If you have been single for a LONG time, does it affect your self esteem? (Page 2)

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I don't mean single for a few days or weeks. This question is mostly geared towards those of you that have been single for months, even YEARS at a time! It's a common assumption that people that are single for too long are weird, unattractive, lack social skills, and so forth... which can have a negative impact on an individual's self worth. Does being alone leave you discouraged or lower your self esteem and confidence? Why or why not?

Guardian45 · Answer

Yes, it affects my self esteem.

Yes, you could call me weird, unattractive, lack social skills, but I reject that!

I am unique, told that I am attractive, and have a very high EQ.

But being alone leaves me discouraged AND lowers my self esteem and confidence.

Why or why not?
If I knew that I wouldn't be single!

djmzes · Answer

I have been single for lifetime but

AngelAimée · Answer

Yes but, I just remind myself of all the advantages of being single.

Screenwriter · Answer

You get discouraged, but you've got to push through that and get back in the game. I'm an optimist.

C0rv0Attan0 · Answer

It doesn't really affect me. I've never had a relationship. Yeah it sucks but that person will come along eventually. It just takes the right time and person to make things happen. For me it hasn't happened yet.

Ashleyyyyysimpson · Answer

Single since born till adulthood can get u question why the people around u is attached, and u are currently single. But for me, i got my first relationship now at 22 ~ 23, i guess is worth the wait. Get a good partner rather than many relationships that can be toxic to u.
I don't get affected rather think that my mate is somewhere waiting for me. Rather, being desperate or trying too hard in a bad way will affect you even more

fonduegirl · Answer

don't give a damn about it. I've my intimacy issues, its all good.

Jerre · Answer

When my fiancé died 20+ years ago, I went into isolation with my job. When I came out of self-imposed isolation, I started dating again. I am not looking very hard for a replacement as I have gotten to love the life I now lead. Single and a lot of fucking. That keeps my mind and cock occupied.

ohshee · Answer

Lol its been over a year for me,, no lack of Social Skills,, my self worth is pretty High,, i have very good Self Esteem,,, I dont Get Discouraged ,, I just Get Horny as fck and want to melt with a beautiful girl

latinabutterfly96 · Answer

It does not affect your self-esteem, unless you base your happiness off of having a partner.

Bananaman177 · Answer

That meme is so true.  You can only care for so long. It hurts so much in the beginning and then one day you can't even believe how emotional you used to be about it.

Thatsamazing · Answer

Well... yes. I would say it does for most people, even those of us who are usually pretty aloof.

Drullskull77 · Answer

It depends on the person and depends on what your looking for if you seek love and affection you will feel more lonely if you get on with life focus on yourself a little and let love come at its own pace you will be much happier

Anonymous · Answer

I like it. I’m used to being in my own and know how to be happy alone rather than needing to depend on someone else.

BadAnswers · Answer

i dont think it affects your self esteem if you are single and not open for it , but if your open for it and all your advances to a girl get rejected over and over , it will affect your self esteem at that point

poneglyphs · Answer

I been single all of life and yeah it does affect my self esteem. I feel really lonely during these holidays because all of the time it cater towards couples. Especially Valentine's day, that sucks a lot.

mamoun · Answer

My opinion.. not really.. i have never been in a relationship my whole life. yes i usually get looked at as a weirdo. But never in my whole life thought im worthless. I feel the worthlessness when i can't help my family or my friends.. even when i lose few fifa games

TayTay21 · Answer

I haven't been single for more than a month since I was 15. Being single is usually a choice. If you think it's not by choice you're either being unrealistic about your ability to find someone or you need to work to build your self-esteem.

NYCstreetPhotog · Answer

Yes, of course, but at the same time you must endure and work towards improving yourself. It's cliche, but you need to dust yourself off and get back on the bull.

Hawk4225 · Answer

Lemme tell ya, it hurts. The longest relationship I've been in was 4 months long and I didn't even want to be in it in the first place. Other than that the last time o was dating anyone was for about a week and that was a year and a half ago.

Jackieboi · Answer

I like how you put years in caps. No i learned a long time ago not to care when people do things like that. Or did i really if i noticed it? I guess i like to think i dont, but its not like one doesn't notice that some people find it weird.

buttcrackjoe · Answer

When you reach a level where no one loves you or ever will your brain goes into DGAF apathy mode whereby any future communication with the opposite sex is effortless and ironically conducive to relationship building

Anonymous · Answer

I have been single for four years now. Being totally honest with myself, the only thing that affects my self asteem is sexual performance. I'm not a player, I don't sleep around with random people for the hell of it. I only sleep with partners.

