Okay
So the thing is. If you pursue him, and you have a problem in your relationship, he now thinks you're going to fix it, because he was chilling and you approached him and said I like you and he didn't have to do anything to get that approval, other than be himself, so by being himself, he thinks any problem will go away.
As an experienced boy chaser, it's not that you can't get the guy by telling him you like him, it's now that he has never had to make a move, he doesn't see why he should when you are together. I don't know if it works where the girl being pursued also acts this way, but basically, if you want the guy, sure, you'll get him much faster at the rate of you doing it, but I won't promise you'll be happy with him, cause they're not greatful falling at your feet, they just appreciate that this is easy and shouldn't have to stress about a relationship he didn't really ask for. If he DID ask for it, say you showed some interest but you backed off just cause you didn't think it was going anywhere and he's like hey wait I want to be with you, and now he's acting like not my problem, then he's stupid and you deserve better. Having a guy whose involved, is a blessing I have yet to experience. Men love avoiding the sticky stuff. Despite that he produces it.
Yeah I just jumped on it because it was a nice conversation and honestly I agree with what you’re saying he doesn’t have to work for it but it’s just like damn I would like to know if you’re interested to
I asked if I was bothering him and he never responded
You could literally text him 1 paragraph saying I like you and I want to know if you like me too I enjoy talking to you and I would like to talk more without hesitation if you feel the same way. And then just wait. You'd at least know by the end of the day that he understands as simply as possible what you're getting at and that the ball is in his court. But then again, he wouldn't recognize what it takes to win you over other than to talk nicely to you. You have no idea if he means it or what he's doing on the other side if this is just texting. I'd prefer anything to be in person especially if the replies aren't very fast to avoid anxiety and possible shame of deleting the text should he not reply. Whatever sets you free, so you can move on if you need to, not spend days or weeks thinking about it if you are that interested. When a guy told me to wait, it's not that I wasn't interested, I just stopped replying cause I never thought a guy that cute would give me more than 15 minutes of fame, but he wanted a relationship, and I quickly became obsessed. I don't know about guys, but I have self esteem issues so I'm not going to jump too high when a cute guy talks to me, I'm going to think he's being nice lol
I wouldn’t chase him, and neither I want to be chased. I hate these games. If I liked him, I’ll just drop hints. If he is interested in me too and decides to make a move, great I guess.
How do you draw pants when you’re not in the same room as one another
And honestly I totally agree
Hints isn't letting someone know you like them, it's expecting another person to pick up on subtle clues to know what you're thinking/ feeling. Letting someone know you like them is by literally speaking/ writing the words in a clear way.
Hints is a game
The only one who agreed to play is the one "dropping Hints"
Gonna leave you playing by yourself more often then not
I mean good luck though
You say you hate these games, but you do them you are pursued, you expect things by hints. You just don't want the one who has to put the work. Double standards.
@more_than_a_guy I said I'd drop hints that I like them. If I'm sure they feel the same, I'd make a move.
@Nades did you read my answee? I said if I were sure he felt the same, I’d make a move.
@Nades Don’t “honey” me.
@Nades I don’t bitch about because I’m not looking for a guy lol. Also, I already said if I really liked a guy and was sure he felt the same I’d make a move. I’m not going to prove anything to you.
The point is I have already told him I liked him. I have already gave him my number. I’ve reach out the first move. Their nothing I can do
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Don't ever chase a man or anyone for that matter.
It's humiliating and will cause you to lose yourself dignity.
Show signs of interest and if he doesn't show interest back then move on.
So it's ok for men to lose their self dignity but not women?
@SolitarySolace: Gender doesn't matter. In her case she's a woman so my answer is for her.
You show interest, you don't get interest in return then move on.
@SolitarySolace yes that’s how women believe the system works. Men do everything. Women do nothing. If women wanted it any other way they would be hard protesting the selective service act which only drafts men. Lower their wages and they scream equality. Tell them to go to war, they’ll stay quiet. They are very selective (pun intended) about it
@Nades nope not what I’m saying at all. Guys want a submissive woman
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Cost of women calling men creeps for coming on too intense. Guys just get tired when girls just gossip about them behind their back. Its like no duh it wears on ones mind to hear your crush go behind your back with her girlfriends and openly like call ya a CREEP and or freak. At a certain point its a NSSL point. ("No $h1t Sherlock.") Guys are gonna stop, if all girls come off as unavailable guys are just gonna start handing out karma and then women are going to find out what its like to be the quote. Creepy post wall 30 year old coming onto a young guy is like OwO... Stings don't it XD. (sorry about being harsh but this is the ugly reality of society that women have made.)
