Girls night ends up getting me locked out?

[bigdreamer1]

My boyfriend and I hung out with his friends at the pool for most of the day. The evening I had dinner plans with girl friends and potentially grabbing some drinks after. Because we ended up having to care for one of my boyfriends friends I ended up running a little late to my girls night. Since I was having a girls night my boyfriend had to have a boys night. He passively aggressively texted me the whole night saying have fun with your friends I guess I’ll just see you later... anyways once he got home he said hey I’m going to go to bed the door is open. No worries, I let him know we were on our last drink and just chatting and then I would be heading home. He kept making comments about staying with someone else which I ignored because I know he was drunkenly saying it. Right as I get in my friends car I let him know I am heading his way and he text me no just stay with your friend because I’m locking you out. He has my apartment key so I can’t even go to my place if he does end up locking me out. I get to his and sure enough I’m locked out and he isn’t answering his phone and my dog is barking on the other side. Finally after 45 minutes he answers and says fuck off. We are supposed to be moving in together in a month and he is meeting my family this week. The places I went to tonight were both restaurants, not bars, clubs etc. I stayed in contact with him the whole time. I feel very uneasy with his reaction and not sure how to handle it.

Huge red flag

He was drunk and messed up

[sejla]

I'd say don't move in together. I guess you should have verified with him about staying somewhere else but the fact that he locked you out without getting a confirmation that you had somewhere else to stay was wrong. I think that would be a deal breaker for me unless a man could come up with a pretty good explanation why he did that.

[chriscdi]

well if you put it in a position about your safety then its a huge red flag, he locked you out for hanging out with your friends, you couldve been in a life threatening situation and its the reason y'all were calling him for, I don't know if its different for you and the people around you but for me, no matter how angry you are with the other person, answer the phone, it might be important so mixing my way of thinking into your situation, he let his anger get the best of him and left you outside of your own home, either maybe try stopping him from drinking too much to where he acts like a douche and makes stupid decisions or just drop it all

[NamerOfStars]

That's pretty bad. Especially when you're supposed to be moving in together. It sounds like this wasn't a spur-of-the-moment thing you blew off plans with him for, either. I think you need to have a talk with him about this. I'm not sure where you are, but there are parts of the country where spending the night outside (especially in winter) could kill you. There may be an explanation for this, but (from the outside, at least) it doesn't sound good.

[Bad_Man55]

Red flag.. he doesn't trust you or respect you. That type of mentality and unreasonable thinking is not easy to change if at all.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Both. He was drunk AND it's a red flag. It sounds like he has anger management issues that get worse when he drinks.