Is it okay to date 2 girls at once?

Question

I 2 girls is it okay to date both at once?

Tdieseler · Accepted Answer

Omg... after reading all the opinions... come on. Are you people really that fucking stupid. Dude... its ok to date 2 people at once... its just dating.
but do it with the intent to narrow down your choice to just one. hell do 3, 4, 5 at once, but you would only be stressing yourself out.
All these idiots talking about "its cheating"... fuckers dont even know what cheating is or means.
These are the same cunts who do online dating and are talking to 12 guys/girls at the same fucking time like its not the same concept.

What im trying to say is that its ok to date 2 at the same time because you are trying to make a choice... but if you intend to keep it as 2 for as long as you can, let me put it this way... its stupid, and it gets really stressful. No point leading someone on.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

It is okay unless you do something to deceive them and make them think that you are dating them exclusively when you are not. That includes keeping your mouth shut if you know they have the wrong impression of your dating status.

Shezadi · Accepted Answer

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StingRayxoxo · Accepted Answer

Until you have established the conditions of a relationship, it’s okay. I always suggest focusing on getting to know one person at a time. But that’s just how I operate.

Logorithim · Answer

You don't say whether they each think they're in a exclusive relationship. That would definitely be wrong, no if and or buts. If each of you has an understanding that you can see other people and that there is nothing exclusive, I still don't think that is a good thing to do and would advise against it, but it's technically OK;

coachTanthony · Answer

The question should of been... Is it okay to date 2 girls at once and they both KNOW IT... of course it's okay but what are the circumstances?

rjroy3 · Answer

Only if you make them both aware of the situation, then you're in the clear. They can't flip out justifiably if they've agreed to the situation, whether it be tacitly or explicitly. You run into problems when you're leading a girl on, or making a girl think it's one thing, when you're really doing something else. If you try and use the shitty line "we weren't official!", "we weren't together!", even tho you never had a straight up conversation of what your relationship is defined to be. If you gave her reason to think that the relationship is more serious than it is, then that is 100% on you. Because you lead her on. If you've been giving her every signal in the book that this is a serious exclusive type boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship, then you're fucking her over. And really fucking yourself over. Because if you had been straight up about the type of guy you were and what you want. You could openly have the type of relationship you really want, without feeling as if you need to pretend or hide it.

I remember I had a disagreement with a guy on here about that very thing. I was stating how it's okay to see more than one girl as long as you let the girls know what's up and he disagreed with me. He stated how it was none of the girls business who else he was sleeping with or that he was sleeping with anyone else at all. And to some small extent I agree. It's not her business who you are explicitly sleeping with and in the beginning it's not necessarily her business if you're seeing other girls, because you JUST met her. But if you're looking to have any ongoing relationship with a girl. She should be aware of what she's getting herself into, even if you don't have an explicit sitdown to discuss it. You don't want to lie to the girl. She still needs to know what's going on so that you're not screwing her over, by leading her on by making her think it's more serious than it is.

Like if you set boundaries for your relationship with a girl, to where it's clear it's pretty much just a sex thing. Then without even saying you're sleeping with other women, you're confirming to her that your relationship is not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and therefore if you do sleep with another woman she can't really protest. She may not like it, but if she knows what the relationship is then she's not going to protest.

MikeAndMolly · Answer

If they both know and are okay with it.

Typically there is an implied assumption that neither person in a couple will date or be intimate with others. Your partner trusts you not to break that rule. If you violate your partner's trust, that's wrong and not okay.

However, if you establish that it is okay to date other people, either because you're in an open relationship, or because neither of you are ready to be exclusive yet and are only dating casually, then there is nothing wrong as long as you are both open and honest and you're not hurting anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

Only if:
- they both know about itand are fine with it
- it's completely platonic/first dates just meant for getting to know each other.

As soon as you start having second/third etc dates and get to the point where she might think it's heading towards a relationship, it's not okay to go behind her back.

I once dated a guy who openly told me at the first date that he thought I was nice/cute, but he didn't know me very well yet and he was also getting to know someone else around that same time. It was fine by me, just meant I wasn't going to do anything physical untill it changed.

fem-ily · Answer

Depends, do you mean like in a polyamorous relationship? Because if so, that’s a personal choice that you should discuss with both women to see if they are comfortable. And if you mean just dating two different women without them being aware of each other, then no, I would say it isn’t ok.

sugarchateau · Answer

Yes.
So here’s the thing, dating isn’t exclusive. Where girls get butthurt is they are choosing to fuck the guys they are dating and want it to be exclusive, but if you’re not in a relationship... you are a free bird and you should fly and explore opportunity. 🦅 be free. Also if people are fucking around, I hope y’all choose protection.

