Will ladies have to DATE down in order to score a forever partner in 2020?

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According to a recent article, broke men are hurting American women's marriage prospects. Research now suggests that the reason for recent year's decline in marriage rate could have something to do with the lack of "economically attractive" male spouses who can bring home the bacon. The article is eye opening check it out below.

centerline · Accepted Answer

in these times, its hard for a woman to find a real man... there are a lot of momma boy sissies that pretend to be macho or rugged, but when it comes time to man up, they have NO idea of what to do or how to do it...

and for a real man trying to find a good woman, its nearly impossible, as the majority of the women seem to want a preppy guy, but preppy guys can't give them what they will want or need for very long...

we ALL seem to have an over rated opinion of ourselves and unrealistic ideals about what qualities our future spouse should have, and what they should be for us...

first, a man and a woman should be able to get along and be respectful of each others needs,
wants, rights and opinions...

second, they need TRUST to be able to communicate as if they were a clone of each other... no secrets with all fantasies and secretes shared without any judgment made because THEIR thoughts/fantasies are different from your OWN... we are individuals and will always remain so, and so we need to respect their right to their own thoughts and ideas, no matter what they are...

third, they need to have their own separate lives that run parallel with each other and can merge together as time goes by...

forth, they need to remain respectful of each other no matter what happens in their lives...

fifth, there can be no jealousy between them... they must be adults and realize we all make a mistake from time to time, and even if infidelity happens, there is no one out there who is going to ruin them to the point they are of no use to us... if you ever think that, your love isn't very strong to begin with...

sixth, we need to ALWAYS remember, the way one acts/reacts when their partner does something we dont agree with is usually the factor that will either cause them to run off... or it can show that we are understanding and forgiving...

seventh, if they continually take advantage of your understanding and forgiveness, its proof that their love for you isn't as strong as it needs to be to keep the relationship healthy...

eighth, you both need to understand that either of you can leave anytime you want to, and its the job of both of you to keep harmony in the relationship so that the "want" to leave never happens...

ninth, never criticize each other... you can talk and communicate your thoughts without being critical, and you need to find a way to do it... again, always be respectful!

tenth, there are and will be plenty of hardships, pain, suffering and discontent that will occur naturally in out world without us creating more for ourselves... take/make pleasure where and when you can and allow your partner to do the same and you will find the world the two of you have made for yourselves is peaceful, without drama, and rewarding... you will also find your love and trust for each other will grow stronger...

these ten things are not hard to do, because for the most part, if you remain inactive and dont react like an ass, (follow the advice) it will appear that you are a sane and confident person with a mellow attitude...

Dongtai · Accepted Answer

Define “dating down”. As far as I know it’s completely subjective so the answer can be yes or no depending on what type of girl you’re talking to.

MistiGal · Accepted Answer

'Date down' is such an open ended term...
Its opened up so many variations here, how did we get to women can't be trusted? and to women losing respect? All those comments are abit derogative to point that to all women and is not fair to say the least. If you're blaming others for what you think affects you, then you really need to look at yourself in the mirror and ask why.
We forget that men n women in days gone by where men were the breadwinners while women worked at home by keeping family, food, and the home running as it should. Women were told what to do and respected their man regardless of their situation good or bad. There was no such thing as dating up or down...
Today women have opportunities to be in high earning careers with lots of options, and many women are happy to have their man be the househusband while she is the breadwinner.
Im not saying all but there are many options that women have especially if they have a partner who is also flexible to manage their finances in order to succeed and make their life comfortable.
I see many couples, relationships where there is women who earn more than their partners and have the best relationships!
To many who think women marry just so they can divorce to get half the money etc... is titalky wrong mindset. Its goid to be aware but most marriages break down because of lack of communication, lack of love, lack of respect and lack of sex. And sometimes two people just grow apart.
So l chose no thats my opionon. It all depends on the mindset of the younger women today...
If they wish to be independant, then any of this date down shouldn't matter...

