What does ghosting say about modern society?

What does it tell about society in general and the person that is ghosting or person that get ghosted?
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non-ghosters: ghosters are cowards/scared of confrontation/have underdeveloped communication skills.
Ghosters: don't see anything wrong with it.

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  • To be honest, it’s not really that serious. There are situations where you aren’t sure how to respond so you figure that ghosting is the right way. Yeah it may seem “cowardly” and all but people have a choice whether if they wish to respond or not. People either have a lot of things to deal, aren’t in the mood or just aren’t sure of what to respond to whatever you said. People are also busy. To me it isn’t a very big deal, I see it as some sort of mechanism

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    • So you did ghost someone?

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    • It's maybe not a teenager thing. But it is really something from these times. It's also very immature to not face responsibilities, but maturity isn't age dependent. If you are in a game of 2, you have to play your part.

    • I can see where you’re coming from, but then again it’s not fair for you to always expect someone to reply to you 24/7 you know? people are busy as I said, I get that it’s a coward thing to do but you need to understand that people do that for a reason and the reason can be understandable.

      However it depends on the situation, I don’t ghost for fun or whatever, I do it only if some creep texts me, you get the point

  • That people nowadays are just cowards and prefer to not have any conflict in their life. Most cop out way ever. Grow a pair and tell that person how you feel about them.

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  • That people prefer the easiest way for themselves and hit everyone else the hardest. As natural social creatures, that's counter productive as we sought for communication for our well being. Modern society is evolving and unfortunately the stress of everyday routine is getting unbearable.

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    • Are you saying that society is getting more selfish in general? And it's getting worse for everyone?

    • Yeah. But itll get better afterward. Its a rebound.

  • ghosted in the sense of ignoring?

    Well, because it's easy and nothing happens to you. Also because they are numerous people in your contact list and so it seems as no big deal to ghost one of them.

    What it says about our generation is clear for me. We are incapable of taking responsibility for our actions. If we mess up, we just walk away. We are not confident enough to speak out our opinion. Instead we escape, putting our phone away.
    Also the digitalization of our lives made us into robots. We just act, we respond, but we don't feel for the other person. On the phone we can say what we want because we miss 95% of the conversation (body language). So in fact we are becoming more stupid because we value 5% communication (verbal) more than the 95%.

    I hope it helped. Greez

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  • That contact over the internet with people you never met is impersonal.

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    • Every contact is as impersonal as you want it to be.
      Does this show contact in this society is getting more and more impersonal?

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    • I honestly think the only time I've ever ghosted anyone was when they sent me cock pictures or something, so I think it says I don't like unsolicited cock pictures.

      @Darknut Stop fucking stalking me you creepy ass little man. Get a life and leave me the fuck alone.

  • That most people don't care and can't communicate their emotions it's kinda sad

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    • I think so too. But many think it's a normal thing to do. See the other opinions. Does this have consequences for society?

  • It says that people these days aren’t too concerned about other people’s feelings when it comes to dating. Not a bad thing. No one is obligated to give you “closure”. Unless it’s like a full relationship, that’s different.

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    • What makes it differently then? And don't you just put your preferences forward as generally accepted social rules? And are they only not concerned about other people their feelings when it's about dating? That's actually my major concern.

      Because I think you can not separate one part of life from the others. You cannot say I am only evil on Mondays. It shows you are evil in general.

    • Dating is just dating. Either you feel it or you don’t. Nothing serious. Nothing overly personal. Unless both parties have the same clear intention totals it further.
      And there are other cases when both are interested in more but one fucks something up.
      When the dating hasn’t gone far, at the end of the day the two aren’t emotionally responsible to report all their feelings. Because there’s no end game. There is no common goal.
      In a relationship, there is a common goal: to grow together. You can’t grow together if one isn’t keeping up the communication. In a relationship, there’s an agreement to put each other first for the sake of the unit.
      If two people are just dating and there’s no common goal for growth, no one is obligated to water a plant that doesn’t exist.

    • To take it further**

  • Nothing. That is a character flaw in the indicidual.

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  • It is rude to ghost someone. At the same time, I also see it as efficient. If someone doesn't really care to be bothered with you, or want to talk with you, then is it really better they respond at all and waste even more of your precious time under a false, polite pretense? Or is better to just notice they didn't answer and go "Well. They ghosted me." And move on to the next thing.

