Should a man pay on the first date or split the bill? (Page 3)

[saturn_sweet_taffy]

I think it's fair to at least suggest you split the bill, and if he insists he wants to pay, then let him on the first date..

[CarpetDenim]

I think a guy shohld try to split the bill on the first few dates, just to kinda get a read on what kind of person she is in that aspect.

[whattothink]

I always offer to pay, until the actual relationship is established. Mainly because I don't want the issue of money to be a reason not to go out.

[SpiderManFan2002]

It's fair to split the bill, or if not that, one person pays one time, then the other pays the next.

[Wifflesnoofer63]

Provided it's no more expensive than coffee and danish, the man should pick up the tab. If the bitch wants a full restaurant meal or to do something that requires money, they should split the bill. If she gives him a good BJ after the date, he can start picking up all tabs in the future.

[coralee]

I always offer to split on the first date. I have had men flat out refuse to though. I really don't like the power imbalance it sets up when you don't know them. Too many jerks who think footing the bill entitles them to you.

[DaMack999]

Split ewww. My women never pays anything. Her presents alone is a gift therefore she deserves to be pampered. No Bill's to worry about no doubt. In other words action speakers louder then words. You show her she can depend on you by paying. She will definitely think twice about next date she goes out with a dude asking her to pay.

[90sGrunge]

See, I don't have a problem with paying, I'm the one who always pays for both when it comes to my friendships. When it comes to guys, from where I'm from, guys get offended by the offer of a split, that's their mindset. Still just because I'm who I am, I would offer, just to be sure where they're standing.

[Anonymous]

I would like to split the bill. However my boyfriend insisted to pay on our first date. And I said "ok, I'll pay next time". And he was ok with that. We are still doing it that way (taking turns).

[AynonOMouse]

1st date split the bill.
2nd date she pays. (mostly to show she isn't using him like so many do.
3rd date he pays.
After that just take turns.

[BlueSkyFading]

Offer to pay. See how the response is. It is one of many things that establish what kind of person you are talking to.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I've never asked a girl out on a date unless I was willing to pay for it. But I am amused by the girls who say "whoever asked should pay." That's pretty much saying that the guy should pay. I don't disagree with that, but let's not pretend that somehow the asking out process is 50/50 or anything close to that. We all know that 90%+ of all dates happen because a guy asks a girl out and only a TINY minority have the reverse.

[Anonymous]

There is absolutely no valid reason for a man to have to pay for the first date, and any women who suggests he should or expect him to is a sexist. I'm appalled at how many women still think this way despite believing in "equality".

And please don't say the person who asks should pay because we all know it's always the guy who asks so it's just another excuse for women to be sexist.

Women seem to want equality only when it's convenient.

[princessfromjupiter]

I always prefer to pay for my drinks myself (Food too if that ever happens). I don’t like feeling like I owe someone, especially someone I don’t know very well in the first place.

[emily_charlee]

I understand how most women wish for “chivalry” and say men are supposed to pay, but women can too. Like, if they have a job, and money, i think they’re more then capable of helping pay. Especially since they ordered something.

[Anonymous]

It's good manners for a man to pay for the first dates. Also you can pay attention to her behaviour. Does she acts conscious of it, respectful or does she act as if it is a due

[avalonbob]

Men pay the bill for dates. That's it. A woman offering to pay makes Mr. Happy shrivel, and a guy who lets a girl pay already has a shriveled Mr. Happy.

[disgustingweebtrash]

Split the bill to know if she's a robbing bastard or not

[TacosRAwesome]

I'd rather he offers to pay and then I split or pay my share, which I do most of the time unless he just pays. But forcing me to split (especially if he took something expensive) is rude.

[massb]

By split it I mean you both pay for your own things

[idk777]

I think the guy should pay, since guys should be trying to do nice things for the girl he likes in general. If he isn't willing to do anything nice for her he shouldn't be asking her out.