I'm not talking about dating someone just because he or she is rich (not a question about gold diggers)
I'm saying would you date someone that is a lot more rich or poor?
Add more options. I prefer less wealthy. I was in relationship for 3 years - with a girl who had rich father. It was a real issue because she didn't want to ease much on her lifestyle (she did, but it was still too expensive for me and she already complained). They were not SO rich, but that time I was really kind of broke as I was student (I was never really broke, because I could save and I did not spend much, but with her it was cinema here, coffee there, travelling here and there, I had an old car so also some petrol and maintenance). I spent 10x more money with her than alone. She was awesome but my lifestyle was probably killing her. I was not any hipster! Just simple guy from village. She eventually left (haha, for rich guy). Now I am kind of obsessed by one girl who also has rich parents and this is one thing that really holds me back (the fear that I will not be able to keep up). Now I finished school and I earn some money but not that much (more or less average or very little above average).
That time it was secondary school and I lost my part-time job AND my father lost his job. Well I was used to spend something between 20-40 eur per month. Really not much. Most for petrol and some simple maintenance of my car (old Suzuki Swift). I would usually sit at home or go cycling or some other stuff, and I didn't need money for that. Now she wanted to do something everyday. Either go to cinema, or for coffee, or just go out, it simply exceeded my budget because doing something that requires money (almost) every day gets expensive. 40 eur may not be much for you but here in Slovakia average salary for part-time job is between 1.6-3 eur per hour. Yeaaah then I went to university and I found a job but still I would earn (minus travelling cost) 20 eur per day and then we would go out and spend these 20 eur for one evening. And she hated my old car as well. But other than that, we were a nice couple, just money were a bit of issue. Not money but spending money.
What your asking is still gold digging. You used the term rich so yes gold digging. The gold diggers will require a minimum so they can fulfill their wants and needs. Anyone who says otherwise is just projecting. If your 1st question to someone is how much you got in the bank or you are attracted to someone because of what they are wearing or driving gold digger. Furthermore setting a "minimum standard" is good in talk sake but you dont fo into a bar asking hey what's your career choice how much you make. Or 1st people are usually attracted either looks or something that tipped that person into their favor so your not going to know that persons wealth status until farther down the road. Unless your hitting on someone at their work place or meet them at their job.
So what your suggesting is that person only dated that other person because they where just as rich, that's still good digging. And ho we many people did they go through in order to find that same person who was rich that weren't rich. Which then would suggest unless they meet that level of being rich they didn't stay with them which make stem gold digger
I'm not going to date a homeless person so if he cab take care of himself I'll date him. But the thing is i dont want to date a rich guy cuz most super sexy girls want to date a rich guy and it will be difficult for me to keep a rich guys eyes from wanderig. So if you want to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty guy your boyfriend.
@crazy8000 I'm not an ugly duck. I have seen beautiful women in the flesh and I'm not much compared to them. I'm a realist
@crazy8000 oh this got deep fast. It's not really just me okay. When I was younger I was quite an ugly duckling and a lot of guys told me i was ugly growing up amd stuff. All I'm saying is there are plenty of beautiful women in the wolrd.
I only care that within a couple years of dating we have enough saved to buy a house, get married and have kids. So doesn't need to be rich but needs to be a bit financially smart.
That's exactly the way I'm thinking, I will start dating once I secure a house in Miami for my girlfriend, so that I wouldn't seem as taking advantage of her just to get the green card
And because I'm a communist, I chose Miami to help spread communism there with my Cuban comrades, lol!
Yeah, lol!
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Can’t vote because I don’t expect him to be rich but I do expect money where we can live comfortably. I make $47,000 as a teacher after my marching band stipend so he should be making as much or more than me.
Its good money. You are already rich as my country 😊
Considering I don’t make that much, yes, it is. I said love comfortably, not pay check to paycheck. Financial problems are one of the biggest reasons couples split.
I dont like you. You love comfortable that much, so you can make money too.. women always says men are women same... but when it is about the money everything changing
I do make money. Can you not read? Lol
@InvictusManeo Dude, I've seen your picture. You've got a Renault. How can that be expensive? Their European head office is in your country. Same for many other companies...
@CaptainSmartass i bought that car 120.000 Turkish lira... if you try to buy this car you will give 20.000 in your money... for example if you want to buy this car you have to work like 1 year and otherwise normal Turkish person have to work like 15 years😊by the way sory about the language i dont have great grammar
@InvictusManeo Interesting, and it's cool about the grammar. I totally got what you were saying.
@CaptainSmartass thanks. It is your affability. 😊
No, I just expect her to have reasonable spending habits and not have large debts. A good income is a plus, but not a must.
Nope... Not at all... Money doesn't matter for me
I’ve never dated anyone with money so dating a rich guy would be something new for me & I’m not sure how I would approach that because on one hand it would be nice to be bought gifts but I don’t want him to think I’m dating him just for money! So I would probably not accept any gifts till he knew I was with him for him & not his money. I did once have a guy who was a millionaire want to date me but I really didn’t find him attractive & I turned him down. I’d rather date a poor guy I am in love with than a rich guy who I don’t find attractive in any way.
