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If you have been single for a LONG time, does it affect your self esteem? (Page 2)
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I have been single for a long while and my self esteem is exactly where it needs to be.
I’m not alone. I am constantly surrounded by love. I don’t understand why people think they need a spouse or a romantic relationship to feel emotionally satisfied.
Probably cuz there is a kind of intimacy that only comes with "knowing" someone!🤔
If you’re referring to sex then
Yeah... I don’t ride that wave.
It’s great, it’s euphoric, but it’s unnecessary in the grand scheme of things.
I actually find the feeling of being loved weird. As I get older I am learning more about myself and I've never been happier.
As a general rule, what is considered normal is usually the worst pisdible thing for me. And the one thing most people hate I've found I have a high chance of liking the most. So I often fo the opposite of what other people advise me to do and after choosing myself over generic advice I've never been happier. That's all there is too it. In all likelihood, dating would probably make me unhappy. And I've tried it out a few times and I don't know. I just don't enjoy it that much.
I have been single for a little over 1.5 years after being in a 4 year relationship prior.
At first, it really was a hit to my (already low) self esteem at the time.
But then, you take all that time to work on yourself, work out, focus more on things that matter to you, etc. And that also raises my confidence. I decided to go back to school and change careers because I was so unhappy with what I was doing back then.
I've been casually dating, but nothing ever getting past a first date lol.
I've had guys in real life express interest in me (not dating apps, which is so weird to me, not used to this). But also exciting.
I know my self esteem is worth 1 million bucks.😂😂😂😂. Being single provides freedom to do as you please without feeling trapped or handcuffed with a person.
LOL! That's one way to look at it: not being tied down to another person and being able to do what you want, when you want!!!
Facts💯 lol 😀
My self-esteem wasn't really affected but I did wonder if women were attracted to me sometimes. It does help a know that women are interested when he's getting attention.
I used to be the same way in my 20s: guys wouldn't talk or approach me so I instantly assumed something was wrong with me.
Of course I know better now, but I agree with you- having a guy give me a little attention feels nice.
A lot of guys think girls would be irritated if trying to get to know a girl in public.
Hard to say, as it's always been kind of low. I grew up in an abusive household (mental and physical) with someone who had a bad temper. I'm having a lot of trouble with other things, so it probably feels worse not being able to date. I have severe depression, social anxiety. I try to stay positive, but it's extremely difficult, especially not having anyone. I think if other things were going well, it wouldn't feel QUITE as bad, but who knows? I might feel worse because I had all this stuff going on was still single, but if I was extremely busy, I might sort of be able to distract myself.
I think some people are just better with a good relationship support system behind them. Some people don't need it, but I think some people for whatever reason need that in their lives.
It can depend on the person but most people desire intimate companionship enough that it will affect them negatively if they can't get it.
I'm at a good point in my life now, but if I still don't have someone in 10 years then I'm going to get a bit worried and feel like I'm really missing out.
When I was in middle school and high school it did. Plenty of other guys had girlfriends all along, I only had 1.
As an adult I'm finding that there are several times that I actually enjoy it. Memories of past problems with a relationship make it easier.
I think it depends on the reason. Some people are single by choice. Others, like I was for along time, just lack self confidence and are terrified of rejection. Others perhaps do put themselves out there but are constantly rejected and that can be very damaging to self esteem.
... Well, I'm weird... I lack social skills... I'm definitely not attractive... My self-esteem and confidence is near rock bottom, if not as low as Hell (literal Hell)... And I've been single all my life. ... Yeah I think that it does something.
Lol, oh no!
If it makes you feel better, I've been single over 10 years!
I'll admit my confidence sucks at times, but you have to remind yourself not to let it discourage you too bad, or you'll just feel worse.
True. I'd rather not feel worse, so I'll take your advice lol.
I've been single far too long. I try not to think about it too much. When I do, it puts me in a bad mood. I suck at social skills, no one really understands me. I do have a low self esstem because of it. I think I'm OK looking, I am weird, but that's me, and I will not change. I do enjoy some alone time. But after years of it, you just feel lonely, and try to keep doing some things to keep my mind off it. Hard to break out of this dam shell, but hopefully one day? And the fact that I always have to make the first moves, makes it that much harder. I've also experienced being cock blocked very, very discouraging. That being said, I always wake up with a positive attitude, and try to be in that mood all day.
Been single a looooong time. It's ok. I have occasional moments when I think I need to be something I'm not but they pass quickly
It really does!!! I could really use some female energy to help me to feel better with my identity
Haha, right? I'm not going to lie, even after being single as long as I have, I wouldn't mind the occasional boost of energy from a guy
It's good to know I'm not alone in that :)
Yes it has affected me at once, yet not anymore. I realized my value as a human being doesn't comes from how others perceived me, it comes from the inner satisfaction of staying true and thriving to become a better person each day. Some days I do feel kind of not that pretty, because sadly, as a human I am, I wonder what happens different in me that I just haven't attracted anyone romantically, yet other days Im way lighter.
Not really. I really do look forward to having a family in the future though. But I can DEFINITELY wait because there's so much for the world to offer me right now and I'm going to take advantage of it while I can.
I value myself to much to think I'm so undesirable no one likes me. I've been single for almost 4 years now. 3 of those by choice. And this last year because I've focused on building my career. I've seen pretty detestable people find relationships. I think I will too when I get out there.
I think it's like this those that are acquward become isolated and become acquwarder and then become desperate and being desperate is unattractive and being isolated doesn't help with fashion or a connection with looking good and desireable. understand my message... so when it's bad for you and you remain on that path it only gets worse and will continue unless you make changes in your life but if you are isolated where do your id as for change come from.. from yourself which is the problem so a vacuum is created and you sucked into the blakjoke of lonelyness
Been single for a couple of years now. It bothers me every once in a great while but not as much as it used to. I want to be in love with the person I’m with. Like date, get to know one another and fall in love naturally. I don’t listen to any of that nonsense about it being impossible at my age. It’s not impossible, just more difficult and I’d rather be alone than married to someone who I can’t stand just for the sake of being married
I've been single my whole life, so I am used to being by myself. I have guys that are interested in me and sure I've been talking to them. If they are going to be a positive addition to my single life then awesome, but if not then I'd be perfectly fine without it.
Yeah, I mean its hard not to take it personally when you have the opposite sex letting you know that your not worth being with, that your just not of value. But you just got to keep going and hopefully luck out and find some one who actually gives you a chance and sees the worth in you.