Why would a guy want you to chase him?

[messinessB]

[glutton4punishment]

He was feeling guilty about the life of crime he'd been living. Only wanting it to be over, at that point, as to finally be able to lay his head down on that oh-so-cozy steel slab. Grab that patented pillow, made of belly-button lint, jails are always too happy to pawn off on people and all..

Finally being able to lay his head down and catch up on sleep for the next week or so.

So clearly, it's a good thing you came along to chase him down like that then, huh! Otherwise, he might still be out there killing innocent women! I mean, can you imagine? Lol

Which is why I'm sure I'll hear all about your heroism on the news tonight! No such worries of innaction when it comes to you, it's why you're a hero!

Sigh, if only all women would follow your brave lead... the world be such a safer place! Oh dont be modest, credit to your gender, ya are! ... kudos to you, my good woman!

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe you being the aggressor makes him less concerned about having his expressions of interest rejected.

[LEETSBEREAL]

It depends on his intentions.

He might be testing you to see what he is worth to you or he could be playing games. See how far you'll go.

A relationship is a two way street you must show each other what you are worth to each other each and every day.

Gone are the days where its enough for a woman to accept your call and give you the time of day he wants to feel important too so show him his worth.

Don't get stuck doing all the work let him show you your important to him if he can't show you this don't waste your time and find someone who is give and take.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Would depend on the guy the reason why. .
*Some men really do just want to feel as wanted, the chased instead of the chaser...
*But in some cases, that can be the actions of an egomaniac who needs to feel wanted by everyone, whether they really want that person or not...
But if two people REALLY are into one another, there's less chasing and more "falling" .. Falling for EACH OTHER...

[magiusX26]

very well said. there is the part of offering equality through that too though.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@magiusX26 exactly... If someone likes you, you shouldn't have to chase them, you should only have to show interest

[caring__1]

Guys don't want women to chase them; they want women to show interest. Showing interest opens the door for men to feel safe to approach. Nowadays, guys are very gunshy. They get blasted for holding a door open for a woman and accused of everything under the sun. Women often put more value on their interpretation of a person's motive than on the action itself. When a negative twist is applied to an action, the negative twist becomes the reality. Guys just want to know you're receptive and they'll be safe. You don't have to go to any extreme.

[Anonymous]

Did he say that or are you making assumptions?

But we're human beings, like you are and we also like to feel desired by the opposite sex. But often with guys it's not a "game" of chasing. Maybe he doesn't believe you are really into him? Maybe he's not into you and you only think he wants to be chased? Did anything happen between you? Example like maybe you rejected him first and are now interested, so he's going to make you "work" for it? As you might do to him if it was reversed?

[Opinion Owner]

I have an extended family member, and his wife had to chase him apparently. I don't know all the details specifically, but he didn't like her at first but she really liked him. She obviously changed his mind and opinion of her somehow. She chased him for a long time apparently. She got him in the end though.

[John_Galt]

hmmmm... I really don’t know the answer to that one. But it is obvious to me that men are becoming more effeminate. I don’t mean that as an insult, just an observation.
I’ve noticed that about younger people that the women are more aggressive than the men.

[Kaazsz]

Because he can. If a girl is chasing a guy, it means lots of girls are chasing him. Guys don’t get chased by girls unless he is top of the food chain.


Just like how girls make men compete for them. The guys at the top get to reverse the role and make the girls chase them. That’s how it goes. Girls chase the guys at the top. And the rest of the guys chase all the girls.

[centerline]

because he is egotistical... it makes him feel better about himself if a girl will chase after him... and its very seldom worth the girls time, because a guy that feels he is so great that girls will chase after him is not going to be very attentive of a girls needs, especially if another girl is after him also...

guys should chase a girl, and girls should chase guys, but they should make their desires known and then go with the flow of what happens after that

[hahahmm]

A. He has high standards and his pick of women so he's not going to beg you for anything.
B. He already made his intentions clear and you were cold/luke warm. Now the ball is in his court. He's a busy guy and doesn't have time for games. Your move.

