You cannot control attraction to people. If you are not into them, yiu are not into them. I have a lot of friends who I love hanging out with but would not date.
Most of the time when someone is in the friendzone they see the other through rose coloured glasses. They think they would be perfect as a couple when in reality they would not.
I think a better question is why are you perusing girls who don't want to be with you?
I had one guy friend who hinted at wanting more than friendship. He stright up said multiple times that he would go out with me, and I said every time that I wouldn't go out with him.
Let me explain. I want to date someone who is my best friend, who sees me as their equal, and loves me for every part of me good and bad.
After getting to know him I realized he didn't fulfill any of the requirements. I didn't have good conversations with him like I do my besties. He did not see me as his equal, which was evident by him speaking for me a lot of the time. Most importantly he started saying things like "well you know you are a little bit weird...", and he didn't like it when I did things that "aren't like me". He wanted me to be someone I was not. However he was like totally into that person he decided I was.
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I'm just not attracted to them in a romantic way. That's something you can't really force; it's either there or it's not (and believe me, I did make the mistake of trying to fit a round peg into a square hole and make it work with a guy I wasn't really romantically interested in, and it ended in disaster and many more hurt feelings than if I would've just rejected him).
It's not because they're not good enough or anything like that, as often times they're great quality people that I still cherish as friends (which is not a bad thing), but if the feelings aren't there, they simply aren't there. I don't really know how else to explain it.
Interesting. I asked someone to be more than friends. Were were going out alone together a few times a week for 6 months already. She's asked me out so it made sense. She gave me a non committal "I'll try" answer.. She didn't ever try. She just didn't want us to stop going out because I was the one almost always paying, i was buying her nice things such as clothes and perfume.. When I found out what she was doing I asked her if she actually had feelings for me.. She didn't answer me and we haven't spoken since. Her doing.. I'd rather have been friend zoned... I'm staying single... I don't trust women anymore. Especially women who claim to be religious...
Why you're friendzoned? you're probably afraid of saying what's on your mind bc you don't want to offend them. If you can't pass that barrier, they can't see if you're compatible. If she asks if you like alcohol, and you don't, you tell her no and don't need to explain yourself. Never lie to fit with society. Be the expert in who you are and let others figure it out. Theyll visualize their future with you naturally if theyre interested. Girls like assholes cause they aren't afraid to say what's on their mind and do what they want. Whether it's a good asshole or bad asshole, that's up to them.
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I don't "friend zone" anyone. You either were a prospective partner choice for me OR... you were a friend.
They lack the traits that would make me interested in them. It is as simple as that.
Because they are better fit as friends rather than girlfriends.
I know it sounds harsh.usually its because im not physically attracted to them and because they just dont seem compatible for me. ill befriend anyone assuming theyre kind, but i have a type when it comes to dating. also i read your comments where you said no one wants a friend of the opposite sex... and that is completely wrong. a good portion of my friends are guys, and there is no difference between our friendship and my friendship with girls. its not like im lusting after them whenever i see them. no. because theyre not my type and i simply domt feel an attraction towards them. i just dont understand why youd limit yourself to one gender to befriend? i mean you could have twice as many friends...
either way you're being friendzoned because the girl simply does not like you. i think its very rare for someone to friendzone someone out of fear of ruining their friendship.Friendzone is a mentality. If someone you like rejects you, friend or not, it’s on them if they choose to move on or consider themselves friendzoned. I’m not obligated to date a girl because we’re friends.
The list as to why I’d reject any girl is pretty long but the basics are incompatibility. I might be physically attracted to you or our lifestyles might not mix well. Or you might really into alcohol and I’m not. But it’s not a matter of being friendzoned. The reasons I’d reject a friend are the same reasons I’d reject a stranger.If I have " friendzoned" someone, it is because they didn't make their intention clear... I am the type of person who is chatty and friendly, because I like making friends... i dont notice if people like me or not... therefore if I'm chatting with someone for a while and they feel friend zoned, it is on them as they didn't make their intention clear...
If someone asks and I say I dont see them like that and I just want to be friends..
That's not the magical friend zone, that people think means it may or may not happen, it simply means I am not interested in dating them... no zone, no nothing... if they want to be friends after, sure, if they dont, then dontMy default is not liking someone romantically. In fact, I very, very rarely like someone even if they're "logically" a great choice. I think a big part of this for me is that, even if I think someone is attractive looking, it doesn't mean I'm attracted to them.
If someone is in my friend zone, it doesn't mean much. But if you're constantly friend zoned by girls, there could be something deeper like personality. Or just bad luck. If you haven't been on a date yet, don't worry, it just means less breakups before you meet the right person :)My dude... chicks friendzone beta orbiters because they like the attention, and the orbiters are 'try hards' because they're clinging to the idea of 'getting a chance' still.
Be like Chad, if he meets rejection, he moves on to the next one until he scores... he doesn't start hanging out, listening to their stupid problems, or participating in basic bitch activities.
Or don't... waste your time, and get dropped like a bad habit as soon as she meets Chad. lolzI have a couple male friends who are very clever and nice, we talk occasionally and stuff. The difference between them and my boyfriend is that to him I was instantly attracted, and it only increased as we were speaking. Not to mention, he was not just friendly to me like they were, but it's clear that there is something else there.
I don’t friendzone anybody. They do that shit to themselves. I just tell them I’m not interested in dating them. Not my fault they trying hanging around hoping I change my mind.
Lack of attraction or something else that keeps me from agreeing to date them. I might sleep with that person because there mutual attraction, and I might want to date them. But something about them may stop me from dating them. There are a lot of variables.
I'm not interested in having a partner, not interested or attracted to him, most of the time both at the same time.
by the way, I dislike the term friendzone. If a guy wants a woman he should stop pretending to be a friend and be honest so he can be rejected or accepted at once. Some dudes put themselves in that situation.I'll tell u the truth for both man & women,, it doesn't matter if u r being good to them or not,,, u might be a really nice person, but if they doesn't feel anything sexual about u,, them they can't feel that romantic love for u,, & u can't do anything about it
Basically because you don't feel that way towards them, they might look great and have awesome personalities but you just don't feel that click, you know?
I did break a heart or two because I tried starting relationships with such girls, I'd never recommend it.Well if they are good people who have done nothing to offend me, but I'm just not attracted to them... what am I supposed to do? Offer them a blowjob as a consolation prize?
Because some men are not someone who I am romantically or sexually interested in. Some men make great friends, but they are not boyfriend material, get over it and yes, don't believe the bullshit that women can't be just friends with a guy, most of my closest friends are male.
I've only ever had to friendzone because I didn't feel a connection with them / couldnt imagine a future with them even though they were great girls I didn't want to waste my or their time by getting in a relationship even though I know it won't work out
I don't friendzone people because it never gets to that level where I would friendzone them.
I mean I only keep contact with people as acquaintance and nothing more. Friendship is something that simply cannot happen in my life.You friendzone someone if you don't really feel a connection with them and you can't see yourself with them in the future and you might be interested in someone else that's why I think people friendzone someone
because i'm not obligated to be in a relationship with someone? you sound bitter
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