Great question, Coach.
I'm mostly here to read the male comments, but I'll just add a quick note from myself.
I think men do send mixed signals. When they are unsure. Which is quite often. I think the younger men are, the more conflicted they tend to feel about commitment.
Actually, I could write a whole bunch here. Hmmm.
Men know if they are attracted or not, almost instantly. And they need attraction to proceed. (Girls are similar, but not quite so extreme, or simple on this.)
But that's only the beginning. After that, when contact is made, they spend time together, begin getting to know one another, they start forming more opinions, more impressions. That takes time (for everyone.)
Then what quite often seems to happen is a dance (i. e. conflict, mental arm wrestle) between how quickly he can take things physically with her (often, how receptive she is to that, but that's not the only deciding factor; he's got a vote too) so that he can find out 1. If she's really into him, 2. If there's mutual chemistry, and 3. If he likes her for more than just the physical. At that point he comes to one of three decisions: 1. Nah, not that into her anymore, 2. Wow, she's really turning me on, but I'm not liking the personality, etc., so maybe I'll just sleep with her for a bit, if she's willing, or 3. Hmm, I'm really liking what I see so far. But I wasn't looking for a commitment, really. Now what to do I do? Is she worth giving up, what I thought I didn't want to give up?
Now that whole scenario doesn't include the guys who are looking for a real connection, right from the start. And those guys do exist. And a smaller subset of those are also wanting to wait to get physical. And even smaller subset wait to get married.
But, in general, I find more are the former (1/2/3s.) Guys are not all "dogs." But they're more apt to try and get their sexual needs satisfied while they look for the "great" unicorn type, which they know is not easy to find.
So, no, I don't truly buy the "There are no mixed signals" concept. Because everyone has to go through a discovery process to find out what, exactly, they are facing. Some people are worth sacrificing for; some aren't. And, of course, there is every bit of grey in between.
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No they don't send any signals. But there is this "grey zone" that women are nuts about, and that's when he likes us, but just not that much. I separate men's interest into 3 categories: crazy about me, kinda likes me and not interested. "Kinda likes me" is a grey zone that is most popular because men kinda like almost every women. We are aware of this and then our instincts make us want to MAKE him go from kinda likes us to crazy about us, which usually never happens. So women confuse that grey zone with mixed signals. It takes maturity and experience to ignore the grey zone because, especially if you want a relationship. When it comes to men, the only "signal" I pay attention to is either fuck yes or no.
Men are not as good about keeping their cards close to their chest on this. Testosterone levels and not understanding “the game” makes us easy to read.
Truth is most women like CHALLENGE and get turned off/scared real quick if a guy is too open about his feelings (early in the dating process). There is a point though when a guy has to cut this shit out. But in the beginning it’s sadly necessary. Even if she likes him a lot, him wearing his heart on his sleeve turns off about 90%+ of the women out there.
Doc Love says only 3% of men naturally understand this game. The rest of us just learn lots of hard/unfair lessons.
It’s funny that the girls who always liked me the most were the ones I was “sorta” into. I really didn’t care strongly one way or another if they liked me that much. Yeah I liked them but I didn’t lose sleep thinking about them. That made it easy to be myself around them because I wasn’t worried about doing something stupid to turn them off.
Nervousness in men sadly is a much bigger turnoff to women than vice versa.
Anyone whos attractive ironically sends mixed signals lol.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/EYwB38Vsh7A
In other words if you find them attractive your brain is going to create some kind of connection that doesn't exist.
I do think guys are generally more straight forward about their feelings than women. So it surprises me how many women on this site don't get the hint. Most the time i can tell the guy ISN'T interested just by reading their post lol. Or as Garret Morris would say
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I don't think men send "mixed signals". Some are just into you temporarily when they're horny. (Especially when they contact you only after they see your photos.) If the topic they talk is all about sexual stuff, that's a clear sign he doesn't care you as a person or a potential long term partner.
Don't expect anything from a man who can't even talk to you like a friend. However, beware of ones who approach you too quick. 80% of them might already have their own women. You are not special to them. You just seem to be the most available person to go to while they are failing at communicating to their partner, and that's all.There’s that saying:
Guys can send mixed signals.
Now I didn't watch the video, just be clear.
Example, a guy can like a girl but is playing it too cool. She can't figure out if he likes her or not.
He can be using a sincere or a form of polite flirting that leaves her wondering if he was flirting at all.
I've even seen a guy do traditional flirting one day with a girl, but not the next.
He might not be "into" her, but is trying to just to be nice. That could also be misinterpreted.
Yes, guys can send mixed signals.Nah. I think most "signals" aren't even real at all. Most of the time they are made up in the mind of whoever notices these "signals". For example a guy might notice a girl smile at him and might take that as meaning she likes him however that doesn't mean she likes him at all.
Her "signal" that she liked him in the form of smiling at him was made up in his head. She was just simply smiling.