[Berethor]

To show him how much you interested, though most guys didn't want to be chased.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/NoGuyWantsToBeChased

[triff]

I believe guys on general have an insecurity complex There is a saying that goes treat them mean keep them keen and this stems from a guy wanting His girl to show how much she cares by inducing the chase but of course If the match is built on concrete foundations then the bond doesn't need such behaviour

[MrImp]

Few reasons:
1. Either he likes you hunting him
2. He’s playing hard to get
3. He’s insecure about his feelings and rather hides it for a while if you’re not speaking about it
4. He wants to create some distance because see 3. or he only sees you as a platonic friend.

That’s my take on it. As a guy

[TheorionMage]

'Chase' takes on many meanings, not all of them mentally healthy...

MOST guys HATE female fragile ego-protecting ambiguity. Ar-r-r-r-gh!

If you find him or me 'hot'
SHOW us, by your salacious word innuendos ,
your 'wardrobe malfunction' provocative dressing,
your naughty roaming hands
(unlike women... male's ACHE to be physically groped! )

CLEAR, UNAMBIGUOUS FLIRTING, Ladies!
... NONE of this #me too... revisionist history remorse!

[Elsa143]

Ego issues and fear of not being like enough.
There's a difference between simply confessing your love and 'chasing' him. Chasing means trying to impress him all the time, always putting him first, pleasing him with compliments and sacrifices and do things to make him happy.

[Jjpayne]

So he knows you are in the relationship for keeps. He knows you actually want him vs are just half in and half out until you are done with him. It shows your commitment. That's just my guess anyway... 🤷

[Bang5luts]

The same reason a woman wants to be chased after by guys. Everyone wants to feel wanted or valued in some way. Guys are a little bit more secure in knowing our own worth. With that said, a guys rain for wanting to be chased might differ from guy to guy.

[Bang5luts]

*Reason*

[key_statistics]

Well it pumps his confidence up. Makes him feel good, and gets him going / turned on. Not all guys are the same but it will conect to one of them. Keep in mind one girl chasing him is good but as soon as the amount of girls chasing him gets to much for him it will have a negative effect on him

[sadcountrygirl]

Chase him as in?


If y'all are running and he wanted for u to chase him. Then he either trying to plan to hurt u or just make it fun.

If y'all are just like talking or something.. and if he wanted u to chase him. Then he might just be playing games.

[AlienParasite]

Because to feel desired by someone can sometimes feel nice regardless of gender. However, as some users have already pointed, when a relationship comes together naturally none of the parts usually have to make an extra effort chasing.

[AllieOops]

That is a good question because usually it is the opposite.

[axali1]

Who wrote this?

[AllieOops]

@axali1 Not me but I agree with it.

[LEETSBEREAL]

This is very outdated and has not been my experience so I can't agree with it. I don't believe in making the man do absolutely all the work as this passage suggests. It's not a one way street. I can see this mindset forcing a dead end.

[kikino]

This seems outdated and sexist, like the '50's female stay at home and raise the kids while the male is the bread winner. Times have changed.
Not sure if you can have your cake and eat it kind of vibe.
Its 'an ok' guildline I guess.
Both sexes want to feel valued in a relationship so if s/he show interest and s/he get no feedback then this is some what of a way to get there feed back.

[Mamamialetmego]

I'm shy even i die from lust i can't express it clearly.

[Arivor]

It makes us feel good about our selves and thus a real ego boost. Don't worry if we are interested, we will take it from there. Sometimes it's what it takes to get us to notice you.

[Vviiccttoorr]

I personally don’t wanna play games. I would really enjoy a genuine relationship right now but I guess some guys like to be chased to feel like there’s something special which is honestly ehhh in my opinion

[Angelo75]

Cuz he assumes u'll treat him right.
Usually when u chase a guy, you don't play hard to get in your relationship.
And you are more likely to be very easygoing during sex.
Well that's the assumption anyways.