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If you have been single for a LONG time, does it affect your self esteem? (Page 3)
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No, never has. I don't need her so I can feel better about myself.
Of course it does and i have been single pretty much my whole life.
YES. Being single forever stinks, especially if you're going into your thirties have never dated anyone
Not at all. I’ve had offers but they weren’t what I was looking for in a relationship.
I don't even know what's it like to be in a relationship. lol
Yes, because I feel like I'm doing something wrong.
21 years here. Sure it does. But I'm a Unicorn now.
Unicorn
Only if you let it or want it to.
It is an always boils down to the choice we make.
No not at all I was single by choice dont have time for games
I am single
I never dated anyone
But I am happy , In the world of fake relationship be the one who can live on their own
Yes, 10 years, it raised it tons from dating my bitch ex!
Some advantages also there being single.. While u need sexual attachment.. Easily u can find.. Now a days
Nah, being single frees up my time. I can work on myself that way and don't need to worry about anything else
hey I work my ass off for 61 years I'm a draw unemployment right maybe 5-6 months and I retire 62 what can I say
I'm a widower and I'm cute fun-loving and like sex
So is there anybody out there like that you see me you love me by by
Oh my ex dead 2years ago
I have one son
No some times you take a break to find your inner core and sometimez need to see if i really miss or want. My babe in my life depends
I have been single for most of my adult life, close to 40 of 42 years. Being single has evolved into a negative impact on my self-esteem. As time goes on, it is more negative. I am feeling alone as family members pass.
Do you still want woman around your
Yes, very much so!
No, I don't think so. I been single since my wife passed away on August 25th 2018. It has never affected my self esteem in any way
It depends on if it's by choice or if you've been trying but can't get anyone that's interested in you.
Yeah it does at times especially if I go on dating apps and get no replies. I’ve been single and looking for 4 years now
So I have been single for 8 years and the girl that I did date back in 2011 cheated on me. Overall I have horrible self esteem. I no longer believe I can get a girlfriend
I’ve been cheated on, ghosted after 9 MONTHS of dating, used as fucking placeholder and then friendzoned, used involuntarily was a meal ticket, had a girl threaten suicide after I broke up with her as gently as possible, been mocked in my youth for being “gay” because I never got girls, etc.
But you know I refuse to quit. I’m still talking to women. I got a date scheduled this Saturday.
@westwordbound I honestly don’t think it’s worth it man you feel sad for a little bit but then you adapt.
You learn, you harden up and then you adapt. But you got to keep trying.
@westwordbound why do I have to keep trying I’m a full time supervisor and full time nursing student. In the past a girlfriend would have been nice but now it’s more of something that would get in the way
I got a full time job, do consulting on the side, been managing real estate (spent over a hundred ours doing renovations in the last 3 months), workout everyday and as slammed as I am, I’m still trying to meet women.
@westwordbound why do people put so much importance on women
The trick is to make it LOOK like you don’t care.
@westwordbound like I have no social skills and truthfully I couldn’t even keep a girls interest I’m a very boring guy
Google Corey Wayne and get his book today. He won’t turn you into Deadpool, but he will start you in the right direction.
I’m also not that funny (although I’ve had my moments). Yes I know it sucks that women place such an incredible emphasis on this. It’s influenced by genetics. With that said you can improve.
@westwordbound yeah man but I don’t stand a chance I had this beautiful girl reject me two years ago for another guy and it wasn’t due to appearance it was due to the fact he was more interesting.
I’ve had that happen several times. I’ve been beat out by shorter, uglier, chubby (I’m athletic), guys. Simply because their game was tighter. I just experienced this crap again last Saturday (by I still got her number).
Women don’t necessarily like assholes because they like being abused. They like challenge and mystery.
Point being is got to take baby steps. Work on the unappealing parts of you first
Ok so I’m a clean cut guy I don’t drink smoke or party I’m clean shaven I have short hair that I keep brushed with pomade I always on on clean clothes with different colognes. This guy she rejected me for skipped showers, didn’t wash his
Clothes actually keep them
In his locker over the weekend and would put them right back on on Monday, had dirty straggly hair, never really shaved, openly talked about doing acid and other drugs that made you hallucinate.
And women do stupid shit like that ALL THE TIME. You are not the only guy who has seen that happen.
I had a chance to deflower a beautiful 19 yr old girl when I was 21 in a college dorm. She had a huge crush on me. I decided to pull back and wait. I didn’t want to do it in a dingy dorm room. Well a month later she did lose it, to someone else. This guy was similar to what you described above.
But this guy was pushing her emotional buttons, you weren’t. It’s intangible but starters I imagine he didn’t put her too high on his priority list. He probably went about his business and just hung with her at his convenience. Also the fact you know so many details about him makes me wonder if she friend zoned you and told you about him. You went along for the ride (I’m guilty about this) when you should have bailed on her the very second she complained about him. Tell her “best of luck with that but hit me up if things change”. I know that’s easier said than done but you have to respect yourself.
@westwordbound no I know so much about him based on observations we all three worked together and even before this girl came along this dude’s hygiene issues were apparent. Secondly I could totally be wrong maybe girls like this kind of stuff she did friendzone me and go for him.
It happens. But she gave you hints that your probably overlooked because you were very interested in her.
The friend zone sucks. Fucking sucks. You have to have your radar up for it, but it’s avoidable.
