t seem sustainable to build a long lasting relationship do you think?

[mornelinde]

No its not sustainable. They are essentially using that person to get over someone they loved... it almost never turns into a healthy new relationship.

[GreenGold1992]

I think it's an unhealthy pattern, but it's their choice.