If you’re on a first date and she doesn’t offer to pay, are you turned off? (Page 2)

Question

Would you date her again?

SigmundFreud · Answer

I thought feminism was all about equality? Logical inconsistency turns men off almost across the board. My wife and I both pay, and we both hate feminist ideology (why she was even a candidate for marriage in my mind).

Ayer93 · Answer

Yes. I make it a rule for myself if she doesn't offer to pay her bill the first date to not have another.

Pistachio0690 · Answer

If i asked her on the date, I'm paying. It's not a turn off if she doesn't offer

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

You asked two questions. 1. If you’re on a first date and she doesn’t offer to pay, are you turned off? 2. Would you date her again? Which is the poll for?

JSmuve · Answer

I don't mind. I do take notice but don't dwell on it. If its habitual and she doesn't show her appreciation in other ways then maybe that's a red flag.

Partywithtom · Answer

My rule is whomever asks the other out pays. If I ask her I'd pay. If she insisted on paying her portion I'll fight briefly but will give in if she really wants to pay.

mountainbeari · Answer

Yes I think I would if I was attracted to her but I may be troubled thoughtful and aware this could be a general pattern a mentality.

But it's not an outright red line. Overall I am prepared to be masterful on occasion but don't want to be used.

musical_kittycat · Answer

Agh! I clicked yes accidentally. I meant no. Sorry!

crazy8000 · Answer

Most likely not! If she doesn't offer on her own to pay her part she gives signals that she most likely are a user that tries to ride on others.

LesterJester · Answer

It depends on whether you mean she pays her half or pays for both.

Udbhav_Bantwal · Answer

It wouldn't be a turn off for me if she doesn't pay but if she does it shows a couple of traits that I would like to see in a woman...

MRDLEEE · Answer

Guys should expect to pay in americas culture and if she offers half I have no problem.. Gold diggers are out their so buyer beware... Choose your girl carefully

Aynsof · Answer

I would prefer each paying their own or if not that the one who asked the other out should It wouldn't by itself make me uninterested at least not for just the first date

Peopleschamp · Answer

I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't offer. If anything she's expecting ME to offer

Nivinxus · Answer

Well if I asked her out, not really turned off. If she asked me out, then yeah, a bit miffed.

wolecollner · Answer

You worded this question so poorly... I would not be turned off and I would go in a second date

jdrrichmond · Answer

I'm old fashioned in that way. I like to pay, open doors, etc.

ShadowGamer · Answer

Tbh neither would need to pay cause it would be a home cooked meal. She could pay me back in kind by cooking for the 2nd or by helping to prepare an cook the first would be a great excuse to talk about allergies which don't usually come up.

GingerGuy · Answer

She would definitely impresses me if she offered. At least to pay for her own meal.

Anonymous · Answer

If a man doesn't pay he hasn't been raised right - and if a woman doesn't offer to pay she hasn't been raised right either. So no, I won't see her again.

rhody · Answer

No, I always pay. Gentlemen rules unless she fights me over the bill.

Just_Me89 · Answer

I think it's common courtesy for both parties to offer to pay , simply expecting the other person to do it is just plain rude.

TheShyPrep · Answer

Who the fuck would be turned off by that. Men are SUPPOSED to pay, what would I expect her to try and pay?

comeonalready · Answer

No, I wouldn't be turned off. Yes, I'd be open to another date. Hard to answer 2 questions with 1 click lol

Steve37 · Answer

I wouldn't expect her to offer to pay on a date with me.