I get what you’re saying but at the same time it’s not all the time
Yes what’s the solution
The solution is probably just be more polite and don't like insult guys attempts to just get to know y'all XD.
If you want some guy not approach ya or if you didn't like it just tell your girlfriends that you had to turn down a guy instead of yeeting or lobbing derogatory language. Cause also what happens is guys start telling other guys what you are probably saying about them if you eventually do let a guy in your life that isn't them. And thats how eventually you end up being that one girl that talks bad about every guy.
If a guy is weird just say that they made you uncomfortable and just leave it at short and simple. Keep it nice and guys will just let it go. That is of course unless they are the creepy stalker type.
When women persue me, I test them to see if they are clingy and needy and wanting to hang out all the time.
If they aren't, I pass.
I need a girlfriend who craves affection and couple time, not one that needs alone time.
So I don't really have an answer for that, sorry.
Wait so you’re saying you wouldn’t want her to have a long time I want a long time
Lol, narcissistic traits.
I'm not the type to need alone time, I'm the type to do everything with an SO, and I'd rather have someone who is the same in that respect.
@LovingLoverReturned I think maybe you need to read a dictionary.
I’m not in a relationship with him I just want to get to know himI have already told him I liked him. I have already gave him my number. I’ve reach out the first move. Their nothing I can do
Honestly... it makes no sense that you should be waiting to be chased by a guy!
Being chased feels the same way for both girls and guys. They both feel desired if they are chased!
So if you really like a guy... go for it then because when you get up to the guy you like, you immediately letting him know that you really like him.
Personally I'm not chasing that my much anymore too because woman get so much attention in general that when I do get contact with them, I'm still not sure of she genuinely likes me or that I'm just 1 of 10 guys that are texting her ar the same time.
When a girl approaches me first, then I know for sure she likes me for who I am and not because I'm just of many choices 🤷🏼♂️
I have already told him I liked him. I have already gave him my number. I’ve reach out the first move. Their nothing I can do
You have to grow his interest in you. To him you gotta be worth the effort. They gotta see your worth the effort. Then they gotta know you’re interested.
Having a hot body isn’t enough. Unless you want one night stands. If your character lacks depth he’ll never commit to you. Besides this people don’t change. You can’t just find a man you’re interested in and change for him or expect him to change. If your not happy in the moment you won’t be happy 6 months from now. It also don’t matter that he’s exactly what you’re looking for if he’s not looking for you.
I stopped approaching women long ago... then I stopped dating etc etc. What I've noticed is that when women pursue, they are clueless and abrupt. Put simply, it is not in their nature and never will be. Testosterone is a big part of the chase and masculine energy is perfectly suited to this. Feminine energy which is largely inviting, accepting and welcoming in will never be suited to the chase or pursuing. I was approached by a cute girl a few weeks back but she spent most of the time waiting for me to move things forward... that's because it's not natural.
So what I'm saying is approaching will rarely work as a woman. Thus women have pretty much screwed themselves over with this one.
OK the question is how do you solve it I can suggest and do a bunch of things but at the same time I’m not gonna sit there and think he’s naturally just gonna like me no especially if I’m the one that’s doing all of the talking or what not
Your best bet is to just show him you're interested, be inviting, open to conversation and with open body language. But it will be difficult to know whether he's just not interested, doesn't chase, or is like me... opted out of relationships completely. I still find a lot of women attractive but have absolutely no plans to ever get in a relationship or date again. Unless they talk to me, they probably won't realise that. The last girl that approached me I was sure to let her know I enjoyed being single...
So basically you’re saying don’t try at all obviously
Not trying at all would be to pretty much ignore him with zero signals of interest. What I suggested is not the same. There really isn't much else that can be done... like I said it's ruined now.
I already gave him my number I tried to text nothing
Then maybe he's just not interested.
Well welcome to women's lib equalizer to the chase and being chased. I've read so many signs that seemed to say try me. only to get one version or another of what boiled down to get lost from most of the gals I'd be interested in and the only ones pursuing are like I've said in previous posts either under 18's (Not interested throwing those back as they aren't ready) or north of 40 (bypassing those as they are to old for a guy that really really wants kids.) . That I've pretty much thrown my hands up and said fine. I'll look for a friends with benefits on various connection sites and see what goes from there -- not much luck their either as the gals are either too far away, or seem to want money or cards (Nope, don't want pay for play, cardwise or anything of the ilk). That leaves putting my profile out there and for the most part letting the gals do the chasing. - reducing the number of heartbreak and dashed hopes.
