How do you think love develops?

[magnifique]

I think there is not „the one“ and you meet this person at the perfect time and everything is perfect...
for me, there are some people with whom you might be compatible with but you might just never meet them or meet some of them at the „wrong time“, and i also think that it‘s best to try to become „friends“ during a relationship and this so ply takes time and effort, i know guys are afraid of the friendzone but most of the time i fell in love with friends, because i loved them as a person, not because i was only physically attracted to them
what do you think about this?

[Anonymous]

I agree with you. I used to believe in love at first sight but whenever i've dated someone it was love at first sight with it hasn't been a good relationship. When it's love at first sight you automatically fall in love with your idea of someone because you can't know someone true personality that fast - Only what they choose to portray to others in social settings. That can be really bad for several reasons.
I think there has to be an initial spark though... Something at least that you find attractive about them even something small and you need to have a connection so that you're comfortable with each other and have fun together from the start already. From there on I think love can develop.

[BALLERINA297]

I love this because appearances aren’t everything and not everyone falls in love at first sight and those that think appearances are everything are very shallow but most of the time I personally fall in love with someone I started out to be friends with and the more time you spend with that person the better you get to know them and that’s what makes me fall in love with someone when I know them really well and spend time with them as friends first I absolutely love getting to know someone first before just jumping in bed after a week of knowing them. I was with my current boyfriend for almost 2 and a half months before we even had sex I had to make sure that’s not all he wanted.

[Jamie05rhs]

Who said anything about jumping in bed?

[13IsALuckyNumber]

Love is born out of the distance closed between to people who learn to coexist with each other I a romantic way. No two people are born in love. Love can be created and destroyed. It can be born and it can die. Love is a mutual respect between you and another that can only die when one of you gives up. If everyone gives it their all then love will burn brighter then any fire created alone. It will always outshine the darkest light and always be around the corner waiting checking for any dangers that await and getting rid of them so you and who ever your with can continue your journey through this strange world that we live in.

[xkildy]

Yes I do think it develops. You put two people in the room make them live with each other for a month without any way out without one of them leaving and there will be love ❤️

[AmandaYVR]

Could be a complicated question, but mainly... it develops if both people are open, and vulnerable, and give themselves into it without holding back or strategizing or playing games. Be vulnerable, be a straight shooter, and you'll get the most out of a relationship.

[btbc92]

Highly agreed. They only fear the friendzone because they know it's low key saying NO sex. There not their for friendship. They want a sexual relationship.

[Venuveus]

All I want is someone to go do everything and nothing with but I guess I'm alone on that one.

[btbc92]

The point is again, there is no such thing as the friendzone. No male approaches a female in hopes of having a friendship unless he states that. They want to get in it for sex. So unless he doesn't believe in premarital sex he will run. I had it happen led to me 3x in my life. It's why I will never be involved or date ever. I'm sick of people who wants to use you.

If your saying you want someone go go do everythinhvand nothing with you have to verbally communicate what those eveything and nothing implies. Everybody needs to know what their getting into.

[Venuveus]

Literally everything or nothing... anything from staring at your face for hours to sky diving to snorkeling to space and back... I don't care what we do as long as it is with you. And still I can go kill myself for wanting to be friends with a attractive female.

[btbc92]

So why does it have to be an attractive female? This is the problem with you men. You say you wanted attractive person oh, so what is an attractive person have anything to do about what you want? If you say you want to do everything or nothing with that person since then shouldn't what matters is a person has a good heart versus whether or not they look attractive? Because you can't stay if you want both things in the woman, the same way a woman can't say they want both things in a man and cannot expect one or the other. Because you can only have one or the other. An attractive person has to be attracted at heart. Not buy a ticket to a parent. Because if you go by there parents, then you will be blindsided by the personality, and you be yet to see who their real character. It's really not that hard to find a real person if you already been friends with such a person. In order for you to attract such a person in your life, you have to go over to be doing the right thing for your life. Because I'm the same type of person myself. But even I know better not to be looking for a man simply because he looks attractive, because he has a personality that's appealing to me. What you're asking is for a person that wants to meet you on a heart and soul level. So get out of the she has to be attractive female. Are get into the Heart level. Because a woman like myself cannot meet you on a heart level if you're too busy being on a physical level. Cuz we will not meet you there.

[Venuveus]

I feel this is Freud talking. Attractiveness is completely due to hundreds of different factors a lot of which have nothing to do with look. But you can not go and make the blanket statement of; good looking= bad heart, Chud=good heart. Everyone has flaws they new to work on. I just want someone to work with... It is really hard to be friends with anyone at all when no one want to talk.

