Would you still date a girl who was insecure about her body?

[Dreamgirl97xo]

I keep hearing that guys only go for girls who are confident and love their bodies. So just wanted to know if this was true?

I absolutely hate my body. I feel like I’m too thin. But I’ve always been naturally skinny and I eat loads and don’t gain weight so at this point I’m done trying to change

I’ve told my crush that I feel insecure about my weight and that I really want to gain weight but I don’t know if that would put him off

I’d rather be honest and not act confident when I’m not

This is me..

As you can see I’m very thin and I may appear confident in my selfies but it’s all a front 😞

[jasco]

Um i don't know why your trying to gain weight lol you look beautiful just the way you are like for real your a solid 8 out of 10 the only reason u aren't a 10 right now is cause of your confidence. You need to realize that a lot of people have different taste so in short don't worry about it to much and keep looking for someone who likes u

[Dreamgirl97xo]

What’s so good about my body? Thank you ☺️

[jasco]

Well personally lets start from the bottom up shall we. Even tho your legs are skinny, there quite in good shape, and honestly a lot of guys would be turnt on by them if you showed them correctly, you have a nice hip area to and honestly you just seem like someone who feel nice to hug a lot to me anyway, you have a nice flat stomach and most guys are for that as well as a nice chest honestly you look good, your skin is good minus the Jewelry on your stomach, but you look good, as for your face, i love those lips honestly and i like the color to and there so shinny to lol,

[jasco]

you have nice eyebrows to as well as some very pretty dark brown eyes and a big nose but its cute and funny but cute, nice hair and i like how long it is but if i had to i prefer either curly or braided and some guys would agree with that cause you look better

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Thanks hun but if you look at 1st pic my hair is in a ponytail but curly

[jasco]

oh yea

[AlexanderAnttila]

Sounds like body dysmorphia. You have a really beautiful body and nothing to worry about. But it's true, it's hard and often draining to date a girl with insecurities.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Thanks for the compliment but have you seen how thin my legs are? 😭

[AlexanderAnttila]

It's not as bad as all that. As I said, body dysmorphia. And most guys don't want a relationship with constant insecurities and where they have to carry the girl's issues.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

You say that but why do I see loads of fat girls in relationships then who are complaining they’re too fat yet their boyfriend still with them?

[AlexanderAnttila]

I can't speak for all men.

[WhiteSteve]

It’s very common for people to be self-conscious of their bodies, most of us are. And we come in all shapes and sizes, and there’s not just one that looks good. I don’t think you have anything to worry about, you look to be an objectively attractive young lady. There’s no reason to not be confident, firstly. And secondly, I certainly can appreciate confidence in a woman, but I wouldn't be turned off just because she had some insecurities. Like I don’t think this guy you like is gonna say “man, I was into her, but she thought she was too skinny, so she’s OUT.” Don’t waste a minute of the time when you’re young and beautiful thinking you look bad. You’re going to look at these pictures of your young self one day when you’re older and realize how good you actually looked. And that’s great, but try to enjoy it now too👍 Trust me, as a 40+ guy whose metabolism has left the building lmao, you’ll one day appreciate not needing three days at the gym to burn off a slice of pizza😂 Good luck and be confident🙏

[MCheetah]

ABSOLUTELY I would! I'm the same way. "I keep hearing that guys only go for girls who are confident and love their bodies." Ugh! I hate ego in people! I hate people like the ones that quote is referring to.

And while you're clearly quite attractive looking (like a 7.5 out of 10, and an 8 in the first picture), I seriously, seriously doubt you "absolutely hate" your body. I should know. For starters, anyone who hates their body would not be taking selfies. Why would you engage in such an egotistical thing when you hate how you look? Secondly, they definitely wouldn't be posting those selfies of the body they hate onto the internet for strangers to scrutinize and criticize them over. Unless you're either fishing for compliments, or know you look good, but need people to remind you every hour because you're insecure about something else. But yeah, I never met someone who hated how they look, but still took selfies and posted them online, uncensored face and all, for the world to judge them on.

I mean, I really don't get it. Maybe you can explain it to me, since I'm legitimately unattractive looking, plus short (180 cm), plus overweight. So it's kinda annoying when an 8 implies she thinks of herself as unattractive. Damn, WTF would I be then, a negative 2?