Wait I’m 27. Honestly I don’t even know
I'm listening, what don't you know?
To get attention of a guy. I already gave him my number I tried to text nothing
Wait a week or so, especially if it's around finals time or if he has an important work assignment then try a second text and see what happens
I’ll tried to calm down and wait. But I probably already scared him off with the five text I tried texting him on Saturday nothing on Sunday really and then today this morning. At this point I think I probably annoyed him I don’t know I haven’t really had a good conversation and everything yet it seem like I was getting good feedback and now I’m just like no Bueno
Another reason to wait a week and then try again. See what happens. I've seen it with you ladies all the time, that's part of why I've given up on full chase, I may say Hi, like a blip on the radar then sit back for awhile and see what happens, in a week or so, say hi again and see the response. sometimes it takes a few well spaced hellos to get a response.
But I want to talk now
We all want to talk with someone we like now, but you also have to give them space to decide on you. I'e seen it where the one person is so far up the other , chattering and yammering and the second person just wants to escape. Don't wrap too tight in the beginning or the one you want will 'Squirt" out of whatever hold you are trying to get.
Men aren’t the chasers anymore? Lol, if that were the case 95% of women would be single because the vast majority of them sure as hell aren't the ones approaching and chasing.
Look, I know you "always wanted to be pursued" but it's not the 50s anymore and there is literally no valid reason why women shouldn't be taking some initiative themselves when they are interested in a guy. Us men like to be pursued too. It nice and flattering and can pique our interest in a woman we might not otherwise have noticed or been interested in.
It's time you women stopped believing all the nonsense your grandmothers told you about men not wanting to be pursued. That myth comes from a very different time and it's definitely not true today. Let go of your entitlement and insecurities and go after who you want.
PS - don't be the fool who tries taking some initiative and then when you get rejected you jump to the conclusion that men don't like to be pursued. If men jumped to that conclusion about women the first time they got rejected the human race would have gone extinct long ago. Not every guy you're interested in is going to be interested in you. Men have to learn to deal with rejection and carry on anyway. It's time you women started doing the same.
👏👏👏👏👏👏. Give this fucking man an Oscar. I will say something though. Men are starting to stop pursuing because the majority of men aren't getting into relationships after rejection. Most men just want sex. Women want to be desired. And this brings us to the hookup culture. In the current generation we live in, more men have given up and pursued the hookup culture instead. I cannot blame them. As a result there will be plenty of women coming on here to complain about why they’re not getting into relationships. So like you said. The only way to end that hook up culture is for more women to start approaching.
@Nades Nah dude, you kinda took that in a whole different direction. I don't agree with a lot of that. I'm just saying women need to stop sitting on their hands and waiting for the guy they want to notice them. There's no reason they can't take some initiative. But to say today's men aren't doing that anymore is just bullshit.
As someone who wasted so much time with a guy who gave little to nothing back, my advice is don't. Why waste your time on someone who acts distant when you can put your time towards someone who matches your energy. I think it's also psychologically proven that they appear more desirable by acting aloof and wanting to be chased, i. e. something you can't readily have. So you need to really question on whether you're actually attracted to this guy or whether its just the idea of him/being able to catch him.
Just be yourself. Reach out, see how he responds and whether his energy matches yours. If it doesn't, forget about him. Trust me when I say it's not worth wasting your time and effort on someone who doesn't reciprocate/appreciate it. Hope it all works out for you tho! x
Perhaps, the guy that you would like to pursue you is not intimately interested in you? OR
—Fact there are more women than men.. and more than anytime in USA more Single older women too. The truth IS that we don’t have the energy to pursue UNLESS we want. I spend all my time in a “bar” dealing with the come-ons…especially 35-55 year old women. It’s like 2.5 Single women to 1 Man out there‼️
Well it’s great y’all have options and what do you mean the energy to pursue that sounds a little lazy honestly that’s one of the reasons why women don’t want to pursue a guy. We all think you have somebody or have other girls or whatever it’s kind an appoint
OK definitely don’t know how to pursue a guy
You just said it yourself that men have a bunch of options so it’s really pointless for a woman to sit there and pursue them and if he really wants you heal pursue you
My father always told me, "I chased your mother until she caught me!"
That’s so sweet
@Justneedtokno It must have worked... they were married for 40 years until he passed away.
So beautiful hopeless romantic side
If he wants to be pursued and you are interested in him, why the hell wouldn't you pursue him? Is it that you feel entitled as a woman to be the one who is pursued?