[Jamie05rhs]

@btbc92 Not everything if binary. It isn't just "Friendzone or Sex.". There is such a thing as having a romantic relationship without sex (while waiting for marriage, for example.)

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, there's nothing at all wrong with dating someone you're attracted to.

[btbc92]

@Venueus

When you are intuitive as me, you can tell what kind of person your dealing with by not just what the person says, does, or look like. But the spiritual energy theu give. Even God tells me about these people. He gives me a warning about them. If the person is safe he will tell me if tgey are. If they're not, he will say no or will remove them out of my life.

[btbc92]

@Jamie05rhs and you should know that most people are not getting into a relatio shop where no sex or some type of physical or sexual contact is involved. I would not be with a person solely for attraction. Every time somebody tries to date me for attraction it had one thing in mind. They had no desire for friendship which is my rule or waiting for marriage to have sex. I would not be by myself if it was like you said. They told me all that themselves and shame me for my standards. And them got with other girls just as quickly as they left those girls. They even said to me after apologizing to me that they wishes they had listened to me. Going after a person becaus eod attraction can lead to tons of problems if you don't have rational and logical reasons for them. If they were around where I live they would vouch what I said. Because they lived it the hard way. If I'm not attracted to their heart and spirit, I don't want them. That's the difference between flesh and spirit. Connection in a spiritual level is more important than flesh level.

[Venuveus]

Heh ok, I'm not sure what that has to do with anything lol. Kinda just sounds like your conscious telling you stuff and that is what everyone else does as well. I'm pretty good with just about everyone except hypocrites which is mostly religious people I know not all but most.

[btbc92]

Relationships*

That's why so many women and girls now are not just emotionally guarded, but physically and sexually guarded too. Because you guys say that and then the moment things get to emotionally involved and it becomes a bit physical, that's where it leaves a lot of females confused. Because you say one thing and expect another when we expected exactly what you said you wanted.

[btbc92]

@Venuveus

Of course you would say that because you don't know God. My conscience actually would not tell me anything because I would much rather be an open person then somebody who constantly has to watch them back and be guarded all the time. If it wasn't for the Lord and having intuition I would have been dead by now. Insight and wisdom that God has given has been proven to be at least 99.9% correct every single time I speak about these things. I cannot do it by myself. Trust me I tried. And that's how I ended up inviting the wrong kind of people into my life that I have Bentley had allow got to cut off. I had a lot of people that will claiming to be my friend who not only had allow me to get beaten up and assaulted, but even stole things from me. And I'm not just saying money. I'm not just saying trusting people. But physical things as well. I have learned a great deal over the course of my life that many would not even believe happened to me because they all assume that I'm that kind of person that would not have enemies with people. But I do have enemies. And as the old saying goes. Keep your friends close oh, but your enemies closer. There are many people that are afraid of me, calling me weird, and creepy, because I saw things in others that they don't want to come out to other people.

[Jamie05rhs]

@btbc92 Why are you assuming that if someone is attracted to someone else that they only want to have sex with them? Furthermore, regardless of whether or not I want to have sex with someone, if I am attracted to them it is because there are nice to look at, even with their clothes on.

[btbc92]

There is a major difference between religious and spiritual people. Everything that I'm telling you @Venuveus has to do with everything. But you have to be willing to listen and learn so that you can be with people who desires what you desire. Do not call people Hypocrites solely because they do not share your ideas simply because they call themselves religious. For all are hypocrites and to we all learn from our hypocrisy. Even you.

[btbc92]

@Jamie05rhs

I do not have to assume something for the Insight that the Lord gives me. Is nothing to do with only. Many you assume only. But the fact that you do. If you do not then why do you approach six people. Are you meaning to tell me that you do not have a desire for such things with that person? A person is more than just somebody to look at. They want to be acknowledged for the spirit and who they are as people. Otherwise eventually that person is going to grow to hate looking a certain way because you're only with them because you are attracted to how they look. When all they really want is to be looked at for their heart. Not for the appearance. Would you still be attracted to a person if they were not physically appealing to you? I highly doubt that.

[Venuveus]

No I call people hypocrites when they say one thing and do the opposite lol.

[btbc92]

For I have seen good people being rejected because they are not meeting the trends of the world, or being physically appealing to a certain person. When all they ask is to simply just be loved for who they are not for what they have or what they appear to be.

[btbc92]

@Venuveus

But why does the word religious have to come out of your mouth? Even if you say 'most, one who is religious and leave justly can easily make those judgments about secular people. So it's unwise to make such rash judgments about a person solely because of their religious or belief status. But even I know better than to judge everybody to be the same. When one should be judged for their fruit and character only after you have solely judge yourself equally and as harshly. I at least make sure I don't make decisions that will poorly reflect my character and who I represent. Whatever others do is their personal business and responsibility.

