I keep hearing that guys only go for girls who are confident and love their bodies. So just wanted to know if this was true?
I absolutely hate my body. I feel like I’m too thin. But I’ve always been naturally skinny and I eat loads and don’t gain weight so at this point I’m done trying to change
I’ve told my crush that I feel insecure about my weight and that I really want to gain weight but I don’t know if that would put him off
I’d rather be honest and not act confident when I’m not
This is me..
As you can see I’m very thin and I may appear confident in my selfies but it’s all a front 😞
Would you still date a girl who was insecure about her body?
Um i don't know why your trying to gain weight lol you look beautiful just the way you are like for real your a solid 8 out of 10 the only reason u aren't a 10 right now is cause of your confidence. You need to realize that a lot of people have different taste so in short don't worry about it to much and keep looking for someone who likes u
Well personally lets start from the bottom up shall we. Even tho your legs are skinny, there quite in good shape, and honestly a lot of guys would be turnt on by them if you showed them correctly, you have a nice hip area to and honestly you just seem like someone who feel nice to hug a lot to me anyway, you have a nice flat stomach and most guys are for that as well as a nice chest honestly you look good, your skin is good minus the Jewelry on your stomach, but you look good, as for your face, i love those lips honestly and i like the color to and there so shinny to lol,
you have nice eyebrows to as well as some very pretty dark brown eyes and a big nose but its cute and funny but cute, nice hair and i like how long it is but if i had to i prefer either curly or braided and some guys would agree with that cause you look better
Sounds like body dysmorphia. You have a really beautiful body and nothing to worry about. But it's true, it's hard and often draining to date a girl with insecurities.
It's not as bad as all that. As I said, body dysmorphia. And most guys don't want a relationship with constant insecurities and where they have to carry the girl's issues.
It’s very common for people to be self-conscious of their bodies, most of us are. And we come in all shapes and sizes, and there’s not just one that looks good. I don’t think you have anything to worry about, you look to be an objectively attractive young lady. There’s no reason to not be confident, firstly. And secondly, I certainly can appreciate confidence in a woman, but I wouldn't be turned off just because she had some insecurities. Like I don’t think this guy you like is gonna say “man, I was into her, but she thought she was too skinny, so she’s OUT.” Don’t waste a minute of the time when you’re young and beautiful thinking you look bad. You’re going to look at these pictures of your young self one day when you’re older and realize how good you actually looked. And that’s great, but try to enjoy it now too👍 Trust me, as a 40+ guy whose metabolism has left the building lmao, you’ll one day appreciate not needing three days at the gym to burn off a slice of pizza😂 Good luck and be confident🙏
ABSOLUTELY I would! I'm the same way. "I keep hearing that guys only go for girls who are confident and love their bodies." Ugh! I hate ego in people! I hate people like the ones that quote is referring to.
And while you're clearly quite attractive looking (like a 7.5 out of 10, and an 8 in the first picture), I seriously, seriously doubt you "absolutely hate" your body. I should know. For starters, anyone who hates their body would not be taking selfies. Why would you engage in such an egotistical thing when you hate how you look? Secondly, they definitely wouldn't be posting those selfies of the body they hate onto the internet for strangers to scrutinize and criticize them over. Unless you're either fishing for compliments, or know you look good, but need people to remind you every hour because you're insecure about something else. But yeah, I never met someone who hated how they look, but still took selfies and posted them online, uncensored face and all, for the world to judge them on.
I mean, I really don't get it. Maybe you can explain it to me, since I'm legitimately unattractive looking, plus short (180 cm), plus overweight. So it's kinda annoying when an 8 implies she thinks of herself as unattractive. Damn, WTF would I be then, a negative 2?
May I ask why the first pic got an 8 but other one got 7.5? And like I said it’s all a front, I do it to make other girls feel like I love my body, a lot of people on social media lie about their life. I know this girl who absolutely hates her relationship with her boyfriend but always plasters on Instagram how “amazing” he is. It’s called lying. Plus those photos were good angles and good lighting so I didn’t think they were that bad. Took me about 100 attempts to take before getting the right one. Even when I told my crush I want to gain weight he was suggesting ideas on how to.. I was like whaaat you’re meant to be telling me “you’re beautiful how you are” so he clearly thinks I’m too thin
The first one has you smiling and wearing makeup. A smile can boost a person's attractiveness up like an extra half a point to a point.
