Why are women so picky about height in a guy?

There are tons of quality short men they reject out of hand?


Looking for real answers only.
Updates:
I would love to hear some real answers, especially from real women, as opposed to the child-like man-hate I have been getting from feminist man-haters for daring to ask a question!

0|1
2125

Most Helpful Girl

  • Tall men are more attractive. Get over it.
    But I see tons of short men walking around with girlfriends every day, so I'd say, in reality, it's hardly an issue.

    3|1
    0|0
    • 1. Ok WHY are they so attractive to such a large proportion of the female population.

      2. WHY is it that they are willing to reject out of hand so many men without this one single trait that CANNOT be changed?

Most Helpful Guy

  • Because a woman's genetics makes a woman want a larger/stronger guy, as well as the media and other sources. However most girls are happy with most guy's height as long as they make up with personality, or other characteristics

    1|1
    0|0
    • So how does a shorter guy get around the initial rejection instinct of the vast majority of women who seem to desire only that a man be "tall" or at least "taller than me"?

    • Be attractive in other ways, have a six pack, be smarter than average (by a lot), be famous or be rich, basically put extra effort in

Recommended Questions

Have an opinion?

What Girls Said 20

  • Because they don't find it as attractive as a tall guy, the same the general public doesn't regard overweight women being as attractive as thinner women.

    0|0
    0|2
    • Weight can be changed, height cannot.

    • Show All
    • So you don't have a real answer? Than stop projecting your ignorance onto me like I somehow did something wrong. GOOD DAY TROLL!

    • I do have an answer, your personal bias and unwillingness to acknowledge my points doesn't equate to me not having an answer.

  • I think woman want to submit during sex and a tall guy looks more dominant

    0|1
    0|0
    • So are women that are dominant in bed more open to dating short guys?

  • Sexual dimorphism. Men look for feminine characteristics, women look for male characteristics, which includes being tall. I’ve only ever dated guys over 6ft but that’s actually not by choice just coincidence. I’ve been interested in guys who were 5’4 - 5’7 and they weren’t interested in me.

    2|1
    0|1
    • Yes but why is height so overwhelmingly important? I have seen guys over 6' that are string bean wusses, that a shorter guy could easily beat up or protect is woman better. Why is height SO important to SO many women?

    • For me it's less about protection and more about how I like height shaped the body. I'm not attracted to all tall guy

    • s for this reason, but for some it just creates this really pleasant shape in my eyes. Again height isn't mandatory for me, especially if you create that shape naturally.

  • Because we have preferences just like men, some men won't date a girl who's even sightly overweight so I see no difference in some women men having a preference for taller men.

    0|1
    1|2
    • Weight can be fixed though, height can't.

    • Also, I am not asking about that, I am asking why the female population seems so skewed towards hating or rejecting all men shorter than them. To compare about 75% of guys don't care about the height of their woman, whereas the vast majority of women seem to reject any man shorter than them or they feel is "short" in general.

    • I'm only 5ft 1 so I'm hard pushed finding someone shorter than me!

  • I don't have specific heights I go off of, but I don't like how it feels to physically look down on someone.

    0|1
    0|1
    • Why?

    • Feels almost disrespectful. I feel like I need to stand further away from them to make the angle less intense.

  • Women are attracted to what they are attracted to the same way men are attracted to what they are attracted to.

    Some women want a tall guy, the same way some men want thin women. I can't tell you how many times I see men complain about women not wanting them but then telling women to get over it or change themselves in order to accepted by the man. This whole " I should be good enough for you, but you have to be good enough for me" type thinking a lot men do is tiresome. I personally don't care that much about height.. i will date guys 5'4 and up. My dad is 5'4 and my mother is 5'7, so short guys do grab attention from women.

    1|2
    0|1
    • Ok, WHY are so many women wanting to reject out of hand any man shorter than them or they feel is short in general?

      " can't tell you how many times I see men complain about women not wanting them but then telling women to get over it or change themselves in order to accepted by the man"

      This is my second point unlike ALL those things HEIGHT CANNOT BE CHANGED!

      You're too fat? Go on a diet and exercise, fixed for example.

    • Show All
    • That is pathetic.

    • That wasn't the most offensive way, that actually a joke. But anyway, im just tired of guys telling women they can pick and choose but give women hell for doing the same thing. there are women, just like me, who don't care about height. i just said that i like men who are 5'4 and up... you're seriously telling me you can't find a woman like that? My dad is shorter than my mom. if my dad got my mom then I know you can find someone too.

  • I don't know why, it's just annoying if he's shorter, I prefer looking up than down.

    And I want to be feeling his chest with my head while hugging, not the air.

    0|0
    0|1
  • I've never been picky about height, but I'm also short myself so it's difficult to relate to the issue.
    I think it boils down to feminine vs masculine in some cases. Being the taller party is a masculine tradition or something.
    Similar to the body hair dilemma - many men don't want to date women more hairy than them, it's considered masculine.
    But I might be completely off the rails. I just think most straight men and women have that innate sense of what's feminine and masculine, and prefer the opposite of what they are themselves.
    Lots of exceptions to that of course, I'm not trying to paint things black and white.