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    • I think if someone messages you and you never respond that's ok. But if you've actually had a conversation, that person deserves to be told.

  • That people would rather lame out instead of being adults

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  • I dunno. i ghost people, so... yeah.
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    ~ Mrs Manson

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  • That people just throw anything away once their bored or run away cause they don't know how communicate with others.

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  • Good question, I feel like the prevalence of ghosting shows cowardice and a lack of respect for others in our society. It says the person who is ghosting lacks courage and integrity and the person who got ghosted may not be perceptive

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  • They're afraid of dealing with an individual and ending it with real closure instead of just disappearing.

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  • As someone who's a serial ghoster. I do it to toxic people because I know they'll guilt me into staying friends with them and will react crazy if I tell them the truth so for me it's because I attract a lot of psycho people. But in general I think it's because people are forgetting how to communicate with each other and care to much of what people think of them so If they say it to their face but they don't want to see them anymore they don't want people to think they are a bed person because of it so instead would rather make people believe they are just too busy or forgot till the they give up contacting them

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    • What would you do if you ran into them randomly?

      It could happen if you live in the same city.

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    • Because there are horrible nasty people out there in the world unfortunately and you'd understand if you knew the people who I've ghosted some the things they did were just unforgivable and then they still expect me to be friend's with them

    • Alice that is interesting because most people would pretend and be like we haven't seeing each other in years and say we should hang out sometime and then the person wouldn't contact the person. At least you won't pretend so that is actually amazing because most people pretend like actors lol

  • We haven't kept up and introduced "social etiquette" for modern devices.

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  • We can ignore our problems. We luve in a throwaway culture

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  • says we're cowardly

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    • I think so too. and does it say anything about responsibility?

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    • I wouldn't say it's a full blown societal issue. Sure there are tons of people who do it, but people are assholes by nature and have always done it.

    • Yes, of course I know this on it self isn't the end of the world. But I am afraid it's a symptom of how the social norm is changing.

  • It means people are cowards

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  • Spooky

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  • I ghost people cuz I get nervous.

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    • that's kinda messed up.

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    • I think your being a little too harsh on yourself. unless you have Asperger's Syndrome which makes you REALLY socially awkward I wouldn't know why you feel that way in the first place. Me, I'd tell the person through pm that things aren't working out and if they can't except that then I'd block them. But if they do accept it I feel better about because I know I'm not leaving someone in the dark and them not knowing what they did wrong or not.

    • I really am pretty bad at it. Lots of misunderstandings and shit.

  • That we have become a hypocritical and non confrontational society that would prefer to ignore our problems and not be honest or upfront with people to avoid embarrassment and claiming it's to not hurt others feelings but in reality it's to avoid dealing with a problem for our own convenience.

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  • It says that we live in a society that lacks confrontation skills (in a positive manner) and where a lot of people are either
    a) avoidant
    b) petty

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  • I have done that a few times, but only if I was scared for my safety, or if I made it abundantly clear that I wasn’t interested in the person and they still wouldn’t leave me alone. Or both.

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  • Ghosting is just the current trend in how self-absorbed people express themselves. It says much about the individual, not so much about society.

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  • That we have trouble "manning up".

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  • Simple

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  • As a 'grown up' you have to realize that most friendships/relationships aren't going to work for more than a little while.
    When the shine wears off, just say 'Bye, it was good while we were together' and then MOVE ON!! Don't hang around, and keep checking up on them, like 'STALKING'. Just let it go, in peace, and find the next person, that is probably going to be AMAZING!!! Right? :) :)

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  • As the other non-ghosters have already said, ghosters are placid, passive pussies that have no empathy or social etiquette.

    Indeed they are cowards, they fear confrontation of any kind, and when (ironically) they are *confronted* for their ghosting (like on this post), they try to invert it by claiming that those who are empathetic are just soft touches... A little emotional...

    What does this say about society? It's one of many symptoms of a degenerating pool of masculine and feminine virtues. Most men are emasculated, deracinated shells of their ancestors. Women, even the non-feminist types, are narcissistic, vapid attention whores.

    All these traits are crossing over more regularly now as society becomes more and more androgynous... COWARDS. Nothing more dangerous and slimy than a coward.

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    • You didn't even exaggerate

    • I wish I could, I wish I could laugh it all off as a silly, morbid joke! But evidently it isn't 😕!

