Men, do you sincerely think that women over 30 are "undesirable"?

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Just wanted to get a scope of what society thinks. I was told by an ex that no one would ever marry me after I hit 30.

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

I feel like people only get better with age. I've heard people say those things before too.

I knew one guy who said he would never date any women over 25, that women stop being beautiful after that. But you know what, I feel bad for him that he has to be so superficial.

In the twenties, most people are still finding themselves. They are experimenting and learning lots of lessons. In your 30's and beyond most people have already gone through life enough to have some life experience.

This makes them better partners and more resilient.

Sure, some people have baggage and become old fuddy duddys. But most people are more interesting as they age.

Think about it, you have more stories to tell!

It's your ex's loss if he feels that way. But I bet when he is 50 and trying to date the young 20 somethings, he's going to feel like and old man. Either that or bored to tears because the young girls aren't going to be interested in the same things as him!

Plus people tend to laugh at those guys who think they are 20 when they aren't 20 anymore!

lumos · Accepted Answer

I feel like the men who consider women over 30 to be undesirable are not the men you should be spending any time and effort on anyway. They are way too shallow. Looks fade and we all age. I understand believing that someone who looks youthful looks good, but that doesn't automatically mean that anyone above 30 looks bad. There are plenty of 30+ people who still look good. One does not cancel out the other.
Your ex was a douchebag and the epitome of the kind of guy you should not date. There are plenty of guys out there who not only are capable of finding older women hot, but also understand and value a woman's personality and character to the point where looks isn't all they're looking for.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The likelihood of any child which you'd conceive, as a woman over the age of 30, having genetic disabilities or deformities, is heightened to such an extent that it's likelier than it is for a child conceived by a woman in her late teens as the product of incest with her second cousin, or with her first cousin once-removed. Genetically, biologically, it's indisputably undesirable. "The Wall" is real. And neither the increasing feminization of society nor the fetishization of 'mature women' (eg, MILFs) is going to bring that wall crashing down, any more than a push to fully legalize incest and make it socially acceptable would resolve the issue of inbreeding. That's just reality.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Two months ago, I briefly dated a woman who is 78 years old. She does not look like she is 78. She looks like she is 58 and I DEFINITELY had the hots for her!

MrOracle · Answer

I don't think anyone said that women over 30 were undesirable - merely that women in their 20s - early 20s in particular - are the most PHYSICALLY attractive to adult men of all ages. Attractiveness is not strictly physical, though, and many other things about older women make them attractive for older men.

Also, just because older women aren't usually AS physically attractive as women in their 20 doesn't mean that they aren't physically attractive. It's not a Disney movie where women turn into pumpkins on their 30th birthday.

If raw physical attraction was the ONLY criteria for choosing a relationship partner, then women would have some cause to worry - but that's just not how it works.

Apope16 · Answer

When I was 27 I dated a woman that was 34 years old for 2 years. That made her 7 years older than me. By the time the relationship ended I was 29 and she was 36 years old. That was my last ex.

Currently I am 30 years old and dating a woman who is 31 years old. Things are going wonderfully.

I find women who are in their 30s more attractive than the 20 year old because they are sexually more confident and also more experienced in bed. They also are intellectual and more mature people to talk to whom I can relate to.

As far as attraction on a pure sexual level. I am willing to have sex with many different ages of women. If you are sexy you are sexy regardless of age.

Logorithim · Answer

Even in my early 20s, I thought women reached their peak in their 30s (I still do). Your ex is very incorrect.

0112358 · Answer

There's no sudden wall in terms of attractiveness.

Generally both men and women are in a downward slide in terms of physical attractiveness, women from their early 20's on, men from probably late 20's on. That may be somewhat offset by other factors both physical (if you personally are in better shape at 35 than 25, you might be better looking, but the average person isn't) and other things that make you more attractive to partners (becoming more outgoing, a better partner, more sexually open, whatever).

So being over 30 doesn't magically mean you've dropped in attractiveness.