BrittBratt2416 · Accepted Answer

Well technically yes, sense most of the current population (at least were I live) isn't that financially stable. However, dating down is a lot worse cause there's no guarantee that he's our forever partner either. There's plenty of stories of women who have dated down, and have gotten the short end of the stick. But besides financial issues, a lot of people having a hard time finding their "forever partner" is simply cause people don't know how to communicate, not giving themselves time to find who they are, heal from past relationships, or are into hook up culture.

Ellie-V · Accepted Answer

In this economic climate, most people in general are broke. No one wants to date a bum... or maybe I’m wrong. Maybe men are okay with getting someone who doesn’t have a pot to piss in but honestly I find that very concerning.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

The reason people aren't getting married is because men no longer have to propose to woman to get sex. In historical times you had to marry before you could have sex and nobody would want you if you were divorced.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Well yeah, this is the world women demanded. They said they wanted equality, that money didn't matter etc. We altered schools to best benefit women instead of men so that women could be the higher earner (feminization of education has resulted in increased drop out rates for males, males routinely score higher then girls but get lower grades despite this etc. etc.), we discouraged males from going to college by feminizing education, prioritizing female enrollment (women have 4x more scholarships and grants at their disposal to get into college even ignoring the extreme descrimination against boys in grade school to highschool, resulting in just 63% of college graduates being female vs. the 37%). So yes women are going to either learn to not depend on men as they have stated they where going to do for the past seventy years (yet haven't), stop descriminating against men and admit that they want them to be bread winners as we all know they wanted to begin with, OR they are going to have to bite the bullet and except that this is the bed they have made and now they are going to have to sleep in it and marry "down".

Exterminatore · Answer

Yeah. We have no men left. We have males. Not men. That is directly and 110% the fault of women. Women are solely to blame for the issue. Starts with feminism which in fact is man hating and the promotion of women’s interests over men’s and over what is in fact morally decent and right. 1st wave, 2nd wave, whatever wave of feminism that’s what it’s all about. It’s all garbage. So feminists and their cultural Marxist allies have been busy lying and promoting foolishness. They own the schools and universities. They own the media. They use propaganda and cognitive distortions to brainwash.

It started by telling women “you can have it all.” Yes ladies you can be a single mom and have the kids and a career and be a big baller and a shot caller just like a man right? No. No you can’t. If I’m wrong then why are the primary recipients of welfare single moms and women? Because you can’t have it all. Well it turns out not having a man in a child’s life to discipline children of both genders and teach boys to be men is not healthy. It turns out boys can’t learn to be a man from a woman.

Then these boys are shipped off to school where their fed a steady diet of cultural Marxist philosophy and repeatedly told either directly or in a more sublime way that being male and behaving and possessing masculine traits is bad. They’re taught to share feelings and cry when sad and every manner of other behavior that is feminine. They’re told this is good.

This message is reenforced by the media that never misses a chance to take a shot at males. Long gone is the Archie Bunker type of family man, not that he was at all perfect, but better him than the new model. Ray form Everyone Loves Raymond.” Yes. The pussy whipped moron who couldn’t possibly function without his wise and all knowing wife. This image is shone again and again in commercials, sit coms and movies.

Anonymous · Answer

By 'dating down' we are presumably exclusively talking about money right?

I that assumption is correct and we were to further make the idealised assumption that men and women were earning equally then:

If men are choosing partners who earn less than them on the basis of something else because of a tradition of expecting to be bread winners etc then it stands to reason that there will be high earning women who will not have a corresponding high earning partner available to them.

So although I have built my point on fabricated numbers which i very much doubt reflects real numbers i stand by the point I am trying to illustrate and would submit that the problem is not one of 'dating down' but one of, if you will excuse the lazy, sterotypical and hopefully obviously humourous suggestion that 'bitches be gold diggers yo!'

