Because it is shallow. There is no getting around that reality. My ex from years ago is 5'3 and I'm 5'5 and love to wear heels. Sex in doggy was awkward but hey lol
Because some people can't accept that you have a preference. The people who get uptight about it also have their own criteria that they filter people out by. Don't listen to what they say. I wouldn't date someone who is much shorter than me but I could go an inch shorter if I really like him. It's your life and you decide who you want to spend your time with
I think it’s just generally seen as shitty to judge people for things they have no worldly ability to change. But it’s your life you do you. I guess some people are just a lot more shite and judgy then others
Same reason it'd be shallow to only want a girl with big boobs. You can't help what you're born with. With that said everyone is shallow. Some are more than others is all, just accept you're a bit shallow like the rest of us.
its seen that way because it is something that can't be controlled or fixed buy a cosmetic change. but you're still allowed to have your preferences. don't let peoples feelings influence who you give yourself to.
If a girl doesn't want to date me based on my height, then I know they aren't the right person for me.
However, people always base their preferences off of experiences and observations, meaning that nobody actually knows that they don't like short men, they are just insistent on not pursuing or being pursued by them based on implicit bias.
By the way, I have no issue with preferences somebody may have for dating as long as all parties are consenting adults. I would rather somebody date a person they are attracted to than someone they aren't because society tells them they can't discriminate or because their reasons are shallow.
Its fine as long as it is your preference. But if you are distancing someone for the sole reason of them being not tall enough, only then it is considered shallow.
Response to update: take your time to think ana analyze that you have come to this conclusion since you always held that opinion and not due to moral pressure that you felt because of how people responded.
I can understand having a minimal standard for attractiveness but requiring someone to tower over you is bizarre and illogical to me. If I apply a similar standard then I will be turning down way too many people that could rock my world.
I've never dated a girl who was taller than me, but I would not have a problem dating a girl who was taller. I'm taller than the great majority of girls.
Because you’re disqualifying someone as dating potential solely because of their physical height. It’s not that you’re not entitled to it, but it is shallow.
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Because height is purely a physical trait that doesn't have any real benefits, and choosing a partner based on such superficial things is the definition of shallow. And all this is coming from a 6'3 guy.
Yes there's a limit to everything. You can't have sex with someone you don't find physically attractive. If he has a good personality, he can be a good friend but not a partner
It depends. Let's say you meet a woman who has most of your ideal personality traits in a woman but unfortunately she's a big girl, would you still date her?
I am not sure, and how big she is? anyway it's @Lord_Thy_Gawd who is having more problem with fat girls than myself, so I think that he is the one who should be answering on that.
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Because it is shallow. There is no getting around that reality. My ex from years ago is 5'3 and I'm 5'5 and love to wear heels. Sex in doggy was awkward but hey lol
Because some people can't accept that you have a preference. The people who get uptight about it also have their own criteria that they filter people out by. Don't listen to what they say. I wouldn't date someone who is much shorter than me but I could go an inch shorter if I really like him. It's your life and you decide who you want to spend your time with
I think it’s just generally seen as shitty to judge people for things they have no worldly ability to change. But it’s your life you do you. I guess some people are just a lot more shite and judgy then others
Same reason it'd be shallow to only want a girl with big boobs. You can't help what you're born with. With that said everyone is shallow. Some are more than others is all, just accept you're a bit shallow like the rest of us.
Same reason women say it's shallow to want a girl who is not fat.
But she can lose weight. He can't gain height.
Most girls who are fat don't care enough to lose weight for you.
What if she was your mostly ideal (personality wise) girl but she's fat, would u still date her?
Personality is great. But if the attraction isn't there--how is a relationship going to last? Otherwise its friendship.
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This is why I've given up on women, too high standards.
Are u gay then?
No I'm straight
I feel you, brother!
its seen that way because it is something that can't be controlled or fixed buy a cosmetic change. but you're still allowed to have your preferences. don't let peoples feelings influence who you give yourself to.
If a girl doesn't want to date me based on my height, then I know they aren't the right person for me.
However, people always base their preferences off of experiences and observations, meaning that nobody actually knows that they don't like short men, they are just insistent on not pursuing or being pursued by them based on implicit bias.
"Why can't it be a preference?" they aren't mutually exclusive. It is a preference and it is considered shallow by many people.
By the way, I have no issue with preferences somebody may have for dating as long as all parties are consenting adults. I would rather somebody date a person they are attracted to than someone they aren't because society tells them they can't discriminate or because their reasons are shallow.
I don't think it's shallow I think it can be a preference. It might just be something you're comfortable with and brings you a sense of security.
Its fine as long as it is your preference.
But if you are distancing someone for the sole reason of them being not tall enough, only then it is considered shallow.
Response to update: take your time to think ana analyze that you have come to this conclusion since you always held that opinion and not due to moral pressure that you felt because of how people responded.
I can understand having a minimal standard for attractiveness but requiring someone to tower over you is bizarre and illogical to me. If I apply a similar standard then I will be turning down way too many people that could rock my world.
I've never dated a girl who was taller than me, but I would not have a problem dating a girl who was taller. I'm taller than the great majority of girls.
Because you’re disqualifying someone as dating potential solely because of their physical height. It’s not that you’re not entitled to it, but it is shallow.
Because height is purely a physical trait that doesn't have any real benefits, and choosing a partner based on such superficial things is the definition of shallow. And all this is coming from a 6'3 guy.
At least you are not asking for your SO to be rich, or a body builder. You are allowed to have your preferences.
Well, I'm 5'6 so dating someone shorter than me would be too much..
You think, you're short? Try 4'6 😂
Sorry I'm not gonna date a 5'4-5'5 guy
I don't find that physically attractive
Even if he was an amazing guy (personality wise)?
Yes there's a limit to everything. You can't have sex with someone you don't find physically attractive.
If he has a good personality, he can be a good friend but not a partner
Thats fine but most women your height want someone over 6ft tall
That is the standard but being 4'6 it's a bit silly if I date simeone that tall
@milantb1 I didn't say that a guy has to be over 6ft but there's no way I'm dating someone that short either (5'4-5'5)..
It is shallow... but you can't control what you like..
It's like these idiotic trannies that say you're transphobic if you prefer biological woman to a man that chose to mutilate him self.
Because you're choosing not to date someone based on something they have no control over
Well the things that people are not able to change tend to be the most meaningful.
Because I'd be called a prick if I said I don't want to be with a fatass.
But he/she can lose weight. people can't change their height so it's shallow.
Is the fact that she can change it make it more or less "shallow" to not date her?
It depends. Let's say you meet a woman who has most of your ideal personality traits in a woman but unfortunately she's a big girl, would you still date her?
I am not sure, and how big she is? anyway it's @Lord_Thy_Gawd who is having more problem with fat girls than myself, so I think that he is the one who should be answering on that.
@berethor you're the one who asked. She's obese by the way.