      I do think society is getting ready to plummet completely, perhaps a reset button is what we need.

  • Modern society? Well, ghosting is nothing new. This is something which always existed except we now have a name for it and treat it as a new phenomenon.

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  • Ghosting has been around since caller id started. My parents used to screen calls all the time. Also as a whole I am sure most of us screen who tries to contact our cell. If someone decides they don't want to talk to someone anymore that is that. If they don't want to leave a reason so what life goes on there are others that would love to talk to you. So in short I don't really think ghosting matters in the grand scheme of things.

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    • It is true, it's been around for ages until someone defined it. Like" friendzone".

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    • I can definitely see how that would make someone upset. Still those are different things all together and should be classified differently.

  • Ghosting... I hate it but I love it. It is an easy way out, but isn't respectable and can leave the other person perplexed as if they did something wrong. i. e. Got ghosted and thought I did something wrong... nope, she was just cheating on her man (that she never told me about). It wouldn't of had me desperate for her forgiveness if she would've just told me she's cheating on her dude and she wants to stop cheating on him.

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  • Ghosting is just another type of rejection and to be fair people do it to avoid confrontation that isn't always necessary. If I told someone "I'm sorry you're boring more or i realize you're not my type" there is a chance they'll blow up about it as that's hurting their feelings more than me just getting across I don't want to talk anymore by not talking. I don't always like it as sometimes you do deserve an answer, but I think it depends on the situation for sure.

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    • What does it say about the person. And what does it say about society

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    • If you are a man and a responsible person. Yes. You wouldn't even have to ask that to me actually. It's common knowledge and common decency.

    • If I did that with every person I talked to in those apps itd be much longer convos than necessary along with I'm sure running the risk of being called a jerk for just stating my feelings lol. To each their own but like others have said, it's faster paced. I get what you're saying for sure but its not upsetting to me when it happenung to me. I realize for myself that they weren't interested and I don't go through the awkward let down.

  • It depends on the circumstances.

    If you want to get the message across loud and clear that you have no time in your life for that person, that you don't give a fuck about them, what happens to them, or what they think, then that calls for a ghosting.

    I think it's only appropriate in extreme circumstances. The person really has to have disrespected a number of boundaries for it to be the right course of action.

    People who use it to avoid confrontation are pussies, however.

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    • Yes but how can one care so little about another to not give a fuck at all what the other person thinks. What does that say about the person. And because it's getting more common these days. What does that say about society.

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    • No, it's a terrible reason to ghost someone.

    • For dating it's just bad. But if someone just cares so little about others (even the ones they date with best intentions, not even mentioning complete strangers). Could we just like kill small groups of people and all the ghosters wouldn't mind? As long as they are not family.

  • It means that people who see the world like this are now considered the "bad guys."

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  • I feel like people are just afraid to offend. I got ghosted on by a girl i was interested in, but never once in our convos did she come off as superficial or fake. She seemed to be generally really nice, but i def moved too quick and im sure for many girls, guys that move too quick are a red flag.

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  • To me I feel it shows we are far more detached from each other and feel that the other person should just "get it" instead of being told.

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  • About the ghosters:
    We live in a snowflake society where people are afraid of confrontation and try to "solve" an issue by ignoring it. Unfortunately that may build up and bite you in the a$$ one day.

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  • It says that men being approachers and women being approachees doesn't work well. Society need to change it so it's more 50/50.

    I bet men won't ghost if women are approaching them and women won't feel as ghosted if they are they approachers.

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  • I ghosted someone in HS, so it’s not a new thing. Maybe since telephones were common in homes (mid-1950’a)?

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  • That its all going to hell in a handbasket along with decadence and self gratification.

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  • Says people are pussies, they get offended over any and every little thing and can't just tell someone how they really feel, they're cowardly.

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  • Same reason ANTIFA thugs hide their faces. Cowardice.

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  • The person that ghosts is usually someone who has a lack of respect for the person that was trying to message them. If it happens they probably aren't worth your time

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    • Thanks for your opinion. Does this say something about society? Because it happens more and more often.

    • In general society is going down hill all the respectful behaviour of the older time is going, the lack of manners and respect towards other people is affecting most in thinking only they have feelings that matter. If there is an issue with it that you would like to express to the person though it is best to try to resolve it face to face, they may have a negative response to it though.

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