I guess that explanation makes sense. But why would you even be doing this if you dislike your looks so much? I think you do realize, maybe on a subconscious level, you look good. But you want to look even better, and reject the current you, for that reason. Like, you want to be a 9 or 9.5, if I had to give it a number. As someone who hates his body/looks/height, I don't even own a mirror. And you'd never see my real face as an avatar online. Drawings and sketches, at the most.
And how tall are you? About 5'8", 5'9"? I can see why you'd want to gain weight if you want to be thick, but to be honest, most white men love really skinny women the most (not to imply you're that). If your crush is black, Hispanic, or something else though, then yeah, I can see why he'd want you to be thicker.
I think firstly and mainly it´s always best if a woman is honest about her body to a guy. Don´t tell him you feel secure if you´re not. I don´t have problem with a woman feeling insure and telling me about it, because that would make me love her even more. For me as a guy love means trust, if she trusts me with something I know she won´t tell everyone, I´d appreciate her even more. I don´t think guys only like girls being comfortable with their body. If you tell your man, help him understand and also tell or give him tipps how he could help you getting along. Because if you don´t tell how he could help he might feel that you ask him for help by telling him your problems.
Even when I told my crush I want to gain weight he was suggesting ideas on how to.. I was like whaaat you’re meant to be telling me “you’re beautiful how you are” so he clearly thinks I’m too thin
No because guys and girls are different. Guys and girls handle a problem different. You telling about your problem, you want him to take time, aknowledge what you say and how you think about it. You want him to listen and be emphatic, right? But that´s not how guys act when they have a problem. A guy talking about his problems shows sublimately to another guy that he can´t solve his problems on his own. So he sublimately asks for help. Your crush forgetting or not thinking about the possibility that women think differently, gives you the best he has to offer in such a situation: A list of solutions to solve the problem. Cause he thinks you want him to solve it, because that´s the reason you might want to talk with him about it. In some guy´s view just talking about a problem without solving it, isn´t helpful but senseless, because the problem would be still there after the talk. For guys one of the hardest lessons in life is to recognize when does a woman want him to listen and when does she want advice.
Yes but he didn’t even compliment my body or reassure me that I have a good body already. He takes me out on all these dates yet isn’t attracted to my body? Doesn’t make sense does it
Damn, girl. I think you look 'fine'! You've got all the curves. It's not uncommon for women (and men) to be insecure about their bodies. But when someone looks like you, it's all in their head. Trust your boyfriend if he says your body is awesome. If he criticizes you, find a guy who worships you, because the majority of guys would.
I don’t have a boyfriend but the guy I’m seeing doesn’t say anything when I moan about my body, like hell just say “if you wanna change your body then do it” he doesn’t say “you’re perfect how you are” so obvs he doesn’t like my body
I can't imagine why you would want to gain weight. Then again, you have the kind of fit, slender bod that I prefer. You've got luscious boobs, smoothly curving hips, a good waist to hip ratio, and amazing legs. Different people have different preferences.
Someone once ask the question "tits or ass" and I wrote a longish comment to justify the fact that, if I had to choose, I'd say boobs. But I love female asses. They don't have to be wide as long as they are wide compared to their waist. I like all that women have to offer. :-)
I don't know about your boyfriend. As I said, different people have different preferences. But first, he didn't say he DOESN'T like your body. He just hasn't told you that it's gorgeous and that he adores you. He should. A girl needs to hear that. As you said, though, he does take you on loads of dates. So that says that he 1) likes you a lot and 2) is proud to be seen with you. I mean, you look like a model. Your boyfriend is a trainer. Is he bulky? Are you comparing yourself to the thicc girls that are trending these days? I, for one, think they are out of proportion and rather grotesque. They're like cartoon caricatures. You should compare yourself to swim suit models.
You're body is insanely, impossibly hot as far as I'm concerned.
The fact that you feel insecure about it boggles my mind.
This isn't a physical problem, it's a psychological one. Where did the idea that you are too thin come from?
