Should guys hide their feelings on the first date?

[Muhammad1999]

I mean should he avoid telling her his emotions and how he feels.

Yes

No

[TarrAva]

A first date is always a "get to know each other date" and not a "I want to get horizontal with you" meeting.

Therefore, it is totally inappropriate to start talking about feelings, not knowing how your date will respond to that display of emotions.

Such behavior would totally put me off because for me the first date is the time where I assess the person in total neutrality, check the pros and cons of a further date with him, see whether we are intellectually compatible and a plethora of other issues, just like when you buy a car.

You also check every nut and bolt, look under the hood and take the car for a test drive before committing to buying it. The same applies to a first date.

What if that person does not meet your expectations and you are pretty sure that there will not be a subsequent date?

So your date opens to you and confesses that he is head over heels for you. Your feelings not being reciprocal, you place him in an embarrassing situation. Do you tell him to calm down because you are not reciprocating or do you just walk away and break his heart?

Better hide your feelings until you are sure that they are returned by your date. That way will save you from embarrassment and potentially making a fool out of himself.

[mornings98]

Being honest from the beginning really helps to develop a stronger control of emotions from both sides. Also allows you to 'dig deeper' into someone's personality and learn more about them

[SngBirdy]

You make a really good point. By having serious conversations about serious, or rather meaningfull things, you set the agenda or atmosphere (cant find a fitting word) for the relationship and/or the dates.

[The_Dean]

If you tell your date that you're nervous, you instantly make it less awkward because you say what both of you are thinking and feeling.

Emotions are only ever bad if it makes you look like you have no control over them, otherwise, a woman would most likely enjoy that the guy is comfortable enough to share them.

Exceptions: NO CRYING, NO ANGER, AND NO SELF-PITY.

[Muhammad1999]

So I shouldn't cry in front of her?

[The_Dean]

On the first date? NEVER. That would make it seem you have no control over your emotions, and are thus emotionally weak.

Down the line, when you're exclusive and known each other for a little while, crying can be acceptable, but do try not to cry about stubbing your toe or losing your job. I'm talking about crying about the death of a family member, or something similar of import.

First dates are about testing the waters and figuring out whether your partner is meant to be long term or if it won't work. You will leave a bad impression by crying and being mopey on the very first date.

[Muhammad1999]

I know dude , I was kidding 😂

[The_Dean]

😂 I feel like I'm losing the ability to tell when someone is kidding in text. With the amount of foolish questions asked here, you never know.

[Muhammad1999]

I dont blame you bro 😂😂😂

[Aguysopinion4799]

NO.

Guys should be allowed to express their emotions just like girls and on the first date, show your emotions.

Be yourself because at the end of the day that is what they are deciding on, whether they like YOUR personality so if you aren't yourself and open on the first day, you aren't being honest :(

[Muhammad1999]

It seems like a good idea but most girls will find a guy weak if he shows some emotions

[Aguysopinion4799]

Then they aren't the one, simples. :'(

If the girl finds the guy weak for being open emotionally, they aren't the one, not in my eyes anyways </3

[coachTanthony]

First dates are supposed to be light and airy like an English muffin. I am not sure what feelings you would be hiding but if you are referring to stuff like you are already IN LOVE with her then YES... Keep that pie hole shut! LOL.

[MaverickAngel]

Feelings cannot be that deep if it's just a first date.. so feeling like.. hey you're really nice and I'd love to see you again.. sure
Feelings like.. I love you... haven't met a girl like you before... you're the one etc.. too intense for a first date...

[lomimore]

For me that is bullshit tbh if a guy shows me more depth there is to him am way more interested but you got to have a limit because emotions can come off as overwhelming which would have me running the other way, ypu just gotta know how to make the balance i guess.