If you place value on other human qualities than how much coin they generate then it is not dating down to be involved with someone who earns less than you do.

So frankly I find the entire subject / argument to be grotesquely shallow, sexist, ignorant, progandist, etc

If you want to marry for coin, ok. But dont pretend that its any different to someone marrying because she has big boobies or insert literally any other single quality with disproportionate value placed on it.

SkipStop · Answer

I heard about this on the Ben Shapiro show yesterday. It's pretty interesting. A lot of factors come into play and there is no single straight answer. I think the main root of the problem is the strong shift away from traditional values and lifestyle. All this liberal and feminist stuff attacking society. Pushing men out of work and replacing them with women. By nature women want strong and rich men to take care of them and the kids. But since men are being denied education and work, women can't find that guy who is stronger and richer. And it's no surprise women are the ones complaining. Everything wrong in this world is man's fault even though it's the fault of liberalism and feminism which is mostly dominated by women. They created this problem. Plus, what man would want to marry in a society that discriminates against him? I sure ain't getting married.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I think people have to adjust their expectations so they don't think that way. I don't go around thinking I have to date down, that's really an insult based upon ones perception of themselves, which is probably over bloated.

I'd rather think, what are the attributes in someone I respect and want to be with. Good grief what's the world coming to... are we a bunch of selfish, self righteous spoiled brat snobs? We think we are rich... have we counted our share of the national debt into that?:)

The day will come when you want someone trust worthy, honorable, who has your back... by your side. Better start building those relationships, whatever they are...

Oram52 · Answer

I would've said if they want someone to date then they would have no choice, but women are stubborn. Proof is New York, where there are more women than men, and women are more successful than men. Despite calls from dating experts they go to for help, they still refuse to date someone earning less than them. So there are so many single women in NY.

Its also proven by research. Women like to date men of similar status, and its cross cultural.

I guess men go for women solely based on looks, men don't care about status. So attractive women end up with more wealthier men. So if these women don't want to date down economically then they better match up appearance wise.

Curmudgeon · Answer

Women's "hypergamy" has gone up to be certain. This article assumes that women will pick mates with financial potential alone, as opposed to the all too many who pick them because their naughty parts tingle.

Frankly, the benefits for men of marriage have declined, and the risks have gone up. When something rewards less and pays off less, you get less of it.

GoodManDave · Answer

I think there are a lot of factors in deciding to marry later or the decline in marriage or rates of divorce. Some good, some bad, some indifferent.

I think some of it is the economy. I know that if I met the right lady for me tomorrow, I'd be probably 5 years from marriage if work suddenly took off. I think the women are ALSO not doing great with regards to work and the economy, not just guys, though there does seem to be the expectation that the guy is supposed to do that part and earn most of the income.

I suppose it depends on the women's definition of "dating down" or settling, or culture's ideas of that.

jgokgotit · Answer

If income amount is the sole decider of whether or not one gets married then it is the man dating down not the woman. Dating for money shows piss poor morals. What if he loves his career but does not make as much as her? For example, a female nurse and a male cop. Their careers are both very honorable, but she will get paid more. Now, if the man is irresponsible with his money that is a different story. Women need to look beyond the wallet and see the whole picture. Careers and money can come and go, but the morals stay.

Celtero · Answer

That'd be nice if they actually did so. Unfortunately, what's gonna happen is they're gonna fuck around with studs in their youth and become single cat ladies during their middle-ages onward.

It's what they asked for though. Feminism tricked them into entering the workforce en masse, now men can't be the sole breadwinner anymore because the supply of workers has been saturated.

It's a pretty good source of schadenfreude though. Ladies, have fun with you 9-5 job to feed your family of cats!