    0|1
    0|1
    • How tall are you

    • Show All
    • The thing is so MANY women reject you because of this. Second I am not complaining, I want to know why this is which all women seem to want to do is tell me to shut up and accept that tall men are superior, and somehow all men are bad because some want thin women, which is easier to attain than getting taller.

      If you don't know the reason don't project your ignorance, and/or stupidity on me saying I am "demanding" something I am not.

    • Still waiting for some proof, my pal. Your feelings about something don't equal reality just because you want to believe so.

  • Well I'm on the tall side so I wanted a tall guy but my boyfriend is 5cm taller than me or something and I am okay with it now

    1|0
    0|1
    • Why do you need a guy taller than you?

    • Taller or the same height at least, I think girls don't like if he's shorter

  • I think it's because most girls like to feel protected and dominated. If a guy is taller then he's just more manly looking. That's why I like to have a bit of meat on my guy as well and super skinny guys is a bit of a turn off. There are some girls who like small guys but not that many.

    I'm only 5ft 1 though so it's not hard to be taller than me XD Even though I'm so small, I found it hard to be physically attracted to my ex since he was like 5ft 2 or 5ft 3..

    I was actually a little unsure about my current boyfriends height at first as well, because he was TOO TALL and I thought we'd look stupid together. My parents still joke that I look like a child next to him, since he's 6ft 3.

    0|1
    0|1
  • Because men are most of the time tall.
    Like guys like ass and boobs on a girl because it's feminine.

    1|0
    0|0
    • Most guys are willing to date women even with a flat chest and no ass, wheras most women will reject men who are shorter than them or they feel are short in general.. Why?

    • Show All
    • Men are taller because of hormonal influences, to be sure. This then becomes translated into social attitudes. We’re all conditioned by media images to prefer men and women with a certain kind of appearance.

    • Why do you like tall girls and what makes a female feminine.

      And feminists don't hate men, they just wanted equal rights.

  • Nah I’m not picky about height. I’m small af so finding a guy smaller than me would be shocking but it wouldn’t change anything

    0|1
    0|0
  • For me personally, a taller man makes me feel small. Which in turn makes me feel protected and like he's dominant. I also sometimes think far ahead and if we'd have kids. I want them to tall 😜

    0|0
    0|1
    • What's your height and how tall do you like men to be at the very least?

  • I’ve never been picky about height. I mean I’m 5’5 there’s not very many guys out there my age or older who are shorter than me.

    0|0
    0|0
  • I'm not picky. Since all guys are taller than me (or at least 80% ). Im 4"11'

    0|1
    0|0
  • Because some of us don't want the guy we're with to be shorter than us.

    0|0
    0|0
    • Why? And by the way it is not just "some" it is the overwhelming amount of women.

  • It's just the way we are.. Get over it.

    1|1
    2|4
  • I'm not that picky

    0|1
    0|0
  • Honestly, I don't really know why some women specifically say that men need to be at least 6'5". All I want is for the guy to be taller than me.

    0|2
    0|1
    • Exactly, that is the overwhelming response from women! Why is this single UNCHANGEABLE characteristic so important to so many women. That a man MUST be taller to be considered?

    • It's probably because their fathers are taller than them, so they'd want their S/O to be taller too. At least, that's my reason.

  • Why are men so picky about weight in a woman?
    Seriously, I don't have enough fingers to count how many times I have witnessed a guy call a woman who wasn't stick-thin (while still in a healthy weight range) fat...

    2|0
    0|3
    • A lot of guys like healthy women. Far more than women seem to accept guys shorter than them. Also weight is possible to control, height on the other hand is not. You are comparing apples to oranges.

    • Show All
    • @Chthous95 and what's the big deal in girls preferring taller guys? You are so quick to tell them off about their preference saying that short guys should be given a chance because they might miss out on an otherwise great guy, but you guys never give a chance to "fat" (translation: isn't VS model-thin) girls.
      Now I'm officially out.

    • Didn't say to give them a chance lol. You don't have to date short & that's fine. But if a guy doesn't want to date an overweight women for beinf overweight, she can change that & start improving her body & having more discipline.

What Guys Said 24

  • One would think that feminists would want their male partners the same height or shorter.

    2|4
    1|0
    • .. why?

    • Show All
    • Lol, yea equality right?

    • Yeah, your question really made me think how two faced they are and how they still want all the female instinctive sexist things but preach this "equality" bullshit.

  • Women can have physical preferences as much as men do. The problem is when women choose a partner based on physcial attributes but then get all full of drama when men prefer certain physical attributes.

    0|0
    0|1
    • The question is not about preferences it is about why so many women are obsessed with this. If you don't know why feel free to leave the thread.

    • Wow you're in a good mood...

  • There are quite a few Victoria Secret models who date short guys. There's hope, afterall :p

    0|2
    0|0
    • Really, any examples? I need some hope after all these disappointing answers!

