Iv never had a boyfriend and since I was 13 I approached guys and rejected me or had gfs or lied they had one. Im always doing my full time college classes and working everyday and work on my fashion YouTube and instagram page and volunteer at fashion beauty events in la, Hollywood. When I go out I see everyone already with boyfriend & no one has ever asked me to be their girlfriend. I'm nice & smile but I'm still alone & go eat at restaraunts alone, sad. I'm studying business and it's not bad to want your partner. One guy I liked a lot I met at a job and talk ever since for 1year & took me to go to a date with him 1time &we have madeout before but still hasn't asked me out & distant & just sends pics a lot but I haven't talked to him for a month & still doesn't ask 2 be my boyfriend. He was my besfriend & I loved him & want him to be mine. I love guys with tattoos & dark hair & there's a singer I crush on that looks very similar to that guy. That singer has a girlfriend and date &I give gifts & do everything & are in love & It's not fair people can date & be happy & have who they want & but with me I'm only broken. I might go to a bar or t pay attention to me & slammed the door in my face & knew it wasn't meant to me y do I even try. I feel I shud Go to a club & find anyone there cuz I can't get any guy. All my family and people I know have their special person & im just stupid there all alone. There's no one I desire. No one has my attention anymore. My brother had his 1st girlfriend at 18 and ever since they are married 8 years later & he's obsessed with her & I can't get any guy I am obsessed with. Now I don't care of anyone. I'm crying & hurt. I don't know y god does this 2 me. I'll just continue to go eat out alone & I smile but deep down I'm hurt in pain unhappy & lonley.
Why do guys find me ugly and cannot be in relationship?
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You are definitely quite the opposite. I think that guys definitely do get intimidated by very attractive girls for a variety of factors. It could be that he thinks that you are too pretty to not have a boyfriend and doesn’t want to waste his time asking you out. They could have several failures in the past and they decided to give up for a while. They might think that your attractiveness vastly outshines them and give up because they might think that you are not afraid to tell them to get lost right on the spot and look down on them (again probably due to experience). They night think that they are way out of their league and if they “get lucky” and “score” a date with you, no matter how nicely you treat them they might get depressed because they might feel like they do not deserve you (experience of mine thankfully I mostly got over that). They might have had an abusive relationship or an abusive mother in the past and are constantly on edge whenever they are around a girl. Unless you are known for being mean to any man who dares to approach, It mostly boils down to experience and confidence. I would try going up to a man and ask him out yourself. Even if current circumstances get in the way, like being already taken, he at the very least would feel flattered that you asked.
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Iv asked out guys b4 in the past and i was always rejected! I'm trautamixrd now and think every single thing that u mentioned that a guy would think plus I see couples everywhere I go and I'm alone depressed
Wow really? That sucks. I’m sorry to hear that. Just by that he’s probably too immature for his own good anyway. I’ve had a girl do that to me once and it honestly didn’t surprise me I kinda saw it coming but it hurts. If you really want a relationship i’d say try online dating. Tinder is where I met my girlfriend after all. Online dating at least is great because people would be absolute morons if they use it when they are taken especially if they mention it.
It honestly sounds like you're trying too hard and scaring away any potential interests.
Ease up on the make-up and let it compliment your features rather than be your features.
Be happy with yourself. You can't change your features, so get to know you and appreciate you for you.
Do stuff you like doing because you like doing it, and you'll naturally meet other people who like doing those things.
Don't give gifts to try attract someone. You can't buy love, only pleasure.
Just slow things right down and love yourself properly first. Being with someone doesn't make you happy if you aren't happy in yourself, it just puts an incredible amount of pressure that no other person can possibly achieve.