NatashaJ · Answer

I love how men like you think this is ok but when a woman wants to date two men at once you guys lose shit like you might think you lose her to him because she realizes he way better than you lmaooo. What's with the disrespect for women nowadays you damn well know if a woman has ANY self-respect she should dump your ass in a heartbeat if you ask her this.

dreadmyst · Answer

Im guessing you are asking for the first few dates? in my opinion its ok to have dates with a few girls at the same time but by the 2nd or 3rd date (if it gets that far) you should be able to choose one and just be spending time with her.

If your meaning by having two relationships at same time as long as both parties are ok with it then there's not a issue but if it's being kept secret it will backfire on you. Open relationships are a thing but it requires honesty and a lot of trust.

lightbulb27 · Answer

yep, I've had a nice girl I was dating date another guy at same time, so all is fair. I think gotta choose one at some point, or none. In my value system, it's just getting to know and when pick one let the other know. Actually, I think it boosts your esteem and makes them feel like you have value... as long as you are open what you are doing, is ok.

I don't think it is a good idea to get serious with more than one.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Well duh.
Why would anyone thinking dating more than one person is not okay.

The whole point of dating is to do it with muitple people.
You should never be with 2 girls at the same time but been with somone as a boyfriend is completely different to dating.

Dating is when your unsure if you like them as friend or as more or maybe not at all. So it's fine

Browneye57 · Answer

Of course. Where is it written that you must be exlusive to date someone? Isn't that why you date? To be able to discern whether they're a match? Whether they're worthy?

So yeah, date a lot. Spin plates as they say. You'll find one worth investing more in and you can drop the others when you're ready.

Just don't tell them all - have your own life. Some plates will drop on their own. And ALWAYS have a backup plan. The women do!

Ranger2019 · Answer

No... in my opinion that's horrible. If someone did that with me I'd tell them to fuck off... I'd never do that to anyone, what a terrible way to devalue a potential life partner. When i see people do it i view it as arrogant, shallow inconsiderate and selfish.

Anonymous · Answer

Of cours yes!! Why are you even asking this question, dude? The girls should even contribute their money to buy you what you want, take care of you in turn. and.. oh oh! they could also do thressomes with you, and I wish you with all my heart that one of them will catch a deadly std that she will transmit to you. Good luck ❤️

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. Some people are more anxious than others. Many people assume when you date you date like they date. For some people that means 1 person at a time always for others that means as many as you want until you commit to something exclusive. Neither is correct because it’s just a matter of opinion. So it’s best to just know where you stand and where they stand on this and most problems can be avoided.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Perfectly fine unless your officially commited to one then no. But if your getting to know both your not commited and hence can’t cheat on what you don’t have both have equal opportunity to be with you so whoevers best will. If people are saying no that’s cheating ignore them clearly they don’t know what they’re saying or what cheating involves ie being together and getting with someone else.

ecfresh · Answer

Of course it is. You can date multiple people until you decide to be committed or exclusive. Once you decide to become her boyfriend, then you can only date one woman at that time.

On_the_other_hand · Answer

Until you agree that you are exclusive you can date as many people as you like. If they ask if you are seeing anyone else then tell the the truth. And if you intend to start dating others then let them know you are not exclusive.

AlienChickk · Answer

Depends on the situation, if both of them agree to seeing other people sure. But one or both of them might want to make it more serious at some point, and then you’ll have to make a decision.

nonratracereality · Answer

Its up to the individual. People love the idea of exclusivity but as they say you're dating testing the waters. The standards by which you live by will determine which course of action you take.

Xclusiveag24 · Answer

Noped so I tried once so it is not good when I was young to experiments to see if it is good or not.. But it is the end badly.. Don't do that so just talk to one or date with one person to engaged in a relationship

Cammy137 · Answer

Until such a time as you're exclusive, there is no real issue with it. That's the whole point of becoming exclusive: it marks the moment where you can no longer see/date other people

ChgzDaniel · Answer

I think it's ok to DATE two girls at once. But as soon as you get into a relationship with one of them, and you start getting intimate it's time to choose between one or the other.