[EmbraceThePain]

Well, you can be honest but perhaps it’s not appropriate to pour your heart and soul on the first date even if you feel like doing so. I’d be honest enough and say, I do like this woman and want to continue seeing her. I’d have no issue saying this and maybe more. I will however give it more time to divulge more of my emotions to her, instead of putting all my cards on the table on the first date. This is what I think is best for me

[musicloverr8]

I voted yes because you don't want to be overbearing with emotions on the first date. This is the introductory stage of the relationship so you are still getting to know eachother. But at the end of the night he should express interest and wanting to get to know her more or see her again. Just don't creep her out.

[megaman242]

Yes and no, it's ok to show a hint on how you feel yes, to keep them wanting more is always the best way. Not to pore out all on the first date, maybe not even kiss on the first date, but to make sure they know you want to kiss and like them and want to see them again. In that way we know that when we get home them butterflys will be crazy and you really want to meet them again. Your playing in your head the kiss you want. You meat a second time, tell a little more about how you feel, a kiss but no more, save it for a third date and keep it like that, untold slowly and you don't overwhelm the person.

[Exterminatore]

I don’t think you should have feelings on a first date unless you already know her pretty well.

The only feelings that seem rational would be sexual in nature. As for the rest, you hardly know the girl unless you know her well, so how could you really have any feelings?

[LazarusTheRisen]

Absolutely not. If you feel the need to hide your feelings on the first date or the 20th date. You are not in a healthy relationship or you are about to start a very unhealthy relationship. Being open, vulnerable and willing to Express ones self is key to a healthy relationship. Any relationship that isn't doing that now is bound to fail or will be lived in misery

[chrisbigman]

I wouldn't hide my feelings, but I wouldn't treat it like a counseling session ('open the floodgates of emotion') either. Leave the counseling to the professionals, or at least give yourselves privacy (your home or hers). First date is not likely when you would learn so much about her that you would have feelings for her already anyways.

[lernulo]

Well in fact I wasn't agree with hide feelings, but if you read all the females answers its obvious that you should.
Near 30% considered that you shouldn't have because it's a first date, and most of them recommended to measure them so as not be overwhelming.
On my opinion, I think you should add some place in which is natural to talk about it, and express very little of them so as she can start to know you, but just as a clue.
It's what I understood of the most of their opinions.

[BeHappy1985]

To a degree you should keep some things to yourself. I mean if she really likes you it doesn't matter, but if she isn't sure the best thing to do is not be too open, in the sense that you shouldn't show your excitement too much. So she doesn't feel like you're already conquered and it's time for the next guy.

[SngBirdy]

Depends on the emotions. When people talk about emotions, they always think of weaknesses and insecurities. Yeah i think you should hide those at the beginning.
But there are also good and positive emotions. Things you are excited about, things you love. Things you are passionate about.
I dont think you should hide those.

[oreoloving]

No he shouldn’t hide his feelings, I want to know how he feels about me and if it’s worth going on another date.

[Nivinxus]

First date, well... my only feelings are generally interest and mild attraction. Nothing like Love or stuff like that. So no real point in hiding it and being aloof.

[ultimega]

What kind of feelings? I wouldn't say hide on first date, like by all means be open... but don't treat it like a therapy session to unload everything. Pace yourself , hun.

[yungclorox]

What feelings? Its a first date! If you knew eachothee for a long time beforehand though, id say go right ahead and be honest. Tell her how excited you are to get to know her :)

[LazarusTheRisen]

This has nothing to do with emotional love feelings.. this is Expression and passion of self and things he/she enjoys

[Syrian_survivor]

How would someone have feelings from the first date?
If they've known each other for a while, then yeah but not too much. Dont treat her like your wife from the very first date, that would be creepy lol.

[mattl338]

This is not a black and white answer, it depends, if you already know each other well and are dating, maybe not, if you don't know each other well, then yes absolutely you should because none of you know if you like each other yet.

[besticanexplain116]

Pffht. If this is a date with someone you're trying to no, absolutely shove that stupid talk down. If you've known her for years and is your friend and blah blah blah, give her some flavorful hints and subtleties.

[shimmeryns]

Feelings of interest? Admiration? Well let her know.