[Dreamgirl97xo]

May I ask why the first pic got an 8 but other one got 7.5? And like I said it’s all a front, I do it to make other girls feel like I love my body, a lot of people on social media lie about their life. I know this girl who absolutely hates her relationship with her boyfriend but always plasters on Instagram how “amazing” he is. It’s called lying. Plus those photos were good angles and good lighting so I didn’t think they were that bad. Took me about 100 attempts to take before getting the right one. Even when I told my crush I want to gain weight he was suggesting ideas on how to.. I was like whaaat you’re meant to be telling me “you’re beautiful how you are” so he clearly thinks I’m too thin

[MCheetah]

The first one has you smiling and wearing makeup. A smile can boost a person's attractiveness up like an extra half a point to a point.

I guess that explanation makes sense. But why would you even be doing this if you dislike your looks so much? I think you do realize, maybe on a subconscious level, you look good. But you want to look even better, and reject the current you, for that reason. Like, you want to be a 9 or 9.5, if I had to give it a number. As someone who hates his body/looks/height, I don't even own a mirror. And you'd never see my real face as an avatar online. Drawings and sketches, at the most.

And how tall are you? About 5'8", 5'9"? I can see why you'd want to gain weight if you want to be thick, but to be honest, most white men love really skinny women the most (not to imply you're that). If your crush is black, Hispanic, or something else though, then yeah, I can see why he'd want you to be thicker.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

I’m 5’6 and weigh 50kg and my crush is white so yeah 😂 and honestly I’ve stopped taking pics now, deleted sc and Instagram too.

[Lionman95]

I think firstly and mainly it´s always best if a woman is honest about her body to a guy. Don´t tell him you feel secure if you´re not. I don´t have problem with a woman feeling insure and telling me about it, because that would make me love her even more. For me as a guy love means trust, if she trusts me with something I know she won´t tell everyone, I´d appreciate her even more.
I don´t think guys only like girls being comfortable with their body. If you tell your man, help him understand and also tell or give him tipps how he could help you getting along. Because if you don´t tell how he could help he might feel that you ask him for help by telling him your problems.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Even when I told my crush I want to gain weight he was suggesting ideas on how to.. I was like whaaat you’re meant to be telling me “you’re beautiful how you are” so he clearly thinks I’m too thin

[Lionman95]

No because guys and girls are different. Guys and girls handle a problem different. You telling about your problem, you want him to take time, aknowledge what you say and how you think about it. You want him to listen and be emphatic, right? But that´s not how guys act when they have a problem. A guy talking about his problems shows sublimately to another guy that he can´t solve his problems on his own. So he sublimately asks for help. Your crush forgetting or not thinking about the possibility that women think differently, gives you the best he has to offer in such a situation: A list of solutions to solve the problem. Cause he thinks you want him to solve it, because that´s the reason you might want to talk with him about it. In some guy´s view just talking about a problem without solving it, isn´t helpful but senseless, because the problem would be still there after the talk. For guys one of the hardest lessons in life is to recognize when does a woman want him to listen and when does she want advice.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Yes but he didn’t even compliment my body or reassure me that I have a good body already. He takes me out on all these dates yet isn’t attracted to my body? Doesn’t make sense does it

[Lliam]

Damn, girl. I think you look 'fine'! You've got all the curves.
It's not uncommon for women (and men) to be insecure about their bodies. But when someone looks like you, it's all in their head. Trust your boyfriend if he says your body is awesome. If he criticizes you, find a guy who worships you, because the majority of guys would.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

I don’t have a boyfriend but the guy I’m seeing doesn’t say anything when I moan about my body, like hell just say “if you wanna change your body then do it” he doesn’t say “you’re perfect how you are” so obvs he doesn’t like my body

[Dreamgirl97xo]

He’s a personal trainer so he gives me tips on how to gain weight but never once says “you look great how you are”

[Lliam]

I can't imagine why you would want to gain weight. Then again, you have the kind of fit, slender bod that I prefer. You've got luscious boobs, smoothly curving hips, a good waist to hip ratio, and amazing legs. Different people have different preferences.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

So why would he take me out on loads of dates but not like my body?

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Thanks, are you more of an arse guy or boobs?

