Do you think it's fair that women expect a short guy should do something special to be preferred among all the tall guys in dating?

[Petra150]

To me it's like to have to pay a bigger price for the fair, very unfair in my opinion

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Yea it's unfair but that's just how life works, maybe you weren't blessed in one area so you gotta make up for it in another area.

It's totally unfair but sometimes I think people get into relationships with people they just feel sorry for and that's no way to start something that's gonna last. The best way to find someone I think is to write down some qualities you want in a partner and when you meet someone who checks off most of the boxes, give that person a chance.

This question kinda reminds me of when I was in college and I didn't have that much confidence in myself. (and I was a good looking guy) My friend who was a total player told me to just get out there and try to talk to girls and if you get rejected, so what?

Only I lucked out because my first wave of answers was yes and then the second wave was no before everything hit a "normal" pattern. But what I learned from doing this myself and seeing other people do it is that most people, especially guys are gonna get rejected by 60-75 percent of woman. There's nothing wrong with them, it's not because they have a shitty personality or their ugly or un-datable. It's because we are all humans with specific desires and tastes. Maybe you aren't all that interested in the shorter guys who don't really have much going on but there's probably a ton of short girls who feel like there aren't enough guys who are a reasonable height for them.

So yea, shit like that is unfair but maybe only if you look at it a certain way. Another way to look at it is that it brings a kind of equilibrium or balance to life. That we're all different.

[Petra150]

Og you mean dating is like a shopping list... you use to shop for the weekend... don't bring home the rotten tomatoes ( the undesired short guys , trow them out) or let them also undesired short women end up with them. Us creating a A team and a B team , the fittest survive thing. To be honest I don't date my fiancee because I feel sorry for him, really he don't know me making this comment , hell hate no one feeling sorry for him or other Not tall guys for that sake. This I my experience created by listening to my also tall teammates from my Volleyball team and , you can look at tinder or pictures bon Instagram too. Shorter men are maked fun and haters about all the time. A woman who weight 350 kg because she have are all her fucking life and never done any gym, people wouldn't dare call her fat, a guy as mine fit and wonderful but unfortunately me his girlfriend are over 20 cm taller than him , every person we pass make jokes about HIM, not me I'm the fucking odd one being 294 cm tall using size 47-47,5 in shoe and I'd heard idiots joke about my guy havi " only size 43" and gmhe have small feet, well of course he have smaller feet than me , everything else would look strange. So guys NOT tall do pay a price , especially them who dare follow there desire , and my fiancee live girls tall ( it not a fetish at all , he just live us taller than him , like obviously some girls love guys taller) and I'm fucking happy he love me even though I'm tall as hell, and no one are going to tell him there's a awful lot of fuckung short women he's going to settle with , when he love a girl 2 meter, and that's not rare but most people are afraid to admit theirs preference if they are different to most

[JJ_Bear]

Such an interesting perspective, never really heard it explained that way.

It is unfair, but that doesn't make it untrue. I think you have to bring something extra to all relationships as long as it's genuinely you.

Looking back, it seems that shorter friends have def been way more over the top. Hence the "Napoleon Complex".

[Petra150]

I'm not that super in English, so I'm not completely sure I understand your comment. And what you mean by Napoleon in this question, we he did somthing very special I'm avare , as the best leader the world ever have had, and he also promoted one of my favourite burgundy wines Chambertin as he's favourite Wien. Did you get my point. As I mean shorter guys very unfair obviously bneed to pay an ekstremly heigh prise to join us women's hypothetical dating circus, were we gladly let a massmuder or s chield abruser in for free given he's tall, while a guy very nice and attractive are charged a very big price for the same thing

[jalas4612]

Nope. Not all. That's a losing battle and a good way to set a dude up to fail. If you dont like short guys, then it's that simple. If it's not a concern but he is an exception to your outlook, then it is what it is and the poor guy doesn't need to be your puppet.