So getting back into a relationship, after that long of a dry spell. You'd have to build up your stamina again. Other than that. I am fully confident in myself.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Yeah I think it can. I have a friend who's been single for years. she's expressed how draining it is for her to not be able to find anyone

Browneye57 · Answer

NOBODY else determines my self-worth. NO ONE.  So tell us about this UN-date-able person. What exactly do they bring to a relationship that would be considered high value? Anything?

ariadneR · Answer

used to, when i was younger I dont anymore. Before I met my boyfriend, I was single for 4 years. This was by choice. I like spending time alone, I am very comfortable being alone

beto-in-the-bay · Answer

there's nothing wrong with choosing to be single if you think you can better contribute to the world as a single person, but forced isolation, being unable to find a relationship, is torture. It's psychologically brutal.

dudeinohio · Answer

Yeah. My self esteem was more or less destroyed after my separation from my now ex wife. Two and a half years alone was devastating. Fortunately, I met my new girlfriend. I honestly expected to spend forever alone. Dating at my age is brutal.

Dark93 · Answer

I've been simgle my whole life. It has strongly and negatively affected my state of mind. I feel unlovable, unattractive, worthless. I've developed horrible stress, anxiety and depression as well as having a disassociation towards life in general.

Kezzz · Answer

It tends to be a reminder every now and then that you suck at finding a lover. You feel like you're not attractive enough or that good looking to be even considered. It stabs your confidence so much you almost feel depressed.

Anonymous · Answer

Why would it? Being single is so great. It you feel the need to be in a relationship because you feel lonely then you’re not 100 percent comfortable with yourself. You have to realize that you’ll always be enough with or without a partner.

Lemia · Answer

Yes Because I doubted if before I asked my girlfriend out she'll says yes, I had to ask her sisters do you think she'll like me

MooSooBe · Answer

Yeah I seem to be getting further from wanting to even ask a girl out!

jason_1233 · Answer

i value myself for the time being and improving myself in every aspect.  having a relationship would only hold me back.  so it doesn't matter for me tbh

Enpassant · Answer

I have been single more than a year now and my self esteem is through the roof.

Anonymous · Answer

Yup I was single until I was 22, I was extremely sad and depressed, but I Eventually became more attractive until women finally decided I was worth dating, (happened after I bought a house) and now I have tons of girls chasing me and it’s pretty nice

MissDawn7961 · Answer

It can but just remember this , that the Lord will help you through it

KristaGrym · Answer

I am alone, I've been alone and I always be... it's sad, it's fucked but it's the reality

I_Am_Sazerac · Answer

Sort of affects myself esteem. I'm more so upset with the fact I've never been able to keep one past a year or two. Never had a fully successful one and wound up the one burned.

OddBeMe · Answer

Yes, and I discovered it was me the whole time. It’s like finding a job. An employer ain’t gonna come looking if you don’t put yourself out there. And gaining confidence is the key.

DWornock · Answer

Most likely it does if you have been hoping to get married and nothing works out. However, that shouldn't apply to good looking people that don't want to get married.

chris_987 · Answer

I’ve been single all my life and it’s not a problem for me but times have changed and a lot more people will be single much longer because of social changes

SiMooElYaaGouBi · Answer

I am single for like 4 years damn me the time went so fast and I think I will go for a girl soon
Now can you tell me the signs the girl gives when she like someone and the signs I should give to the girl to show her that I like her thanks

frostwalrus · Answer

Being lonely might make me depressed, but it certainly doesn't make me think less of myself.

throwawaytime · Answer

I've never been in a relationship. Tbh the further it goes, the less Im concerned.

es20490446e · Answer

Most likely your assumption is wrong, and simply the opposite gender don't find a way to get sexy with you.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I would say so. I would start to think there’s either something wrong with me. Or I’m doing something wrong

MajorZero · Answer

If you are happy by your self, more power to you. Being alone can be very recharging but addictive. It’s a matter of balance.

sersss · Answer

i'm single for 4 years now and it doesn't bother me much. I'm a loner type and I always had low self esteem - figured that's why my last relationship didn't work out.)))

Anonymous · Answer

Yes absolutely, I'm 26 and permanently single and I feel like I've failed as a woman and a person

Anonymous · Answer

Tbh, many times it affects it more when in a relationship. Often and more times than less, a partner will make you feel less.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I actually feel better about myself because no woman is complaining and bitching about what I didn't do right.

Shamalien · Answer

"even years" you have no idea what it's like to be a man do you XD

Guanfei · Answer

Of course. If you can't find someone, at some point you start thinking you're ugly and uninteresting. Which, in my case, is true.

Anonymous · Answer

It's been 4 and a half years of being single, I've never enjoyed life more and been more confident with myself. Amazing what happens when I'm not chained down in a relationship

COMMODOREII · Answer

Not really. I feel more free. Lol

Pessiyama10 · Answer

I dont think it should affect anyone's self esteem except you are single because no one is interested in you.

GabiAd · Answer

Been single for 6 years self esteem is good but I no longer have any clue how to flirt. Also there is a felling of a gaping hole in my stomach if I spend to much time with couples.

hafinjun · Answer

I was divorced in 2006 and have been single and. No I don't think its had any adverse affect

Belfast34 · Answer

It gets me thinking what's wrong with me. Why can't I find a girlfriend

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