Anonymous · Answer

You have to pay $7 to read the full text, so I can't say anything about the article. However, there are multiple factors about mate choice. A man's income isn't the sole factor. If a man who was not as educated and did not make as much money as you, but had most other facets that made them a positive mate choice was in your life, that is not marrying down. Men don't consider themselves marrying down if a woman is not as educated or makes as much money as they do. So they consider other factors. Women should too. This makes it fairer to men. Be employed. Have goals.

GD360 · Answer

You just opened a tall water of worms. Not surprised this generation is all types of messed up. It's simple, lack of dads teaching their sons how to be men, to many one night stands and baby mama drama. If your a good dad this doesn't apply to you, your a rare breed. But imagine most the population growing up with no dads and a bunch of single mothers or divorced family, mind you some father's actually stay in contact after divorce, but the ones that don't suck. So of course you're going see some sad facts about how the majority of today's men are pretty messed up.

Anonymous · Answer

I doubt that it is the full picture. Women all over the world are dating less. They are busy finishing their educations, getting established in their careers or starting their own business and enjoying some alone time part of the time. They are probably only dating men they enjoy their company versus just going out with anyone. They don't really have the time.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Women start to date down as they get older. They can be happy if they get a scrap of attention after 40. When they're in their 20's most off them don't even think about marriage. They don't know what this word even means. After 30 they feel their looks fading away and losing all of the attention to the younger generations so they know that the only way to lock down a man is to get married and have children. Of course they are so narcissistic that they want to get married with the richest who will pay the most money after the divorce, maybe even pay their student debts. That's how strong dynamic and independent feminists they are.

AynonOMouse · Answer

Nope. The reason for lower marriage rates is that more men won't get legally married anymore because they don't want women to steal from them with divorce. They are realizing they can have an exclusive LTR, live together, and raise a family together without legal marriage. Any woman that insists on marriage is pretty much admitting she is a thief and wants to abuse men.

I won't get married again. I'm a good loyal guy that never did hook ups/ONS, and I have a good job, can support myself, have medical, vision, and dental benefits and retirement. Hell no I'm not risking getting ripped off.

JSmuve · Answer

Maybe. If women still want a guy that earns an equal or greater amount of money than them, then the distribution of male income will have to remain unchanged relative to the distribution of female income (i. e. the gender pay gap will have to remain in place or women will have to have 'lesser' careers). Otherwise, you'll have a greater proportion of women vying for a smaller proportion of men and some women will either have to date down or remain single.

ronaldo75 · Answer

Women are in for HELL in the next 5 years when it comes to dating. Especially women over 30. Good solid men essentially have HAD IT with millennial women's bullshit and have given up on dating. We're about to go back in time where young, pretty feminine women are going to get all the good men whlie the bitter miserable late 20s and 30-somethings are going to have to start dating down and dating down HARD. 3RD wave feminism and woke girl power culture inflated women's egos way too much during the 2010s and in the end they're starting to look ordinary and mediocre. You reap what sow.

Syrian_survivor · Answer

Marriage is declining because it's more and more becoming a tool of manipulation, it has no real purpose other than the woman chaining the man and making a somewhat stronger bond so maybe it can decrease chances of children being raised by a seperated couple.

Premartial sex is normal these days, everything a married couple could do now any 2 people can do, it's pointless because of lack of morals, marriage is irrelevant and it's starting to look bad for most people, for some reason the government thinks if they make marriages risky, then it'll guarantee a stronger bond between members of a family, lol.

DWornock · Answer

Young ladies have plenty of opportunities to marry equals and better from ages 18 to 23. However, at that age, they reject suitable guys that would marry them to chase after high income, good looking hot guy that are more than happy to fuck them but only marry someone within their league. By age 28, after a dozen going nowhere relationships, the ladies finally learn that men fuck down but don't marry down. However, by then it is too late. They have lost their bloom and the guys they could have married when they were 5 to 10 years younger, are seeking some sexy fresh young thing; not some jaded hide that has fucked a dozen or more guys.

