Should I be with a guy who's too traditional and conservative? (Page 2)

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Hello everyone! So, my boyfriend and I (I'm 23, he's 29, in a relationship for half a year) have very different views on some things. He is very traditional and conservative when it comes to relationships (housewife and breadwinner roles of a woman and a man). He won't feel like doing any house chors as it's not a mans job. He believes man are intelectually superior to women and can't stand feminists (I am not a feminist myself, but I am pro-equality). He wants to get married and have kids very soon, while I don't feel ready. But he believes he can change me into wanting that too. Does this look like an acceptable way to think to you? Also, he's being overly sweet and cheesy to me (he would say "I love you" and very cheesy lines at least 10 times a day). This is a turn-off for me and 1 time a day saying or showing the love would be enough for me. More is something that makes me feel nauses, like I've eaten too much sugar. We did discuss this, but again - he feels like he can change me into being more "expressive". Matter of the fact is, I am not sure now whether this relationship can work or no, because I don't feel attracted to him since he's too traditional per my taste. Things that I like about him is that he always pays attention, very carring, always is ready to talk and listen. He is a very sweet guy, but I can't help but see him being overly sweet and clingy. Also, I don't find him to be very confident either (another turn-off). Am I being too critical and should keep on having this relationship or there is no potential? Maybe someone has or had same or similar experience, I'd love to listen to your opinions!

Slim57 · Answer

You've literally got the most perfect man that most women say they want other than the traditional thing but if that's how you feel about his views and his "over affection" you should break it off

Nishant9027 · Answer

Leave him You are having doubts Doubts are poison As you are considering your option You will find someone else It is better for both of you

Meta_4 · Answer

I don't believe the superior thing but I can tell you one thing. I cannot stand femenists because that is a twisted opinion not equality. Sounds like you two are vastly different.

Renvate · Answer

Long story short - it's not a match. Never hurts to try though, i dated a non match for a few months, learnt a lot and still remain friends. But it didn't work

mactallica · Answer

Key word "too" implying too much, so if he won't bend for you as much as you would for him or more find your self a better man.

Beavis901 · Answer

I can tell you this he probably won't change. So if your unhappy with things the way they are not it more than likely won't get much better

YukikoEx · Answer

I would totally break up. He sounds way too close minded in my opinion. Like imagine this: You come home from a very long day at work. What is the first thing he would do? Exactly, ask you to cook even tho you are totally tired.

AxlBogdan · Answer

You found the perfect dude. Do you wish for a progressive gat hipster vegan who sends you photos with guys banging his ass or a real person?

jaidee · Answer

If the gap is too large between your views, I'm afraid it cannot work long term.

boggboss · Answer

Seems like u 2 are too differnt for a relationship too work but this seems obvious lol

inmensus · Answer

Sounds like you already have your answer... I personally would never date someone like that. He's not only conservative, he's also controlling and manipulative. Run.

BornFree · Answer

You should leave, he is a controlling monster who thinks he's own women

Carpenter · Answer

Ur not matching together and it would be worst after married so better u broke up with him

MindTime · Answer

If you want to continue you'll likely be expected to conform to his way of thinking- if you don't want to, you may want to look elsewhere

mkk582 · Answer

If you are accepting him on his situation right now and you agree to live with it go a head & be with him but do not hope to change someone that you want. If he changed its a plus point if not so you have to make your own decisions

suffaru7 · Answer

Well u need to discuss with ur partner about ur needs and tell him about the frequent word of affirmation.. and slowly let him understand that having a family means shared chores.. not simply I do all the female things lol

joiejoie · Answer

Hi. What did you like about him? I guess if you still love him talk things out.

Anonymous · Answer

It is of course your decision, but I would not want to live with that. I don't like that he is trying to change you.

Aquarius1977 · Answer

He sounds like a good guy and maybe its not that he thinks men are superior to women maybe he just doesn't like the extreme types of feminists out there.

Anonymous · Answer

If thats not how you wanna live, he's probably not gonna compromise. (Btw feminism is pro equality)

weirdo123 · Answer

It's very hard to live with that kind of persons. I don't know, it's on you. You know your feelings

Curious_about · Answer

I think you answered yourself more or less in what you wrote.  Of course you're not a match and I guess you've already noticed that yourself

flash8t8 · Answer

From the sounds of it you're getting very little from this relationship. It's doing none of you a favour to prolong your dissatisfaction and his ignorance

JackPaulson · Answer

If you don't like him, don't date him. As much as he would prefer otherwise women have choice in this too.

HeyThere94 · Answer

You should leave him, he will use you to make tons of babies and treat you like a housemaid

name_is_eric · Answer

If you feel like you're not ready, then don't do it. You shouldn't force yourself.

PolitesaurusPecs · Answer

You are way too different. End it immediately. Next question.

the_sinner · Answer

You've gotta follow your own views He doesn't control you

Nuray · Answer

He have accept you, without trying to change you.. I think that it is a toxic relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you plan to leave him anyway. You are getting bored and he sounds lack of challenge. But don’t come complaining to us when other guys start treating you like shit.

Anonymous · Answer

I think if you are happy in the relationship it's fine but if you aren't it'll need to end especially if he tries to manipulate you in any way or force you into something you don't want to do.

rakshabhi · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

It won't work out. You don't deserve him. The best thing you can do is set him free to find a decent woman.

aialex · Answer

I'm surprised you're still with him.

Anonymous · Answer

If you're not attracted to him, walk away. Better to break it off now.

Reach500 · Answer

I think your and his views are too different

justabadassgirl · Answer

If he's too conservative eh...

winterfox10 · Answer

You're gut is telling you no, so why force it?

Pizza_lover159 · Answer

I dont think you two can work... just break up.

parutha · Answer

Be with a guy who is similar to you.

LadyAvon · Answer

No way. Find someone who respects you.

Adam_INTJ · Answer

Break up. He's too good for you.

Merely · Answer

Traditional is the best way.

CaseyBlack · Answer

Do you want to change?

LuWe22 · Answer

I would say your views are too differnt

ModernGuy · Answer

End it, he's a sexist religious moron

Giaus · Answer

Leave him

YouCantTouchThis · Answer

Is that William Holden?

MarketData · Answer

He's a loser, dump him.

Demand · Answer

I think you should find you another boyfriend.

NickDk · Answer

You should break up with him as soon as possible.

Ajoot · Answer

One word.. dump him !!

tommy03 · Answer

In my opinion you should leave him

dhgarg01 · Answer

I think yes, they are more loyal

hillan · Answer

That's not right men and women are same ...

Disiman · Answer

It shouldn't matter to her, man.

hert25 · Answer

Make him a better person

Jennygirl00 · Answer

Your chouce

elizabeta · Answer

If you like it

MisterSir · Answer

if you want

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