What to do if your ugly?

[Anonymous]

I'm ugly. I know I am.
People on this site like to lie a lot too.
I dont have a jawline, lips too big, head too big, nose wide, forehead big. I just didn't get any good facial genetics at all.
I dont get matches on dating apps

I can't find a single good thing about my face according to western standard

This just caused me to be so insecure, I get made fun of for some of my features, girls i like dont even like me back when are personalities connect.

Women dont show physical affection towards me compared to other guys.

What can I do in my situation? Is it possible for me to look better when I'm older?

[GoodManDave]

Every babe that weeps at your approach, every woman who cries out, "Dear God! What is that thing," will echo in your ears. I'm in that club, too. It's a tough place to be. So, are there options? To a point. You can get a haircut that suits you, find a wardobe that suits you, and look good. You can wear cologne, take showers, all that will at least help in small to big ways. That's pretty simple stuff overall. Then comes the hard part for most people - the work. You're probably going to have to earn good money. You're also probably going to have to work out. After that, learn to dance. Take cooking classes. Learn to talk to people, and not in a creepy kind of way. Usually, that will (in time) be enough. As you hopefully mature, some things will change for the better. And the earlier you learn to be a cool person, it may become slightly easier. But it will take a lot of work.

Good luck.

[razelove]

Yeah, have more confidence. I had few dates, or women that talked to me when I thought I was unattractive. Having a steady job, not relying on online dating sites so much, and just having stupid self-confidence will get you there.

Fake it till you make it if you have to. I know for myself maybe... between a decade, decade and a half ago I didn't have too strong of self-esteem or confidence, somewhere in between there I got it, and most things I want simply by right of knowing I'm good enough for them and going after it in such a way.

It's counter-intuitive, but the world is a strange place.

[Asker]

But ur passable. Like ur not repulsive. I don't know if attractive or not. But I can look at you and not feel disgusted. Kinda the opposite for me

[razelove]

Well, if you feel that way make money. I had a friend who had terrible acne scars, I mean, he got all that microderm abrasion stuff, and over time it went down, but I'd say for over a decade, teen years into twenties he was probably a 3. He just focused like crazy on work, his company, and hitting on tons of women online. When we'd go out to bars and stuff, yeah, most nights that there was a success it was me going home with a girl, but he got better at getting into relationships, and just not giving a shit about negative things other people would throw at him.

You're 18 right now, and surrounded by people who pride themselves on beauty. Work hard, get into school, use a different measure. Those same people are still going to like attraction come twenties, but rent and shit are going to be pretty high up on that list, own a house.

Well, hell, I advise any man to own a house before getting into a serious relationship, then it can't get taken from you.

[GloriaMc]

Hahahaha I don't believe the way you discribe yourself anyway once upon a time I have meet up chat mate he said he is ugly as F so I was like ok lets meet he makes me sure yes I am sure when we meet oh my gosh I was shy he is olala what liar liar everywhere 😆😆😆😆

[Asker]

I'm not even being harsh on myself. It's just how it is. If I looked decent, then I wouldn't be asking this

[GloriaMc]

Na I think your just making a joke 😂😂😂😂

[Asker]

It's not, I mean if u saw me ud agree

[jeemm]

Even if your face looks like a gorilla shit under a tractor you can make up for it by working out, fixing your attitude and developing an interesting personality. Sulking in your faults has no benefits whatsoever so be procreative and make your own happiness.

[stormbreaker06]

nope.

[jeemm]

Even if I'm wrong it's better than wallowing in self-pity.

[stormbreaker06]

self pity sounds more trust worthy.

[Asker]

I did get a interesting personality.

[Asker]

I have so many friends cuz of it

[jeemm]

Awesome 👍

[Asker]

That's not the magic powder that'll help.

[jeemm]

Okay

[Darryllan]

You're at a hard age buddy. 18 means a lot of people your age are just out there trying everything they can, you can't expect to fit in those standards for everyone. Give it some extra time and all will fall in place.

[Asker]

The way you look still does something past the age of 18

[Darryllan]

Hardly yes. Years pass by, I had the same shit when I was 16-18, seems like a while ago. It's been only 4 years.

[Asker]

Yeah but some people are truly ugly. there's a average and then there's below and above. People need to fill in those gaps.

I just got unlucky and got significantly below

[Darryllan]

You don't know yet. I have had some friends both male and female from your age who suddenly just popped in their face and body and became quite beautiful, some didn't and still ended up with someone who loved them. At some point you will come to an age when the insides matters more. So even if you're worried right now about your future, just await what it holds for you.

[Asker]

Well your using a lot of probability because no one is sure of how I will look later on, but I dont have good striking features that harmonize, so it's unlikely I'll look better.

[Asker]

I realise I'm ugly, and I still wanna live life but I know dating is just gonna be a wave of insecurities that'll ruin me. I don't know what to do. Prostitution is illigal in the US

[Darryllan]

I'm not the only one using probabilities. You yourself have 0 rejects or words written that tell me you're actually ugly. Besides if sex is the thing you're looking for, based on the whole prostitution thing, get some toys man, order some stuff online and have yourself a blast.

[Asker]

Well yeah I'm pretty ugly. I'm pretty sure of it. Objectively I dont have any great features. My only good feature is my skin

[Darryllan]

You will have your qualities, whether it being genuine nice or having a great cock or something. Someone will find reasons to fall for you.

[Asker]

It's not gonna be easy for me. And once I get to that person, I'll just get insanely insecure at that point. It's just hard. I do have a lot of skills and things

[Darryllan]

You'll be fine, love is a trigger of emotion that will reduce these insecurities by at least half.

[stormbreaker06]

be like a troll and live under a rock. ugly people do not win in this game.

i'm fit as hell and i'm an incel.

[Idkwhattouse]

You may think you aren't attractive but there are a lot of people who look more at the personality of a person then their looks, if you have an attractive personality then that's a lot going for you

[Asker]

Not true. When people see you it's mainly the outside they are judging at first. Attractive personality only works if the girl finds u passable, like if she imagines you and her dating not being a gross thing

[Asker]

I know at your age, the girls aren't definitely looking for guys with personality, so I just got insanely insecure during that time

[Idkwhattouse]

I get it, I'm insecure too, but a personality says more about a person than their jawline

[Asker]

It doesn't get a pass that's the thing. Girls already like and compliment my personality. I'm not a outkast. Girls do talk to me and enjoy my company, theyll just never date me which is the thing.

You can be good looking and get a lot of girls without fail, but good personality doesn't work on every single girl.

[stormbreaker06]

women don't care about personality. its about looks money and status.

[Idkwhattouse]

Some girls aren't hoes ya know?

[stuntbrain]

Focus on developing a good personality

[Asker]

I did. I already done that. Girls compliment my personality all the time. Nothing wrong with it, I can talk to girls fine. Just the looks is a barrier

[stormbreaker06]

that's not enough

[Asker]

Yeah it isn't.