Now, there IS a bit of an issue with some guys who are nervous dating women in their early 30s. The reason for that is they -perceive- women in that age range either want to get serious fast, or not at all. And... that's not entirely wrong, and women who want that are not misguided. Guys who are ready to potentially settle down don't mind, but guys who just want something casual may aim younger to get women who aren't on a timetable. If you want something serious, you're not losing out avoiding those guys, but if you want something light, you may need to drop hints you're not in 'husband hunting mode' (and there's nothing wrong with BEING in husband hunting mode either, if you are)

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I'd simply be contemplating the meaning of this question and meanings behind it.

Did the ex say that to get you to doubt yourself and settle for him? Basically, "nobody but me will accept you, so just accept me." To that reasoning, you won't have a problem finding dick... you're not a dude and that's a dude problem, especially if they are out of shape. An out of shape woman on the other hand... what can I say, gynocentrism maybe... but she won't have any issues finding dicks to phuck assholes and pussies.

Now with all that said... beggars can't be choosers. Most dudes that don't have resources or looks on their side... beggars. For those that have choices though, yeah, they're not going to settle for some aging woman that probably has a myriad of issues she still isn't going to face until her 60's. They're buff and have their own money... women want to have sex with them just from the looks alone... why would they bother with older women at all unless she was giving him excessive amounts of money?

... and there you have it, men and women aren't all that different after all. Options are given to us based off value. Our physical healthiness for reproduction or resources are the real things of value to another.

Basically settle for something or else the ex is pretty much right. You could workout and offer a free ride and get a man... but let's be real, you're a woman. That is usually a male strategy. You'll probably settle for whatever you can still seduce into a settlement.

Timetellsu · Answer

Me personally I'm very straightforward, love is a very strong word. Now I always start any relationship off as a friendship because in the end your wife will be your best friend. I've dated many single mothers, the one thing isnn I have though as I'm not a homewrecker. So the woman has to be honest from the start and she's definitely a hundred percent divorced and not just be separated. The other thing is depending on the children I don't mind being the man figure in the house when I come over but I would never want to take the role of ever saying I'm their father. I would just be their mother's friend in the beginning. With hanging out and seeing her children. We can play videos and board games or what have you. There's nothing wrong with single parents over 50% of the population divorce so it's nothing new. Oh yeah and the tough question I've been in love 3 * one relationship over a year another 6 years another 2 years that's why I don't jump into relationships anymore. If it's meant to be it'll just happened overtime. One to three months

nightdrot · Answer

Age does not matter. Back in my early 20s I had a relationship with a woman in her early 60s.

To me, a wet behind the ears kid, she seemed incredibly sophisticated. She looked younger, was incredibly funny and the sex was fantastic. (Plus, no danger of pregnancy, so it got really uninhibited.)

It did not last because of the age difference. Ultimately I knew I wanted children - though I had a long (and bumpy) road ahead of me before I got to that - and honestly, she probably was getting bored with me. Still, I look back on it with nothing but good thoughts.

If I had assumed no one over 30, I would have missed that. Yes, she has to be physically attractive - and it so happened that she looked (to me at least) a bit younger than her age - but from a purely crass perspective, an unattractive 20 years old is no different than an unattractive 50 year old.

So, in that sense, age is irrelevant.

TimCL · Answer

here's a cliché that I believe is true... "Age is just a number".
The length of a year is something we humans invented to measure time. Being 30 years old is just label, the same as being labelled as a 21 year old. Age doesn't stand in the way of what people are attracted to. I believe, if it feels right, then what difference does age make? The only issue someone could have is the shortage of singe people at that age.
The more time that passes by, the more people of your generation settle down, resulting in less singles in the same age group... but not to worry "Age is Just a Number"!!

TripleAce · Answer

Well yes... women do lose significant dating worth past 30...
I've personally seen women in their 20's go for what they want... it doesn't work out then... then during their 30's I see them significantly drop their standards...
Significantly though lol... some were like I don't want a short man
I see her marrying a short guy now LOL

some say no bald men... yup she's marrying a bald man now hahah

men age like wine, we just tend to get sexier and more attractive to women... women age like milk..
truth hahah

OvershareGamer · Answer

Unfortunately yes. the issue that a lot of guys have with being dating women past 30 is they often are, how do I put this... "tired in personality". Often they are set in their ways, closed minded, etc.

