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I am monogamous, and will remain so even if I live forever. The idea of sharing my partner with someone else (or trying to share my love with more than one partner) repulses me. I believe that societies in which polygamy and others existed in the past focused less (or not at all) on love, and more on the satisfaction of lust, the display of power and virility, or on some other shallow reason.
I am monogamous and here's why. I know people in poly relationships and not all are happy but some are. I know people who are in monogamous relationships and some are happy and some cheat. For myself and myself only monogamy is a choice. I choose to be with one woman, committed to one woman. It maybe be quixotic or old fashioned to some but it's my choice. When monogamy is a choice and not a mandate it's easier to maintain or "stay true." I wouldn't tell someone else to make the same choice as me if someone in a poly relationship is open, honest with their partner and the partner is on board with a poly relationship, live and let live. Besides I've "sowed my wild oates" I believe the expression goes without ever cheating on a girlfriend, I'm looking for something different in life now.
I think a lot people think poly automatically means open relationship, which isn't really the case. I guess I'm aiming for the family unit style.
As far as monogamy, a lot of people seem to have bought in to the whole bridal industry, hallmark card Disney princess notion of romance.
When you propose someone drop a psychological delusion a lot of people instantly put up walls.
It's the easy default.
Yes. Because i love my wife and desire no one else. Because it’s wrong to break vows. Because God said it’s wrong to leave your wife for another baring adultery. Because my wife is perfectly suited for me and we belong together and I could never imagine not being with her and she would likely answer this question as I did because we are both very happy with each other.
Forgive me if im wrong, but in the old testament it whas ok to marry multiple people, and they never corrected that in the new testament
You are correct. I’m not necessarily condemning polygamy. I’m just saying I love my wife. She satisfies me completely. I couldn’t imagine being with someone else. I’m also saying scripture condemns leaving your wife to be with another baring adultery.
Oh, ok
So you wouldn't care if all of your guys had other girls too?
Nope. Not one bit. Sometimes i want pics.
Not a hypocrite then, good. Still I prefer to have only one partner, in fact I am married.
I know how much jealousy hurts and can destroy someone. I would never agree to a relationship that is bound to make my partner jealous. I also don't want to subject myself to jealousy any more than I have to. Imagine having to choose between your two girlfriends who live on opposite sides of you. That can never end well.
If monogamy was a replacement of polygamy, how is monogamy outdated? You say that you have no reverence of tradition but you want to reestablish pre-Christian, Hellenic traditions from ancient Greece. Thats far right reactionary thinking.
Monogamous marriage was innovated because its a contract between the state and the married couple to receive benefits in return for generating new citizens.
And I think that contract is outdated.
Just because the concept of polyamory isn't new doesn't mean it's practice wouldn't be modernized.
Rather, polyamory IS modernized. I'm not even proposing anything new, just defending a structure of relationship that isn't predicated on "tradition"
Tradition etymologically speaking means 'passing down from generation to generation'. It comes from the Latin term 'tradere'. Polygamous relationships are most definitely traditional. Especially in those pre-Christian Celtic and Germanic sects in ancient Europe.
But the reason we see those relationships today is NOT because of those traditions. You ask most modern non-monogamous people and they wouldn't be able to tell you jack shit about the traditional 'origins' of polyamory. It's not why they do it.
Whereas the Christian influence on modern marriage and dating culture is still (at least somewhat) affecting the way people actively seek out those relationships. In the US for sure.
The thing is that most people today dont have a historical consciousness, therefore they are unable to tell these things. As soon as a people reestablishes its collective memory it returns automatically to its traditions.
I am and always will be. My woman is mine, exclusively. If she wishes to leave, she can. If she wants another man, she can leave. However, if she wishes to have me as her man, then she has to focus on me. And so, equally, my romantic/sexual focus is on her. This way we each are fulfilled to the greatest extent. I will not share my woman for another man to fulfill his biological duty — impregnation of a woman. My woman is mine to love, impregnate and build a family with.
This is a great question from a younger person... and a girl at that. Little/no responsibility, ability to go out and stay up all night.. etc. There are no plans for a steady relationship with that question. In 10 years, that will change. Dating will become exhausting, free time will be "free" less and less. Then you want to be in a monogamous relationship, and he wants to cheat 🤣
I hate drama, multiple women sounds like a hassle. That plus being straight means, yeah, I'll stay monogamous.
If I like one person enough, why the fuck would I even need multiple, if you need to compensate, search for a single better one.
Can't stop love. Sometimes things happen outside of your control: you change, your partner changes, you meet someone new, your physical needs change, your lifestyle changes. You won't stop loving your wife if you get really into gardening, but that might open up the door to meet someone you never would have, otherwise.
Life offers a lot of different opportunities. I'm all about not shutting any doors.
Sure, but that doesn't mean I want to create drama with my wife just because I fancy some gardening.