When I was a teenager, I went to rehab with a bunch of rich kids. A lot of them were ULTRA attractive. AND had rich parents, something I envied, for sure.
I knew several excessively attractive males in there and later at N. A. who were broken beyond belief. Addicted to heroin or coke, etc, self-harming, suicidal. One tried to stab himself in the neck multiple times. A guy I got pretty close to ended up hanging himself. He looked like a model.
Life knocks us all to the ground man. Yeah, they might have some things easier, but overall, life is a bitch to virtually everyone. Though, yes, being attractive is probably more desirable than not. And it certainly comes with perks. But it also comes with issues; and, it also doesn't free one from existential suffering.
Another thing is that we humans tend to ignore what we have and want what we don't have. So you're looking at super hot guys going "Man, if only I had that." And they might be looking at you going, "Man, if only I had what he has." It's easy to see what others have and what we don't have. It's a lot harder to see what they don't have.
For instance, North Koreans are happier than South Koreans. Makes literally no sense right? South Korea is a developed, relatively free, rich country, and is the suicide capital of the world. North Korea, shit, they make 12 year olds watch public executions. They've starved to the point where rice was a cherished birthday present once a year, living under constant threat of being killed for watching porn or Western media or basically anything else. But they're happier. Why? They have bonds. They have community, still, while South Korea doesn't, as much.
I'll also tell you, with women, looks do not matter that much. Even if you're ugly, if you develop the right mindset, create the right habits, develop the right skills, then you could walk up to women with little resistance, as well. Getting shredded might help a bit, but what it really helps is your confidence, which is more attractive than the body, to women. Ugly men are a lot luckier than ugly women (though, ugly women can win too with the right developments).
As the first of the Four Noble Truths states: Life is Suffering. No one is immune to that. This is not an easy world to live in for anyone.
Sure, you can say it's like "playing life on easy mode". That's not necessarily a good thing.
You know what happens to people who play games on easy mode? They start to lose the game once the slightest amount of difficulty is added.
People who coast through life on nothing but their good looks are hollow, shallow people who can't do anything except look pretty. I guess if your idea of the perfect life is just being able to have sex easily, then that's not a bad thing. But if you have ANY goals in life whatsoever beyond sex, it's gonna be a problem.
not really, everything comes to prons and cones
and a lot depends on your personality
Im pretty and it can be hard from jaelous people and guys that just won't leave me alone
sometimes you dont want the attention and just want to live your life without people bothering you
Maybe. But some women are more skeptical about analyzing what Mr. Tall Handsome is really after. Who cares if he's handsome if he's a douche and has nothing to contribute to society?
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It is unless you have some sort of psychological disorder and don't appreciate what you've got.
Being handsome only goes so far. The guy has to have some other qualities like he's nice. I guess with some women it would be a priority but even most of those women over time realize that a guy being handsome after a while has a lot less importance in what is considered attractive.
I was in a group the other day and we were talking about dramas that we all watch. I said that many times when I was a show an actor will actually get more attractive to me because of how the character is. That I would even watch a drama where the actor isn't considered handsome. One man and one woman said no they weren't that way. They both said that the lead actress or actor have to be good looking for them to watch the tv show. The 4 people in this group were all between 50 and 59.
The thing is men being born handsome just happens. And it isn't their fault if people react to them. If they use people because of it then that is an issue.
Mate it's all about social skills and style. If you don't have the social skills or knowledge of fashion, then sex is gonna be rare for you unless you find someone even more awkward than yourself.
If you do change and have sex with lots of people though you are going to realise that sex is meaningless without love
Take noel fielding for example: he was voted sexiest man he doesn't exactly fit your cookie cutter
As a tall handsome man myself , I can attest that life is nothing but a walk in the park.
For example , I can walk into any supermarket and say " Fill up my shopping cart" and boom , my shopping cart is full within in minutes. All on the house. I can walk into a bank and say "Fill up this bag with $100 millions" Boom , the bag is filled. Let's say that I at at the mall -- you know , just being admired and envied by all those crusty plebs around me - and I see a hot chick , I call her over and say "blow me" and boom , she is on her knees blowing me. Right there in front of every one. What's that , she has a husband / boyfriend? To fucking bad , that punk ass fool can watch.
It's so fucking awesome that there are days I just don't know what to do white myself.
Now if you'll excuse me , I need to go crap out some magical unicorn nuggets.