One thing that is really noticable is if you are scrolling through dating profiles women will put random stuff like "I like hiking and jogging" but often 30+ women will not even try to be nice. It's not uncommon to have intro sentences that are something like "If ya don't like kids, I got some so move along!!"

Heynashville · Answer

They're wrong. I'm a nearly 26 year old female, so yes under 30. But within the past 4 years, I know of 3 different women over 30 who got married. One was 42, one 35 and the other is somewhere between 35-40. Its not impossible by any means. Shit, my mom had been divorced 3 times, with 4 children, married my stepdad when she was 32 and he was 27. Everyone said she would never find love with that much baggage. She did, they've been together 16 years.
Those men are out there. Especially now days, 20 years ago the normal marriage age was 16-18. It is currently for 2017 26-28.

Sinister · Answer

I think it depends on the person, how they treat themselves & their bodies. Some don't take care of themselves & just let go while others do almost to an insane extent. I do know that for me personally, I follow the plus or minus 5yrs rule & for the most part it works out a lot. There's more than enough experience to go around, learn "new" things while teaching old school tricks. (shrugs) Some people think about things like this too much and forget that sometimes its just easier to go with the flow and not be such a stick in the mud.

djmzes · Answer

You did not put it in context.

No one will like a women who hit the 30 and have sleep around until 30. The reality of things most women are " sluts" and when they were teenagers they though life is just for fun, but after becoming adult, they changed and realised how they are fucked up cuz no one will marry them.

So that is answer based on context.
But if u r ok and respectable, then maybe you are following society rules like guys should be the first one instead of you going for what you want.

UnknownXYZ · Answer

"Just wanted to get a scope of what society thinks." I assume you want American opinions right? Anyway, do you sincerely think that there are little to no women over 30 finding love and obtaining good relationships?

GoodManDave · Answer

Not really. At least... not me.

I had several bad experiences with older women... (we'll say more like "older girls in their late thirties and mid forties") who kind of got me swearing off dating women in their late 30's, early 40's. Sort of.

Of course, there have been a lot of desirable women in their 30's and 40's... and some who stayed that way.

I might go younger (20's or early 30's) just as a thing, partly because of where I am in life, estimating where I will be in years, etc.

I suppose it all depends on the person more than the age, though with a lot of guys, age is a huge part of it (perhaps even more than maturity level, which is what I tend to look at among things like personality).

Anonymous · Answer

No I generally go for women in their twenties like me but one in their thirties can be sexy as fuck, like, I don't normally find celebrities more attractive than the women I know in real life or follow online but 30 hit Jennifer Anniston like a falling feather. I've dated a woman who was actually more than double my age & had more fun than I did with the 18 year old I was with prior.

Age really, to me, is just a number. It does not arbitrate attractiveness, though it does effect relationship dynamics & dating prospects. Like I remember I had less of a pick of the litter in junior high cause the girls always went for high schoolers.

starstar18 · Answer

He lied. You are BETTER THAN THAT!! don’t believe what he told you. He is an ex for a reason and sometimes they will say anything just to hurt you to help their ego, knowing they got some kind of revenge.
You are desirable... if someone does not like you for you... drop them... that’s just my 2 cents.

Xasildo · Answer

Your ex is an ass and also wrong. People can find love at any time in their lives and there's no age when you lose the chance to have that.
Your ex is trying to manipulate you to lower your self esteem and I hope that you don't lose hope that you'll find the right person.

Barrabus_the_Free · Answer

Actually, it's after about 28, generally.

But The Wall can have his way with a woman earlier than that. It depends on how much partying she's done. Alcohol, drugs, and a bunch of strange cock will age women badly. I've known a few teens that looked like they were in their late 20's.

