Is it harder to find a good man or a good woman?

[Unit1]

It's harder to find a good man

It's harder to find a good woman

They're both equally hard to find

money?

[mrfoox]

I think both are hard to find.
When we say good women/men in this scenario I'm assuming we mean good people who are also good looking.
I mean, I honestly don't know a lot of beautiful people, but the ones I've come across... Haven't been so nice. The one handsome guy who is actually... A good guy, is a friend of mine. I could seriously write a novel about him, he's such a sweet guy. We meet online, which is great because if we didn't... We probably wouldn't have ever even spoken. I'm avarge at best when it comes to looks. And well, history of bullying from good looking people... Which have caused me to be so wary of them. I see a pretty face I will definitely not be surprised if they turn out to be terrible humans.
I think beautiful people in general gets away with more shit, so they don't even have to act nice. Or act greatful when people do things for them, since they are so used to it. Obviously there are good looking people who are good people. But I think quite a chunk are used to having their way or getting what they want etc, even if they act bad.

[User_Friendly]

Word up. They spoiled! 😅🍻

[Daphne_Naiad]

Define good... Good-looking? Easy to find good-looking partners of both sexes. Successful? A little harder, given how superficial society has become and how everyone and their great aunt is an influencer.

Good, as in well-rounded and decent? Incredibly hard to find as a friend or partner in either women or men... Tbh, most of the women I have seen (again, generalizing) are taking a copy from the Kardashians' book and becoming trashy, with their sole goal of getting as much $$$ as possible. Most of the men I have seen have want to play the role of persistently being a partying womanizer, or they are "nice guys" who expect sex in return for basic decent behavior.

[ChiTown33]

I'm not trying to start a fight i'm just going to look at this logically.

What a guy looks for in a woman: attractive, a good person

What a woman looks for in a guy: attractive, a good person, funny, ambitious, confident, muscular, wealthy, smart, strong social standing, educated, titles (this may fall under several of those other caregories)
Then there's all the expected intangibles such as him being a certain way at certain times to meet her fickleness. (I. e acting a certain way around her family, a certain way around her friends, a certain way in public, a certain way in private.

Now i ask you look at the two lists and tell me which speciman is rarer. Lmao

You're asking the wrong question it's not that a good person is harder to find. It's that the pickier you are the less likelihood good people exist.

[Gatman34]

Women because modern women are crap. Modern women are brainwashed by feminism they are all hella liberal, social media obsessed superficial entitled and yet play the victim mentality whenever it suits them. High maintenance and wear way too much makeup. Why do you think Majority of guys prefer friends with benefits. The odds of finding a non crazy girl nowadays is literally like 1/2,446,000

[jennifer_bloom]

The thing is most guys don't care if a girl is good or bad until they find out she is hot and rich so they have fewer options and more competition for them - girls are willing to date a poor or ugly guy if he has a good heart so they have an easier time finding good guys.

[nathanp97]

But if you look on dating sites guys swipe right way more than women. And I think you forgot rich as something lots of women value.

[filipswagson]

I dont feel that way. I would say there's no difference between what men, and women look after in a partner

[PurpleStorm]

@nathanp97 guys swipe right on almost anything because they are horny and they just swipe on anyone that looks goone enough to have sex with. Women want a bit more than that

[nathanp97]

Says a women who doesn't understand men. Some men do that, but most don't. Maybe most women don't know that because they don't swipe on those guys because they aren't as attractive.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

As if girls don't care if he's good or bad unless she finds out he's rich and hot. pfff

[PurpleStorm]

@nathanp97 yes they do, they swipe on anyone that looks "doable"

[nathanp97]

How would you know, you aren't a man?

[Gatman34]

This is so false women are hypergamous by nature

[PurpleStorm]

@nathanp97 by talking to a lot of men and reading a lot of opinions from men here. Men tell me this themselves and I see them acting this way. Some things are just obvious. I am not saying all men are like that, maybe not you, but the majority for sure.

[Unit1]

😂😂
My experience is anything but that. But yeah, there are some undergrown guys out there, who have no directions in life, look sort of below average, aren't earning enough money for themselves, maybe even love getting drunk, may be racist and somehow they get a girlfriend.

