Would you date someone who's clearly antisocial?

Question

They make it clear you are the only person they trust and care about, while everyone else can go to hell. They only care about the people you care about exactly because you care about them, by reflex.

Reaperbot666 · Accepted Answer

Not sure if that is the right definition of antisocial.

But yes I would date someone who was. Since I am myself antisocial most of the time.

Typically won’t hang out with people I don’t know that often. But I do still have some friends at least. Many are more like extended family since I’ve know them so long.

Normally only meet new people while hanging out with friends and family.

Even at work I tend to keep to myself whenever possible. Since I would just rather not befriend any of my coworkers. Even when they try to be mine.

DiscomfortZone · Accepted Answer

No, and let me explain: what you've described here is classic mind games, like page 3 of the antisocial cook book. "Everyone can go to hell, but not you ofc, you I'd go through fire and water for!". Bullshit. That's really basic level manipulation, feeding on your own insecurities and desire to love and be loved. You have to remember antisocials are not exactly human, and we are often toys to them. So whoever it is you wrote this post about - tell them to haul ass, or at least be more careful than humanly possible.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Yes I would date someone antisocial. The relationship between the two people is probably the most important factor.

Maybe she just happens not to like the particular options she's been presented/surrounded by? Some people are particular, and they don't find a lot of matches, but aren't always disagreeable/combative with all others.
But if that's not the case, it's pretty cut and dry, that would be a lot of pressure on the first person/partner to be 'the one' for them, and no one else is welcome.

bloodys2 · Accepted Answer

No, and such a person wouldn't be worth my time.

Account · Answer

Honestly, no.

I am a difficult person.
I tend to give up easily on relationships, which means I wouldn't want to be with someone who would find it difficult to let me go. I always find reasons to leave.
I never try, I never fight, that is just not me.
I wouldn't want anyone to be emotionally dependent on me, I cannot give anyone the emotional security they need.
I am just unable to do so and I am okay with that.
People like that should stay away from people like me and vice versa.

aaliyah_loyen · Answer

Jean-Marie_Celine,
Yes, I would date someone who is antisocial. I find it very hard to trust people, because of what i've been through. Although I care bout a lot of people in my life. I care about people who I don't even know. I also believe everyone deserves a second chance, but I still find it very hard to trust. And if someone else told me i'm the only one they trust and care about, i'd give them a chance for sure.

btbc92 · Answer

Thats not antisocial. That sound sociopathic or the person really does have bad trust issues that's worse than mind. Other than that, antisocial behavior isn't really a problem as long as it's due to others not wanting to socialize with him.

_no_one_ · Answer

I remember the time when I was in depression and got antisocial. I really needed someone at that time and I even got some after some time. So I will always help such people coz I know what they have gone through and I don't want em to be like that, makes me sad 😔

archiz · Answer

I am very social, I don't know if they will adapt to me.
I will jump from a conversation from one person to another and I have tons of friends and outings.
He/she is gonna struggle with me if they are antisocial.

angecandy · Answer

No, because what is the use of you just liking me only and not social with other people? What about work? Are you gonna stay inside forever? neigbors? Family? Friends?

Dosnt matter if you hate people or like them, you have sometime to be social and communicate.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Nope. That kind of partner probably will be very suffocating because I'm the only valued person. I want someone who is able to value his family and good loyal friends just like I care about my own.

AlongCameCindy · Answer

I would say it’s okay in some respects but these people tend to be quite cold, so if they suddenly don’t want you in their life anymore you’re going to get the same treatment, stuff like that is about character

Avicenna · Answer

That's dangerous for someone, so no. What happens when that person turns on you too?

DannyFanny · Answer

Definitely, I feel I enjoy being alone a lot at times.

MyHonest2Cents · Answer

I think this will depend on if the other side is the same. You guys just have to match. It all comes down to matching values in life, not what the general crowd says.

scotcheggs · Answer

Yeah, tbh I prefer someone who isn’t had social as I am lol

robertKugler · Answer

Yes... and on whos option.. n how's do they classify their definition of anti social
All because one person talks and interacts with 10 people and the other just three... in a more private setting doesn't make one anti social
And ruling out the fact they don't want your company doesn't make anti social. Actually.. about are close as one gets to perfection.. not to say that a combination of both is potentially enlighting

KeziL · Answer

nope. i need people. i wanna have get togethers and barbecues and movie nights and just hang out with people, my friends or theirs. i tend to only like people who like people, antisocials are not people i talk to.

