Girls, do nice guys get friendzoned and how can you prevent yourself from bring friendzoned?

[Jjpayne]

[0112358]

95% of the time, you can’t, at least not by some changed up behaviour. You were in the friend zone... or not... 30 seconds after meeting her. So simply test for some interest much faster so you don’t invest 6 months in what you think is heading towards relationship that never had a chance.
If you’re right on the edge, yes, it’s possible being a little more playfully flirty or playing your cards right could nudge you one way or the other. But most of the time, you’re not that close to the line.

[LevyK]

One cannot prevent the friendzone brother. It just happens. Take your shot and if it fails, be friends.

[vintagegirl90]

The second picture is a terrible motivator and not one you should be focusing on! A nice guy would only get friendzoned if he didn’t make it obvious that he liked her girl, sometimes you got to the do the things you’re afraid and that means admitting you like someone it’s the first real step to getting out of the friend zone, being assertive and confident is the next one.

[SirRexington]

I've found girls just aren't good at subtle cues. Which is the opposite of what we've all been told, that men are visual and women are less forward or in need of up front and bold confrontation. Then they get mad at the guy for beginning to flirt harder and complain they are only friends.

No, i never saw you as a friend. I flirted, i hit on you... I complimented on the way you look. I actively hated and chastised your trash heap of a garbage boyfriend whos teeth I'd kick in if he hurt you (again!). If the girl is so oblivious she can't pick up on thr most basic of hints, then that's her fault. Not the guys.

Men don't want to be right off the bat, "hey I'm attracted to you and I want to fuck. Let's go out". That's not how we do. We hunt. We prowl. We take small bites and wait. We follow our prey to let their guard down and let is in.

[vintagegirl90]

@SirRexington ah it doesn’t necessarily mean I want to fuck you if you tell her you like her. What I’m trying to convey is be honest with her that you like her and want to be seen as more of a friend. If you just want the fling then you need to be honest too, you can’t drag someone along and deceive them it isn’t fair. It’s not her fault if you don’t make it clear, we’re not damn mind readers and you need to communicate it clearly, subtle cues aren’t going to do it, you might as well just use sign language or some coded language to hint you like her if you like subtle cues lol. guys who hunt or prowl are aggressive and some women like that but I can honestly tell you if you’re after someone who’s genuinely a nice woman, she’ll be outdated tactics and see you as desperate and you won’t be anywhere friendzoned you’ll be blacklisted and you’ll wish you were in the friendzone. Women aren’t animals you hunt.. these immature mind games are stupid and lame, no one wants to play that game. You give up so easily by the smallest challenge, you do realise women like it if a man makes an genuine effort and have a lot of resilience to keep trying. If a guy is predatory as you say, he reads like a creep to me and I have no choice but not see him as a good guy I’d date, he goes into the rejection list. You can’t keep blaming us for everything that goes wrong, you have only yourself to work on and improve, these insecurities you have are so unhealthy I have to doubt your confidence as a man in the dating world.

[SirRexington]

Ok, so im not looking for a fling. I don't even support that kind of behavior. And im not talking about the hunt like a lion. But a Komodo dragon. Slow, suspension is held, it isn't rushed. And why attack subtlety? Why do you want men to just say right off the bat their feelings? Thats creepy. Ease your way into that shit. Dont go all in. Let it semper.

Everyone wants everything so fast. learn patience. You want effort? Give them the time to put in that effort. Not everything needs to be expressed outwardly with words.

[vintagegirl90]

@SirRexington we have patience but if a man doesn’t show interest or girl doesn’t show interest and was subtle would you know she or he likes you? Also it’s not creepy if a man is open with telling he likes you, if he say it in a creepy way and don’t choose your words selectively on a date then obviously yes he’s a total creep. I’m talking from experience.. if it’s the first time he sees you no don’t say it.. I’ve had that happen before and used it as a flirtatious line and it was beyond creepy I walked away. I mean on a few dates, yes patience is important.. and everyone wants everything faster yes, but that’s the way world is though you can’t change it. Body language helps a bit if the relationship is established or she’s comfortable enough I wouldn’t use it right off the bat.. no one is going to spend hours trying to understand if he likes me based on a touch, it’s meaningless, also a waste of time to read into something like that.

[PinkMichae]

If you're too nice or shy to make your move then yes you'll get friendzoned. Just make your move. If she's not into you at least you know and can move on instead of being strung along.

[NikolasGLT]

Don't compare shyness to being a nice guy. Those are 2 different words and worlds.

[PinkMichae]

I said nice or shy. Not nice and shy. I stand by what I said because shy guys will get friendzoned just like nice guys because they don't make their move.

With that said don't tell me what to do. You're not the boss of me.

I might be more inclined to listen to your point if you aren't trying to act like my father.

[SpacedCharr]

That... Second pic is so much "AVOID" I don't even know where to start.

No wonder that one's friendzoned.

Also how is he meeting peoole if he's always at home?

A man like the second one wouldn't even be in my friendzone. Easily pulled heartstrings are a nightmare for me to deal with - folks like that put too much themselves into words I speak and get offended as easily as they fall in love.

No thanks.

[LEETSBEREAL]

Then find your match. You can match with someone similar to you i. e if your super sweet find a girl just like that. Having said that Opposites attract so you might find a strong serious woman is what you're in need of. Try this book its really good at solving this puzzle your trying to tackle it's called 'The bingo Therory' by Mimi Ikonn. If you do read it let me know what your opinion is on the book. All the best

[Jjpayne]

I'll look into it

[nella965]

Girls are looking for more than just kindness. They are looking for someone with an interesting personality, charm. A lot of “ nice guys” are boring as hell and think that acting nice will attract women, that’s not how it works.

