Some people swear they’ve felt an instant connection, while others think true love only grows through getting to know someone over time. What do you think? Does love need time, or can it happen instantly?
Yes I do to a certain extent but it’s not necessarily love , it’s definitely infatuation, when you see someone that takes your breath away and you pretty much want them , hoping they feel the same way about you. So If the both of you connect and the chemistry and passion for each other is there, and you both choose each other consistently, that’s when Love starts to grow between you both , Love only comes when the both of you consistently choose each other no matter what , When the both of you accept each other and choose each other for the long haul and not the short haul. Why it’s wise not to rush into things with anyone, until the both of you see the big picture. You can choose them the same way you hope they choose you , but understand that infatuation period could change, if the both of you aren’t consistently choosing each other. Sadly people change their minds all the time , so to protect yourself from heart break , you are best to only give what you hope to receive from that person , if they eventually stop giving back to you, you will be left with a broken heart and sadly that isn’t love , that is convenience. Someone that truly loves you , is going to accept you for you, no matter what , as long as you do the same for them. The key thing to look out for in a relationship , is if the both of you remove selfishness for each other , and you both consistently make each other your top priority , that’s where Love comes into the relationship and starts to grow between between you both , if they decide to walk the other way ? Then they truly didn’t love you, in the first place. they just liked the convenience of you. Why you should never marry someone until you know for a fact , that the both of you are choosing each other no matter what , if not your marriage will more than likely turn to shit and you will end up divorced or separated. Kind of like what my wife did to me , after being together for a long time , she decided to be selfish, and ruined our love for each other. She only loved me for what she could receive from me , but she truly didn’t love me by choosing selfishness over me. I thought she loved me like I loved her , but unfortunately I was wrong. Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers and sadly everyone has selfishness inside themselves , if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner , don’t expect them to remove it for you. It takes 2 people choosing each other no matter what to make Love grow between you both. Just because you feel like you love someone , it doesn’t mean they love you back the same.
No.
It doesn't exist. The attraction and obsession can hit quick but if you know nothing about them, their stance on sex, politics, money, their character, do they want kids, no kids, are they are homebody, do they party and drink, do they want to travel the world and live in other countries, are they are virgin waiting for a husband, have they had 20 threesomes and they work as a stripper, are they a saver, will they spend all of your money as soon as you get paid, are they entitled or humble and sweet, do they have good boundaries are sucky ones, do they want open relationships or to be monogamous, are they Christian, Atheist, Muslim, Jewish, Hindu?
There are a million things to find out about them before real love can start to form. They could be the exact opposite of all of your core values so "SIGHT" cannot equal love.
You make up a fictional person when you see them. They look so good you just make up the fact that they have all of these wonderful qualities. Have you to get to know the REAL person.
Attraction is first sight. But if it never makes it past that it just remains lust and that can range from different spans of time. Long or short. Certainly wouldn’t be permanent in almost all cases.
Real love is developed. And just because it’s developed doesn’t mean it has to take a lengthy amount of time TO develop. It develops as soon as both are investing into it. It’s getting to know each other with simple talks and the big communication conversations about the important stuff. If the small talks flow and are enjoyable and seem special that’s a good sign of development. What could hinder development is any deterrence because of or the actual product of ‘difficulty in communication.’ If they run into issues and roadblocks and can’t solve it then the love won’t develop. 🤷♀️ and if they fail to discuss and find this as a turn off then that will also prevent future / ongoing development.
Real love is developed. Enjoying each other, having an understanding with each other, and being able to work through tough spots together. That’s it in entirety. But all of that if it slows down and stops altogether means there’s no love to be had, found, or developed* there.
First sight will be attraction for sure. First few chats will be attraction and the beginning steps of developing love. The developing love comes much later. It’s not instantaneous. Or blink-of-an-eye sort of deal.
I believe real love takes time. You can fall in lust with someone but that's certainly not the same as falling in love with someone. It takes time and development to really be able to say I'm in love with this person or I can see myself spending the rest of my life with this person.
There are rare cases where people fall in love instantly, but for the majority of people, that's unrealistic and not really healthy. You want to be able to grow with this person and bond which generally takes a while to do.
Maybe unhealthy was the wrong word to use. I just mean it can be very detrimental to you if you fall in love with someone who turns out not to be the one. So you ended up falling in love prematurely before getting to really know that person. It happened to my friend. She fell for this guy hard and he turned out to be a big time narcissist.
Ah, the classic debate: love at first sight or a slow burn? 😏 Well, as a relationship coach, I've seen both happen! Falling in love at first sight feels like an electrifying moment, but the kind that lasts usually blooms as you truly connect. Real love often unfolds when you grow and discover together, but a magical start can definitely set the stage. Passion might strike instantly, but love flourishes with time and experience. 💖✨ What's your love style?
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u I believe in lust at first sight. If you "love" someone at first sight, you now nothing about them, so what is it that you love?
