What is some advice you have for a gay young teen?

[Anonymous]

[Hitchhiker42]

1. Try to make gay friends (gays are superior to straights so remember that)
2. “Come out” only if you want to and if it’s a safe person to tell.
3. I guarantee that the school system has failed you in gay sex education. Get on google and educate yourself (make sure its reputable and all that)
4. Don’t waste your energy on homophobes. They will hate for the sake of hating. Be yourself and the people that matter will love you the way you are.


If you have any questions let me know, I’m a ginormous fag ❤️

[xKaytie]

“Gays are superior to straights” no. Don’t take that advice, that kind of wording is exactly the same that homophobes say but re worded. It’s 2020 and we don’t want segregation or generalisation, so don’t listen to her words.

My correction is, find supportive and understanding friends. If they care about you, and support the LGBTQ then there is no issue and that’s what you need the most ♥️

[Hitchhiker42]

Uh... maybe consider context and nuance. It’s punching up, It’s just a joke (I have a straight friends too). Also, having someone who relates to a significant aspect of your identity and experience is really nice. You seem well intended but please listen to gay people when they speak on gay topics❤️

[xKaytie]

There was no implication of a joke at all, things can get out of hand and extremism can come from both sides, I’m not oppressed however I have definitely encountered seriousness from SOME (I never generalise) of the lgbtq community that can be considered offensive. I want segregation to stop, I understand you was making a joke now, but I also hope you understand my reasons for not immediately assuming it was one.

I will always listen to gay people on topics like these, unless it’s something that is false,

I also have gay friends and I love them very much we are very close and I’m grateful to be able to have such a nice friend group. Seems silly and ‘small’ into comparison of what the lgbtq has faced however past friends have called me ‘unseasoned’ ‘straight and boring’ etc, but luckily I was never spiteful enough to assume all lgbtq people are like that, and most are beautiful accepting and inclusive people.

Sorry for the mini rant. I just want people to understand eachother better, like I now know your comment was a joke (that one part of it)

[Hitchhiker42]

Cool, thanks for being understanding and open to different view points. It makes me really appreciate your input. The part that makes it a joke from my pov is when cishet people say “straights are better then gays” it’s an actual, popular, belief that is held and used to against queer people. when queer people say “gays are better than straights” it’s satirical. It’s a critique of oppression. So when your friends called you “straight n boring” and “unseasoned” it isn’t meant to criticize your sexuality, it’s jokes to cope with the actual hatred some straight cis people have for lgbtq+ folks and the violence they face.

[xKaytie]

Sadly those friends were completely blunt and it wasn’t a joke, we have to stop generalising as these people do exist on both ends. It’s also sadly becoming popular belief that if you’re straight you’re I don't know uncultured or basic. I decided to lose them because of their attitude lol, and now I have many great friends who are bi, gay but also straight

[Hitchhiker42]

I’m sorry your old friends took it too far. It’s nice to hear you have a good gaggle of gays now.
Most cishet people would disagree with the belief that they’re uncultured or basic because of their sexuality and they make up about 95% of the population so I wouldn’t consider it to be a popular belief...

[xKaytie]

Although straight people make up most of the population, I was implying amongst the lgbtq community it is unfortunately becoming more popular. I see it almost every other day on tik tok and surprisingly from my ex friends too.

[Hitchhiker42]

I’m the context I was using popular belief, I was referring to how its a popular opinion of a majority and privileged group and how therefore it has power to be used against an oppressed group.

[Hitchhiker42]

*In not I’m

[xKaytie]

I was talking amongst the lgbtq community not society as a whole, and we should never ever fight oppression with oppression. We should also never have to learn to take ‘jokes’ simply because the other side dealt with it, that’s a way to make history repeat itself and defeat the whole purpose of coming together as humans.

[Hitchhiker42]

Yeah, I agree that “oppression shouldn’t be fought with oppression”. What I’m trying to get across is that’s not what’s happening here. It’s the oppressed vs their oppression. The marginalized are critiquing the hatred they face. If you look up “kid killed for being straight” you will have to scour for a story, all between hundreds of stories of lgbtq+ kids being murdered for who they love. If you want to practice good allyship, you can look up what it means to punch up vs punch down in comedy especially in relation to marginalized groups.

[xKaytie]

I’m already an ally I don’t need to face the same amount of hate, to be able to wand a better more inclusive world. Sorry but that’s just how it is. It’s like punishing Germans for what a generation did ages ago, it’s punishing straight people and generalising them for what other mentally ill crazy people did. It’s just all around wrong, and that will always be my opinion. Sorry. I’ve faced hatred from lgbtq but I won’t tell them to deal with ‘jokes’

[Hitchhiker42]

It’s not the same. If you want to ignore information and nuance that’s your prerogative. I was only trying to offer you info, not attack you.

[xKaytie]

I never said you were trying to attack me, however to say it’s ‘ok’ because the lgbtq face more and it’s a ‘joke’ defeats the whole purpose that the lgbtq has been fighting for all these years.

