Should I leave him?

[QueenPeach]

Hi everyone. So I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We’ve had our ups and downs but ever since I’ve been with him he has “kinda” had a problem with my weight. I’m not over weight or a big girl but I have bigger thighs and more fat on my body than him since he’s very skinny. After 2 years he stopped seeing me as fat but he always points out my flaws. Today he poked at my stomach in the car or when I mentioned there was gunna be snacks at this place I’m going to he made a comment and said “yeah I bet you’ll like that hay” and when we showered and he got out he said look at your stomach. You pushing it out or something. And a week ago he told me I have an eating disorder. Because I was hungry an hour after eating two sliders (burgers). I have ibs (irrationele bowel syndrome) and he knows that my stomach gets bloated and and but he always points out my flaws. Or that I always have stuff in my teeth and how I don’t brush probably. He always compliments me on my bum saying I have such a nice ass but besides that he’s always making me feel and for the way that I look. And I started gyming again and I’m really not over weight but he sees my naked body that no one else does and then judges me. Please help me. I’ve spoke to him about it and we’ve gotten into many arguments and I don’t know what to do anymore. It’s not easy as I’ve been with him for long and I do love him.

[btbc92]

End that relationship. Bad enough your living together before marriage. He is not worth it. A joke or two is fine. But he is not respecting you at all and is being a jerk. If he won't stop and you won't stand up for yourself, it's time to end it immediately. But make sure if you are going to leave that relationship, you get out of it.

[QueenPeach]

Thank you for your reply. We not living together he just came over. And it’s hard if your dedicated so much of your time together

[Justacatlady]

Why would you want to be with someone who points out your “flaws” and makes you feel bad? He seems like a shit. He either likes you for who you are or he doesn’t.

[18will2]

Leave him, find a guy that appricates your body and makes you feel good about it and yourself. You don't need someone bringing you down to make themselves feel like a big man. You want someone man enough to accept and love you for you and man enough to handle you

[QueenPeach]

Thank you. I’ve just struggled to leave because I have attachment issues. And I struggle to be alone... and I’m not good at giving up on people...

[18will2]

I've just noticed you in your profile pic and beleive me, you will not be alone for long looking like that. Your man is crazy!! Definitely insecure if he is trying to make you feel bad about yourself cause you have absolutely nothing to feel down or ashamed about. As for giving up, you have mentioned how you feel to him plenty of times, you've repeatedly given him chances to change and stop doing it yet he doesn't so you are not just giving up on him. He's had his chances

[QueenPeach]

When I’m not in a relationship there’s always guys that want to talk to me but I don’t want any of them... I want to be with him but my self confidence has gone down so much and I’ve lost all my friends because I never got to spend time with them. But I’m just so attached I wish it was easier... I can’t imagine just not ever talking to him again

[18will2]

That's because he's breaking you down. Not spending time with your friends so you feel like he is all you have, breaking your confidence so you don't feel good enough for anyone else. He's controlling you

[colelydiason]

You told him you dont like the comments. He doesn't respect you enough to stop. I couldnt imagine wanting to harm my partner, even just her self image

[magiusX26]

he is a disrespectful asshat. dump him and find yourself a real guy.

[saffoler]

Yes you should. I don't see a single flaw on your body. You don't need that kind of toxic person in your life.

[Anonymous]

Do whatever you want.
My girlfriend was so crazy that she would attack me if I ever gained a oound, bht yet sh got fat as hell and I never said a word.
I didn't care enough about it to leave.

[Gedaria]

It would seem he has something non his mind about your weight. Sadly I would say you lose weight to where you were when you met each other. Or sadly move on...

[RHK36]

Yes, you should. You already tried talking to him. The longer you stay the more he'll keep chipping away at your confidence and self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

If that is you in your profile picture; then clearly he is purposefully trying to destroy your self esteem. You should leave him and his manipulative and toxic behavior.

[QueenPeach]

Yeah it is me but that’s also just posing I mean he sees me when I’m most vunerable. Other people say there’s nothing wrong with my body but it’s made me be so harsh on myself

[Opinion Owner]

Those clothes are fairly tight so I don't see how it could be any worse when you are naked. It may be difficult for you to see since he has been needling away at your confidence; but you have a hot body.

[QueenPeach]

Thank you 🥺 I have bigger legs tho compared to skinny girls

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome. Plus there is nothing wrong with thick thighs. It means you have leg muscles. When I ran track girls might start out with skinnier legs; but by the end of the season they would all have thicker legs.

[Jays39663]

End the relationship. He is to shallow.