[Bandit74]

I don't think we are ever going to change what people find desirable/undesirable, especially not in regards to height. I don't think there has ever been a point in human history where a short man has been equally at desirable as a tall one and I really doubt it will change in the future.

This may not be a popular opinion, but to me the best solution is genetic engineering. Then nobody will have to be ugly or born with undesirable traits

[Petra150]

But a guy is ten times nmore attractive when he's under 185 cm tall, a guy tall look and act horrible. I'm very tall bas a woman 204 cm tall, and every guy I'd been dating with success were under 185 cm tall or over 20;cm shorter than me, and they never needed to show special thing to make me prefering them. Tallness in s guy is about the very last thing a normal woman would need. No one can prove that tallness ever been a value , I'm sure that the evolution story, that try to fool us to believe that tallness were an positive thing, isn't true at all. Knowing a tall person use more of food and space are slow and usually are way more unhealthy , and they live shorter too. When I were born my mother cried adage would have wished a healthy child, as tallness I a sign your not so healthy, as a avarage height is a sign your healthy. Guess that's why I'm in the gym every day , while my fiancee never have been doing any workout at all, he's healthy in him self, and I have a hard time understanding that he's 58 years old, hel look like a guy 40 years old. UNFAIR as hell

[ShadowofRegret]

I never really noticed, most women I've met never seemed to mind my height, the only ones who seem to make an issue of it are girls who post mean things online, but they usually come of as just being plain rude, usually those same girls often say bad things about tall women too, sometimes even to the point of making them cry.

Not anyone I would want anything to do with...

[Adam1978]

Well life isn't fair, you must overcome your disadvantage or live with what you got. As long as short is less wanted then long you need to add some other value to the mix.

[Petra150]

Not me darling I'm incredibly tall, but have faced poor guys who were so dam insecure about how I perceived there height. So I made everyone clear I don't mind them tiny at all... A shorter can be massive below I'd bet you

[Adam1978]

It's all in the eye of the beholder, we all judge people differently and values different things. Otherwise it would really suck to be on the less wanted list. Now there is a chance to find people who do not care about whatever flaws we got. I am tall so I don't have this particular problem but because I am tall I prefer some length in her. So I am guilty of said issue among women.

[Petra150]

Do you prefair you girl tall, and do you mind you girl taller than you

[Adam1978]

It's practical if she is about my length, if she would be a head longer then me it would be inpractical again. So it's not about who is tallest.

[MrCommodore]

I don't think a guys height really matters that much to women, I could be wrong, but it seems petty.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, but that's anyone. If a guy is ugly he needs to have a glowing personality to compete. If a woman is ugly or fat she needs to be funny or have a great personality to make up for it.

[Petra150]

The people you mention do have a fair chance to get there look made better with plastic surgery, a fat woman just need to tie her self together and do some exercise and eat less and be more thoughtfull about what she eat. Height is impossible to change you might gain a few cm by a painfull and very dangerous leg length surgery, but a guy 175 will never become 195 cm tall, so women wouldn't date a guy under at least 190 cm tall anyway if she's a horrible heightist , she wouldn't lower he standard, well I'd hope every guy would know what kind of person they are and let her be single to the end of her life, but I'd guess tall guys love those of us women who are being assholes

[Opinion Owner]

I'm tall. 6 1/2 feet tall to be exact. I personally think it's ridiculous. I would reject and have rejected women who was interested in me because if my height.

