Should I be with a guy who's too traditional and conservative? (Page 2)
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You’ve answered your own question: you’re no longer attracted to him, and you don’t like how traditional and conservative he is.
Even he doesn’t love *you* because he wants to change you.
This relationship has no legs, and you should end it.
This is not really of my business, but you shouldn't marry someone that wants you to change in so many ways. You should find someone who loves you the way you are, someone who is able to help you in all the daily tasks. Someone that doesn't force you doing things you don't want.
But as I said, it not of my business
If you don't feel comfortable conforming to his views I would revaluate the relationship - a person shouldn't force you to change to believe in what they believe in (should ring some alarm bells) and if you was to do it involuntary it can cause resentment and anger down the line.
Try and talk and ask him if you can compromise and work together (but such views are things that are instilled in you from young - but who knows) a guy can love you but your partner is your equal!
You should tell him how you really feel, but it seems like you're stuck between two opinions.
You say he's very kind to you, that he's attentive to you but also clingy. Do you think if he was less caring he would be so willing to hear you?
If it's not going to work out then you should break up sooner than later, its the best option for both of you
I think you need someone who can love you for who you are, and vise versa. It doesn't seem like a loving relationship if you're not happy with his actions, and he wants to change you.
Relationships aren't about changing people.
Overall to me it sounds like you guys just aren't a compatible match I understand that you too much your feelings for each other but if you don't have enough in common to keep a genuine interest or just little things that bother you throughout the day maybe you should think about calling it off just out of a mutual disengagement from each other
If you are really happy then continue your relationship but as you posted this question here it means there is some problem. So pls think twice. But if I were you I never marry such kind of jerk. Sorry if you feel hurt but just think 100 times before marrying him
Move on before it ends in disaster. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but you guys views are just too far apart at this juncture in life. As you get older your views may change but as of right now your not ready for that type of relationship. Have a great day
I don't see it working for the long term. Too many differences that are eventually going to be serious problems between you. ie, what you don't like and find "unattractive" will only grow and get more and more. Until one day you just won't be able to take it anymore. And probably the same for him.
You sound like very different people.
He needs to scram. I can already tell he’s manipulative and controlling if he wants you to change. That’s not okay whatsoever. Tell him you’re not going to change and he can’t make you.
Hell no. Time to date some other guys and find one who wants a partner, not an appliance.
You've described a guy who is a sexist and makes a mockery out of traditionally conservative ways. Myself , I give traditional and conservatism a new name. And I have a very happy wife. So it all depends on how he is , and most importantly , how you are as a woman and not a sexist yourself. After all said and done , it takes a real woman to acknowledge a real man.
In my honest opinion, a man who loves you for who you really are is the man who can keep you happy. Same goes for a woman.
It's okay if you feel you aren't ready for the next step in your relationship. Everyone has their own pace and forcing something won't always end up well.
Expressing love often isn't cheesy or suffocating.
Men have chores too, just different ones. If he can't understand that, he wasn't raised right. My family is also traditional. You teach boys to do everything, just in case Miss Right never shows up.
It really depends on how bad you want this relationship. My dad used to be a lot like that but through the years changed his ways and did house work. he even learned to cook some. It's really all up to you. what do you want?
he's clearly too old I kbow there's only five years tho he wants a potential lifetime and you're still learning he's seen u coming as an good girl whos decency would be worth trying to take serious dont allow loving words from whom to dictate your own life dont rebel he's just more experienced and all he's usuall gals know him too well and he's gone for younger strictly to control.
I don’t think this will work. He seems to think he can change you, but you can’t change anybody, and if he’s not happy with how you are now then he doesn’t truly love you for who you are. And you find him a bit annoying as well, so I think you should break up
I’m cringing right now - those guys are my worst nightmare! What I would do is get as far away from him as possible, if he thinks you’re inferior to him why do you even want to be near him?
That relationship is never going to work in the long run.
For example, if you are not for the traditional gender roles of women staying at home you'll already have big problems. Either you work, he's very unhappy about it. Or you stay at home and you're very unhappy about it.
Not going to work
This relationship will not work out in the long run. You both seem ideologically incompatible. He also wants to change you for his own satisfaction. That's a red flag if I've ever seen one. Run.