You think you got it bad. I'm 35 and single. Women older than me don't want me. My own age doesn't want me. And the younger ones say I'm too old. Your a very beautiful woman. Some of it could be the guys your going after. If your after just looks alone and stuff your just gonna keep getting dicked around. I'm not picky. I treat women with respect and dignity. Like I was raised to. But apparently women seem to want guys that treat them like shit and complain about it in front of decent guys that are looking for someone to love them. And we sit there like hey, I'm right here. But you'll never know because you won't give them the time of day.
You definitely are not ugly. I'm sorry you feel this way and I know the feeling of seeing everyone else around you be happy with another person and not having anyone yourself to share that with. It is very disheartening and makes you feel really undesirable. Unfortunately I can't say the magic words to take away your frustration, depression and loneliness. I will say this however. The time you spend be single and getting to know yourself means that you will appreciate the person who accepts you for you when you actually find each other. Oh and "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" 😊 chin up girl. It hurts but it hasn't killed you
It sounds like you are very motivated and hell bent on making a good life for yourself.
So much so that a lot of guys are going to be intimidated as fuck by this because well, the world is full of slackers today.
You have some steep competition because the good men that are out there are not only in demand by womeb like you who are driven, but also by the gold diggers, every woman wants a good man and those are in short supply, especially in socal where you have a huge single female population because of the movie industry.
The best thing you can do is socialize as much as possible and continue hard after your goals.
Sounds like you wait for your dreamguy to approach you, while you sit there, do your studies and eat alone.
Ever thaught about approaching a guy? Ask a man for a date, if you want to. Do not stay passively and expect things magically happening around you.
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I was alone til 21. That was a mistake. I gave a second girl a chance after a few years. That was a mistake. I've been single ever since. Be patient. You're intimidating. I wouldn't approach you. Too beautiful. Some guys will. Your husband will in time. Men are nothing to cry over. Not that important.
You haven't lived your whole life but you can determine you'll be alone til you die. Makes no sense. Be patient and continue building your life. You'll meet a man that will want your time and attention.
Yes but I won't be single til I'm 30. Or 24. I want my boyfriend by 24 at least and I'll have to go to clubs and bars and find anyone! I have the worst luck in the world my true partner doesn't exist
Stop being so doubtful. You have too many days ahead of you to know exactly which day you'll meet your man. One at a time and enjoy the journey focus on other things when you meet your man be happy.
To be perfectly fair, your face is not that pretty in my opinion. I would not go as far as to call you ugly though.
Thing is, all what you have said are good and well, but you walk the same shoe as most guys. If there is no chemistry, you can do nothing.
Now. My advice is to care less. People can smell the cringe of wanting somebody badly from miles. Be haopy with yourself and with what you do and like minded people will come along.
I'm tired of being third wheel and wenever I'm with my bro and wife they are always together and leave me behind and I'm alone bored and I remember wen I was younger my bro would slam the door in my face and open it for her and I think there is no one meant for me who will love me
I'm sorry you feel that way, but I don't think it's true, the thing I would be worried about is that in your current state of mind, some loser guy might come along and play you just to get sex and you may fall for a lie? You need some self confidence, I hope you can see you are attractive and worthy of a gentleman.
Hard to say I don't know him, you just need to build up your self confidence and work on you a bit, you shouldn't have such low self esteem. Your young and pretty, you will find a good man.
stop asking for a boyfriend. it might be bad for you for now. this is why u can't have boyfriend for now. you might be so obsessed with him and might do bad in your previous jobs. when u reach a good point in life, you will have boyfriend easily
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How is it if I have a good job then I'll magically get a gf? I don't get it
not girlfriend, boyfriend... and not magically. everybody likes someone who has a job. and guys who have job will come and talk to you moreover want to be your boyfriend or you to be their life partner
Wen I was working at that job I was busy working and that guy randomly started talking to me following me and now we still aren't anything, I was stupid and thought he was the one for me
Damn your hot... I'll be your boyfriend assuming you don't have a dick... That's the deciding factor for me... If you got webbed toes, cool, fat ass, cooler, weird birthmark, cool to, but I draw the line at dicks...
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