Anonymous · Answer

A guy may be reluctant if he wants to start a family but if he already has kids or doesn't want any kids, or just wants a non serious relationship then a woman who is in her 30's is just a number. Several years ago I wasn't looking to start a family and ended up in a relationship with a woman who at the time was 38. She was one sexy mama, but now that I'm getting to the point where I want to have kids and start a family then I am starting to look towards woman around my own age. Which is under 30. But a woman who is 30,31,32 isn't too far off so. . . overall, no i don't think men find woman undesirable after 30.

Anonymous · Answer

Women over 30? I could only imagine how high the body count would be by then...

I'm in my 40's, and I get interest from women aged 19-40+. I'm not looking for a relationship, but most of the 30+ women had a lot of baggage, ex's, and very high body counts. Most girls in their 20's had nothing to say, but I met one that was very mature for her age and we could talk for days... I still prefer to be single though.

I think it's more that a woman of 30 is competing with younger women, and for the most part, it's just not possible to compete.

At the moment a 24 year old cute Asian girl is interested, she's single, has no kids, and no baggage. There is also a 31 year old Asian woman interested but she has 2 kids from an ex, and baggage.

When I was 20, I had less interest overall from all women.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 22 and I already find women over 30 really desirable. Older women have the experience going for them, many have a stable life and some of them a family. It's the number one choice for many younger males who want a peaceful romance. When we grow older many men will start being into younger girls, because we are biologically programmed to find fertility and youth attractive (the "find a mate and reproduce" process that keeps humanity alive), but it's far from a generallity and it doesn't mean no one of your age will want to marry you once you're 30.
Don't believe your ex's trashtalk.

Anonymous · Answer

No, women over 30 are not undesirable. They are just less desirable and have significantly less power in the dating game. Men mature more slowly than women, but by the time they reach their 30s they are mature and more established in heir careers. If they are still single at that point they are super desirable to younger women, and those men tend to be attracted to those younger women too.

Basically, in the 20s women have all the power, but those tables totally turn in the 30s. Women are wise to marry in their 20s and men are wise to wait until their 30s.

NerdInDenial · Answer

There’s a thing called the wall for women. Unfortunately, as women age, their sexual market value decreases. Two reasons: one you don’t have many eggs left and two your physical appearance fades as well. Meanwhile men become richer and more sophisticated and they can find someone younger and more attractive.

jsdfreedom · Answer

I'd prefer it, actually. Most women I know in their 30's are very kind, very polite, loyal, hardworking, smart, and honest.
I know far too many women in their 20's who are very selfish, demanding, entitled, arrogant, and lazy.

devilman666 · Answer

Men will sleep with a woman after 30, but your chances of finding a single attractive man your age will be hard, and even harder to find a man who wants to be with you. You lose a lot of sexual power as you age, men don't want to work as hard for older women as they do for younger women.

theharlequin · Answer

Arguably, women reach their peak desirability in their early 30's because that's their fertility peak. At least with women who are already desirable.

That said, unmarried women in their 30's are usually not taken too seriously because if they were desirable or quality women, they'd have long since been married. There are exceptions, but it's generally the case that there's a reason they're not already taken.

hahahmm · Answer

I find women who have had a kid and 30s+ more desirable looking than the 20s look. The way a woman’s body fills out is nice to me. Assuming she takes some care of herself.

The younger look just looks too young to me usually. I also thought this when I was 30s

GuyTheGemini · Answer

It seems like your boyfriend made you think your undesirable and your asking this because your 30, and. You want 25 to 29 year olds to answear must mean your ex was younger than you. the term milf doesn't apply to 20 year olds lol a lot of guys like older women. I even would rather date a girl older than me.

VegetaSSB · Answer

Women over 30 can be more desirable than women in their 20 and one of the reasons is that more 30 years old women are less worried if you have 6 fucking bumps in the middle of your body, but also much less of not wanting to do certain things and they are generally more mature, so the relationship can be smoother.

10dsw · Answer

That's not necessarily true but... it is kind of true. Lots of women get married after their 30s but the reality is that they just don't have the same options as a woman in her 20s.

A woman in her 30s just is maybe 40% as physically attractive as a woman in her 20s. Couple that with kids, depression, divorce and most guys are like "nahhh"

WalterRadio · Answer

I wouldn't say no one would marry you. There is always someone.

