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So the thing is. If you pursue him, and you have a problem in your relationship, he now thinks you're going to fix it, because he was chilling and you approached him and said I like you and he didn't have to do anything to get that approval, other than be himself, so by being himself, he thinks any problem will go away.
As an experienced boy chaser, it's not that you can't get the guy by telling him you like him, it's now that he has never had to make a move, he doesn't see why he should when you are together. I don't know if it works where the girl being pursued also acts this way, but basically, if you want the guy, sure, you'll get him much faster at the rate of you doing it, but I won't promise you'll be happy with him, cause they're not greatful falling at your feet, they just appreciate that this is easy and shouldn't have to stress about a relationship he didn't really ask for. If he DID ask for it, say you showed some interest but you backed off just cause you didn't think it was going anywhere and he's like hey wait I want to be with you, and now he's acting like not my problem, then he's stupid and you deserve better. Having a guy whose involved, is a blessing I have yet to experience. Men love avoiding the sticky stuff. Despite that he produces it.
I wouldn’t chase him, and neither I want to be chased. I hate these games. If I liked him, I’ll just drop hints. If he is interested in me too and decides to make a move, great I guess.
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Don't ever chase a man or anyone for that matter.
It's humiliating and will cause you to lose yourself dignity.
Show signs of interest and if he doesn't show interest back then move on.
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Cost of women calling men creeps for coming on too intense. Guys just get tired when girls just gossip about them behind their back. Its like no duh it wears on ones mind to hear your crush go behind your back with her girlfriends and openly like call ya a CREEP and or freak. At a certain point its a NSSL point. ("No $h1t Sherlock.") Guys are gonna stop, if all girls come off as unavailable guys are just gonna start handing out karma and then women are going to find out what its like to be the quote. Creepy post wall 30 year old coming onto a young guy is like OwO... Stings don't it XD. (sorry about being harsh but this is the ugly reality of society that women have made.)
Honestly... it makes no sense that you should be waiting to be chased by a guy!
Being chased feels the same way for both girls and guys. They both feel desired if they are chased!
So if you really like a guy... go for it then because when you get up to the guy you like, you immediately letting him know that you really like him.
Personally I'm not chasing that my much anymore too because woman get so much attention in general that when I do get contact with them, I'm still not sure of she genuinely likes me or that I'm just 1 of 10 guys that are texting her ar the same time.
When a girl approaches me first, then I know for sure she likes me for who I am and not because I'm just of many choices 🤷🏼♂️
You have to grow his interest in you. To him you gotta be worth the effort. They gotta see your worth the effort. Then they gotta know you’re interested.
Having a hot body isn’t enough. Unless you want one night stands. If your character lacks depth he’ll never commit to you. Besides this people don’t change. You can’t just find a man you’re interested in and change for him or expect him to change. If your not happy in the moment you won’t be happy 6 months from now. It also don’t matter that he’s exactly what you’re looking for if he’s not looking for you.
When women persue me, I test them to see if they are clingy and needy and wanting to hang out all the time.
If they aren't, I pass.
I need a girlfriend who craves affection and couple time, not one that needs alone time.
So I don't really have an answer for that, sorry.
I stopped approaching women long ago... then I stopped dating etc etc. What I've noticed is that when women pursue, they are clueless and abrupt. Put simply, it is not in their nature and never will be. Testosterone is a big part of the chase and masculine energy is perfectly suited to this. Feminine energy which is largely inviting, accepting and welcoming in will never be suited to the chase or pursuing. I was approached by a cute girl a few weeks back but she spent most of the time waiting for me to move things forward... that's because it's not natural.
So what I'm saying is approaching will rarely work as a woman. Thus women have pretty much screwed themselves over with this one.
Well welcome to women's lib equalizer to the chase and being chased. I've read so many signs that seemed to say try me. only to get one version or another of what boiled down to get lost from most of the gals I'd be interested in and the only ones pursuing are like I've said in previous posts either under 18's (Not interested throwing those back as they aren't ready) or north of 40 (bypassing those as they are to old for a guy that really really wants kids.) . That I've pretty much thrown my hands up and said fine. I'll look for a friends with benefits on various connection sites and see what goes from there -- not much luck their either as the gals are either too far away, or seem to want money or cards (Nope, don't want pay for play, cardwise or anything of the ilk). That leaves putting my profile out there and for the most part letting the gals do the chasing. - reducing the number of heartbreak and dashed hopes.