Marrry · Answer

Lol lol. Ok hear this. if you just met them it is okay but you have to decide SOON  If you do this for a long time you are a big disgusting repulsive ASS  If you are a troll fond other pages 😁

LovelyBones13 · Answer

If you do not have a comitted relationship with one of them and they know that they are not the one and only for you then its okay. Just expect them to date other people aswell

MimiHashima · Answer

No... if your looking a longer lasting relationship... and meaningful... no... this shouldn’t even be an option..

sweetexplosion · Answer

That’s called an open relationship. If they BOTH KNOW & are ok with it, then go ahead, as long as you’re not hurting anybody

Beibhinn_Princess · Answer

If everyone is aware of it and comfortable with the idea, then it is find. But if it's secret, so cheating, then NO WAY!

c-rane · Answer

If you're talking about a polyamorous relationships where they're both aware, then it's okay. If you're talking about cheating... no.

cavmanier · Answer

Yes, you aren't committed early on. You're trying to see who you want to be with if you even want to be with one person.

PondyPand · Answer

Do the girls know each other and that you're dating both? If not, or they ain't happy with that, then fuck no.

Massageman · Answer

Until the couple is "going steady" or "engaged", absolutely. The function of "dating" is to find out if you are compatible with various other partners, and you can only do this if you date them and compare them.

boulshyte · Answer

go on dates? yes. go on as many dates with as many people. then see who u gel with more and filter down to whoever u want to be with. if u want to be commited to 2 people make sure they both know about it.

Kenni · Answer

If all 3 are ok with it and AWARE of it i don't see why not

courtney06 · Answer

It’s okay. Personally, I prefer when guys date one girl at a time but I think that’s less common these days. Not really into dating these days.

WalterRadio · Answer

From experience, I can tell you it is really fabulous if they are both bi-sexual and into each other.

Sabrina_gomez · Answer

If they both know about it an are okay with it... I'd say yeah  but I don't like the idea... I wouldn't want my boyfriend dating another girl and me!

Björnson · Answer

The only way it would be okay is if they both knew that the relationship isn't exclusive and they both agreed to it.

red324 · Answer

That's why they call it dating. You think the girls online just pick one guy and stick with him? Nope. Now if you guys become official then you have to tell the other girls you found someone.

SelfishGuy · Answer

3 people dating at the sametime may not be bad as long all three parties agree. Otherwise, somebody is going to get into trouble.

Crystal28 · Answer

It is okay to casually date multiple women, but you should only be in a committed relationship with one.

AD1495x · Answer

No. Go on a date/s with somebody, decide if there is a future for the two of you and then either be with that person or let them know you don't think it is working and go on a date/s with somebody else.

DJB72 · Answer

It depends on your definition of "date" If you mean "spend time with" then yes. If you mean "fuck" then no.

slatyb · Answer

On the same date? Or do you mean dating one then the other? That's fine as long as you aren't lying to them about it.

angry_llama · Answer

Wtf no... Well unless if they're ok with it, ig it's fine...

Lipstick_Librarian · Answer

Not if you want to keep all of your anatomy intact, lol :p

ChocolateCheesecake · Answer

Dating sure but not have two serious relationships that could be bad

Hidden_P · Answer

Lots like drivers license points. The more you have the better you have.

Anonymous · Answer

Why settle for just two?

ZestyWatermelon · Answer

If they both know and are okay with it. If not then no

Purpleronnie · Answer

Sure , why not... just make sure you get their approval on that 😜

Chaz269 · Answer

You have to be open and honest with them both about your situation and intentions. Then THEY will tell you if that's kool or not.

MrKinktastic · Answer

If they both know about and are ok with it go for it.

candycanehearts · Answer

No wayy not unless you tell them at least but i wouldn't b ok with jt

Lance1965 · Answer

Yes, you can date as many girls as you can handle. Nobody owes anyone anything while dating. Date as many women as you can till find a good match and then you can become exclusive with someone.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. If the relationship is NOT exclusive then I guess it's okay. I wouldn't really care if a guy was seeing another girl as long as we were casually dating.

maaaaax · Answer

Isn't that what "dating" means? You are not exclusive yet.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Only if they're aware of this arrangement and agree to it.

Anonymous · Answer

If I was one of them, you would just date one girl because I would leave you. I don't need a boy who can not decide between 2 girls.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If you're open to them that you're not exclusive then yeah. If you're lying to them, no.

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