Guys, would you stay in the friendzone for 3 years?

[Anonymous]

[thehorriblesheikh]

I don't think that any guy should think negatively of the friendzone. There will always be girls who will not find a guy attractive, and there will always be girls who will find that guy attractive. Some girls will be best to date, while others would make good friends.

The friendzone is not a bad place for people who value friendships, it is only really a bad place for people who do not value friendships. Just because a guy cannot have a girl doesn't mean she should be valued as anything less than before in his life.

[DavidDong]

If the love is real but I would fight that friendzone if it would kill me if that's the case.

To me a friendzone is a step closer. She would have to really push me away because I can have friends and then I can have love.

I have no interest in friendzone if I want lovezone because that's different.

3 years is a long fight though, painful long.

[slatyb]

The "friend zone?" What's that, exactly? I certainly wouldn't be waiting for three years to see if a woman would change her mind. I would be dating other people and probably wouldn't be available if she did. Mostly what happens is people get over their crushes.

[Ripper_E]

A girl can't friendzone a guy. He does it to himself. The friendzone is a refusal to move forward with your life. Rather than accepting that they don't like you, regardless of the reason, you stay hoping, you keep pursuing.

[Asker]

I agree. He allows it to happen but most girls don’t help the situation. Some guys are too weak to walk away so girls take advantage of them. They just free attention and a ego boost from a guy liking them

[Ripper_E]

No different than the guys on Onlyfans paying money for things they can get for free. Different if they are offering nudes you cannot find elsewhere or videos but bikini pictures. You can go on google and find that.

[Browneye57]

Fuck no. I wouldn't stay there for three minutes.
If you don't want the guy sexually or romantically, then what's the point? To go shoe-shopping together? I mean, come on!

[boggboss]

If its a girl I wanted as more then a feiend then no if I only wanted her as a friend then sure

[winterfox10]

Depends on how I feel about the girl. If I cared for her romantically, then I absolutely wouldn't stay in the friend zone.

[Wise4myage]

No, that would be a complete waste of time in my opinion. I would date other girls.

[Asker]

You wouldn’t stay friends with her?

[Wise4myage]

Sure, I could see that happening because you never know what might happen down the road.

[Asker]

If she sat there and just complain about other guys would you entertain it? What if she said all we ever will be is friends?

[Wise4myage]

Id be fine with that, but again, I would date other girls.

[Asker]

Most guys would hate this

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, but most guys get over it. I would also remain friends because you would most likely have female friends I could hit on.

[Asker]

Some girls won’t hang out so there isn’t a chance for her to introduce you to her friends

[Wise4myage]

Sure, that happens.

[Asker]

At that point it she isn’t introducing you to her friends or helping you get girls most likely she is just using you in some shape

[Wise4myage]

Then she'd stop being my friend.

[Asker]

I understand. This guy felt I was using him because I would text him but wouldn’t do none of the stuff we just discussed

[Wise4myage]

Oh well.

[ScottSummers]

I would not stay a single day in the friendzone, i would cut her off

[Asker]

What if she is attractive and compatible but it takes time?

[ScottSummers]

Hey there are beautiful girls literally everywhere who might give me a chance. I dont like indecisive girls if you dont want me fine ill find someone who will.
What do you mean it takes time? If it takes her 3 years to like me it means i was her 2838475676th choice. She only keeps me there for her ego or something.

[Asker]

That is not true. She keeps you There because she really cares about you as a friend.

[ScottSummers]

Nah she would only use me as an emotional tampon to talk about the guys she actually finds attractive and worthy of her time. She would not give a fk about me. That is my opinion anyways, Many guys stay in friendzone letting girls take them for granted and using them. I bet most of them are most of the time depressed and annoyed, no ty.

[Asker]

So this is how Guys feel when they are in the friendzone? I see why this guy got frustrated and confronted me. It isn’t my fault he was too weak to walk away

[ScottSummers]

Well thats debatable whose fault is. I suppose both. he should have been stronger and walk away, and you should have been less greedy and stop using him for emotional support and take advantage of his love or whatever he felt for you.

[Asker]

I honestly didn’t use him or take advantage of him. At first I leaned on him for emotional support. Eventually I just checked on him sporadically and it was nothing else besides that

[ScottSummers]

Then it sounds like he wasn't even a friend. Talking with someone sporadically and as i saw in your comment bellow not even liking/respecting him enough to hang out with him is not a friend.

[Asker]

So are you saying I was supposed to text him everyday? I don’t think that was necessary. I didn’t hang out with him because I was scared he might get the wrong idea. Picture is hanging out 1 on 1 he is gonna think it is a date

[ScottSummers]

Eh I don't know.. iam not a girl so i dont und why you girls do this. If you didn't wanted to hang out with him as with a normal friend, why keeping him as a second fiddle friend you only talk with on phone?
What is the point of keeping him as your friend anyways. And why you talk about other guys with him when you know he likes you? You want to crush his soul or something lol. You prob had your gfs for that it didn't had to be him. Iam sorry it sounds like iam attacking you, iam really not. just trying to und girls, which is damn hard.

[Asker]

I understand and I don’t take it personal. I made a lot of mistakes which is why he can’t take all of the blame for the demise of this situation. I even texted him after midnight saying I’m thinking about you which was the worst thing ever. It doesn’t give him the right to basically act entitled but I Understand his pain. He felt I was just using him from attention and boredom. He brought up how he was only a friend when i had problems with other guys. With some of the stuff he said you could tell he was hurt. He apologized after the fact but I didn’t respond

[genericname85]

to my own shame, i have to admit that i did that before in hopes that i get out...

[Jamie05rhs]

No. That's insane. I would only stay with someone for 3 years if I was dating them.

[Rangers]

No because i at least have a little bit of self respect