Is it bad that I find my boyfriend's brother to be more physically attractive?

[Anonymous]

I still love my boyfriend and wouldn't try anything with his brother, I just find him to be the more physically attractive one.

[Anonymous]

If i was inyour bfs position then i would pretty shitty.
I know therevwill be other people more attractive thsn me, but i would hate it if my own girlfriend was more attracted to guys in my surrondings, bd it friends or family.

So no matter how much she would love me and love my personality, even iv she was somewhat attracted to me, i would break up with her and simply ask hrr to rather date xxx to whom she is more attracted to.

Then i can find a girl who is as attracted to me physically as i am tho her.
My current girlfriend might not be the most attracted girl for othr people but for me she is the number 1 in my eyes and i dont want to be anything less than numbr 1 in her eyes.
If i wouldn't i would throw all her love for me away because love alone without extreme attraction to your mate is completly worthless!

[Anonymous]

As long as you don't do anything with the brother and not make your current SO feel bad about not being as pretty as his brother, you are okay and it's not a bad thing, per se.

Finding your boyfriend's brother physically more appealing is the same as finding Brad Pitt to be more physically appealing than your SO.

No one will fault you for saying that Brad Pitt is much more attractive than your SO but the reason why finding your boyfriend's brother more attractive is sort of taboo and could be considered a "bad thing" is because the possibility and chances of something happening are much higher than something happening between you and say Brad Pitt.

[Shiraa]

What's up with all these reactions. The asker never said she wanted to break up with her boyfriend and move on to his brother or anything. It is normal to find people other than your boyfriend attractive and it is possible to think that his brother is better looking. You have eyes.

[potatoismee]

It's normal. I mean your boyfriend doesn't necessarily have to be the most beautiful creature on the planet but as long as you're attracted to him and you love him that's what matters. Surely there will always be better looking people but who cares

[QuteQueen]

That shouldn't even matter. Focus on your man. There's always someone more attractive than the next person

[PinkChampagne]

If you like the brother while you are dating your boyfriend, yeah it's bad.. it's like emotional cheating

[Asker]

I never I said I liked his brother, being attracted to and liking someone are tow different things.

[PinkChampagne]

And still you're not attracted to the one you should be...

[Asker]

I feel sorry for whoever is dating you, it sounds like you'd break up with them for the first person you find to be more physically attractive. There's more than physical, you know.

[PinkChampagne]

That's sounds like you, not me. It's not me here who says she doesn't find her boyfriend attractive but someone else - it's you. And you can't realize that this will hurt him and that this is not okay also if you still ask here that question.

[PinkChampagne]

You just want to see answers like "yes it's okay" so you can have how to defend yourself if your boyfriend finds out... You can say then "they say it's normal" but imagine how you would feel if he says you're not attractive and he finds some other girl more attractive. Just think.

[Asker]

I wouldn't care, because he's with me at the end of the day.

[PinkChampagne]

Then do what's keeping him, not what can chase him away

[Sharon94]

It is not bad to feel that way, as long as you don't act on it

[Nishonen]

well you can't help what you find attractive, but hey, shows that you're not one to go for looks

[Asker]

Yeah, I actually met his brother first but I fell in love with my boyfriend.

[Nishonen]

well, i'm happy for you and your boyfriend, i dunno much about him but he's a lucky guy to find a rare woman like you, that quality is rare af lol

[pathunknown]

Attraction is a difficult thing. It is fine that you think your boyfriend's brother is more physically attractive. Just always keep in mind what you would do to your boyfriend mentally, should anything happen. Understanding and accepting the consequences is sometimes the best way to fight our own nature.

[Anonymous]

Just avoid his brother as much as possible. No matter how loyal you are, it's never a good idea to unnecessarily be near temptation.

[Asker]

I was already considering avoiding him at the pool, I think it wouldn't be a good idea to be around him with his shirt off

[Truthatanycost]

How much does he weigh and how tall is he? The next time you are ooggling him, please ask him about his training routine. I'm always looking for good ways to build more muscle.

I take it your boyfriend doesn't train and is skinny?

[Asker]

@Truthatanycost not sure about his weight, he's around 6 feet tall. My boyfriend is skinny, yes.

[Truthatanycost]

How tall is your bf? At 6ft, it's very difficult to look muscular. You don't know his weight? ok well think back to the dream you had where you were together, how much would you say it felt like he weighed?

[ryryryan]

If you fucked him would it be bad? Would the brother be ok with with? Would u leave him for his brother (awkward?). If it's just a physical attraction that's normal but is it something u want to peruse? That sounds u viable, unless they are extraordinarily open minded and what u want in the end

[Paris13]

You have a Normal Crush on his Bro. And as you Know... Blood will always Be Thicker than Water.
Keep your Distance and always Opinions to yourself, Along with your Hands. xx

[CaffeinatedCactus]

It think it's normal. I thought my boyfriend was the least attractive of his other 2 brothers but personality-wise I did fit better with him. You can't help who you find physically attractive!

[Chthou95]

I never believed that.

[AbagailGun]

It's not bad at all as long as you don't have a affair with him

[throwsomecheeseonit]

depends on scenario if you like his personality too than you have to maybe question your relationship but regardless I wouldn't be ina room alone with him you can't mess with fire and not be burned

[JP_Man]

Being in a room alone with someone attractive does not mean sex all the time. Because dude if I had sex everytime I got in a room with someone I found attractive I would have lost count.

[throwsomecheeseonit]

did I say it means sex every time.

[throwsomecheeseonit]

and you are guy she's woman let's be honest it's way different.

[JP_Man]

How is that so different? Do you think everyone jump on eachother at first chance? Nothing is gonna happen if there is no connection.

[throwsomecheeseonit]

haha you are niave and you put words in people's mouths I never said any of the things you insinuated. I meant don't be in room alone because if brother is interested to than she could fall into temptation. let's be honest for lots of guys there has to be no connection just opportunity if you think that statement is untrue you are lying to your self just because you don't think that way doesn't mean lots of other guys don't I have lots of girls as friends they tell me stories

[Anon-ymous1]

If you wouldn't try anything then why does it matter

[MaddyMax]

No, as long as you don't like his personality more or try anything it's fine.

[MMM369]

Looks don’t matter it’s all about personality... his looks would probably be nice for a few months but that’s it not for years if that makes sense

[name_is_eric]

Attraction is normal.
Your boyfriend probably feels the same about your sister, or mother. It happens.

[boggboss]

Yes it is if your guy thought your mum was more physically attractive how would u feel

[Asker]

I think I'd feel fine with it, I'm the one he's with

[boggboss]

Well u think in a way most don't then lol if he ever found out he would feel like shit that simple

[isikinho]

You can not control Who you find more attractive. But if you don't find your Boyfriend attractive anymore or someone else more attractive than him you should think about whether you love him still. And please DONT TELL HIM!! It would break his heard.

[Asker]

I mean I find his brother more physically attractive but, I connect and relate more with my boyfriend

[isikinho]

The Best thing is to avoid his brother i think

[Nerdvana]

Well, how would you feel if your boyfriend found your sister or another family member more physically attractive then you?

[Asker]

Wouldn't bother me

[Finchie40]

Nothing wrong with it but never cross that line of trying to hook up with him

[Anonymous]

Do you love your boyfriends personality though? Looks fade anyways.

[Asker]

I love his personality

[winterfox10]

Meh... it happens... just make sure that you don't get drunk one night and wrap your legs around the wrong brother.

[NCricket42]

Na. As long as you don't act on it. You can't help that kind of thing.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

It's only bad if there's temptation to go behind the guy's back.