I’m 26 and Im a virgin does that scare men off?

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Where do I start.. i was raised in a very strict Christian household. I myself practiced the religion for a long time. The last few years it has gotten a bit less (still religious). I have had a few boyfriends when I was younger and they respected the fact that I wanted to wait. I do get hit on without sounding too self absorbed I think I look pretty good. People would never think that I am still a virgin. I used to be so proud of that but now I feel very insecure. I think I created this fear of intimacy over the years. I feel like I don’t give men a fair chance and try to push them away when they come too close afraid of what they might think of the fact that I’m still a virgin, especially because in this day and age everything is very over sexualized. I’m really afraid that I will end up alone.. do some girls have the same problem? And my question for the men is would you date a girl that is still a virgin at 26 and who is willing to have that intimacy when it feels right?

Robert757 · Accepted Answer

@prudentguy does have a point...
Being a virgin myself at 26, I have great respect for a girl that is the same. I'm my case, that's just the way the dice rolled. Bugs me at times, but is what it is. I've dated plenty, but never had a good opportunity for sex, or it didn't feel right at the time when she offered... Also dated a few virgins too. Those girls being virgins never jaded my view of them one bit, if anything I thought more highly of them than the other girls I dated who got around. The more promiscuous girls didn't have as good a personality/weren't as interesting/good of a person, etc.

So stay true to who you are and what you be believe in. The man who is understanding and willing to be patient for that time of intimacy (and NOT just stay long enough to get laid and leave) will be the one worth having in you life...

PrudentGuy · Accepted Answer

I never virgin shame. Below are my thoughts:

1) apart from religion, why did you save your virginity?

If you have at lease one more reason, then live by it. Your decision is to be respected.

2) you may read here guys prefer experienced girls. But these are promiscuous guys who "talk loudly" online.

Virgin guys (not INCELs) who save for a purpose usually don't visit these sites.

Those virgin guys won't shame you but will instead respect you.

3) "bad guys" like experienced girls for fun, fornicating from girls to girl to girl.

"Good guys" look for a marriageable girl, usually prefer virgins.

My Opinion is, know what you want in life, then pursue it. Being a virgin or not only plays a part in the circle of guys whom you choose to be with.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I know this question is for guys but trust me there are many guys out there who respect women who don’t sleep around and there are many men out there who would end up marrying someone who is a virgin when the right guy comes along he will have so much respect for you and more importantly you will be forever thankful that you waited to lose your virginity

jshm2 · Answer

You're self-sabotaging yourself.

Firstly, doesn't matter what religion you are and if you're a whore or virgin. It's about the life you want, and the goals you have to reach to get it. Sure, a lot of it is fate, but fate is not a linear path - you still have to walk the path, the path doesn't walk you.

Get back into your church group and start meeting your friends and old acquittances. You're going man hunting! So although you're meeting on the pretences of "catching up", the reality is you're really seeing what's out there, and where they can point you.

It's only when this network of yours isn't giving you the advice and men talent pool that you start looking elsewhere.

Lov2PlezUgurl · Answer

would you go grocery shopping and not look at what your buying, how about buy a car without driving it first or starting it up to see if it actually runs when you wait for marriage before you have sex you don't know if you're compatible if you're a match you have no idea what to expect and if it's good or what's normal you need some idea of what you like and don't like or else you could get stuck with tadpoll boy or 16 inch Nick when you can't even stick a single finger in you... you need to rethink this sex after marriage thing I believe anyway

Anonymous · Answer

It might some men, especially ones just looking for sex, but there also a lot of guys that would probably like that rather then be scared off by it. This might sound bad but I don't know how else to put it. If a guy is looking for a long term relationship it might make him feel better because if the person you're dating is a virgin then it's not like they could have a slutty past that they don't know about

Abhay765 · Answer

I will definitely date the girl as it doesn't matter you are virgin or not as long as you we are comfortable with each other.
Sex is natural and I respect your feeling and and religion.
But i think you should do it now as you are lacking some amazing experience for sure.
Go and find a man. . You will be fine and don't be insecure.
Have a nice day ☺

RemoErdosain · Answer

I would absolutely date a woman like that, and it would be a turn-on, not off! It speaks good of yourself. Also you shouldn't bash your household for your upbringing, at least not when it comes to sex

DavidFox · Answer

I’m not scared off, also was raised in a Christian house and lost my virginity at 19.

Massageman · Answer

Sex is the gift the God gave us as the culmination of our growth in intimacy in a relationship.
Intimacy is more than sex. Intercourse is just the proverbial icing on the cake of a committed relationship.

SunnySri · Answer

I don't think there is anything to be scared about here mam.  I would never be scared of liking or dating someone who is virgin. You don't need to feel insecure about anything mam.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I would happily date a girl like you, because you have two things that would interest me, or at least not put me off: virginity and Christianity. You represent exactly what I've been holding out for. Besides, at age 42 I am both.

infinitybreaker2018 · Answer

Wouldn't scare me off. I think it's awesome and shows you're not wanting to just sleep around, you want it to be meaningful

chriscdi · Answer

it would only turn off the guys looking for experience, if you are going for dating and starting a relationship with someone then i dont think it should be a problem

Marcuslrh · Answer

I think its sweet and would respect it so much no way it would scare me away

Ripper_E · Answer

It wouldn't scare me off. If she were to tell me she's a virgin I'd just say okay. Wouldn't stop me from liking her.

oncpl · Answer

In our "conservative" society virginity is extremely adored and respected. Guys prefer to marry with virgins.

abc3643 · Answer

Your virginity doesn't. The "strict Christian household" does.

Anonymous · Answer

The type of men that won't care, aren't the type of men you'd care about...

Anonymous · Answer

I would date That being said men always want younger women so id start panicking... find a man

Anonymous · Answer

Society doesn't really place a stigma on women being a virgin past a certain age but it does for men

COMMODOREII · Answer

Sure i would but i won't wait too long.

AmeerX · Answer

I know I would. I am virgin too

Kaduhumai · Answer

Definitely I myself is 21 nd still virgin

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Men generally dont care about that

Anonymous · Answer

No most men like virgins

jimmy2 · Answer

Not me girl i love that

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer to date virgins. As I am one too.

es20490446e · Answer

I will.

Yellovv · Answer

But did you feeling horny sometimes?

In_Trance · Answer

No probably not

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