Currently in 1.5 months into dating:
-he said he loved me on our 2nd date and asked me to be his girlfriend.
i get that, that should’ve been flag #1 I just thought it was sweet, and I love you’s aren’t a big deal to me/gf is just a title.
-hes dealing with a lot, and whiles we were discussing his situations, he noted that his health is making it all feel more intense because he’s so tired. I told him a general doctor, hasn’t been working for him and he’s had a throat/sinus and ear infection in less than a month. A ENT might have a better approach to help him. He hates the meds the GP prescribed, and wouldn’t go back to change them and was just pessimistic about it and said he just won’t go to a doctor. I noted that since he’s snoring sooo loudly all of a sudden, and there is such a large delay in his breathing in his sleep, he might want to ask about sleep apnea, to whoever he chose to see. (I wasn’t going to force someone to take care of their body)
he lost it, repeatedly saying he’d drive off a cliff if he has sleep apnea, started swearing, and his breathing became weird. So I asked was the thought of that too much for you? And he snapped and said yes it was and hung up.
he texted 15 mins laters and said “I’m sorry sleep apnea is scary lol”.
i know it was not about me. But I can’t be afraid that someone is going to snap at me because I’m trying to care for them.
I dated an abusive suicidal schizophrenic for years. I can’t tell if it’s trauma from that, that’s pushing him away or if I’m right to step back from him. (I think he just has too much going on personally to be with someone)
-he said he loved me on our 2nd date and asked me to be his girlfriend.
i get that, that should’ve been flag #1 I just thought it was sweet, and I love you’s aren’t a big deal to me/gf is just a title.
-hes dealing with a lot, and whiles we were discussing his situations, he noted that his health is making it all feel more intense because he’s so tired. I told him a general doctor, hasn’t been working for him and he’s had a throat/sinus and ear infection in less than a month. A ENT might have a better approach to help him. He hates the meds the GP prescribed, and wouldn’t go back to change them and was just pessimistic about it and said he just won’t go to a doctor. I noted that since he’s snoring sooo loudly all of a sudden, and there is such a large delay in his breathing in his sleep, he might want to ask about sleep apnea, to whoever he chose to see. (I wasn’t going to force someone to take care of their body)
he lost it, repeatedly saying he’d drive off a cliff if he has sleep apnea, started swearing, and his breathing became weird. So I asked was the thought of that too much for you? And he snapped and said yes it was and hung up.
he texted 15 mins laters and said “I’m sorry sleep apnea is scary lol”.
i know it was not about me. But I can’t be afraid that someone is going to snap at me because I’m trying to care for them.
I dated an abusive suicidal schizophrenic for years. I can’t tell if it’s trauma from that, that’s pushing him away or if I’m right to step back from him. (I think he just has too much going on personally to be with someone)