Anonymous · Answer

You say "date down" i say " be realistic".
The simple reason women are single or can't find their "forever" is simply because their demands are too high. Thwy want the love rhey want but they want it on THEIR terms. Life just doesn't typically work that way that's all. Some where along the line if you're not finding what you want you have to make cone concessions, this DOES NOT mean settle! It means taking a good look at yourself in the mirror and being honest with yourself.
The simple truth is most the women that find their "forever" simply are better women. They actually care about their partner. They're a team, not at odds with eachother. They understand when he succeeds she succeeds. She's a well of strength for him. And when things get rough she doesn't give up on him and look for something better.

MzAsh · Answer

I’ve always held high expectations for my own self income, so I never minded if a guy has a more modest income as long as he’s not leeching.

I’d rather date a broke gentleman than a rich asshole anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on what you consider "dating down"? Most very attractive men i've dated has been assholes, honestly. In the end i'd rather date someone average with a good heart. As for economics etc. I recently rejected a man with a lot of money because he acted like he thought he could buy me - Offering me crazy expensive gifts etc when we hardly knew each other. That's not sane to me and should be sort of insulting and off to anyone with a brain. As long as my partner works i'm good, and as long as he helps out around the house. I'm not looking for a lavish lifestyle anyway but you gotta have an income.

jmorris86 · Answer

I'm seeing the current generation of young people shift the culture of breadwinners in the household. Some of it is because companies are pushing the hiring of women and minorities and some of it is men just have become lazy with no work ethic. I'm sure every generation has said this at some point but most guys I see in there 20s are the most entitled worthless generation I've ever seen. I feel like women are going to have to start marrying man children at some point because that's all that will be left...

WalterBlack · Answer

It makes sense. The economy is in the shitter. Middle class people have much less buying power nowadays compared to a few decades ago. The number of people living paycheck-to-paycheck is staggering. Most people want to have some economic security when going into a marriage. If a woman wants her husband to provide economic security nowadays, she will have a difficult time finding a man who is qualified to fill that role because most people are struggling to get by.

purplepoppy · Answer

Back in your day woman stayed at home or worked as typists and the like. It was easy to date up. Now that more women are in better jobs, often better than many men, it isn't so easy. There used to be a tv advert where this group of attractive successful business women flirted with the waiter. In reality that would never happen. We'll date slightly down but this report just gives guys false hopes.

devilman666 · Answer

Ic by dating down you mean dating an average male then yes. How horrible that aversge women will have to date average men, how dare the lazy men not work themselves into an early grave supportung their wifes lifestyle? How dare they not work hard to make every one of her dreams come true? Now women might actually have to earn the things they want and that would sinply be unjust.

Utrxp · Answer

No they don’t. I base my dating choice based on what I can offer. I can offer a lot in a relationship therefore a partner who is equal to that.

SexyAshh · Answer

I would assume if they did they had no self respect and were just giving in because the whole “biological clock” thing. Kind of sad but I've seen it with both women and men.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Women in the workforce drives wages down for everyone.  Same is true for immigrants, and most women vote for open borders while they're at it.

0112358 · Answer

I don’t think most will. Those who can’t date horizontal or up financially will stay single and share the same set of attractive but poor guys for hookups with other women.

That said there are places where women are outnumbered by single men with good jobs so moving to one of them is in some ways the “smart” move.

People are rarely aware how much the single male-female ratio deviates by city.

Avicenna · Answer

A fairly significant number will have to, but it requires some adjustments to work.

Expectations need to be rolled back a bit, and the broke guys need to disciplined in theit financial affairs and lifestyle.

I think it can work if there is mutual respect and they guy earns enough to pay his bills and take her out some of the time.

Males in the US have been much harder hit by deindustrialization, mass immigration, and offshoring.

NerdInDenial · Answer

So the goodness is looks aren't that important to women.