Lots of women make the excuse that they think men want to be the pursuers, which is mostly bullshit. And in your case you know he wants you to pursue him so you can't use that excuse.
I think most women today have some combination of entitlement and cowardice about going after a guy they want. You need to get over it because you'll always wonder what might have been if you don't at lest try.
There is so much hypocrisy with today's women when it comes to traditional gender roles.
In all honesty, I don't know any men that enjoy being chased. Most of the single men I know when they go out do as I do. I am either sitting alone working or with friends playing darts or a game of pool IF we are not watching a sporting event. I really can't give you a good answer on how to separate the men who lack confidence and men like me who are not interested. I guess just strike up a conversation and ask.
As a guy, I can't imagine a guy who actually wants to get chased, not without him just doing it to simply fuck with your head. If you feel like you gotta chase a guy then he's not into you, in my opinion.
Don't be one of those girls who just ends up being pushy to make a connection, we hate that shit. If mutual interested ain't shared from the get go then you're wasting your time.
Seems like you have a taste of what dating is like as a guy. Most guys go through this in their early 20’s and learn the hierarchy. You’re still in a better position and you’re still young though. Pursuing a guy doesn’t mean you have to assume the masculine role. You just need to simply put yourself out there and send the right signals.
Why the fuck should we pursue you?
All women do is bitch about getting hit on in the grocery store/school/work/at a club with their friends/at the gym etc. “ Why don’t guys just leave me alone? Why do they have to sexualize me?”
Some of us do pay attention to you and read your posts. We see how much women hate being bothered, how they hate being harassed by “creepers,” and we respect you so much that now more and more of us leave you the fuck alone.
Because I think I’m a really good person that gets a no and just hang out and go do fun stuff with honestly I have a great moral values and. At this point in time it’s kinda hard for women because there’s so much access out there so now it’s kinda like how do you take initiative to approach and also being independent also being vulnerable not allowed to say
Don´t chase him but show him your interest and if he´s not picking it up he might not be ready for a relationship though he might be interested in you.
Can you be interested in someone and not be ready
I already gave him my number I tried to text nothing
Yes I'd say it's possible, if a guy is still hurting from an emotional wound like a rejection or similar.
In general if he isn't sure about his goals how he imagines his future with or without you.
His attraction could be lust driven meaning he finds you attractive but that fades after some time.
Gotcha
I would to make it casual as you can when trying to talk and then feel him out with his actions and see if he flirts back or something since you said you don't want to come off a certain way but at the end of the day if you guys both like each other this shouldn't be a problem.
I'm curious about the answers here myself as I like attention and to be "chased" to an extent. More so to have concrete actions that show interest rather than a woman needing to take the initiative though.
Some guys will still chase you but usually only the really confident extroverted guys
Should chase each other, not one person is doing all the chasing. Keep it neutral. Both showing interest to each other.
I'd never "chase" someone. Nor would I want them to "chase".
I prefer mature relationships with adults who have healthy mental states, boundsries, and expectations.
I'm proud of you! You're half way there. Correct, men are chasing less. Now you just half to come the other 50% and realize why that is anymore... because... there is no pay off. There is no reason to chase. It's a rainbow but at the end no pot of gold, just a leprechaun mooning you is all. Most guys realize chasing is a fruitless effort with MOST women today.
Want a guy to chase. You have to give him a legitimate reason to. Just being a woman isn't enough, sorry.
Men are not chasers anymore because of women. Guys are considered creeps, girls are tired of guys trying to pick up on them. Girls have high expectations, guys feel like it's not worth it anymore. You have better luck in letting the guy know you like him at least, but don't be surprised if you start feeling like guys do, getting nowhere.
You just said it yourself that men have a bunch of options so it’s really pointless for a woman to sit there and pursue them and if he really wants you heal pursue you
No, you missed the point. Why ask out a bunch of girls and keep getting rejected and being called a creep? Girls would do better for themselves by letting the guy they like know, instead of rejecting a bunch of other guys. But maybe girls notice not getting asked out anymore? Men have less options than women, that's for sure.