My ex was black. In her circles women who were thick were supposed to be more attractive. Is that where it's coming from? To a large extent I think that's a cultural thing, but some men of other races like that too.
You're body is an 11 out of 10. Don't believe all the media hype about thick women and how attractive that is. I think the majority of men would give you the same rating that I do. You just have to trust me on this.
We are all so different and thT is why we all have issues emotionally and physically but are they real or do we through no fault of our own hang up unnecessary thoughts You are obviously attractive and you have a crush You are or should be allowed to be yourself at all times Never portray a false image otherwise all your do is bring yourself down Be honest and slowly your confidence iñ you will come You will put on weight I was a skinny little runt haha but no-one prepared me for the middle age spread What you could do if you wish to is tone yourself up which because of your muscles are forming your body will tone Just a thought
Generally speaking guys are bothered by insecurity if it results in inhibited behavior. Like you won't let him see you naked or hide your body. Some women do that. Then it's an issue. If your behavior isn't inhibited but you're just needy about complements, most guys are fine with that and some will even find it cute.
Body 10/10 facial expression 10/10 hair 10/10 skin tone 10/10 height - weight 10/01 you are good and perfect don’t be insecure about anything in fact you should be happy that you are beautiful and your confident is very high.
You look Good from my pov! So whoever tells you otherwise, tell them to f off, simple! You don't realise that girls with boobs like yours and a little ass is a super Turn On, for many out there! I don't wanna Elaborate here, but you know what i mean...
Yeah cuz every girl’s insecure about her body. by the way, you’re not that skinny. You pretty much have the perfect body. If you really wanted to, you could put on a little bit of muscle. Just add 50-100 calories a day to your diet until you start gaining weight, and lift weights. And always try to lift more than you did the previous workout and you’ll pack on muscle pretty quickly.
You’re a human being. Every single human being is able to gain weight given enough calories. Maybe you’re not eating as much as you think you are - which is the case for a lot of skinny people.
Go to Tdeecalculator. net and that’ll give you an estimate of how many calories you need each day to maintain your current bodyweight. If you eat more than that, you’ll probably gain weight. If not, slowly add more calories over time until you do.
Try counting your calories over the next week or so. Get the MyFitnessPal and scan the barcodes on your food packages and it’ll add up the calories for you.
P. S. Stop eating fucking kfc and mcdonald’s everyday 😂 I hope you’re joking lol
Well how comes I consume more than my big friends and yet you’re bigger than me? I do believe there’s something in my body stopping me from gaining weight because I literally don’t miss meals and eat so much crap yet my friends will gain a pound but I won’t
I get people feel insecure about there bodies, but truly your body and figure is stunning. Your dress ro suit it perfectly. Naturally your a gorgeous lady. Yes I would date an insecure girl and work to help build her confidence 😊
Yes, I would date girl who is insecure about it, but she would need to stop talking about it to me fast as it gets boring fast. And next time when you ask about , if you have any grounds to be insecure about your body, don't send redacted photos...
Like I said, it’s all a front. Just cause I post something doesn’t mean it makes me confident, it’s just what I want people to know. Prime example ; a girl posting pics with her and her abusive boyfriend , acting all happy smiling in the pics but behind closed downs always arguing.
Are you sure, that you responded to correct opinion?
I meant that she would need not to talk all day everyday about it after she said it to me.
Nothing about abuse or hitting her, as that is stupid to constantly go back and get more beating and do nothing about it, just expect it to stop. Not to mention he should be locked up for it...
And what abuse has to do with photo-shopping Pics?
When I was telling him I was at the doctors to see if I could get some type of steroid to help me gain weight, he said nothing like “aw you don’t need to gain weight you’re perfect how you are” he never reassures me, he just says “I’m sorry you feel this way”
Please don't consider steroids! They can do funny things to you. Make you look like a hamster with cheeks full of food. Really puffy. Take it from me, don't change anything!
Just be confident in your own skin. Be proud of whom you are if you cannot love you then who will be able to love you. So in my own words I would date her, and then with time I can try to make her eliminate that insecurity out.
guess this question was already answered, but don't care. if she isn't confident in her body, i will be. and i will, and no matter how many times she puts her self down, that she is beautiful
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