[Lliam]

Someone once ask the question "tits or ass" and I wrote a longish comment to justify the fact that, if I had to choose, I'd say boobs. But I love female asses. They don't have to be wide as long as they are wide compared to their waist. I like all that women have to offer. :-)

I don't know about your boyfriend. As I said, different people have different preferences. But first, he didn't say he DOESN'T like your body. He just hasn't told you that it's gorgeous and that he adores you. He should. A girl needs to hear that.
As you said, though, he does take you on loads of dates. So that says that he 1) likes you a lot and 2) is proud to be seen with you. I mean, you look like a model.
Your boyfriend is a trainer. Is he bulky? Are you comparing yourself to the thicc girls that are trending these days? I, for one, think they are out of proportion and rather grotesque. They're like cartoon caricatures. You should compare yourself to swim suit models.

[RingOfFire]

You're body is insanely, impossibly hot as far as I'm concerned.

The fact that you feel insecure about it boggles my mind.

This isn't a physical problem, it's a psychological one. Where did the idea that you are too thin come from?

My ex was black. In her circles women who were thick were supposed to be more attractive. Is that where it's coming from? To a large extent I think that's a cultural thing, but some men of other races like that too.

You're body is an 11 out of 10. Don't believe all the media hype about thick women and how attractive that is. I think the majority of men would give you the same rating that I do. You just have to trust me on this.

[triff]

We are all so different and thT is why we all have issues emotionally and physically but are they real or do we through no fault of our own hang up unnecessary thoughts You are obviously attractive and you have a crush You are or should be allowed to be yourself at all times Never portray a false image otherwise all your do is bring yourself down Be honest and slowly your confidence iñ you will come You will put on weight I was a skinny little runt haha but no-one prepared me for the middle age spread What you could do if you wish to is tone yourself up which because of your muscles are forming your body will tone Just a thought

[Freddy78361]

A woman or man who doesn't give a shit about their body is someone I don't want to spend any time with.

If you obsess over it to the point you won't talk orvthink about anything else you have a problem.

Do your best to make yourself comfortable. Your body is your house. You cannot move. You should make it into what you like and a place you want to be.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

I’ve tried everything to gain weight but nothing

[Freddy78361]

Cream cheese, lard, and pizza worked for me...

If you cannot gain weight then embrace what and who you are. I am bald. I can't change it.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Yeah but you look good. Not having hair doesn’t mean you’re unhealthy whereas I’m underweight so I’m technically unhealthy

[Freddy78361]

When your doctor says "gain weight or die" then you can say you are under weight.
I think you look mighty fine...

[0112358]

Generally speaking guys are bothered by insecurity if it results in inhibited behavior. Like you won't let him see you naked or hide your body. Some women do that. Then it's an issue. If your behavior isn't inhibited but you're just needy about complements, most guys are fine with that and some will even find it cute.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

I wouldn’t want my boyfriend to see my naked body tbh.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Like my ass is not big at all so I’d feel like he wouldn’t get turned on

[BButterfly]

Body 10/10
facial expression 10/10
hair 10/10
skin tone 10/10
height - weight 10/01
you are good and perfect don’t be insecure about anything in fact you should be happy that you are beautiful and your confident is very high.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Aw thanks gorgeous! I’m surprised you rated me that high. What’s your best feature?

[BButterfly]

Lips

[DannyUk2017]

You look Good from my pov! So whoever tells you otherwise, tell them to f off, simple! You don't realise that girls with boobs like yours and a little ass is a super Turn On, for many out there! I don't wanna Elaborate here, but you know what i mean...

[jshm2]

It's not a one issue show, kid.

Sure, some guys will like you only for your body, others for your charm, others because you make them feel good, etc etc.

But it's up to you, not them, to select what you feel is a "right" fit for you.

Everyone has insecurities, you're not alone there. But life doesn't stop just because you have an insecurity.

[bradc00]

Yeah cuz every girl’s insecure about her body. by the way, you’re not that skinny. You pretty much have the perfect body. If you really wanted to, you could put on a little bit of muscle. Just add 50-100 calories a day to your diet until you start gaining weight, and lift weights. And always try to lift more than you did the previous workout and you’ll pack on muscle pretty quickly.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

But how come I eat kfc and McDonald’s everyday and still don’t get fat? Maybe I just can’t gain weight no matter how many calories I eat

[bradc00]

You’re a human being. Every single human being is able to gain weight given enough calories. Maybe you’re not eating as much as you think you are - which is the case for a lot of skinny people.