Women go downhill fast over 30. Some Asian women might last until 40.

Available women over 30 tend to be bitchy, overweight, not so attractive, or have a problem.

There are some very sweet, nice looking women over 30, but they are ALWAYS happily married.

And my girlfriend is 21.

Kkaos · Answer

Older women will never be able to compete with younger women in the looks department, which is what plays the largest role in female sexual attractiveness.

There's a reason why the female modelling careers starts to deteriorate after hitting 30.

kevinNL90 · Answer

Not perse the experience is it.. it is for me the development in behaviour and way of thinking is more mature then younger ladies. Dare is higher and most young ladies dont dare much and gives me a bad feeling bcs it ain't a mutual action.. at least so feels it.

Obfuscate · Answer

honestly? sure, i like the idea of someone in their 20's more... sure i do... that said anyone who's bullshit is mutually tolerable and genuinely loves me is all i want... 20-40(ish) seems like an okay range right now...

i think that there is merit in the idea that a person has a shelf life for desirability, but it is horeshit to treat people like commodities...

aaroncardenali · Answer

Certainly, a girl is more desirable the younger she is. But that does not mean older girls are not desirable. I have seen 50plus girls that are hott as hell, but they tend to be bitches and selfish, divorced, and independent women.

Not sure why they take this path, but it seems lonely to me. I am sad about that.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

Do women who are in their 30's only go after guys who find them undesirable. I don't find any age "better" than any other. I judge a woman by her intelligence. Now I'm not saying I do not require any physical characteristics cuz I do. A mind is just as important...😁😎

FemWorship · Answer

20's were satisfying and experimental since they were do curious & try anything once, naturally slim but some not yet body blossomed
but
30-40s brings bedroom wisdom, exotic hedonistic adventures and what it takes to please a man with a body now built for the E-ticket rides
or course, many expect more in the presex dating scene such as dancing, fine dining, et al.

Bklynoor · Answer

30s too hold for me... at age 50 she becomes grandma.. 50-30=20 (so I could only enjoy her for 10 years until she hits age 40s & loses total beauty for making enough love & sex in life of a man) I'd rather marry someone in 20s, so that I can enjoy her youth for very long (20+ years) till we both age together!

JSmith925 · Answer

Horse manure. When I was 22, I dated a woman who was 34. I found her attractive. Your ex will say anything to try to cut you down to his size. Don't fall for it. ~JSmith

JimRSmith · Answer

Absolutely, they are desirable.  I had this precise conversation with a friend of mine on here recently. Fuck knows who thought up this myth.

Jmcmanning · Answer

I am nearly 42 and I have just as many men try to get to know me, hook up with me and whatever else may be on their agenda. It has nothing to do with your age, it's your confidence, looks and personality that attracts

Anonymous · Answer

In this hook up culture, many men think that oder women had dozens and dozens of men (not very appealing for some men). Also.. Older women seem not have respect to younger men. Like:"i already had so much experience. Dont dare to rule me. I dont need you at all. So you do as i say or its over and you dont get any sex" i am 22 and find older women attractive, but.., ehm i better dont write more.. or i get mad. I just had a bad experience (without sex) feel free to reply

Anonymous · Answer

90% are fuck and dumps cause they are just to damaged for a relationship. It is so much easier to find a good woman after 30 if you wait to have sex till your married and say that on your dating profile or to them. That gets rid of so man girls that are just a waste of time and are not marriage material.

Anonymous · Answer

Ummm... All my friends who got married in their 20s are divorced! So what is the point?
I think getting married in your 30s is better. You are young enough to enjoy everything you enjoyed in your 20s but you are old enough to be wiser than when you were in your 20s. So what is the rush?
If anyone tries to convince you otherwise just ignore them and do your thing. We all age so whoever is trying to make you feel bad about it is going through the same process of aging.

RationalMale · Answer

Big problem is that so many women don't put much effort into their looks at any age. So after 30 when they are fighting nature+their bad habits, they really aren't attractive looking. But if you're working out, keeping your hair long, taking care of your looks--then no, 30 is not the end.