I believe on “crush” at first sight or even “lust” at first sight but I think actual deep love takes time to develop. I believe can feel instant chemistry and attraction at first sight but that’s essentially just infatuation.
I totally agree! That instant spark is exciting, but true love definitely needs time, trust, and shared experiences to grow.
Yes exactly! I guess a lot of people mistake those instant sparks and butterflies as love.
Takes time to develop. Love at first sight is just infatuation. Feeling an instant connection with someone is considered “normal” in society but it isn't healthy. Any time I’ve felt a strong connection with a man too soon he was always mirroring a childhood wound back to me😹.
There are lots of people who believe in love at first sight. But there are also a lot of people who get divorced after falling in love at first sight too. One thing I've learned is that when it comes to love, time is NOT of the essence. The longer you take to develop love will most likely mean the longer that love will last, and one that will be stronger too.
Who knows what love is? Do we want to let a scientist define it as chemical reactions in the brain? Or some armchair quarterback on a site say what it is?
The focus should be on how you build something that lasts. That requires maturity communication, leadership. How it happens is of no concern to me. How to make it last should be of concern to everyone.
I believe in infatuation at first sight. And the feeling of infatuation is what people associate with love. It's intense. It's the best feeling ever.
But I believe that true love takes time. At first sight, you don't even know the person.
To know that you truly love someone, you have to get to know their genuine personality, behaviors, habits, lifestyle, values and future goals.
Love at first sight is just infatuation/attraction
What do you know about them to say that you love them? Nothing, you just feel an immense passion for them.
This is not love.
Not that i believe in love but even if i don't believe in it i know it enough to say that you don't love someone you don't know.
I've found instant attraction, is this love? Then I've got to know them, and it confirmed what I originally thought of them. But unfortunately love is a two way thing!
I've also grown to like someone because I've been in their company for a while, is this love?
I would have thought true love would take a long time to develop, but instant attraction is a good way to start a relationship.
No, Love at first sight does not exist. That's called infatuation.
You can only Love someone that you have known or some time. Love Develops with trust in the other person.
You can be infatuated with many people at first only to realize you are nothing a like and could never be close to one another or live with one another. It's not Love.
I believe you can be attracted and like someone instantly but love takes time.. Like if that hot girl you just seen got hit by a bus would you really care? No because you didn't know them or love them so you move on and forget about it lol.
I think real love takes time to develop.
You can definitely feel attraction or a connection very quickly, and some people confuse that with love. Then if true love develops later, they'll believe it was true love from the beginning.
You can be strongly attracted on first sight, the real love happens later.
That is if you know how to love OR are love-worthy. The sad reality is some people just don't have it.
Yes, it takes only a few seconds, it often includes the feeling of instant connection.
It happened to me too, several times.
However, you're right, for a deeper connection, it takes more time.
I never had it, because all of my loves were unrequited.
I didn't believe in love at first sight until I met my boyfriend. I fell head over heels in love with him immediately. 2 years later I love him even more.
Guys decide whether they are attracted to you in less than 10 seconds. But most of the value of the relationship will be what you build together over 5, 10, 20 years. So my answers are Yes and also Yes.
There is attraction at first sight and lust at first sight, but genuine love takes time and knowing the other person.
If I’m not physically attracted at first glance, the girl has zero chance of ever being attractive to me.
Infatuation can appear with first glimpse. Love takes much longer
For me it takes time. I also don't believe love at first sight is a real thing, because how could you immediately feel you're compatible with someone? People are way too complex for that.
People confuse lust and infatuation for love. Limerence is also common with a lot of mental illnesses.
Love at first talk, sure. I'm a sapiosexual. 😃
You can have infatuation at first sight, but love takes time and effort and sacrifices.
As for me it’s usually lust at first sight & as for love it happens over time.
I think you can have a strong feeling for someone at first sight, but you can't love who they are without getting to know who they are, some people confuse a strong feeling of "like" for "love".
Real love at first sight is very rare. Usually it takes time to develop.
I believe in both. I think love at first sight can happen, but it will not be that deep, and to make it deep, the two have to spend time to know if they are actually compatible.
Real love takes time to develop. You can find someone attractive but if he hasn't even said one single word, then it's just physical attraction not love.
I believe it can be abbit of both it dies take time for a deep connection to grow.
I can love the way she looks.. but how could I love someone I don’t know.. what if she hates me :(
You can feel a connection quickly, but i wouldn't call it love.
No. Love at first site is nonsense. That may be something if you're 12 years old. But adults need depth.
Love takes time to develop. Attraction happens at first sight.
Sometimes the first, but much more often the second.
I have felt instant connections, but I believe to really love someone you need to know them over time
Love only happens once in this life, and it happens suddenly and quickly.
Love needs time, it takes time to develop
Love = never
Physically interested = yes
Yes, I believe It Happens All The Time.
It’s worked both ways
Can be both.
I believe at first it’s lust. Then develop love.
Takes time.
Yes I do!
Not really
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