Go to Tdeecalculator. net and that’ll give you an estimate of how many calories you need each day to maintain your current bodyweight. If you eat more than that, you’ll probably gain weight. If not, slowly add more calories over time until you do.

Try counting your calories over the next week or so. Get the MyFitnessPal and scan the barcodes on your food packages and it’ll add up the calories for you.

P. S. Stop eating fucking kfc and mcdonald’s everyday 😂 I hope you’re joking lol

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Well how comes I consume more than my big friends and yet you’re bigger than me? I do believe there’s something in my body stopping me from gaining weight because I literally don’t miss meals and eat so much crap yet my friends will gain a pound but I won’t

[bradc00]

Go to the doctor and find out what’s wrong

[scuff1986]

I get people feel insecure about there bodies, but truly your body and figure is stunning. Your dress ro suit it perfectly. Naturally your a gorgeous lady. Yes I would date an insecure girl and work to help build her confidence 😊

[TheUniqueOne96]

Yeah, I'm not too fussed with female body types either, as long as it's nothing too extreme.

I would try to help her feel less insecure about it at least.

[MrCommodore]

Yes, I think most people are insecure about some feature, so I would have no problem dating a girl with those insecurities.

[MrCommodore]

You are thin, but you do look good, don't be too hard on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would date girl who is insecure about it, but she would need to stop talking about it to me fast as it gets boring fast.
And next time when you ask about , if you have any grounds to be insecure about your body, don't send redacted photos...

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Like I said, it’s all a front. Just cause I post something doesn’t mean it makes me confident, it’s just what I want people to know. Prime example ; a girl posting pics with her and her abusive boyfriend , acting all happy smiling in the pics but behind closed downs always arguing.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you sure, that you responded to correct opinion?

I meant that she would need not to talk all day everyday about it after she said it to me.

Nothing about abuse or hitting her, as that is stupid to constantly go back and get more beating and do nothing about it, just expect it to stop. Not to mention he should be locked up for it...

And what abuse has to do with photo-shopping Pics?

[dogbert111]

You really have nothing to worry about. Extremely attractive and very feminine. A perfect 10 in my eyes.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Thanks, wish my crush could say those things to me 😞 he never reassures me about my body

[dogbert111]

He should do, even if he isn't your boyfriend. Every lady deserves compliments when they are true.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

When I was telling him I was at the doctors to see if I could get some type of steroid to help me gain weight, he said nothing like “aw you don’t need to gain weight you’re perfect how you are” he never reassures me, he just says “I’m sorry you feel this way”

[dogbert111]

Please don't consider steroids! They can do funny things to you. Make you look like a hamster with cheeks full of food. Really puffy. Take it from me, don't change anything!

[dogbert111]

I am actually in UK, too. If I knew you, you would get compliments every day

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Thank you

[dogbert111]

Always welcome!

[Dreamgirl97xo]

What compliments and nicknames do you call a girl you like?

[TheAfrikan]

Just be confident in your own skin. Be proud of whom you are if you cannot love you then who will be able to love you.
So in my own words I would date her, and then with time I can try to make her eliminate that insecurity out.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

I don't care if she is insecure about her body. I am with her right? Its because I like her body. That's all that matters.

[davner]

guess this question was already answered, but don't care.
if she isn't confident in her body, i will be. and i will, and no matter how many times she puts her self down, that she is beautiful

[Kurαȷ]

No, I wouldn't want to date a woman who hates being thin.
Because I will hate being around when she eventually succeeds in gaining weight.

[Reivel]

Absolutely i date her, and i think ypu are so pretty☺️☺️

[TienShenhan]

I fucking love it and yes I would date you whether you were confident or not. Dating me would raise your confidence. 😍🥰🤩😘

[ProLife]

Perfect body you should be fine as long as you don't have stretch marks and cellulite
both of them are disgusting🤮

[john23232323]

Firstly, i think a bit insecurity in girls is cute. And secondly, your body type is my favorite so i don't know why you worry about it.