Men aren’t the chasers anymore? Lol, if that were the case 95% of women would be single because the vast majority of them sure as hell aren't the ones approaching and chasing.
Look, I know you "always wanted to be pursued" but it's not the 50s anymore and there is literally no valid reason why women shouldn't be taking some initiative themselves when they are interested in a guy. Us men like to be pursued too. It nice and flattering and can pique our interest in a woman we might not otherwise have noticed or been interested in.
It's time you women stopped believing all the nonsense your grandmothers told you about men not wanting to be pursued. That myth comes from a very different time and it's definitely not true today. Let go of your entitlement and insecurities and go after who you want.
As someone who wasted so much time with a guy who gave little to nothing back, my advice is don't. Why waste your time on someone who acts distant when you can put your time towards someone who matches your energy. I think it's also psychologically proven that they appear more desirable by acting aloof and wanting to be chased, i. e. something you can't readily have. So you need to really question on whether you're actually attracted to this guy or whether its just the idea of him/being able to catch him.
Just be yourself. Reach out, see how he responds and whether his energy matches yours. If it doesn't, forget about him. Trust me when I say it's not worth wasting your time and effort on someone who doesn't reciprocate/appreciate it. Hope it all works out for you tho! x
Perhaps, the guy that you would like to pursue you is not intimately interested in you? OR
—Fact there are more women than men.. and more than anytime in USA more Single older women too. The truth IS that we don’t have the energy to pursue UNLESS we want. I spend all my time in a “bar” dealing with the come-ons…especially 35-55 year old women. It’s like 2.5 Single women to 1 Man out there‼️
My father always told me, "I chased your mother until she caught me!"
If he wants to be pursued and you are interested in him, why the hell wouldn't you pursue him? Is it that you feel entitled as a woman to be the one who is pursued?
Lots of women make the excuse that they think men want to be the pursuers, which is mostly bullshit. And in your case you know he wants you to pursue him so you can't use that excuse.
I think most women today have some combination of entitlement and cowardice about going after a guy they want. You need to get over it because you'll always wonder what might have been if you don't at lest try.
There is so much hypocrisy with today's women when it comes to traditional gender roles.
In all honesty, I don't know any men that enjoy being chased. Most of the single men I know when they go out do as I do. I am either sitting alone working or with friends playing darts or a game of pool IF we are not watching a sporting event. I really can't give you a good answer on how to separate the men who lack confidence and men like me who are not interested. I guess just strike up a conversation and ask.
As a guy, I can't imagine a guy who actually wants to get chased, not without him just doing it to simply fuck with your head. If you feel like you gotta chase a guy then he's not into you, in my opinion.
Don't be one of those girls who just ends up being pushy to make a connection, we hate that shit. If mutual interested ain't shared from the get go then you're wasting your time.
Seems like you have a taste of what dating is like as a guy. Most guys go through this in their early 20’s and learn the hierarchy. You’re still in a better position and you’re still young though. Pursuing a guy doesn’t mean you have to assume the masculine role. You just need to simply put yourself out there and send the right signals.
Why the fuck should we pursue you?
All women do is bitch about getting hit on in the grocery store/school/work/at a club with their friends/at the gym etc. “ Why don’t guys just leave me alone? Why do they have to sexualize me?”
Some of us do pay attention to you and read your posts. We see how much women hate being bothered, how they hate being harassed by “creepers,” and we respect you so much that now more and more of us leave you the fuck alone.
Don´t chase him but show him your interest and if he´s not picking it up he might not be ready for a relationship though he might be interested in you.
I would to make it casual as you can when trying to talk and then feel him out with his actions and see if he flirts back or something since you said you don't want to come off a certain way but at the end of the day if you guys both like each other this shouldn't be a problem.
I'm curious about the answers here myself as I like attention and to be "chased" to an extent. More so to have concrete actions that show interest rather than a woman needing to take the initiative though.
Some guys will still chase you but usually only the really confident extroverted guys
Should chase each other, not one person is doing all the chasing. Keep it neutral. Both showing interest to each other.
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