Not everyone likes a tall guy. :) and not everyone will fall inlove with just a face. :) character and humor makes most of the girls fall in love with them. :)
It’s because they probably don’t know how to have sex but they have a big dick and they think that’s enough. 🤷🏻♀️ lol but then girls are like “NAHHHH” I always go for personality. In high school, I’ve seen jackasses flirt with girls saying the stupidest lines or just “Hi” and the girls just giggle and I’m just like “WOW, really?” He was the guy who broke up with a girl after sleeping with her for one day, and you want to be the next? Lol okay. And yes, it would be known. Everything got around in my high school. It was sad.
1. Male
2. Tall
3. Fit
4. Attractive
Yeah, that’s life on easy mode right there. People just assuming you know what you’re doing/talking about, plus the ladies are all interested? Yeah, all you need to do is avoid being a douchebag and you’re basically set for life.
Nothing makes dating easy -- everyone gets daunted by it. And whether you can attract women depends far more on personality --especially confidence -- than appearance.
Being tall or athletic gives a modest advantage, and maybe those men are more confident in themselves as a result. But anything about your appearance can be rendered irrelevant by your personality. It's about confidence more than anything else!
Some people have it easier, so what? Would you date yourself with that attitude? Even if you didn't win the genetic lottery, we still have ideas and the ability to build our character.
If you want to be attractive, then you have to respect both yourself and others! Your short post is framed in a way that says "what do I (not) get" instead of "what can I give."
And if you're fazed by any rejection, then you still lack strength of character, that self-respect. Too many men treat confidence like it's some kind of talent or commodity, when all it is is respecting yourself and others deeply.
In the dating realm it's definitely easier for tall handsome guys to get attention from women, but it doesn't automatically mean they'll be in a stable or successful relationship. In the beginning of when liking someone it's all based on looks, so of course people like that are going to do better. It's later on in a relationship where all of that doesn't matter as much, but is more built on personality of both the people in the relationship.
Easy mode is being average. The more average you are, the more you fit in with everyone else, the more they trust you, the balanced other people feel around you, etc. As you stray for mean things get harder for you because there are less people like you. Do girls find hot guys attractive? Sure. Do they think all hot guys are players/will cheat/are lying/etc. Yep.
Yeah, that's just not true. Being tall is a prerequisite for some woman, but like not even the majority. Plenty of tall lonely men in the world. I suggest rather than wishing you were tall, you should try to learn to do something that woman find attractive and would like to talk to you about. I went with cooking, but it could be a lot of things: dancing, bike riding, camping, drawing, guitar
That's assuming beauty is universal and being handsome means you're not human or something... You think people can find themselves flawless in their everyday life, if you're a narcissist maybe... it's assuming people don't have their own insecurities faults of character and flaws... And always have it easy and handed to them... Hate to break it to you we're all human, tall short, song weak etc
Yeah, there's extra attention and special treatment - but it's not necessarily easier getting the woman you want. And confidence might not be as high as you think either.
In my case, I've grown into my "handsomeness" but when I was younger I was the outcast, so confidence has always suffered.
Maybe it gets the initial attention of a woman, but you still have to present your inner self well too.
Personality is more important for men to be successful in life, love, and career.
A tall handsome guy with a beta insecure personality can be overtaken by an average looking guy with an Alpha personality and attitude.
Women can skirt more on looks alone.
Nah. Being born rich is like plying life in an easy mood. Look at Kylie Jenner. If you’re tall and good looking but you were born poor in a third world country it doesn’t really matter, in fact even pretty boys when they are young can be abused by perverts, so it can also be a curse to them
Not really, everyone has problems, even Dwayne Johnson has his own problems. You may not have a problem with dating and getting certain jobs, but you might suffer from things like mental illness, crazy ex, people only wanting to fuck and not be serious, etc.
It isn't the height and looks aline. It helps, yes, but being charismatic and easily approachable too goes a lot further. Lots of tall guys with looks gals did but feel they are pricks or too shy r whatever so get passed over. Equally, plenty of short shit men who rock the panties of gals because they are some smooth mother fuckers.
Looks only get men and women in the door. It is all you after that.
They have an advantage but I wouldn’t say they’re playing life on easy mode. Looks matter but a guy needs to have at least a decent personality too for girls to really be interested. Also, good looks don’t guarantee confidence.
This is stupid, sex and girls aren't everything in life, and getting confidence and validation from those things would do more bad than good.
Sex isn't magic to make your life awesome and flawless, too much of anything is bad, nothing is perfect, there will always be difficulty and bad things in life.
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