[Hitchhiker42]

You simply don’t understand

[OneManOnly01]

@Hitchhiker42 You first made a controversial statement and then you couldn’t back it up and you started to backtrack. You couldn’t stand with your opinion with boldness. You already lost the argument with her at that point

Now you can’t win this argument and there’s no point in arguing anymore and you were obviously wrong so please stop

[Hitchhiker42]

I’m not back tracking? I just don’t see a point in continuing that conversation?

[pigoat]

Kaytie can shut up

She didn't even give a thumb down

She probably thumbed up and is bored so she arguing over nothing

Ugh

[IStoleYourHoe]

im a bisexual guy so my advice may be a little different, but i say ; try to experiment around with some guys and see if you end up forming a good relationship.
if you're worried about coming out to family and friends, try to drop subtle hints at first.
it's almost 2021, lgbtq+ is a lot more supported nowadays and it's easier to come out without facing the same amount of judgement.
if someone tries saying shit to you for not being into women, to the hell with them, man. don't let them get to you.
dumbfucks might try to bring you down, but they have a stick shoved too far up their loose ass and it isn't your job to pull it out for them.
just be yourself and everything should be fine
my advice would be not to come onto a guy automatically until you know their sexuality because they may be straight and it could make them uncomfortable.
or you could do what i did with my first boyfriend,
bend the pole

[kingofthellamas]

My advice is about relationships.

Be clear about the person you want to have as a significant other and how that relationship might be constructed.

Be specific. You deserve the partner you want. Think long and hard about who he will be, how he behaves, what his values might be. Not just is he a hung a top or a twink bottom.

Also, how does your relationship work? I have a gay friend who have been in relationship for decades (yes I'm that old) and they only live together at weekends. I know others who live together and work together. I know others whom live on separate continents! Just know how much in each others lives you want to be. Lots of gay relationships function with lots of space and freedom, others are so close. Know what you want.

But also know when to break all those rules and why you are choosing to change.

[Anonymous]

Be yourself. You're never going to change anyone's mind about who you are who's mind doesn't want to be changed, so like everyone else should regardless of sexual orientation, focus on a circle of people who support and love you for all of you, not just parts.

[talloak]

Depending on your situation, it might be critical to remember the "it gets better" campaign. Gay teens have a much higher suicide rate because they can be bullied mercilessly. The feeling that the hopelessness will last forever can be overwhelming. It doesn't last beyond high school. Remember that if you are bullied like that.

[Outofthegrey]

Practically?

Let being gay be a part of your demographic information, not a faucet of your personality.

[Outofthegrey]

*Facet

I'm retarded.

[Anonymous]

-Don't be afraid of expressing and being yourself.
-Don't try to fit in, stay true to yourself.
-Don't let people dismiss your identity or feelings, they are all valid.
- Become friends with people in the same position, they'll help provide support.

[SjE78]

the same advice i would give any young teen, follow your heart, do what's right and dont follow the pack... be your own person and enjoy life

[RawIronhide]

Meet as many people as you can. If you have close friends that's great, but meet more people, it's so much harder later in life.

[hahahmm]

A person can be accepting of you one on one but totally reject political movements. When you cross from just being yourself to pushing political agendas you'll run into WAY more problems. FYI.

[Unit1]

Shut up and stay down.
Unless you want trouble.
Your choice.

Pro tip: Make a lot of money, so you can live alone! Nothing beats that. Only THEN you can consider "coming out".

[Wild_princess]

Just don't let anybody to suppress your identity of who you are... cause you are also phenomenonal

[Iron_Man]

Seek out Christian sex therapist and Christian counseling to get your mind right and get your head together

[likelyOK]

Use protection especially for gay men!!! Do not listen to homophobia

[Lottifan]

Just be yourself. Always use protection and make sure your partner does to.

[MountAverage]

Stay true to yourself, but also don't let anyone pressure you into anything (whether that's coming out to someone or the opposite). Ignore the haters, don't let them in your life.

[Agape93]

Be safe and be true to your nature. Do as thou wilt

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Follow your dreams and practice safe sex with your partners

[Anonymous]

Your feelings are valid so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise

[Anonymous]

Don't tell everyone your sexuality they can use it against you try to act like the straight guys be yourself but do it in a way you're safe.

[Marriedwith2]

You are a brave fella and/or a fool... what type of answers do you really expect from these insecure, fragile boys?

[foxee94]

You matter. Be who you are and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Also fuck the haters

[Anonymous]

Read some Michel Foucault, especially on queer theory.
And remember, it gets better.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Focus right win. Slatra, you will be rigor. Lika me, BabyBlothhounder.

[ArtesaniDiTuro]

Offer blowjobs to other guys, they probably are super horny and will accept it. This way you'll have leverage when u need it

[prettygurlrock]

Be you. It's 2020. Forget everybody opinions.

[jshm2]

It's not as "cool" as you think.

[honestGUY45]

Watch your six.

[GermanGuy87]

Find a nice boyfriend

[jasco]

keep looking fam, hope you find your joy in life

[ManHater]

Jump off a roof so you don't spread
Hiv

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Not sure sorry

[Anonymous]

Never go for anal sex.

[OfDeath]

Use protection

[Fuentes]

You need Jesus