Me? I maintain my looks and I make enough to not go hungry at any time. Plus I don't expect anything out of giving my kindness. 😂 I love making women smile, giggle or laugh!
Still single 😂😂😂

[MissDawn7961]

I am a woman and in my opinion it is harder to find a good man ! I have dated a lot of men and they have hit me , insulted me and so forth ! I forgive them too but I will not date them again either ! I am not the prettiest woman they can find either ! I am just plain , simple me and I do not claim to be anything great for any man ! however I am a Christian and will dress and live like a Christian and lady to the best of my ability ! if a man does not treat me like a lady and with respect then the Lords vengeance will be upon him and I will not be around abusive men anymore ! Thanks

[Flower7]

I'm glad to hear that you're not willing to put up with being treated badly. And it's good that you stay true to yourself and to your religion.

[AlienParasite]

I think most people are good, and that the problem is not finding someone good but someone you are attracted to each other, you share enaugh in common to enjoy beign together, and have future plans and goal compatible with each other.

You know, there are good people I'm not attracted to, there are good people that are not attracted to me, there are good people I don't have anything to talk about with, and there are good eople that have opposite future plans than me.

So, that's what I believe, it's hard to find a suitable partner, but not to find a good man or woman.

[1stPlace]

Refreshing to see a woman give an honest answer.

[DorkVader]

I said both. I consider myself a good woman, and ain't nobody looking for me 😅. My friend, who is a habitual cheater considers herself a good woman and men staaayyyyyy on her like flies on shit. The difference is she's tall and thin, I'm short and fat. Coincidence? I think not

[Unit1]

🤔🤔🤔
These guys have problems.

[DorkVader]

What guys? The downvotes or the "flies on shit" guys?

[DorkVader]

Or me? I defo have problems lol

[Unit1]

These guys, who chase bitches.

Future did say "chase a check. never chase a bitch" for a reason.

[Jjpayne]

A good man. Men are not great with being responsible in a relationship. I'm not saying they are terrible but women are much better at it to me. They give their all while men like to avoid I love you and dip their feet into different pools avoiding commitment. While girls still cheat i think most have a mature view of relationships

[bubbles328]

Guys tend to look at the outside of a girl to decide who they want to date. While women do that too they are more likely to look at who the person is as well. I personally go straight to personality. If more guys looked further than the packaging they might find decent women. I see all these "nice guy" posts here you know the girl they want is a 10 and they're a 5-7 but they befriended the 10 so why the hell shouldn't they get the 10?

[nathanp97]

So you're saying girls care more for personality, yet if a 5-7 guy hits on a 10 you think the hiy shouldn't get the girl? Based on the first part the fact that he is a 5-7 shouldn't matter, but in the second part you seem to say it does.

Guys care for more than what is in the outside. They just don't lie to women and say it doesn't really matter at all. Women would probably know that if they didn't only date the good looking or wealthy kinda guy.

[bubbles328]

@nathanp97 most guys initially go for the packaging the personality is to come second this is proven. Not my fault if they choose a rotten twinkie because the packaging is perfect.

[nathanp97]

Girls are no different. The only reason why you think guys do that is because they approach the good looking girls more. How are you supposed to know the person's personality before you walk up to them and start talking. If you don't like it than you have to approach the guys.

[bubbles328]

When I am out I speak to anyone and everyone regardless of gender or looks. Could be an old guy in the corner of a bar with 3 teeth i'll speak to him. How are you supposed to get to know people unless you speak to them? I call it a friendly approach. Many guys are unapproachable on nights out because they're too busy chasing after barbies rather than real women lol. Seriously from a people watcher/ ex bar owner guys go looking for the good looking women and ignore the bad or average.

[nathanp97]

If guys go in with a friendly approach 9 times out of 10 they get friend zoned when they don't won't any more female friends. If you want more than a one night stand bars are never a good place to ask people out, and that's true if you're a guy or a girl. I've never heard of a relationship that started in a bar and actually lasted.