[Jamie05rhs]

@btbc92 I do look at their heart. That's the most attractive thing about them.

[btbc92]

@Jamie05rhs

So if you look at their heart, their appearance and clothes should mean nothing. It's just clothes on a vessel. But many do not see it that way un

[Jamie05rhs]

I never said the clothes meant anything. What I was saying is that they are still attractive even with clothes on (aka not naked.)

[Venuveus]

I'm a robot trying to escape tbh... robots want love too.

[btbc92]

@Venuveus

And your deserving of it. But don't let that stop you from being unable to find somebody who equally wants to share that life with you. Again, you must be authentic.

[btbc92]

But again. Many did not approach me for me. They it did it for my body. They did not want friendship or true romance as I did in the past. It was either so dated them or they would get other girls. Other girls they did. Not only told everybody my business about dating and sex, but also shamed and mocked me and got others on the bandwagon.

The point I am making is that getting on the soul level requires a friendship. Not a courtship or dating. When you understand on a soul level, only the if by choice to decide if romance is the path to go.

[Venuveus]

Your words are all over the place can you please calm down take a deep breath and type a little slower. I'm retarded and cannot decipher your sentences.

[btbc92]

How are my words all over the place? I am speaking to two people at once. That's why I linked your username.

[RobLovesDemi1234]

i fell in love with demi by talking about my day to her my hopes and dreams my background my past practically everything and i got to know her likes and dislikes what attracts her and what doesn't. opening up and talking thats how i fell in love with her. i dont think i want to love anyone else anymore not again this was the last time its better to be alone than hurt by anyone

[Jamie05rhs]

Exactly. You can't know someone without having a conversation.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

Time, consistency, respect, sacrifice, friendship
That's how love is formed
It takes a lot of effort and patience.
Romantic love also takes sex, but only after trust has formed before hand

[Jamie05rhs]

Romantic love doesn't require sex, though.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

@Jamie05rhs maybe not initially, but I think sex sort of cements it.
It's the pinnacle of romantic love

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, but for people like us who are waiting for marriage, the romance HAS to begin without sex.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

@Jamie05rhs I 100% agree, its tough tbh. Most women expect sex before marriage, well at least most of the women I am talking to/considering right now.

[Jamie05rhs]

You have to cut them off. I had a girl like that one time. She thought she could change my mind. She didn't know how strong my resolve is.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

@Jamie05rhs I keep cutting them off, but recently I am worried I will have no options haha

[Jamie05rhs]

Don't think like that, dude. There are plenty of options.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

@Jamie05rhs Thanks bro. Haha sorry I got really discouraged a few weeks ago. I gotta snap out of despair

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah; snap out of it! :)

[DuskDanger]

Its the building of a friendship to the point ypu finally realize that all of the aspects about them that make them a amazing friend would make them a amazing lover.

[Jamie05rhs]

But those two things are not the same, though. I'm really close to my best friend but that doesn't mean I want to have gay sex with him. Also, I could be really good friends with a female that I wasn't attracted to but that doesn't mean I'm going to magically start being attracted to them (though I will admit that it can play tricks on the mind at times).

[leestella1999]

First is friendship then slowly you like each other then thibk about it after that confess and ask and do a bet with the person you like.

[Jamie05rhs]

a bet?

[leestella1999]

Yes because i have many boyfriend we did the bet of dating six month and see how

[Jamie05rhs]

So you bet each other that you couldn't last 6 months?

[leestella1999]

@Jamie05rhs yes it was like that and we try dating

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, okay. Interesting!

[leestella1999]

Some girls is not bettting but umm it's a trial.

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, there are other girls doing it as well? Is it like a competition to see whose relationship can last the longest? Or are you saying they're all betting on you?

[shimmeryns]

When you feel good chemistry and compatibility. Then the next thing you know, you can't imagine life without them. At least it is for me.

[Anonymous]

No one ever said that shit was perfect😂
It's a hard relationship, for equally as hard people.
Look up the Cataylist Twin Flame.

[Mother_of_All]

For me first would be friendship with that person and later I would realise that I loved him

[Venuveus]

When you understand on a soul level, only the if by choice to decide if romance is the path to go.

Can you explain farther? I'm confused.

[cheekylad]

It's the time the place the spark the desives the laughing the chat the firts the smiles

[Anonymous]

Yes I met a girl at the wrong time. it's best not think about them. it brings too much hurt. also I think you create bonds I over time

[fulloflife]

it's just there. chemistry.

[Arthur_Morgan_1]

When she makes you food when you got the munchies

[Nik1hil]

By confusion