Demised · Answer

It really depends. Guys nowadays r being used as c. c by gals so ill b careful. Lot ov g. d out thr dude 😊

j-squiggz · Answer

I would date her again. JSYK the way you asked that question, it's not clear if the yes answer mean yes I'm turned off or yes I would date her again, so I put depends

andylds · Answer

It's about offering and if she has been good company, or just in it for a free meal, it's not polite to just assume it's about the offer not just take it for granted

thesextking · Answer

Well it's our first date and if we till now haven't decided the relationship so I think we both should share the pay. But it will not be a turn off is she didn't ask for.

robertsb97 · Answer

I would date her again because i dont let my now girlfriend pay for me anyway, i dont take handouts. Im actually turned off if they do offer to pay for me because it means that she is a bit too dominant for my liking

lifeguard65 · Answer

It's a given to pay for a meal on a first date or split the bill,, circumstances and how the date went could impact the outcome, but I'd gladly pay and date again especially if there's some elusive spark!!

1getiton234 · Answer

Depends who asked who out. If I ask a woman out I'm prepared to pay. Now if a woman asks me to go eat with her. If I can't afford to go out I don't go out.
Give up expectations!!
That doesn't mean lowering your own standard's.

datgirl · Answer

I always offer to pay for my self. Never works though lmao. Only one guy didn't pay for me but the 2nd time we went out he paid for everything.

byusuri · Answer

ON a first date, I always hope she offers to pay. If she doesn't, it's not a deal breaker. If we hit it off, another date will happen.

naraku · Answer

I think it's fine for her not to pay. I would see her again if we got along well, not because of a few dollars and who paid.

cancan73 · Answer

I would expect to pay for her but I'm old and have money, I wouldn't be offended if she insisted on paying her way though

TheFlak38 · Answer

No because usually I am the one to ask for the first date. It is reasonable that I should pay for it.

ForreyGump6 · Answer

I know the times have changed, but it’s always been a gentleman like thing to do. Even if it’s a bad date. We pick up the check. So, if they offer, great. If not, no harm no foul.

Jandrews531 · Answer

Its not so much whether she pays for herself, but if I enjoyed my time with her. If I had a good time, then its money well spent. If not, then I learned that she isn't someone I should be dating.

AynonOMouse · Answer

I wouldn't date her again if she expected me to pay. And I'd only pay my half and leave.

gabbay18 · Answer

Really depends on her attitude. I take a girl on a date planning on paying

Liisjak · Answer

I'm paying, but if she doesn't offer... there's no 2nd date.

Juxtapose · Answer

It's an incredible turn off and I will not date gold diggers.

alexjohn · Answer

Well on everydate it's man duty to pay his girlfriend debt

Curious_about · Answer

I would pay for the 1st diner and 2nd and 3rd if I feel she is worth it. If not I would only pay for the 1st as there will be no second date anyway.

Ceico · Answer

she does not have to offer to pay. but if she overdid the orders, she has to expect she might be asked to stand up for her bill...

PolitesaurusPecs · Answer

I almost always make significantly more money than my dates, so I pay. No worries.

BillyB4 · Answer

Not necessarily because I would expect that I’d be paying

Rhys_r15 · Answer

It's a turn off, just makes them seem entitled. I don't like it personally.

zagor · Answer

No. I don't do expensive first dates anyway, so it wouldn't matter to me.

Adem1011 · Answer

Personally I always offer to pay weather the girl likes it or not before she even gets a chance to. I just feel it if more polite.

StickStickity13 · Answer

It's the entitlement that's a massive turn off, not necessarily paying for her.

rahul_24 · Answer

On the first date prolly not, after few dates maybe

EJ420 · Answer

I would never let my date pay whether first, second, or any time.

TallAnon · Answer

I always offer to pay, but usually they don't let me

LordVarys · Answer

If a girl doesn't pay it usually means their submissive or are just out for a free feed.

JohnBrand · Answer

I feel like men are mostly obligated to pay for dates and such but I agree it's a huge turn on if she pays or pays for her part.

ZANI1 · Answer

Depends whether I asked her out vs if she's the one who suggested the date.

nutboi17 · Answer

It's just usual for guys to pay so if I liked her of course I would try to date her again

Beerussama · Answer

Because I myself carry money if I go on date because anything could be happened

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