Your other main problem is that a 32 year old guy might want to date a 30 year old woman... oooor he might be feeling like he'd rather get a 24 or 25 year old if he is indeed a catch.

JSmuve · Answer

There's a lot of women that are undesirable in their 20s and 30s. Just as long as you take care of yourself, don't let yourself go, and don't go all fucked in the head, then guys should still be willing to do date you. However, for some women, this is definitely not possible and it shows, which is why 20 somethings are more desirable, at least up to a certain age.

Anonymous · Answer

I thought they said older ladies would be more "experienced" in many areas in life? Don't see what the problem is. Whoever said they are undesirable is just probably making up some bullshit or maybe it has something to do with their own cultural beliefs, or their customs and traditions.

Anonymous · Answer

Your ex is just trying to get to you. Also guys getting close to 30 would probably prefer marrying a girl in her 30’s than marrying a 21 year old. Can you tell me your opinion on my question?

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve only rarely been attracted to women that are more than a year or two older than myself. When I was a teenager, I didn’t even notice women over 30. Fast forward a couple decades. Now that I’m in my late 30’s and divorced, I’m open to the idea of dating a woman in her early to mid 30’s. Eventually, I would like to get remarried if I find the right person.

NeallyNeal · Answer

The only difference that i see with a older women than a younger one is the fact that sex is not a big issue for them. So older women are sexier in my opinion because they are more mature about life period. But when it comes to looks and natual tightness (body and face)... Young will always win. Just so you know.. i perfer older older women's.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

We *prefer* younger than ourselves usually, but that doesn't mean we wouldn't like ever consider or check out girls that are older. The main issue is almost never her physical age-- it's usually that she has kids, since she's older. And that's a no for me.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Undesirable? certainly not. Most women I've been with were older than me and yes over 30.
But marrying them was something I didn't even imagine.
Why would a man marry you after your 30's when there are plenty of fresh young chicks willing to marry in a young age?
Yes, you can still find a man. Chances are he will be someone thirsty and desperate which will never make you happy. Or he will be some rich guy and you will marry him for his money.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

20s, 30s, 40s... doesn’t matter. Most women in the 30s are much more experienced and have their shit together by then, than women in there 20s. I’d rather be with an older women who knows what she wants, keeps herself looking right, and has her shit together. Than sacrifice for a 20 something that is depending on a man to take care of them...

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like women over 30,

Most the time they screwed around too much, partied, acted stupid, treated their good guy like crap, left him, didn't pursue their dream...

Most women want babies and marriage by the time they are 30.

Which if they don't, that's perfectly fine, nothing wrong with partying if that's what you want to do...

But girls that actually do want that family, and they are 30 get more desperate and more problems come out

Anonymous · Answer

It's not that they're "undesirable." It's just that girls in their 20s have SOOO much going for them. They're younger and therefore generally hotter. They have an incredible energy about them. They're less jaded and cynical and more spontaneous and fun. And of course, they'll have less relationship baggage and less urgency to immediately lock down a man and start a family. Basically pretty much everything about dating a girl in her mid-20s is more fun than dating the same girl in her 30s.

3timesaday · Answer

Women in there 20s are way more desirable then women in there 30’s. Women’s looks depreciate very quickly and most women ride the cock and run out of time quickly when they should be looking for a good mate. Men’s desierablity goes up In life with statues and can land young women even when they are older that’s why men when the dating game. sexual liberation for women is screwing them later in life.

NiceOrHonest · Answer

I do not care for her age but i would rather not have one with kids yet which obviously is more likely with older girls/woman not because i hate kids but i just don't want them yet and am not even sure if i ever wan't them.

MeganForreal · Answer

I find this question to be offensive, so all men regardless of age want a 20 yr olds? i dont believe that n if so its probably for sex and not a relationship. Women usually hit their prime in their 30s.. whoever told you this coulsnt be that old

Kaneki05 · Answer

Nah this is wrong of course you be able to get someone at 30 if i was 25 or higer i would denfintaly go with 30. Also your age don't matter that much if you got a great personaitly. And looks also help

Men, do you sincerely think that women over 30 are "undesirable"?

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