If I wasn't taken already I would say...
"I don't mind long as he's not a
druggy/alcoholic.
I want a man who is earning his own wage,
and I don't mind if he's richer than me.
I might feel like I don't deserve him, but
I would love him for him and not his wage packet."
My hubby isn't rich, but he isn't poor either and does it bother me? no.
He's working, and that is all that matters. If he fell ill, though,
and had to placed on benefits due to a medical condition etc...
I would still be with him because long as we're together,
I don't care about anything else long as we help each other
through the hard times. Be there for each other.
Whenever this question is asked, I think people really forget about the realities of living in the world we live in. You want to live comfortably, you want to have savings, you want to be able to pay all your bills---then you need money. The phrase should be...all you need is love (and money). I'm not out hunting for the rich guy, but somewhere in the check list on the bottom line is, if we lived together or got married, would we BOTH be able to have what we need and to be able to take care of one another as a unit. If the answer is no, they aren't an immediate write off, but it would be weighing heavily on my mind if we were to move into a long term situation as opposed to just casually dating.
Actually I avoid dating rich guys. They are just looking to add you as a trophy to their collection.
Rich kids, while they have the financial wealth, often lack what I am looking for in a relation and those are: common interests, affection, a partner you can talk with on subjects that move or disturb me. To be able to fully rely on this person in times of need and not be dropped when a challenging situation pops up and he has to use his grey cells rather than his wallet to help me solve this problem
I’d prefer for someone who has a stable job and get a good earning. It’s one of the successful factor that make then attractive I think. It’s not about the money.
It’s more that people who has a good job means that they are hard worker, they didn’t waste their time in their youth and care for the future, for their life. And I think it’s attractive.
My boyfriend is still in uni, but he is very passionate about what his doing, he is a hard worker and very motivated (+so kind and has an amazing personality). That’s sooo attractive for me.
It’s not about rich or poor, but the hidden personality underneath it. But, yeah still, rich people with bad attitude always a no no.
This world needs more good people with good heart than another rich people.
They don't have to be rich, but they should have a decent job/be a student or at least look for job. I don't want them to depend on me all the time. It would be fine if something happened and they lost their job and they would be unemployed for a while, but I can't take that much on myself all the time.
Mostly doesn't matter. I do appreciate a financially stable partner - I think most people do, but it's not like I insist on them being rich. As long as they know I'm a freelancer with very little income and can accept my limitations we're probably fine.
I have dated some very rich people but I married the poor guitar player.
As long as he is capable of supporting himself I don't care. There are obviously exceptions to this like we make an agreement for him to go back to school, or he's in between jobs but actively looking. Self-sufficiency is something I expect for myself and expect for any partner but he by no means has to be wealthy.
It doesn't matter to me as long as they can care for themselves. I'm a woman, I'm meant to care for children not grown men. I would perfer to not live off of my partner, however if they want me to stay home and care for the kids that's fine. I'll just have a side business. Either way I'm gonna try and pay my own way.
Not in the American sense.
I'd rather just the person respect peoples' situation and my situation. And they're not reckless with money. And yeah, I don't like people that are snooty because their parents are rich, when they haven't done anything to earn that money themselves.
Of course it matters, to some degree. I can't akr a relationship last with a person who does not make any living at all and refuses to make one, for example.
But if they can support themselves, it's good. They don't need to support me, or even less, be rich.
The short answer is no.
I don't need my guy to be super rich, buy me stuff and always take me places. However, I wouldn't really want to be with someone who struggles to make ends meet. I believe I'd be more compatible with someone who's from a similar socioeconomic background to my own.
I notice that it is quite nice to not have to pay all the time. For an instance, I have been in relationships where I have to pay all the travel expenses, and then she made me pay for all the costs we made while I was at her place, and that can get annoying. However, it isn't that big of a deal to me. As long as I have the money, and the costs don't exceed my spending limit, it is fine.
I would really love to hear from people choosing "rich". Where in the world are you going to find someone rich? GetARichHottie. com? Realistically, why would someone rich and wealthy someone settle for someone average and broke? If I loved someone truly, what they have in the bank wouldn't matter..
It doesn't matter but their are the basic requirements of him having a job or at least trying to get a job and not just complaining about how he can't get one. Also stuff like education, I'd like it if he were financially stable but even if he isn't, I'll be there to help so yeah doesn't matter much
Not really, but I do care if she's really bad with money. Like gets herself into crippling debt subconsciously. My mother got into a cycle of debt and my dad married into it. A big part of the reason he had financial troubles growing up was debt. Not about to sign up for round two.
Well I dated poor guys all my life and they treated me like scum , now I am dating a guy with money and is the first guy that has treated me with respect and loves me dearly.
I believe poor guy have low self esteem and mistreat woman who stays with them unconsciously , because they don't get why she stays while they are suckers.
While guy with money or stable overall don't have low self esteem and respect their partner
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