You do we don’t, May have way more access to women than women due to men. Porn women that just don’t give a fuck and we outnumber you so you can choose whoever women on the other hand don’t have that there’s already a small selection of guys and I have the small selection of guys. You have a certain caliber and then we don’t meet up to those standards you’re not getting picked at all or a call back or text back or anything women sometimes can be far less memorable because there’s so many
But why do women have 50 messages on dating apps and I have only 1. And that's not just me. I go on there because I was bored, not actually thinking I would meet someone. There are many lesbians these days too, and so much competition, many guys that wand love are alone because they aren't in the top 10%. You seem like a nice girl. If you like someone it's not clingy if you start talking or saying hi and see how he responds. Guys might think you're taken, or not interested, and get tired of rejection so they aren't asking you out anymore or a lot less. But online, women get tons of messages from guys, and guys get way less, unless they're a Chad. Personally I don't ask women out but they start talking to me first in real life, not online.
Wow. She thinks guys have it easier dating
@Agagagagaga No not dating access
I know you don’t think all guys want a relationship and they don’t whatever you’re not giving somebody is definitely willing to
Yep. Apparently there is a new social media trend where women film themselves at a gym and wait for some guy to approach and then they shame him. The last one i saw was a guy approaching a woman at a gym (who was about to do hip thrusts on the floor) offering her a mat to sit on. She told him to leave her alone and to get away. Now he's all over social media...
A personal trainer said doing that exercise without a mat (that she refused) was dangerous and could damage her lower spine!
All of the videos look like social media validation seeking. If a woman approached me during or before a workout, I'd just tell her I wasn't there for that and politely. Not film her and shame her on social media!
@Truthatanycost Yeah but it’s also crazy because it’s like women are very much assessable to Guy so it’s like we have to play double the role where we’re vulnerable and where good and independent
I'm sure you're in the minority. Women play games trying to make men chase after them and get nowhere. Whay are there so many single guys if it was so easy to find a woman that's wants a relationship and doesn't have a high body count? Maybe there are more women on the planet, but it's much easier for a woman to get a date than it is for a guy.
Nope I tell them I like them and try not to think much of it. I already gave him my number I tried to text nothing
Ok at least you're trying but now you know how guys feel. Trying to pursue a girl and getting nowhere.
It's a sign of the value decrease of women, it's always the one with low value that needs to put in the effort. To be honest it shouldn't be a chase. But both needs to prove themselves to each other.
I like being chased. Mostly because I play hard to get but I'm still flirtatious in the process. If he doesn't show interest back then stop pursuing.
I don’t handle him or waste my time on him at all. I do not have time to be playing games, so if he’s not honest and straightforward about what he wants then it will never work out between us.
I dont. .🤣. I dont deal with them that's a feminine quality and I don't like feminine men
Depends on the guy, and will he stop at some point? :D
I ain't chasin no man just because I like him. If he wanna stay, he'll stay. If not, fk off.
Don't chase anyone. We are adults, it's not Marco polo.
I will chase, I do not care if he prefers it or no, I want him and I will get him. END OF STORY <3
I don't. I only peruse men that I am interested in... though a lot of guys these days seem like they feel entitle to someone else just for existing.
Don't.
"I feel like this generation in this day and age men aren’t the chasers anymore" - not true
Well it's your turn now then 😝.
If he wants to be chased chase him
I’ve never pursued a man because I can’t and I need to be pursued so I can’t help you
No you shouldn’t cause that’s a test. Keep cute, feminine, happy and fit.
If you like playing games, then continue on this path.
Why not just ask him? I hate it when people drop "hints" and play games, just be direct and honest.
I have already told him I liked him. I have already gave him my number. I’ve reach out the first move. Their nothing I can do
If you showed interest and he gave you none then he is not interested.
PM me. I'll help you through it.
I chased goals not holes..✌️
I think we all do
Don't chase him and he'll come after you
Either chase him or don't
Yeah I don’t know what that means and I’m not sure how that
To do that
Lol If I text you a couple of times and you don’t answer I’m assuming you’re not interested and I’m not gonna force it from there
You handle his thing. That takes care of it
Do you want him bad enough to chase him?
No it’s just like I wouldn’t know how to be the pursuer. And just like the previous guy that posted there is lots of options for men So it’s kind of like not a big deal it’s OK if a woman’s into them
This is the same problem many guys face. They don't know how to pursue a woman and if they do, they are often considered to be harassing a woman if they continue the pursuit beyond the initial rejection. It's tough in today's environment.
But I feel like women asking guys out and things is not the same setting the tone for the whole relationship
You are right, it is different, but that's the world we live in today
Haha im doing this to someone since months
forget him
I don’t
Turn it around
Teach me
Welcome to the art of flirting, right?
Isn't that the point of relationships, HOW TO FLIRT
I already gave him my number I tried to text nothing
he can dress up and pretend to be a woman.
İ don't do it
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