    • Just type in Victoria Secret Models Boyfriends. One is 5'8. Zayn Malik who went with Gigi Hadid is 5'9. Another one is 5'7

  • It's down to evolution. Women like to feel protected and, perhaps erroneously, tall men are perceived as being able to offer more protection than shorter men.

    1|0
    0|0
    • How is a 6' stringbean wuss a better protector than a 5'6" man who lifts weights and does martial arts?

    • It's a flawed notion, I agree. That's just how it is though.

    • Any ideas as to why?

  • I see you mention a lot that height can't be changed, as if it's unfair for a woman not to give you a chance because of that. Why does it matter that it can't be changed? Why do you expect then to change their preferences for you?

    If someone was ugly and they couldn't change that either, would you all of a sudden go "ah I see ok I'll date you then"?

    Why do you expect the dating game to be fair?

    0|0
    0|0
  • For them being tall is equivalent of big boobs for us men.

    0|1
    0|1
    • I have made that comparison but boobs can get bigger through pregnancy or surgery, whereas height can't.

    • yeah height can. it's litterally done for functional reasons. like if one of your legs is shorter than the other, it can be surgically legnthened by breaking the bones, tensioning them and letting them heal to stretch them a few inches. you can do that to both legs and grow that way xD

    • besides it being permanent wouldn't change anything about how girls react to it xD

  • Biological need to feel protected also bigger=more masculine=more attractive (generally)

    1|0
    0|1
    • So a 6' toothpick wuss who plays video games all day can protect her more than a 5'6 man who works out and does martial arts? That makes no sense!

    • Show All
    • It is a fair comparison. Supposedly height is the end all and be all of protection. So how can a 6' toothpick who plays video games all day a better "protector" than a 5'6 man who lifts weights and is a martial artist?

    • Height isn't literally everything duh 🙄 but it is an important factor and you are cherry picking two extremes and changing the height, most men are the average in body/fighting ability and the choices aren't between a strong midget and a weak lanky person the choices are every human. The fact that you have to make the short guy some super strong guy and the tall person a weakling just for them to be equal or the short guy have an edge shows just how important height is.

  • Most women want a man that is of greater stature than they. It comes from a bazillion years of biological programming - from cave man days where she chose the best suitor to protect her and her offspring from sabertooth tiger and roaming tribesmen. :)

    If you're under 5-8 your best bet is to find a sweet girl your height or shorter. The tall girls are going to be hit or miss at best. It has NOTHING to do with 'quality'.

    It's like asking why some guys like blonds, some brunettes. Or big tits or little. They're preferences, and you cannot negotiate attraction or desire.

    0|0
    0|1
    • 1. All those preferences can be changed.

      2. This is not "some" women it is the vast majority. Why is this single characteristic so important?

    • Show All
    • My point is hair color can be easily changed, so guys being picky about it isn't that big a deal. Whereas guys can't change their height period. That's all.

      I can find women, the problem is attracting them "gaming" I guess. Mind if I PM you?

    • Go here and read: www.therationalmale.com
      You're looking at this all from the wrong perspective. First thing make yourself totally awesome - so much so that height will not be a factor.
      Second, change your attitude - YOU ARE THE PRIZE! Women will come and go but an awesome man is a prize to behold.

      And yes, my inbox is always read. :)

  • ... and you can have a baseless claim, and YOU can have a baseless claim! And YOOUU can have a baseless claim!

    0|0
    0|1
  • It could be preference or subconsciously they want their offspring to be tall.

    Also a sense of protection.

    0|0
    0|0
    • Why is it only women who want their ofspring tall then? How is height the ultimate indicator of protection? How can a 6' stringbean who plays video games all day a better protector than a 5'6" man who works out and is a black belt martial artist?

  • Presumably because they find taller men more attractive.

    0|0
    0|0
  • Were talking about women who are overweight who can lose some weight. It can be fixed.

    0|0
    0|0
  • It is a preference. People have their types.

    1|0
    0|0
    • The vast majority of women will reject any man out of hand without this characteristic. So why is this "preference" so important?

  • Women love short men

    0|0
    0|1
    • Where are these women?

    • Show All
    • Yea that 100% doesn't work.

    • Yes it does. Girls will think you're cute and sweet and adorable and very non threatening.

  • Because they're shallow and immature.

    0|2
    2|0
  • Social conditioning

    0|0
    0|0
    • Could you be more specific?

  • Why not

    0|0
    0|0
  • They are?

    0|0
    0|0
  • the same reason we're so picky with women about their weight

    for men it's height, and for women it's weight

    0|0
    0|1
    • Men are picky about a woman's weight because it is unhealthy. Being short has nothing to do with health.

    • being short AND overweight, can LOOK bad. because it's called "stocky" and noone likes a "stocky" person

    • thats why tall people are allowed to weigh a little more, because they make up for it in height

  • Fat people need to work out. Short people need to work out. In general, being fit is attractive, and that is a counter to this whole argument going on down in this comment section.

    (Feed me some hate, I want to hear how working out is bad for you.)

    0|0
    0|0
    • It is positive. The only thing is working out changes your weight, but not your height.

  • More from Guys
    4

Recommended myTakes

Loading...