Again get Corey Wayne’s book. Do it today.
So here’s one thing that stuck with me that I can’t get out of my head she goes your good looking but I’m not into you and you can easily find another girl. She verbally said I was better looking then him and even said to never tell him or anyone else cause she didn’t want to hurt his feelings. Secondly he never had the guts to approach her I talked to her all the time she had me give him her number
The girl who spread her legs for her other deadbeat said something similar. She said “I know he will likely cheat on me but I have FEELINGS for him”. She also went off on how cute I was and how I “cared for her”.
Part of me just wanted to punch her in the face. But as I got older I realize you can reason with a cat. Even the girls who say they are “not like” other girls... are often hypocritical liars.
Anyway ruminating on that incident will only depress you. It will hold you back on getting other girls. Your best bet is to get coaching and work on issues that hold you back. One step at a time.
*can’t reason with a cat
Also try talking to average looking girls. “You do everything right when you have low interest level” - Doc Love
Talk to average looking girls? Is looks my issue I mean she said I was better looking was it a lie
Okay you are way too focused on physical appearance. You think that matters to girls just as much as it matters to us, it doesn’t. I admit I was once like this too.
An average looking guy who is intriguing and funny can beat out a good looking guy who is boring. The good looking guy only gets a head start. But the average looking guy is a faster runner in the dating race to her heart if his game is tight.
You got to get that out of your head. At least she was honest. And she is being honest about her irrationality. But it’s how it is.
It’s not easy to be funny. But I do recommend improv to make you faster on your feet. Also when you talk to girls you only have semi interest in, you are more yourself and less self conscious. You don’t care if they like you or not. That makes you more attractive.
Start there to work on your self confidence. I know it sounds shitty to lead those girls on. But there is nothing wrong with chatting with them. Then realize what mindset you are in and TRY to act the same way around attractive girls. Corey Wayne says you have to treat ALL women the same. It’s a self discipline tactic.
@westwordbound was there a chance she was lying about my appearance
She was not lying about your appearance. Because she was brutally honest about everything else.
Now I know that “you will find some other girl” bullshit is just salt in the wound. She meant well saying that but it’s insulting. I’ve been told this bs several times. It hurts because it comes from an ass backward assumption that dating is the same for guys as it is for girls. You and I know the truth on that one.
But are really going to judge your own value solely on what one girls says? Yeah she meant a lot to you, I get that. But still she is just one girl who is a human being that shits, farts and has body odor and bad breath if she doesn’t wash herself and her teeth. She is FLAWED. Think about something you don’t like about her and focus on that.
When my ex broke up with me I printed out a pic of her hair. She has a white streak in the middle due to a birthmark. I referred to her as “mrs Frankenstein”’.
That’s dramatic but it helped me destroy that false image I had of her in my mind. Your mind unfortunately plays tricks on you and purifies someone’s appearance after they reject you. But the flaw is there
@westwordbound the thing is even after the girl did this to me I still can’t see negative In her maybe I’m just too nice to date
Do you want to stay where you are or do you want to get better?
by the way I’m getting tested by a girl I like RIGHT NOW. She might have zero interest which is disappointing but I have conditioned myself to wish her best of luck.
@westwordbound I want to get better but I know other girls are gonna do what she did
It’s a numbers game. Look I just had this shit happen to me. I texted this girl today. I know she read (both got iPhones). If she does text me back by tomorrow I’ll just delete her number and forget about her. On to the next.
Single again, do I really have to “play the game” to be more attractive in group settings? ↗
You got to grow thick skin. There is no way around it.
@westwordbound girls like to play games for example tonight I was at a play and this guys girlfriend kept checking me out
If she will cheat on him, she will cheat on you. Even if she doesn’t cheat she will do that bullshit to any guy.
Just ignore her.
“The strongest position at a negation table is the man who can walk away and not look back” - Corey Wayne
I was single for 7 long years. I feel broken from it
Yes it does, because you feel like nobody likes you or find yourself attractive
No because I've chosen to be single.
Yes, I think it does because it has affected me in a negative way by lowering my self worth
Yep, just confirmed how unwanted I am, how flawed I am, and how I don't have a place where I belong
Do you want to be alone or you don't find the perfect person?
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when I was young I didn't want to be alone
NOW
I have been alone for a long time
not gonna lie
I don't want anyone ruining it lol
It actually does. It’s almost like I need a relationship
Single for 20+ years and still kickin
Yeah it makes me feel a little undesirable
I think if its NOT by choice then yes
Nopr
Pardone?
@Guardian45 nope😂
Oh! HAHAHA!!!😂😁
I don't care anymore. Being alone isn't that bad.
Yes it does affect your self esteem
Love it! Dating many by choice.
Not when I look at my tinder matches xd.
Hahhaha
My whole life. I've given up on pursuit.
It can effect my mood. I'm not going to lie.
I believe this is human nature
Pretty much.
Yeah it stings at times
Oh most definitely!!!
can anybody find me somebody to love?
It never affect your self esteem
Yes, I'm convinced I'll never find love 😢
I m 25 & still single.
I don't have any problem.
Not really, it is easy to get used to being alone.
No, i dont really think about it.
Not really at least for me.
Hi5...
I need only relationship
Single for a long time
Kind of.
Maybe it does
"72th"
Well...😂
Yea
It's pretty much gone
Yes...
Why are you single?
Nope.
Nope
No it doesn't
Not always