1CentWorth · Answer

yeah, that's not anti-social at all. maybe just someone who like limited human interaction. Think of Timothy McVeigh - that is anti-social. If she's not into being enemies with our society, then she's probably not anti-social.

angelgirl7 · Answer

Personally, no. I'm a pretty social person. I have a big family, I like to hang out with friends. I'd prefer that the person I'm with WANT to spend time with the people I'm close to, and vice versa.

JackSmy · Answer

3/4 of the ones I have, could be defined as 'anti-social'. What's the problem? Everyone is different, and I liked them a lot.

Ashutosh_Love · Answer

I would not with antisocial as it is completely different from my personality. If you say someone who does not like to being social or less social in society, It is ok but she must accept and love me and my family.

funride74 · Answer

No I'd never do that. It's just not my thing and I couldn't ignore this

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I'm so outgoing that I believe we're gonna have lots of conflicts. So, no, it might not work out.

ariadneR · Answer

I couldnt.  I mean there are times that I'm anti social. But if he invites me somewhere with his family or friends, I'm gonna go.

Adam1978 · Answer

Not very social myself, but I must be able to have family and guest over. So if she is a complete hermit it wouldn't work.

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

Probably but I'd hope they would make an effort with our friends and family.

loveslongnails · Answer

That would seem pointless to me, but it depends on how "anti-social" she is. I'm drawn to girls who are affectionate and expressive, so I probably wouldn't even notice a girl like that.

Iron_Man · Answer

No that would bore me thats full time lock down she would never leave the house and I'm a people person.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Yes. I don't like people either. I get kinda agitated talking to people unless they're a friend. Just being around is annoying. It triggers a spark of rage and discomfort. It makes you think of killing. Heh heh heH.

the_sinner · Answer

No it won't be possible for me. I'd want that person to have similar interests and qualities.

Konabeana · Answer

No. I would not date someone who is clearly antisocial because it makes me uncomfortable.

neurolove · Answer

I have dated this type before and no, it's not pleasant.

xZoeyx · Answer

never again. rely on you too much and get way too attached.

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

That pretty much describes me. And for answering your question, it'll be a 'yes'.

Christina_99 · Answer

No I like being around people it helps when they have their own friends.

Massageman · Answer

Maybe they are still somewhat shy around others and compensate with a fake "drop dead, everyone" attitude?

DamianJ97 · Answer

Yes i would. But i hope she would be at least liking to be with family and such. I am antisocial but not with close friends and family.

OddBeMe · Answer

I think you mean asocial. Antisocial is acting against society, like a criminal. But as an asocial person, you can all go to hell.

lauraa9963 · Answer

Well i am so ya id love someone whos antisocial, feels save

Lucious22 · Answer

My brother is, and I have to say I’d never wanna date someone that’s super anti social, it doesn’t fit well with my life style

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

I wouldn't call it antisocial but according to what's in the details yes I would love to

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If taken to the extreme then it can be a turn off. Not that I would need her to be with me while I go chill with friends or family.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

They would be caring about a lot of people getting to know someone like me.

AcidT0y · Answer

No that sounds kind of smothering. I'd rather be with someone who has her own friends.

jillybeanns · Answer

I would not be able to.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I would not dislike someone because they are antisocial alone.

honestGUY45 · Answer

Absolutely. I'm sick of attention whores.

saurabhji · Answer

I like to date an anti-social person and i really respect about there feeling and i will always be loyal to them!!

sunshineNtears · Answer

Yes. What matters is our relationship between us. Not if they dont like going out.

tiajoka · Answer

Nothing wrong with being anti social

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I'm antisocial for sure & it definitely makes it hard

Xavz11e · Answer

I am probably the most antisocial person in the world

DizzyDesii · Answer

Omg sounds like heaven 😍 #LongLiveTheLoners 🙌

Aislin9 · Answer

I wouldn't have a problem with that.

Cryptic-Game · Answer

No. It would hinder the things I enjoy doing.

N17RV · Answer

I would

MysteriesStranger · Answer

Oh course I'd date him, he's me.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeah

A_madi6 · Answer

Yes, because I'm kinda anti social person

MannMitAntworten · Answer

No...

OceanMelon · Answer

Sure, if I love him.

crazy8000 · Answer

Depends on in what way.

MountAverage · Answer

Why would anyone date someone like that?

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