So many guys believe that girls owe them something for being nice, no we don’t

[Jamie05rhs]

My charm is entirely sexual, so I'm not able to use it because it wouldn't be right.

[SirRexington]

Yes you do... You complain about being manipulated by jerks and then throw yourselves at them...

You do want a nice guy. But you want him a friend to exploit. And then bash him for his personality.

[nella965]

@SirRexington haha that's true for some girls but not all of them.

[SirRexington]

I love how women DEMAND men be more open mknded and accepting of women for "who they are" but at the same time men constantly get told there is a particular way to look, act and behave. Or else they are asking for loneliness.

You know what. Fuck you. Its entitled (which they project onto men) and hypocritical. Men need to be embraced more by women too then. Stop shaming such a large portion of the population for not being extroverted. This is coming from someone who is more of an extrovert than a shy guy. I tend to be very up front with people. But I see this shit all the time. The men who would be best for women get shamed and manipulated.

And we wonder where incels and MGTOW come from. YOU. Women. They didn't just come out of thin air. These stupid fucks exist because of stupid women. So if your gonna blame anyone, blame the way society treats men.

[truthbeknown]

I think niceness gets mixed up with weakness. I think weaker guys approach woman with the friendly strategy to avoid rejection and keep things positive when they are trying to start a dating relationship. It can be easier to meet someone new with that angle. All the woman sees is a friend initially and that ends up being the slot you got classified in never to be resorted into the something more. If you want to avoid the friendzone, avoid being friends in the first place.

[lenlenxyz]

Yes. I've friendzoned this one dude who's nice and has it all. But somehow he is slowly making his way out of the friendzone if though I was insistent on nothing is happening between us. But we both know that that's not true and that's not happening especially with the both of us.

[ChiTown33]

So basically you're playing with him till something netter comes along... got it! Lol

[lenlenxyz]

@ChiTown33 What? No. But okay whatever you think. I dont know you, you dont know my entire situation so cool.

[Anonymous]

Nobody has ever gotten friendzoned in their lives, because there is no such thing as a friendzone. Believe it or not, girls enjoy having guy FRIENDS! Everyone you meet isn't going to spark romantic feelings within you, same with girls. We select people to be friends because we enjoy their company, but we can't force ourselves to feel attracted to them. There is no way out of this so called "friendzone" because you can't force someone to be attracted to you.

[Anonymous]

Honestly? This going to recieve hate. But treat women like a numbers game. Women are ruled by their feelings not logic and can dismiss you at anytime for any reason at the drop of a hat.
Don't want to be friendzoned it's real simple. Never try to be their friend always be working on multiple women and always be trying to move things forward. Turn off your heart and don't feel use what works consistently and refine it.
Now having told you all this here's the drawback. If you have any kind of a conscience, you're f***ed!
I've thought many times about being that full of shit guy that women love but i can't do it. It's just not me.

[talloak]

Here is what I wrote about it years ago when the whole "nice guy" controversy was taking off:
Conflicting Understandings of the Notion that Nice Guys Finish Last

[ZackBan]

Look man the second you care you lose. Avoiding the friend zone is as simple as deciding "I'm here to be more than friends with you, that's the only offer available" if she takes the deal then it worked if not you move on to the next. You only get friendzoned when you insist on getting to know a girl who's obviously not interested

[shadowlhyn]

I have some of my friends if they say hai or hello my first reply is a question "what are you up to?"
"I only do friendship so if you want more than that then don't inbox me..."
Most of my guy friends always attempting to try me but once they will say it my reply is "block me or i will block you first?"🤣🤣🤣 Unfortunately they still with me..🤣🤣

[GOOSEBOY78]

kiss her. not on the cheek. problem will either fix it or f**k it. either way you get your answer.

stop calling, texting, msging showing up every 5 minutes.

stop being at her every becon call every time. MAKE. HER. WAIT. make her want YOU
when she does contact keep the conversations short
learn the power of the word NO.

she makes you wait doesn't she?

[Liam_Hayden]

You prevent yourself from being friendzoned by refusing to hang out with someone from whom your romantic intentions are not reciprocated. That's right, kids, if you are in the friend zone it is because you allowed it.

[Rangers]

Most women don't care enough about how their actions impact how others feel and as such don't have what it takes to just straight up reject them. They try to redirect blame back on guys for not seeing it while intentionally leaving out how many girls do that as a way of playing hard to get, the same girls complaining that guys leave them, too.

[CindyRuns]

At least one super nice guy didn't... My Husband !!!

[taleets]

Sometimes they do. If you are too nice and too into it then I might see you as only a friend. A little mystery is good. Keeps us wondering.

[jamesgoldman]

Boring guys get friendzoned... be interesting and you won't be
Nice guys get friendzoned out of being boring

[DizzyDesii]

I only friendzone someone if im not into them or if im already taken

[KennyMcCormick]

You don't get friend zoned for being nice, you get friend zoned for being boring. You need more redeeming qualities than just niceness

[Syrian_survivor]

If a nice guy becomes a bit more dominant, powerful, strong, and knows what he wants and chases it, then you have yourself an almost-perfect desirable man.

[Jamie05rhs]

But you can't be dominant with someone until after they accept your love. Because it's their choice.

[Syrian_survivor]

Dominance in general, not just with women, masculinity you know?

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh. F that. I'm not into that archaic shit. I'm not that type of guy.

[Jamie05rhs]

But I know you've been in a war, so I can understand how your perspective might be different.

[Syrian_survivor]

Well I'm still working on that, I still have problems when it comes to natural male reactions and balanced aggression, it could be very useful in my life, especially when I remember how many times my rights were taken from me and I could have fought to have them back.

[Jamie05rhs]

Dude, don't ever feel bad about not fighting. You could have died.