[Petra150]

I'm afraid most of my fellow tall teammates from my Volleyball team , primary rejected guys on there height , most of them went on an on about my hobbit " only " is 181 cm tall , and when we were out at night or when a new male player arrived at the club, if he had to bend to pass the door , they all shouted my name , presuming I'd gonna be attracted to them, and they still so regardless that they all know my hobbit , they still lsugh a little when they meet us, and even though we have invited them to our house a million time and they love our parties, and they know he's absolutely mad about tall girls and find us attractive and he told them several times, they still make fun of him and regard him as s guy I'd settle for. As they tell me so fucking often now after 7-8 years , " just wait to you get a real guy, and he'll give you all you'd ever got" I don't know what to do to make them stop. I'll certainly not give up my love of my life, and I'm very decided in we are gonna marrie after this virus is over, and we'd decided to invite all my teammates too, so they once for all can see I mean business with my fiancee. I'd tell you he still me better and harder than no giant Volleyball player ever done, and he's 8-9 " tool do compensate for every cm he might lack in height ( well I'd never demanded a talk guy to satisfy me

[SAVAGE222]

I guess you're not alone woman on earth.. short guy will pass you too poor tall guy have fun with tall guy at street. Lol

[farhaan7part2]

Every guy should try to stand out for a lady be it a short guy or a tall guy

[JohnWickman]

Very unfair! Petra, are you taller than I?

[Petra150]

do you mind, guys get more of ever thing, 135 cm pure legs feet so large you can stand on them, and by doing that you gain 6-8 cm on me, making kiss easier

[JohnWickman]

Where do I sign up for that?

[Petra150]

Guess but we met , we would end up doing things we regret , but we properly would love it anyway. Shit happens by accident, sometimes people need to be irrational

[JohnWickman]

I agree! Let's meet up and get irrational!! 😛

[Petra150]

Ud live you to fuck me to prices ooh shit we are not on message hell send me s dirty message and I'll get wet my darling. Hope you are growing hard on this post big guy !!!

[Cherokeehp]

You sound like a bitch.

[Petra150]

Why don't you agree we women gladly date tall but less attractive guys, while a guy short really must be somthing to be preferred by us

[Anonymous]

are you a short man? lol

[Petra150]

A very tall women , but my fiancee is short only 181 cm tall, and many women think he's short, I really don't think he's short, only compared to my insane 204 cm , but I only call him my little hobbit as a fun intern joke just when we are alone we never try to humiliate beach other in public. Mind you he love me very tall, and mabee preferred me from shorter girls, I told him that in a way he's a little shallow too, somthing men usually blame us women to be

[Opinion Owner]

I don't get it. Why do they have to do something special? Heightism is a cultural thing, it's not the same all around the world

[Opinion Owner]

Also, I'm 167cm and I'm taller than half of my -mostly male- coworkers so you and your husband are huge

[Petra150]

Yes I'm very ekstremly tall, mabee 10 girls in the Hamburg area are my height or taller. And my tiny hobby isn't short , he's 181 cm tall ( he claim to be 181,5 cm I tell him he's a shortie , when he say the half cm too , and tell him people who need to mention a half cm , must have a little guy complex, well we love to joke each other, when we are alone, I'll never humiliate him , and certainly not in front of other people, height is very important to guys, and my height shouldn't hurt him. But he's so happy about me being tall my legs and king limbs, and he too joke about my gigantic feet, not that I'm embarrassed having size 47 , but it's dam expensive finding shoe that size

[Opinion Owner]

wow my dad has trouble finding sneakers and he's a size 45, how do you even get shoes? In my country stores sell sizes 35-40, sizes 41 and 42 are extremely hard to find

[Opinion Owner]

Men stores usually sell sizes 40-44 for men, sizes 45 and 46 are hard to find, only sport stores sell those sizes

[Petra150]

i live in north germany we are bigger, but my high heels are hand made ofcause.

[girlsbumlicker]

So do you need a tall guy?

[Petra150]

I'm tall as hell 204 girl and I'm in a relationship , my fiancee is 181 cm tall that's avarage height to mee, and I'd never been attracted to taller guys

[girlsbumlicker]

Ohh what you say about only 155

[girlsbumlicker]

I am 156 something

[Petra150]

Funny you bring it up, I'd been in relationship with a tiny little guy he were only 154 cm , and we were in relationship bmore than 2 years, and I loved it, but unfortunately I surprised him cheating on me with my ex girlfriend , so we split vup, something I'd deeply felt sad

[lofii]

Unfair