[bklynbadboy1]

Yes cause everybody is insecure about something plus I'd just build your confidence I'd tell you every day how beautiful you are that's what a good man does he'd build you up

[Pinky_what_why]

Yep it is

[Dreamgirl97xo]

I told my crush I was feeling down about my body and he was like “have you tried going gym to gain weight” like wtf you’re meant to be saying “you look perfect how you are”

[Pinky_what_why]

Listen that must be your choice tbh and if he can't be interested when u are small he don't deserve he thicc u babygirl... don't ever let no inmate u feel not worth it or make u feel bad for what u bring to the table. You are beautiful and u must appear that.
Clearly u ain't read my post on here for u (I think)

[Jerre]

Damn, you are sexy, hot looking. Not too skinny at all. I would certainly date you and... and ,,,, ,,,

[AustColombiangirl]

Hun you’re perfect the way you are lots of girls would love to eat lots of food and not gain weight

[Anonymous]

Look hun your smokin hot and thats the end of it, lots of men love skinny girls, honestly most of us do but we just dont wanna admit it cause the fatties get mad

[ohshee]

Well just keep that front up you will be ok your fine

[bigCraneGuy]

yes of course. And do what you can to let her see her real beauty every day

[SunnySri]

I would mam date a girl with insecurities but everyone should work on their insecurities so that they could appreciate themselves better.

[llcanon]

wait, you look great. stop worrying. no need to be insecure about yourself. you look great

[Dchrls78104]

If I told you that your body was lovely for me and you could accept my reassurance in that regard and not listen to others who had contrary opinions, maybe we could date.

[Valnac]

You are absolutely perfect! I would date you no problem!

[TallAnon]

Isn't every girl every insecure about her body? Of course I don't care.

[andy530]

You’re absolutely gorgeous! And yes guys date girls who are insecure about their bodies all the time

[joeldalton]

It depends on how your insecurity interferes with our sex life. If you're going to only have sex in positions where you think your body looks best then it'd be a problem.

[Anonymous]

Most women are. But women like guys with confidence right? So do we in you, it's just as attractive. Having said that, we all have insecurities, it's normal.

[Avicenna]

I would as long as that insecurity didn't affect her ability to be in a relationship too much.

[SilverRain92]

I have no idea why you are insecure with your own body. I would date a girl with such insecurities if she would agree to work on it with a psychologist

[nodnol32]

Yes i would. I have dated women who were insecure in the past.

[Skankhunt]

Yes, absolutely. To me, the most important thing is personality.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

So if she was underweight or overweight you wouldn’t care?

[Skankhunt]

No, not at all.

[LEADFOOTboi]

yes, i would... Q - Q not everyone is completely secure and confident in themselves... but this can be fixed

[Wise4myage]

I sure would, but I would lose interests fast if you refused to be sexual. You have a nice body, focus on your self esteem and being more confident.

[BHooper]

Yes ofc. I'm very insecure about my body. And I dont think you have anything to worry about. You look great.

[KatherineJ]

Well, if that were the case... A lot of us would be single pringles.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Your insecurities aren't my problem. So yes I would.

[nawtee_me]

I would certainly date you anytime. What is it about your body you don't like?

[Dreamgirl97xo]

My legs are too thin

[nawtee_me]

Can you work out and tone them up some? I don't think they need it but if they bother you could you work you legs and tone the muscles some?

[cloudsurfer87]

He either gonna support u witch sayd he loves u or he frontin dnst care n dnt wanna hear it.

[Snakeyes7]

Yes, I have seen that reassuring them will help them feel better about it.

[OddBeMe]

Sure, but you’re insecurity will prob effect the relationship. I’d get some help with it.

[ALewis30]

Yeah I still date her. I will help her the best way I can.

[mrgspoter]

Well I don't know if I believe you as you don't look bad at all ok. So

[Sampike11]

I would and have, I try to be reassuring and understanding

[boohooHelpme]

you are so beautiful i’m jealous boo😍🤩🤩

[Dreamgirl97xo]

A guy jealous of me? Lol I thought it was only girls that could

[Anonymous]

Yes I would; aren't we all somewhat insecure.

[gandolph3]

Yes you are thin, but you are attractive

[TacosRAwesome]

They won't care much if you look good.

[soe11]

You attractive bebe 👍👍👍 and sexy too