So I don't think you should say do men send mixed signals or do women send mixed signals but rather "Do women interpret signals incorrectly" Or "Do men interpret signals incorrectly"
What I'm trying to say is I don't think signals getting mixed are the fault of the person sending them but rather the person receiving them.I've heard os mnay people say mixed signals mena they're not into you, and I always believed it. Until I started to analyse my own feelings once iwth a guy I REALLLLY liked, but just didn't feel ready to get involved with at thta point in my life, I've no doubt I was unintentionally sending mixed signals looking back, and that didn't mean I didn't want him like crazy, just that I had a lot going on thta scared me if I took a chance an dit didn't work out because of everything else.
Men normally think of themselves as "direct predators". But they're not quite there - we've them in diff samples : sweet guys, insecure guys, shy guys, weird guys... Introverts but let's not chain them to that term, shall we?
As we expect them to make the first move, guys oft forge this anxiety in head. Will my efforts be appreciated? Is it too forward? Too awkward? Will she reciprocate? What if my advances are rejected... What then?
And this " brush off"... It turns certain women on... Or off. While some as I, remain neutral. Let him take his time. If you can't wait, do something about it!Only young people in their teens do this. If they still do that in their 20s or older they’re just immature or insecure.
Teen guys do send mixed signals, but it is a way of finding out whether she’s interested or not. Teen girls do the same thing, because they don’t want the guy to think she’s too willing or too interested. This comes from a fear that he might stop pursuing her, so she’s careful about it. But it can be confusing for both.
I’ve only been with guys who were very clear from the start. I don’t need to waste my time on indirect messages and interpret them. That is just so dumb. Sure, we can be nervous around each other a little bit if we’re very into each other, but mixed signals? I don’t appreciate that.
But I do believe women overthink the signals more, especially if she likes the guy a LOT.I do not think we "send signals".
Some girls ask questions like "He looked at me and then he looked away then he looked at me again and then he looked away. What does it mean?" like girl, you may as well ask "he was breathing 30 times in a minute and then he breathes 35 times in a minute". What does it mean?
It means you are BORED and you need a hobby.Neither. Women can receive mixed signals regardless of the guy's intent. Anywhere on the scale of zero interest to fully enamored is a possible value.
Guys don't send signals at all, we only look for signals from females.
If we like a girl, we tell them, sending signals as a guy is pointless and we know it.
If a girl is reading "mixed signals" chances are she's been friendzoned, the guys probably treating her a certain way but not making a move because he only sees her as a friend or sister type, whereas she's probably thinking "this guys being nice and treating me this way because he wants to get in my pants but why isn't he making a move?"Hell I was sending mixed signals to 2 girls once in order to sort of flip the script in power dynamic and to keep them guessing, but hell I was listening to some advice I shouldn't have.
And with the first girl I didn't succeed bcs she was kind of more distant from me than the second one.
Hell and with second one I was sending mixed messages bcs I kind of wanted to punish her for some bad behavior, and that way flip the script at power dynamic which I managed to successfully do.
Some dudes will give mixed signals, if they do that it usually means that they want your attention, but nothing serious, if a dude is really into you, he comin upstairs, meeting or not.If a woman isn't sure whether a man likes here then he:
1. Doesn't like her.
2. Hasn't really paid much attention to her, but may give her a chance/use her if she makes it easy for him by making the first move.
3. Perhaps likes her, but she definitely won't like him because he is insecure, bitter or has some other issue that prevented him from being direct about his interest.
All in all, I think if it is not obvious, the woman just shouldn't bother.Yes they do , men send mixed signals because they’re unsure if they want to be with you or not most of the time they don’t.
I've literally never sent any signal and neither has any other dude, that's the funny part.
The signals aren't "mixed," they're completely made-up and imaginary."Mixed signals" are an interpretation of another person's actions, usually denying the clear evidence to make yourself feel better. MOST of th time, the actions and words are pretty clear.
If someone is claiming mixed signals, that person is (most likely) not that into you. If someone wants to be with you, there's not usually any doubt.Mixed signals? The signals aren't mixed, but they may be difficult for some to understand. If a guy is giving a woman attention, even if it's just staring across a room, but not asking her out, then he's interested but insecure and afraid to ask. I was a shy guy but after a bad marriage I started dating online. Suddenly it seemed easy. I could tell whether a woman was interested, whether she wanted to be kissed.
When they don't actually know what they want, they send mixed signals.
Example is my sister's friend/crush. He was all over her, they went on dates too but he went quiet for days sometimes and a lot of other stuff.
At the end they agreed to stop seeing each other. He said he really liked her, he just didn't want to be in a relationship. He's still single, for 4 years now.Both actually. A decent man simply isn’t into the girl and won’t send her any mixed signals. Assclowns will still send a girl mixed signals without any intent of dating her to keep her around for an ego stroke or for easy sex. If the woman has a half a brain or any sense of self worth, she won’t tolerate this behavior.
Men don't send signals. Women do.
Women assume men send signals and get confused when the things they think are signals are not consistent.
Of course they weren't consistent. THEY WERE NOT SIGNALS. You just assumed they were.I wouldn't pay much attention to what is implied in movies.
The don't necessarily apply to reality. They are really just for entertainment.
There are many reasons for particular behaviour while dating shyness is one which is very common but often ignored because oooh! Men are never nervous
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