[bubbles328]

@nathanp97 In any room not just bars trust me if you're a 6 the 5-7 girl sat behind the group of 9/10 girls will not friend zone you if you strike up an interesting conversation she will probably be glad of the attention.

[nathanp97]

Lots of girls on here say they are very attractive yet know guys ever hit on them, so I'm curious what your thoughts are on that, because only one of you can actually be right.

[bubbles328]

My thoughts on that is I have "fuck off" stamped on my forehead some other girls do too and it puts out the wrong vibe. My PFP is me. Until I was 28ish I was never approached. Many guys would look at me and walk straight past me. I got told I have this unapproachable vibe so I changed the way I present myself in public. Now I am approached all the time. I speak to all guys my last boyfriend was way below me looks wise but he was fun to be around. Turned out he was a huge idiot so he took himself to a 0. I think and I've heard guys say it here the unattractive ones or less attractive girls don't take the attention well and put out that vibe. If you strike up an interesting convo it should remove that vibe.

[justme1171]

Good men are everywhere, they just went MGTOW because they got tired of chasing women. Good women are impossible to find because they buy into feminist bullshit lies that they were meant to be more than just wives and mothers.

Ladies, especially the single ones over thirty, your most desirable years are 18 to 25. That’s a small window to attract a suitable husband yet it’s more often spent partying and being a slut or wasted serving in the military (which also ties into being a slut), going to college, chasing careers or serving non-existent gods then finding a husband then I hope you fucking die alone. If you have a vagina and you’re not married, it’s game over and it’s your fault.

as for this bullshit about waiting for love, fuck love. Just marry the first sucker who wants to marry you before you turn 25, have kids and make heads or tails of it. You don’t have to love him.

[Unit1]

I do not speak incel 🤷

[alice55]

I would say It's harder to find a good man for the simple reasons women are usually more social than men and are more open. You can easily walk down the street and see hundred of single women while a lot of good men are introvert and when you talk to them they get shy or they just rather stay in their house than going out.

[dwiller943]

A good man, because I've seen plenty of good women (even myself)
approach and show interest in good men or even give them a chance
when they show interest in a good woman.
But the good men that are actually smart enough
to not ignore the good girls for the mean girls
that they are so used to seeing very likely don't exist.

[Anoniemus]

There are plenty of good women. Good (attractive) men are a bit harder because a lot of men are skeazy, have high body counts, dishonest etc.

[ChiTown33]

Of course they are... because as you said they're (attractive). Lol

[liburnia]

Both, because today is all so superficial. Form is more important than the content. Men and women both care only about looks (honor ot the exceptions) and not being a good person and partner to someone they love (very selfish)

[Flower7]

I chose that both are equally hard to find. Good people are rare overall, no matter which sex they are.

[cavmanier]

I've actually thought it's harder to find a good man for a while because women are usually better communicators and more serious then men. Either way though I guess.

[moststrangestguy]

Good man harder to find good wemon exist but there usually crazy attractive and have there life together... There a lot of crazy girls and a lot of good girls but few good men and a lot of half okay men and a small amount of crazy guys

[DWornock]

It is more difficult to find a good woman since most girls chase after the hottest guys that will fuck them and reject guys in their league. Most men will date down for sex but for a serious relationship want a girl in or above their league.

[GayLoner]

A good man. Im gay so the dating pool is small. Then a lot of gays are weirdos due to years of being outcasts and such. So to find a mentally, emotionally stable gay man who is my type is very very small.

Plus I need money but im also terrible with it. I can make $1k in 2 weeks and have nothing to show for it

[Anonymous]

It's harder to find a good woman, why? 1) Because women have more option so they are more likely to cheat, 2) Women are driven by status and wealth and 3) Women don't care if they expose themselves for other men then her own man. When I talk to girls nowadays, plenty lack good morals, plenty chase the doofus bad boy that tickles her little strange fetish of being mentally abused. Let's not forget the drama involved.

[yuesper]

Define good...

Maybe not good enough for another, but definitely good for someone

[jgokgotit]

Much harder to find a good woman. Women are so damn determined to break tradition that they forget how to be women.

[Myonzon]

It's hard to find any of them if you're making bad choices in dating or not being cautious in a short relationship with a partner