Dantiger45 · Answer

I've read what other's have said and I am basically very depressed but not surprised. Women base a successful relationship on how much a guy earns and how wealthy he is which is really depressing. There's big difference between providing for your family but having to have certain qualifications or earning power just to get a date this really sad. So what if guy earns less than woman surely it's about how the guy treats a woman not how wealthy he is... I despair for the future!!!

CT_CD · Answer

Most would rather be single instead of dating someone they think is below them.

"Human females engage in hypergamy. Women mate across and up dominance hierarchies, men mate across and down. The socio-economic status of a woman determines almost zero of her attractiveness to a man where as the socio-economic status of a man is a major determinant of his attractiveness to a woman." - Jordan Peterson

Wowgirl30q · Answer

I'm not settling but sounds sucky if others are. If anything I'll just be a sugar momma someday 🤣.

Justtoobusy · Answer

I am not worried if he makes as much as me but I won't date someone who does not work at all. There is something very erotic about a man with pride that only comes from being able to at least support himself.

R_Cakes91 · Answer

I can offer a lot in a relationship, so should he. My expectations are high for myself already and I expect my significant other to be hard working as well.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't tell them about money.
That's like putting raw meat in front if a vampire for some of them.
If she was only with me for the money she later found out I didn't have, then that's her fault.
She shouldn't be so materialistic.
Lesson learned for her I guess. LoL.

Jammers14 · Answer

I’m so happy being single. It really is the best.

MissGeorgia · Answer

I don't agree with this "date up/date down" thing. We get with person who is right for us at the time... whether that me for 2 months or 20 years.  There is no such thing as dating up or down.

Monster_Recluse · Answer

Women are also becoming less marriagable. Women are less desirable as they get older. They can hit the wall as low as 22.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I’m sure the hell not. Be on my level or higher. I can offer a lot I expect the same

Sevenpointfive · Answer

date down? howso? they date ugly guys with money. are you saying they'll have to date ugly middle class guys with some money? if that's the case they'll date multiple just like they are doing now

Unit1 · Answer

Seems like it. Either that or singlehood. I am certain, that we are seeing it already happening. Well... who or what can be blame - if blame at all?

morrowlow · Answer

i guess it's better this way. less women marrying means less kids and a lower population. plus if a whole generation of women end up as old maids maybe that'll show them that they're not that desirable so maybe they would try harder

brutalmaster · Answer

Women love money, not men. If a woman loves you in 2019 it's because you have money. A girl told me by herself that she is looking for rich guy for marriage and she doesn't want a job.

LegitChipmmunk · Answer

You say broke men are ruining it but what happened to that wage gape?

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Funny that we never hear about broke women hurting American men's marriage prospects. Perhaps for most females marriage is more about extracting wealth from men than they will admit.

IIGrifterSixII · Answer

Its kinda funny cause they spent decades saying men ain't shit! Now men have stopped trying and its a panic.

888theGreat · Answer

No one gets married because of the legal liabilities and morals have taken a dive, and you benefit from taxes. I thought women were working to get what a man makes.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

Depends how much a woman values money  Women value money a lot more than men do.

Anonymous · Answer

The have ruined everything male and have themselves become sexually indiscriminate so they are going to have to now deal with both of those fails.
The male won't be worth much as a man and she won't be worth much as a female.

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

That would mean that most women are overly concerned with money and material things. It was never considered dating down for a man to date a typist

Lman3000 · Answer

I've given up on dating and my ability to try so I'm already fucked

FatherJack · Answer

A woman would rather be single her entire life , than " date down " .

Sssss993 · Answer

I think this article is very true. Men became so cheap and without education and all they care about is nonsense. Humanity will end on their hands.

Alfie_Solomons · Answer

So women only marry guys for money? Ha! Then how about blaming men we simply agree that girls are scumbags and shouldn't use men for everything?

Juxtapose · Answer

As long as the guy can pay for his own shit, his income is irrelevant unless you are a gold digger.

incelposting · Answer

Female privilege at work Now they're the breadwinners

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